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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Obviously not at the moment but would love to try being a master. Never done it but so so ready to to take control. Any Masters on here with advice or ladies in the SW happy to take instruction?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it is a skill that is acquired and developed through experience.

Not sure you can learn it through having a go on someone who fancies it.

I would imagine

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it is a skill that is acquired and developed through experience.

Not sure you can learn it through having a go on someone who fancies it.

I would imagine "

Not sure I understand as how do you get experience if no one offers?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a chance in he'll would I submit to someone with no idea what they're doing.

Have you done any research OP?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not a chance in he'll would I submit to someone with no idea what they're doing.

Have you done any research OP?

No, but I guess it’s not so much Master but more taking control of a fully submissive is what I meant.

Sorry to mislead everyone but really no need for the angry pm’s

At least it stirred a few people and got me some chats ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can be very submissive at times OP.

But I understand your predicament, if not having done it before.

We all need to start somewhere

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can be very submissive at times OP.

But I understand your predicament, if not having done it before.

We all need to start somewhere

Exactly

Come and show me the ropes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Submitting in any way to any one isn't something I'd do lightly.

It takes trust.

And as I say, not in chance would I allow someone with no idea what they're doing any kind of control over me.

BDSM isn't something you can just randomly decide to try and jump into...research and experience is needed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can be very submissive at times OP.

But I understand your predicament, if not having done it before.

We all need to start somewhere

Exactly

Come and show me the ropes

Id rather you tie me up with them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Submitting in any way to any one isn't something I'd do lightly.

It takes trust.

And as I say, not in chance would I allow someone with no idea what they're doing any kind of control over me.

BDSM isn't something you can just randomly decide to try and jump into...research and experience is needed!

I respect your views of course, but again I ask, how do I get experience?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I can be very submissive at times OP.

But I understand your predicament, if not having done it before.

We all need to start somewhere

Exactly

Come and show me the ropes

Id rather you tie me up with them

Ah you sussed me on that one he he

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can be very submissive at times OP.

But I understand your predicament, if not having done it before.

We all need to start somewhere

Exactly

Come and show me the ropes

Id rather you tie me up with them

Ah you sussed me on that one he he "

I don't normally miss these tricks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Submitting in any way to any one isn't something I'd do lightly.

It takes trust.

And as I say, not in chance would I allow someone with no idea what they're doing any kind of control over me.

BDSM isn't something you can just randomly decide to try and jump into...research and experience is needed!

I respect your views of course, but again I ask, how do I get experience? "

Slowly, over time and off the back of extensive research and learning from those who have experience.

If it's something that really interests you, start reading, chatting to others who are into it...that way by the time you can meet someone to explore further you'll have some knowledge and understanding.

There's a lot to it, and practising in a safe and honest way are key to the fun that can be had.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Submitting in any way to any one isn't something I'd do lightly.

It takes trust.

And as I say, not in chance would I allow someone with no idea what they're doing any kind of control over me.

BDSM isn't something you can just randomly decide to try and jump into...research and experience is needed!

I respect your views of course, but again I ask, how do I get experience?

Slowly, over time and off the back of extensive research and learning from those who have experience.

There's a lot to it, and practising in a safe and honest way are key to the fun that can be had.

Fair enough, thanks for the advice x

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By *mTheMrJMan
over a year ago

Barry

I think the role you actually want to 'try' is that of a Dom and not a Master.

A D/s dynamic is one that's built on communication, trust and respect.

Being a Dom isn't about taking control, there's much more to it than that.

Before venturing down this path, I'd do as another has suggested, do research, the Internet provides much information.

It will take much time to establish the knowledge you need as it's not a role that's to be taken lightly.

As for experience, you won't gain much if any under the current covid restrictions, so use this time to do the research, find the right online communities to seek advice, learn about yourself also, if this is a fantasy or a part of yourself that you need to further explore.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think the role you actually want to 'try' is that of a Dom and not a Master.

A D/s dynamic is one that's built on communication, trust and respect.

Being a Dom isn't about taking control, there's much more to it than that.

Before venturing down this path, I'd do as another has suggested, do research, the Internet provides much information.

It will take much time to establish the knowledge you need as it's not a role that's to be taken lightly.

Good luck.

Thank you

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Good advice given already OP - I'd add to that that you really need to think about what BDSM, D/s means to you - if you think it's simply bossing someone around and doing what you want with them then you're in for a very disappointing wait, and even if you do find someone willing to experiment with you, you're on very dangerous ground if you come at it from an angle of very little knowledge or one of misconception.

Before you do anything, take a step back and really think about what you think it means to you, what type of dominant you think you'd be, what kind of submissive you'd look for, what you think you could offer them, what your limits and boundaries might be (dominants have them too!!), what limits and boundaries would be acceptable for you in a submissive.

Read, read, read and when you think you've read enough, read some more - seek out sites catering to D/s and look out for a range of experienced players and listen to them - keep reading and researching and growing your understanding of yourself as well as the lifestyle.

Keep doing that, and then doing it more - then and only then (by which time clubs may be open) consider getting along to events, not to play but to observe. The more you immerse yourself in it the more you'll get to know people - be honest with them about your level of experience, be open about your knowledge and be willing to discuss with them and learn from their experience and you'll probably find that interest in you will happen naturally and organically rather than you having to seek it out.

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