FabSwingers.com forum: Some things don’t change

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When I see “no blacks or Asians” on women’s profiles, all I think of Is ‘no blanks no Irish no dogs’. Some things never change..

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Its just a preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So they aren't allowed preferences?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't shake bigotry

But you can pass it of as preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I see “no blacks or Asians” on women’s profiles, all I think of Is ‘no blanks no Irish no dogs’. Some things never change.."

If you equate them as being anything alike, you need to sort yourself out. There’s a huge difference between equal opportunity rights within a society and who I allow to enter MY body.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Perhaps it is the way it has been phrased rather than the fact it is stating a preference?

Personally I would not make a preference re colour/ race in my profile but I understand that some people feel they need to. Maybe state it as a positive would be better? Not sure.

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By *amillMan
over a year ago

Warrington

A preference to what you’re attracted to isn’t being racist or discriminatory, we’re talking about who people want to have sex with not whether or not they’re not being offered a job because of their ethnicity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel the same when I see "black men only".

Whichever way its dressed up,its still a preference on a human being over another human being purely by skin colour.

The cornerstone of racism and racists.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a preference

i did have the same on mine on a previous profile however i got that much abuse from 'righteous white people' i didnt put it on this profile.

Its a preference thats all, not racism

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

"When I see “no blacks or Asians” on women’s profiles, all I think of Is ‘no blanks no Irish no dogs’. Some things never change.."

Why you don't respect people preferences and just move on

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"I feel the same when I see "black men only".

Whichever way its dressed up,its still a preference on a human being over another human being purely by skin colour.

The cornerstone of racism and racists.

Yep

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By *amillMan
over a year ago

Warrington

"I feel the same when I see "black men only".

Whichever way its dressed up,its still a preference on a human being over another human being purely by skin colour.

The cornerstone of racism and racists.

That is not the cornerstone of racism or racists at all.

It would be racist if said person was actively trying to discourage POC from meeting with whoever they wanted by making the site more difficult to use for them.

Stating a preference isn’t stopping anyone from different backgrounds from getting a meet.

Another example, if every profile had on it ‘no blacks’ then you could argue the site was inherently racist towards people of colour, but that is not the case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sexual preference for no blacks no Asians is nothing to do with rascisim....should I get upset when I see some profiles asking for hung guys?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it sexist that I don't want sleep with blokes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it sexist that I don't want sleep with blokes?

Or age preference makes you ageist?

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By *amillMan
over a year ago

Warrington

"Is it sexist that I don't want sleep with blokes?

Well I think they would argue it’s homophobic as opposed to sexist

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’m not necessarily explicitly saying that the people that put that are racists.. but in the same breath I do feel some may have a predisposition or subconscious inclination to dislike or not ‘prefer’ and entire race.

But like y’all said. It’s just a preference enit. Each to there own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"When I see “no blacks or Asians” on women’s profiles, all I think of Is ‘no blanks no Irish no dogs’. Some things never change.."

Whilst it could be worded differently it's still their choice, as will be your own choices with others etc..

Perhaps concentrate on those who will meet rather than waste time and energy on something you can't change, indeed why would someone..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This is very true. I was just merely posting a passing thought of mine lol. Nothing too deep. Also it’s good to see what people’s perspective on things are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Preference is a persons choice and it may be born from a bad experience of sorts or just simply not attracted to another person, far far from racist or racism

Each to their own, live and let live, don’t like it then move on

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Do peeps actually put that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone is gay or bi and states no Tgirls does that make them transphobic?

Same situation applies here OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

They do indeed

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"They do indeed"

I'm truly astounded!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Skin colour is the same as liking blondes over brunettes, its just what you are or not attracted to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps it is the way it has been phrased rather than the fact it is stating a preference?

Personally I would not make a preference re colour/ race in my profile but I understand that some people feel they need to. Maybe state it as a positive would be better? Not sure."

I agree with this. I think preferences can be stated in a positive way.

However if someone is openly negative that means people can avoid them and not waste any time interacting with them. That's a definite positive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is very true. I was just merely posting a passing thought of mine lol. Nothing too deep. Also it’s good to see what people’s perspective on things are"

Welcome to the forum.

If you use the Reply + Quote button we know who you are replying to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst I don’t believe it is racist, anyone who feels the need to put something like that on their profile would put me off to be honest. Whether it should or not it does offend people and I just don’t see a need for it. I know what I like and don’t like but I don’t need to announce it to the world or give a reason why I don’t want to meet someone.

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By *ionelhutzMan
over a year ago

liverpool

"You can't shake bigotry

But you can pass it of as preference "

They are 2 different concepts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whilst I don’t believe it is racist, anyone who feels the need to put something like that on their profile would put me off to be honest. Whether it should or not it does offend people and I just don’t see a need for it. I know what I like and don’t like but I don’t need to announce it to the world or give a reason why I don’t want to meet someone. "

I dont agree, I see profiles say big cocks only....I dont take offence and some say no fatties and again I dont take offence, at least I know im not for them so they won't be for me either

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

Where am I not allowed

block and move on not worth annoying yourself over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've seen a few of these profiles and while I used to get a bit disheartened, it's easier for me to move on now and not really give it a second thought. I'm not going to change their mind so there's no point getting hung up on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont agree, I see profiles say big cocks only....I dont take offence and some say no fatties and again I dont take offence, at least I know im not for them so they won't be for me either "

You don’t agree with what? I said some people take offence. They do. You can’t tell by all the threads!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I see “no blacks or Asians” on women’s profiles, all I think of Is ‘no blanks no Irish no dogs’. Some things never change.."

It's ok to quote that Jamie, but you never lived it.

Let's be honest, do you have any idea what it was like in those times??

To be honest, in our opinion some could see it rude to compare them both.

Prejudice cannot be compared to preferences.

We see that you are straight. Why won't you take cock??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You can't shake bigotry

But you can pass it of as preference

They are 2 different concepts

Often rolled up in one neat statement

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

So profiles that say they seek large black men only are racist too ?

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

"This is very true. I was just merely posting a passing thought of mine lol. Nothing too deep. Also it’s good to see what people’s perspective on things are"

No it's an interesting one to be honest. The world has definitely move on and there is a better acceptance than what it was ages ago but I agree with most on this.. at the end of the day.. its a preference choice. An idea to what we are most attracted to or catches our eye the most. Hope that makes sense

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

You don't know what's gone on in peoples lives.

I won't meet people called Stuart. Now, even though I KNOW not all Stuarts are dangerous narcissistic headfuck woman beaters, I simply can't bring myself to meet anyone with that name. I have trauma with it.

Whilst I agree some will be for racist reasons, it's not always the case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont agree, I see profiles say big cocks only....I dont take offence and some say no fatties and again I dont take offence, at least I know im not for them so they won't be for me either

You don’t agree with what? I said some people take offence. They do. You can’t tell by all the threads!"

Sorry I read your post wrong again sorry...think we were actually in agreement

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"I've seen a few of these profiles and while I used to get a bit disheartened, it's easier for me to move on now and not really give it a second thought. I'm not going to change their mind so there's no point getting hung up on it

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont agree, I see profiles say big cocks only....I dont take offence and some say no fatties and again I dont take offence, at least I know im not for them so they won't be for me either

You don’t agree with what? I said some people take offence. They do. You can’t tell by all the threads!

Sorry I read your post wrong again sorry...think we were actually in agreement "

. I think to be honest it boils down to common sense! I’ve been here long enough to know what to say and what not to say and to know what antagonises people. Don’t think I’ve ever been offended by anything to be honest but we’re all different. I just want a peaceful life!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield

I think terms like 'racist' get thrown around way too easily sometimes, which takes away from the genuine issues. Expressing a preference is completely different to deliberately discriminating against people, the context is completely different. However, there are ways of expressing things and using a phrase like 'no blacks and Asians' is probably a little tactless considering the connotations it carries in a different context. It could likely be better phrased.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Best way to look at it. I don’t lose sleep over it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When I see “no blacks or Asians” on women’s profiles, all I think of Is ‘no blanks no Irish no dogs’. Some things never change..

It's ok to quote that Jamie, but you never lived it.

Let's be honest, do you have any idea what it was like in those times??

To be honest, in our opinion some could see it rude to compare them both.

Prejudice cannot be compared to preferences.

We see that you are straight. Why won't you take cock??"

Wow! Lol

So I have to have lived something to talk about it? No.

My dad did, my grandparents did. And thats enough for me. That’s like saying a white person can’t comment or support black issues such as Black Lives Matter etc. Of course they can.

But yhh that’ll be a whole new and different thread completely lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think terms like 'racist' get thrown around way too easily sometimes, which takes away from the genuine issues. Expressing a preference is completely different to deliberately discriminating against people, the context is completely different. However, there are ways of expressing things and using a phrase like 'no blacks and Asians' is probably a little tactless considering the connotations it carries in a different context. It could likely be better phrased."

Articulated very well. I like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spot on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When I see “no blacks or Asians” on women’s profiles, all I think of Is ‘no blanks no Irish no dogs’. Some things never change..

It's ok to quote that Jamie, but you never lived it.

Let's be honest, do you have any idea what it was like in those times??

To be honest, in our opinion some could see it rude to compare them both.

Prejudice cannot be compared to preferences.

We see that you are straight. Why won't you take cock??"

Also my ass is way too tight for such encounters aha

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By *aseMan
over a year ago

Gourock

Is that the same as looking for well hung black guys !!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I see “no blacks or Asians” on women’s profiles, all I think of Is ‘no blanks no Irish no dogs’. Some things never change..

It's ok to quote that Jamie, but you never lived it.

Let's be honest, do you have any idea what it was like in those times??

To be honest, in our opinion some could see it rude to compare them both.

Prejudice cannot be compared to preferences.

We see that you are straight. Why won't you take cock??

Wow! Lol

So I have to have lived something to talk about it? No.

My dad did, my grandparents did. And thats enough for me. That’s like saying a white person can’t comment or support black issues such as Black Lives Matter etc. Of course they can.

But yhh that’ll be a whole new and different thread completely lol"

Yes, your parents lived through those times, and one of us actually lived through the back end of it.

We think your parents would be very disappointed in your comparisons.

They would never compare preferences to prejudice. I know that first hand.

Saying some things never change, well it can be seen insulting to all who suffered and then worked hard to make that change.

Just our opinion of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Respect people’s opinions yet still find it distasteful...after all what’s the preference _ased on? If it’s the colour of a person’s skin then arguably racist...don’t see many profiles that say ‘no Europeans’

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Respect people’s opinions yet still find it distasteful...after all what’s the preference _ased on? If it’s the colour of a person’s skin then arguably racist...don’t see many profiles that say ‘no Europeans’"

Some people love contrast of skin tones, the visuals of it really get them going, some people find the opposite part of the turn on, where you can't tell where one body ends and the other begins.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes, your parents lived through those times, and one of us actually lived through the back end of it.

We think your parents would be very disappointed in your comparisons.

They would never compare preferences to prejudice. I know that first hand.

Saying some things never change, well it can be seen insulting to all who suffered and then worked hard to make that change.

Just our opinion of course."

Looool.

We shall agree to disagree

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You don't know what's gone on in peoples lives.

Whilst I agree some will be for racist reasons, it's not always the case.

I get that. And understand there are a lot of variables that could come into it.

Also they do say one apple can spoil the whole bunch

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I think ruling out an entire ethnic group is a bit naff. It basically says no matter how good looking, sexy or compatible we are, solely because of your ethnicity it's going to be a no whatever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think ruling out an entire ethnic group is a bit naff. It basically says no matter how good looking, sexy or compatible we are, solely because of your ethnicity it's going to be a no whatever.

I 100% agree with that. It doesn’t take away my respect for people’s preferences tho. Feels a bit like a thread aimed at shaming people for having their own individual preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think ruling out an entire ethnic group is a bit naff. It basically says no matter how good looking, sexy or compatible we are, solely because of your ethnicity it's going to be a no whatever.

I 100% agree with that. It doesn’t take away my respect for people’s preferences tho. Feels a bit like a thread aimed at shaming people for having their own individual preferences. "

Agree with this statement totally.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

There always has to be an element of physical attraction and some people know that they are not attracted to certain things. I think it's a bit insensitive to openly state it a a race issue but I do see it as an acceptable preference, although it would be better unspoken. It would seem better just not to respond to people they aren't interested in.

Regarding the "No Irish, no blacks" thing, that was from people renting out rooms and such. There is an enormous difference between saying somebody would be denied the ability to have a roof over their head because of their ethnicity and somebody not wanting to have sex with somebody they are not attracted to. Luke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread makes me think parents have done a terrible job raising Adults under 30......

I’m a teacher and it’s like parents have told their children that they are special and the world owes them something....

No offense Op.... But the swinging world is for selfish people.... People are here for their own sexual gratification... not social justice

The faster you except this , the better your swinging experience will be....

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"This thread makes me think parents have done a terrible job raising Adults under 30......

I’m a teacher and it’s like parents have told their children that they are special and the world owes them something....

No offense Op.... But the swinging world is for selfish people.... People are here for their own sexual gratification... not social justice

The faster you except this , the better your swinging experience will be...."

Yes I think u right! But I'm an oldie and didnt realize this honestly!

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"This thread makes me think parents have done a terrible job raising Adults under 30......

I’m a teacher and it’s like parents have told their children that they are special and the world owes them something....

No offense Op.... But the swinging world is for selfish people.... People are here for their own sexual gratification... not social justice

The faster you except this , the better your swinging experience will be....

Yes I think u right! But I'm an oldie and didnt realize this honestly!

Btw I've allways told my kids they are special! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This thread makes me think parents have done a terrible job raising Adults under 30......

I’m a teacher and it’s like parents have told their children that they are special and the world owes them something....

No offense Op.... But the swinging world is for selfish people.... People are here for their own sexual gratification... not social justice

The faster you except this , the better your swinging experience will be...."

This response makes me feel sorry for the young new minds that are being educated Lool.

Nahh I’m totally joking. But it most definitely haven’t affected my experience on here. I see I’m like like ahh well. So no sleep lost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not necessarily explicitly saying that the people that put that are racists.. but in the same breath I do feel some may have a predisposition or subconscious inclination to dislike or not ‘prefer’ and entire race.

But like y’all said. It’s just a preference enit. Each to there own"

Perhaps you should update your profile then?

Missy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree x

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By *ensual 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

"When I see “no blacks or Asians” on women’s profiles, all I think of Is ‘no blanks no Irish no dogs’. Some things never change..

Why you don't respect people preferences and just move on "
Agree we all like some things ..not all things....so making these preferences mandatory is an impossible ask

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Perhaps you should update your profile then?

Missy"

What do you mean?

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By *rive u crazyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"When I see “no blacks or Asians” on women’s profiles, all I think of Is ‘no blanks no Irish no dogs’. Some things never change.."

Everybody has preferences. Should they say "I'm happy to fuck everybody" just to be politically correct? It's not like to say "I don't eat with n*". Can't you see the difference?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Skin colour is the same as liking blondes over brunettes, its just what you are or not attracted to"

I disagree. Skin colour gets a much harder judgement. But saying that i do not get upset if i see a profile where they state that they are only after black guys! Its their body and their choice who they chose to have sex with them. Some women state only guys over 5'9 to contact them. Do i get upset nooooooo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see that a lot. No black, asian etc. Just have to respect there preference really x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There always has to be an element of physical attraction and some people know that they are not attracted to certain things. I think it's a bit insensitive to openly state it a a race issue but I do see it as an acceptable preference, although it would be better unspoken. It would seem better just not to respond to people they aren't interested in.

I agree bettervtp not respond as you would to any others on here you do not fancy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't see as racist.

It's like saying none under 6foot 2..

Just who they find attractive..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I see “no blacks or Asians” on women’s profiles, all I think of Is ‘no blanks no Irish no dogs’. Some things never change..

Everybody has preferences. Should they say "I'm happy to fuck everybody" just to be politically correct? It's not like to say "I don't eat with n*". Can't you see the difference?"

This is a form of undiagnosed mental illness found in today’s internet users......

Follow me for one second....

Someone goes online and finds a profile that isn’t compatible with them... Instead of moving on and finding a suitable profile.... They will engage with the unsuitable profile to start a confrontation......

In their minds they find this to be perfectly suitable behavior.....

I always question the mental state of people when these threads are started....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I see “no blacks or Asians” on women’s profiles, all I think of Is ‘no blanks no Irish no dogs’. Some things never change..

Everybody has preferences. Should they say "I'm happy to fuck everybody" just to be politically correct? It's not like to say "I don't eat with n*". Can't you see the difference?

This is a form of undiagnosed mental illness found in today’s internet users......

Follow me for one second....

In their minds they find this to be perfectly suitable behavior.....

I always question the mental state of people when these threads are started.... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think ruling out an entire ethnic group is a bit naff. It basically says no matter how good looking, sexy or compatible we are, solely because of your ethnicity it's going to be a no whatever.

Not really. For me i like pale skin i find milk bottles sexy. Im not into dark skin sexually, thats a preference and on that note i rule out sexual encounters with said. That includes tanned white skin.. i dont find that sexually preasing so having the preference is for personal sexual preference... it by no means means i dont like those with dark skin it just means im not sexually attracted... therefore i wont meet. - a preference

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"When I see “no blacks or Asians” on women’s profiles, all I think of Is ‘no blanks no Irish no dogs’. Some things never change..

Everybody has preferences. Should they say "I'm happy to fuck everybody" just to be politically correct? It's not like to say "I don't eat with n*". Can't you see the difference?

This is a form of undiagnosed mental illness found in today’s internet users......

Follow me for one second....

In their minds they find this to be perfectly suitable behavior.....

I always question the mental state of people when these threads are started.... "

WOW!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its just a preference"

And if so, one I find bizarre. How many people in the world are black, or asian? How can you say "No thank you" to an entire race and not have it deemed anything other than racist?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Its just a preference

And if so, one I find bizarre. How many people in the world are black, or asian? How can you say "No thank you" to an entire race and not have it deemed anything other than racist?"

See Gatsbys response.

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over a year ago

I often think its the misuse of the word preference.

When we prefer something we see it as being desirable, the first option etc.

To use it in excluding someone is incorrect and upsetting. Because people think you are making a prejudicial and discriminatory choice as your primary concern.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"Its just a preference

And if so, one I find bizarre. How many people in the world are black, or asian? How can you say "No thank you" to an entire race and not have it deemed anything other than racist?"

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over a year ago

"Its just a preference

And if so, one I find bizarre. How many people in the world are black, or asian? How can you say "No thank you" to an entire race and not have it deemed anything other than racist?"

Mr is black, and we don't meet black guys.

Does that make us racist?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Skin colour is the same as liking blondes over brunettes, its just what you are or not attracted to"

It is in no way the same. A person can easily change their hair colour. You are stuck with your skin colour (skin lightening treatments accepted, but you know what I mean)

If a person had seen every single person or the race they are excluding, then I might come around to thinking it was a preference. But until you've seen every single person of that colour or race how would you know? And is there something else behind the "not my type"?

Un conscious bias perhaps?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When I see “no blacks or Asians” on women’s profiles, all I think of Is ‘no blanks no Irish no dogs’. Some things never change..

Everybody has preferences. Should they say "I'm happy to fuck everybody" just to be politically correct? It's not like to say "I don't eat with n*". Can't you see the difference?

This is a form of undiagnosed mental illness found in today’s internet users......

Follow me for one second....

In their minds they find this to be perfectly suitable behavior.....

I always question the mental state of people when these threads are started.... "

Is this you assuming that I engage with those people?

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I always question the mental state of people when these threads are started.... "

I find this statement difficult to accept.

I believe people have a right to be offended by a statement and they can chose to engage with a profile or not - that is a matter of personal background. choice, experience... whatever.

I find the statement "questioning their mental state" really quite insulting, especially against the backdrop of increasing awareness of mental health issues at a time of great demand on mental health care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I see “no blacks or Asians” on women’s profiles, all I think of Is ‘no blanks no Irish no dogs’. Some things never change.."

Don't waste your energy thinking about it - it is offensive but people won't admit it.

I guess at least we know who to avoid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always question the mental state of people when these threads are started....

I find this statement difficult to accept.

I believe people have a right to be offended by a statement and they can chose to engage with a profile or not - that is a matter of personal background. choice, experience... whatever.

They said mental state not mental health....there is a big difference and yes I do know from experience and my own mental health pass issues

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

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I always question the mental state of people when these threads are started....

I find this statement difficult to accept.

I believe people have a right to be offended by a statement and they can chose to engage with a profile or not - that is a matter of personal background. choice, experience... whatever.

They said mental state not mental health....there is a big difference and yes I do know from experience and my own mental health pass issues "

Perhaps you are right, it just struck me as at best a little insensitive to talk about mental state at a time when this is such a big issue in our society. Maybe a different phrase e.g. "question their experience/ mood/ frame of mind" would have had a better effect?

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over a year ago

I always question the mental state of people when these threads are started....

I find this statement difficult to accept.

I believe people have a right to be offended by a statement and they can chose to engage with a profile or not - that is a matter of personal background. choice, experience... whatever.

They said mental state not mental health....there is a big difference and yes I do know from experience and my own mental health pass issues

I wasn't having ago there is a difference between state and health...state tends to be in the moment wheres health is a longer affair

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

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I always question the mental state of people when these threads are started....

I find this statement difficult to accept.

I believe people have a right to be offended by a statement and they can chose to engage with a profile or not - that is a matter of personal background. choice, experience... whatever.

They said mental state not mental health....there is a big difference and yes I do know from experience and my own mental health pass issues

I wasn't having ago there is a difference between state and health...state tends to be in the moment wheres health is a longer affair "

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"When I see “no blacks or Asians” on women’s profiles, all I think of Is ‘no blanks no Irish no dogs’. Some things never change..

Don't waste your energy thinking about it - it is offensive but people won't admit it.

I guess at least we know who to avoid."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I always question the mental state of people when these threads are started....

I find this statement difficult to accept.

I believe people have a right to be offended by a statement and they can chose to engage with a profile or not - that is a matter of personal background. choice, experience... whatever.

I couldn’t have put it better myself

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I wasn't having ago there is a difference between state and health...state tends to be in the moment wheres health is a longer affair "

Interesting. Thanks for the clarification, I wouldn’t have thought about it like that

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"When I see “no blacks or Asians” on women’s profiles, all I think of Is ‘no blanks no Irish no dogs’. Some things never change..

If you equate them as being anything alike, you need to sort yourself out. There’s a huge difference between equal opportunity rights within a society and who I allow to enter MY body."

I'm still amazed people don't get this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When I see “no blacks or Asians” on women’s profiles, all I think of Is ‘no blanks no Irish no dogs’. Some things never change..

Don't waste your energy thinking about it - it is offensive but people won't admit it.

I guess at least we know who to avoid."

Good point! I like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just move on and dont get upset by it, Theres plenty of female profiles that say "Black only"do you see all the white guys getting upset?

Swings and roundabouts, everyone has preferences if it effects you i'd recommend a different site than this as, it can be quite demoralising at times, but then we never complain when the fun comes around.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just move on and dont get upset by it, Theres plenty of female profiles that say "Black only"do you see all the white guys getting upset?

I feel you.

I am by no means upset or angry and the people that have those preferences. I was just merely opening up an interaction. But I see your point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just move on and dont get upset by it,"

Allowing the racial prejudice to continue? No, I think here you are totally incorrect. It's up to all of us to challenge racism in any and all of its forms in public society and interest society. Without doing so, how do we honestly expect it to end?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"Just move on and dont get upset by it,

Exactly! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its just a preference

And if so, one I find bizarre. How many people in the world are black, or asian? How can you say "No thank you" to an entire race and not have it deemed anything other than racist?

Mr is black, and we don't meet black guys.

Does that make us racist? "

Please leave common sense out of this thread....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just move on and dont get upset by it,

Look ..... my Father and Grandfather faced prejudice in trying to find employment, getting a loan from the bank , and finding a home to buy...

Black men are not facing prejudice trying to find sex on a swinging site....

People are here to fulfill their sexual desires... if you don’t fit into their sexual desires.... that’s your bad luck .....

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over a year ago

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"When I see “no blacks or Asians” on women’s profiles, all I think of Is ‘no blanks no Irish no dogs’. Some things never change.."

You look amazing

Ignore the negative

Focus on the

Positive

Plenty of people will love you

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over a year ago

"When I see “no blacks or Asians” on women’s profiles, all I think of Is ‘no blanks no Irish no dogs’. Some things never change..

You look amazing

Ignore the negative

Focus on the

Positive

Plenty of people will love you

Love this energy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Look ..... my Father and Grandfather faced prejudice in trying to find employment, getting a loan from the bank , and finding a home to buy...

Black men are not facing prejudice trying to find sex on a swinging site....

People are here to fulfill their sexual desires... if you don’t fit into their sexual desires.... that’s your bad luck ..... "

At the 2011 Census, the most ethnically diverse region in Englandwas London, where 40.2% of residents identified with either the Asian, Black, Mixed or Other ethnic group. That 40.2% represents 3.26 million people.

I find it astonishing that people can state that there is no one within 3.26 million people that they find sexually attractive.

Sure, there are many profiles expressly looking for black guys, and more especially focusing on a certain physical attribute stereotypically associated with black men. Is every black man well hung? I doubt it. If hung is desired, does it matter what could it is.

So for a black gentleman to tick every box to be an ideal match for someone, only to be excluded for the colour of their skin and race, that's racism.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"When I see “no blacks or Asians” on women’s profiles, all I think of Is ‘no blanks no Irish no dogs’. Some things never change..

You look amazing

Ignore the negative

Focus on the

Positive

Plenty of people will love you

Love this energy!

Amazing body xxx

Who cares what people like you seem like a great guy anymore would be lucky to meet you after lockdown

Well I hope lockdown ends soon xx

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"When I see “no blacks or Asians” on women’s profiles, all I think of Is ‘no blanks no Irish no dogs’. Some things never change..

You look amazing

Ignore the negative

Focus on the

Positive

Plenty of people will love you

Love this energy!

Amazing body xxx

Who cares what people like you seem like a great guy anymore would be lucky to meet you after lockdown

Well I hope lockdown ends soon xx

***

Anyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just move on and dont get upset by it,

Look ..... my Father and Grandfather faced prejudice in trying to find employment, getting a loan from the bank , and finding a home to buy...

Black men are not facing prejudice trying to find sex on a swinging site....

People are here to fulfill their sexual desires... if you don’t fit into their sexual desires.... that’s your bad luck ..... "

Exactly this. Show respect for another persons wishes. If you don’t happen to like what those wishes are, don’t engage and move on with your life. It isn’t hard.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just move on and dont get upset by it,

Look ..... my Father and Grandfather faced prejudice in trying to find employment, getting a loan from the bank , and finding a home to buy...

Black men are not facing prejudice trying to find sex on a swinging site....

People are here to fulfill their sexual desires... if you don’t fit into their sexual desires.... that’s your bad luck .....

Exactly this. Show respect for another persons wishes. If you don’t happen to like what those wishes are, don’t engage and move on with your life. It isn’t hard. "

Good job no one said it’s hard then ay

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When I see “no blacks or Asians” on women’s profiles, all I think of Is ‘no blanks no Irish no dogs’. Some things never change..

You look amazing

Ignore the negative

Focus on the

Positive

Plenty of people will love you

Love this energy!

Amazing body xxx

Who cares what people like you seem like a great guy anymore would be lucky to meet you after lockdown

Well I hope lockdown ends soon xx

Thank you! Yes lockdown definitely needs to end soon!

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"When I see “no blacks or Asians” on women’s profiles, all I think of Is ‘no blanks no Irish no dogs’. Some things never change..

You look amazing

Ignore the negative

Focus on the

Positive

Plenty of people will love you

Love this energy!

Amazing body xxx

Who cares what people like you seem like a great guy anymore would be lucky to meet you after lockdown

Well I hope lockdown ends soon xx

Thank you! Yes lockdown definitely needs to end soon!"

Xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Look ..... my Father and Grandfather faced prejudice in trying to find employment, getting a loan from the bank , and finding a home to buy...

Black men are not facing prejudice trying to find sex on a swinging site....

People are here to fulfill their sexual desires... if you don’t fit into their sexual desires.... that’s your bad luck .....

I find it astonishing that people can state that there is no one within 3.26 million people that they find sexually attractive.

So for a black gentleman to tick every box to be an ideal match for someone, only to be excluded for the colour of their skin and race, that's racism."

I find it astonishing that a white man is more concerned about racism in the lifestyle than myself as a black man......

Thank you for your concern , you are doing God’s work by pointing out the white swingers that don’t want to have interracial sex.....

I truly hope by enough people voicing their concern, all these racist people will see the error of their ways , and shag every Asian and black men on Fab.... To make everyone happy and be part of the in crowd......

God speed my friend, God Speed....

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Just move on and dont get upset by it,

Exactly! X"

Seconded

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Look ..... my Father and Grandfather faced prejudice in trying to find employment, getting a loan from the bank , and finding a home to buy...

Black men are not facing prejudice trying to find sex on a swinging site....

People are here to fulfill their sexual desires... if you don’t fit into their sexual desires.... that’s your bad luck .....

I find it astonishing that people can state that there is no one within 3.26 million people that they find sexually attractive.

So for a black gentleman to tick every box to be an ideal match for someone, only to be excluded for the colour of their skin and race, that's racism.

I find it astonishing that a white man is more concerned about racism in the lifestyle than myself as a black man......

Thank you for your concern , you are doing God’s work by pointing out the white swingers that don’t want to have interracial sex.....

God speed my friend, God Speed...."

Looool I guess the parenting of those 33 and younger wasn’t that great either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I see “no blacks or Asians” on women’s profiles, all I think of Is ‘no blanks no Irish no dogs’. Some things never change.."

What about those thay write BBC only, is thay racist?

Black women who write white men only?

or people who dont want to meet Tv/ts or people of the same sex.

Everyone has their preferences.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think it’s amazing that a white person is concerned about race issues. Thanks Dave.

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By *irtySekretsCouple
over a year ago

Filthy Desires Upon Trent

We are not racist or anythingist

It’s our choice not to play with Asian Men. Sexually, they don’t float our boat. That’s it. Nothing more. End of xxxxx

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I think it’s amazing that a white person is concerned about race issues. Thanks Dave.

This is the way forward I think

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"We are not racist or anythingist

It’s our choice not to play with Asian Men. Sexually, they don’t float our boat. That’s it. Nothing more. End of xxxxx"

I really do understand you in your choices.

I think the bit people may find offensive is the way in which it is being said.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

What i must say op how u have conducted yourself on this thread is very mature for a youngster very refreshing to witness good luck to u x

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

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Lastly but not leastly.... I would personally avoid a profile that states "no Asians, no Blacks etc" and I am white.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"What i must say op how u have conducted yourself on this thread is very mature for a youngster very refreshing to witness good luck to u x"
So very true! Seconded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lastly but not leastly.... I would personally avoid a profile that states "no Asians, no Blacks etc" and I am white. "

So would I

. I don’t think there’s a need to state it at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it cultural or aesthetic? This "preference"?

I presume it's cultural because Asian people are every complexion under the sun.

Nothing turns me off more than seeing it on someones profile and that's MY prefernce.

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over a year ago

"Look ..... my Father and Grandfather faced prejudice in trying to find employment, getting a loan from the bank , and finding a home to buy...

Black men are not facing prejudice trying to find sex on a swinging site....

People are here to fulfill their sexual desires... if you don’t fit into their sexual desires.... that’s your bad luck .....

I find it astonishing that people can state that there is no one within 3.26 million people that they find sexually attractive.

So for a black gentleman to tick every box to be an ideal match for someone, only to be excluded for the colour of their skin and race, that's racism.

I find it astonishing that a white man is more concerned about racism in the lifestyle than myself as a black man......

Thank you for your concern , you are doing God’s work by pointing out the white swingers that don’t want to have interracial sex.....

God speed my friend, God Speed....

Looool I guess the parenting of those 33 and younger wasn’t that great either.

I think my parents did a fine job.....

My Sister is a physician, my brother is a Electrical Engineer , and I’m a corporate board member of a Fortune 500 company and college professor.....

What my parents taught me was the world doesn’t owe you anything... You don’t want people to like you... you want people to RESPECT YOU....

To get someone’s respect, you must respect them first....

So If someone doesn’t want to meet me as a black man... You know what I do?

I RESPECT THEIR WISHES AND DO NOT CONTACT THEM.....

Let me help some of you out because life is about learning.....

The next time anyone reads a profile that that states “ No Asians or Blacks “ .....

Don’t send a message or start a thread about racism...

Go to google and type in “ interracial dating or interracial swinging “

Click on the websites , and your problems are solved.....

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By *ilfCrumpet9Man
over a year ago

Wirral

"When I see “no blacks or Asians” on women’s profiles, all I think of Is ‘no blanks no Irish no dogs’. Some things never change..

You look amazing

Ignore the negative

Focus on the

Positive

Plenty of people will love you

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"Lastly but not leastly.... I would personally avoid a profile that states "no Asians, no Blacks etc" and I am white. "

Me 2 x

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I RESPECT THEIR WISHES AND DO NOT CONTACT THEM.....

Let me help some of you out because life is about learning.....

The next time anyone reads a profile that that states “ No Asians or Blacks “ .....

Don’t send a message or start a thread about racism...

Go to google and type in “ interracial dating or interracial swinging “

Click on the websites , and your problems are solved....."

I hear you and understand why you are suggesting this as a way forward. I guess it is helpful in some way.

That said, the issue is a little deeper as we as a society need to look at why people still feel the need for "The blacks, The Asians, The Turks, The Muslims, The French...."

I think it really is deeper, and more important than avoiding a profile on a swing site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Look ..... my Father and Grandfather faced prejudice in trying to find employment, getting a loan from the bank , and finding a home to buy...

Black men are not facing prejudice trying to find sex on a swinging site....

People are here to fulfill their sexual desires... if you don’t fit into their sexual desires.... that’s your bad luck .....

I find it astonishing that people can state that there is no one within 3.26 million people that they find sexually attractive.

So for a black gentleman to tick every box to be an ideal match for someone, only to be excluded for the colour of their skin and race, that's racism.

I find it astonishing that a white man is more concerned about racism in the lifestyle than myself as a black man......

Thank you for your concern , you are doing God’s work by pointing out the white swingers that don’t want to have interracial sex.....

God speed my friend, God Speed....

Looool I guess the parenting of those 33 and younger wasn’t that great either.

I think my parents did a fine job.....

My Sister is a physician, my brother is a Electrical Engineer , and I’m a corporate board member of a Fortune 500 company and college professor.....

What my parents taught me was the world doesn’t owe you anything... You don’t want people to like you... you want people to RESPECT YOU....

To get someone’s respect, you must respect them first....

So If someone doesn’t want to meet me as a black man... You know what I do?

I RESPECT THEIR WISHES AND DO NOT CONTACT THEM.....

Let me help some of you out because life is about learning.....

The next time anyone reads a profile that that states “ No Asians or Blacks “ .....

Don’t send a message or start a thread about racism...

Go to google and type in “ interracial dating or interracial swinging “

Click on the websites , and your problems are solved....."

Go and give them a medal!

There you go assuming again. I’ve not once said I message those that have that in their profile.

But thank you for that amazing life lesson. Noted

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I RESPECT THEIR WISHES AND DO NOT CONTACT THEM.....

Let me help some of you out because life is about learning.....

The next time anyone reads a profile that that states “ No Asians or Blacks “ .....

Don’t send a message or start a thread about racism...

Go to google and type in “ interracial dating or interracial swinging “

Click on the websites , and your problems are solved.....

I hear you and understand why you are suggesting this as a way forward. I guess it is helpful in some way.

That said, the issue is a little deeper as we as a society need to look at why people still feel the need for "The blacks, The Asians, The Turks, The Muslims, The French...."

I think it really is deeper, and more important than avoiding a profile on a swing site."

Most definitely

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over a year ago

This post is doing my head in

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Why ? I've just arrived but i've read about the first 15 .......

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over a year ago

"Look ..... my Father and Grandfather faced prejudice in trying to find employment, getting a loan from the bank , and finding a home to buy...

Black men are not facing prejudice trying to find sex on a swinging site....

People are here to fulfill their sexual desires... if you don’t fit into their sexual desires.... that’s your bad luck .....

I find it astonishing that people can state that there is no one within 3.26 million people that they find sexually attractive.

So for a black gentleman to tick every box to be an ideal match for someone, only to be excluded for the colour of their skin and race, that's racism.

I find it astonishing that a white man is more concerned about racism in the lifestyle than myself as a black man......

Thank you for your concern , you are doing God’s work by pointing out the white swingers that don’t want to have interracial sex.....

God speed my friend, God Speed...."

yes! I've said similar before on threads - I do sometimes wish that white people wouldn't speak on my behalf on matters that don't actually bother most black people. It makes us seem petty and over-sensitive on occasion. I have much more important things to be concerned about than a preference on a swinging site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because preference is preference, if a profile says I don’t want or not looking for x, y & z move on.

Taking offence to such things only escalated your own judgement or hate

Whatever a persons choice is up to them, I sure as hell have mine and would be judged but it’s my choice and preference and has nothing to do with anything but attraction

End of for me

Much love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you for your concern , you are doing God’s work by pointing out the white swingers that don’t want to have interracial sex...."

Thank you for your appreciation and gratitude, but I'm not doing God's work. While I respect peoples right to believe, I don't have an invisible friend to live my life by. I try (try, don't always succeed) to make the world a better place.

My opinions on people are not _ased on their gender, orientation, race, creed or colour. With regard to those we are all equal. And we should all strive to create a society where we are all equal.

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over a year ago

I RESPECT THEIR WISHES AND DO NOT CONTACT THEM.....

Let me help some of you out because life is about learning.....

The next time anyone reads a profile that that states “ No Asians or Blacks “ .....

Don’t send a message or start a thread about racism...

Go to google and type in “ interracial dating or interracial swinging “

Click on the websites , and your problems are solved.....

I hear you and understand why you are suggesting this as a way forward. I guess it is helpful in some way.

That said, the issue is a little deeper as we as a society need to look at why people still feel the need for "The blacks, The Asians, The Turks, The Muslims, The French...."

I think it really is deeper, and more important than avoiding a profile on a swing site."

I respect what you’re saying.... But there is a time and place for everything.....

Using your time on a swinging site trying to figure why someone doesn’t want to have sex with you is akin to going to a Vegan restaurant and trying to figure out why they don’t serve meat entrees.....

This is Fabswingers , a place to meet swingers for sex... if you want to talk about race relations in the world there are websites that cater to that......

Let’s have sex not war....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thank you for your concern , you are doing God’s work by pointing out the white swingers that don’t want to have interracial sex....

My opinions on people are not _ased on their gender, orientation, race, creed or colour. With regard to those we are all equal. And we should all strive to create a society where we are all equal."

Well said

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Thank you for your concern , you are doing God’s work by pointing out the white swingers that don’t want to have interracial sex....

My opinions on people are not _ased on their gender, orientation, race, creed or colour. With regard to those we are all equal. And we should all strive to create a society where we are all equal."

What a lovely statement to make!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I respect what you’re saying.... But there is a time and place for everything.....

This is Fabswingers , a place to meet swingers for sex... if you want to talk about race relations in the world there are websites that cater to that......

Let’s have sex not war...."

I agree with you even though I am not sure I am with you one the vegan analogy but hey ho.

I did not start the thread, however, responded as it was about something close to my heart.

Is this forum the right place for that debate? Perhaps you are right that it is not. But since the issue was raised, I guess I am coming from the stance that when a question is asked about something that ( in my mind) needs changing in society, then I will voice what I believe in.

Let's get back to sex

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

We can only change ourselves by choice and influence changes outside of us. But others will retain their freedom of choice, however awful their behaviour may seem.

For here, it's helpful to filter out those who are unmatched, to focus your energy on those who you have greater prospects with together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr is black, and we don't meet black guys.

Does that make us racist? "

Most likely no, but just being an interacial couple doesn't mean you cannot still be racist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr is black, and we don't meet black guys.

Does that make us racist?

Most likely no, but just being an interacial couple doesn't mean you cannot still be racist.

Wtf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr is black, and we don't meet black guys.

Does that make us racist?

Most likely no, but just being an interacial couple doesn't mean you cannot still be racist.

Wtf

I so wanted to post that gif of the woman doing all the crazy mathematics in her head

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By *ebjonnsonMan
over a year ago

Maldon

"When I see “no blacks or Asians” on women’s profiles, all I think of Is ‘no blanks no Irish no dogs’. Some things never change.."

What do you want to change?

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By *unkmonkMan
over a year ago

Etobicoke

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you for your concern , you are doing God’s work by pointing out the white swingers that don’t want to have interracial sex.....

This part really bothers me. So people who chose not to have sex with a black, asian or other nationality are racist? So even though they are not racist but through their desire, preference they are to be pointed out and hung, drawn and quartered on here or even worse made to feel guilty enough to let you have sex with them? That was not a nice statement and as bad as anyone putting no black or asians on their profile. Where does this stuff end. If people are bullied in to meeting people they dont want to on here this place will end up a ghost town. I agree racisam is the worst of the worst but stating it food to point out people who are against interacial sex is just as bad and boaders on bullying sorry. We will not meet anyone we dont want to and no matter how much people keep on about it it wont happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I don't want to meet pig ugly midgets or lanky strings of piss..... It's not on my profile though cos that'd be inflammatory at the very least.

When they message me it's not difficult to decline politely.

I accept that pig ugly midgets and lanky strings of piss can be of any race or culture though.

To dismiss an entire race _ased solely on their race would be racist...... by the most modern of definitions...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is Fabswingers , a place to meet swingers for sex... if you want to talk about race relations in the world there are websites that cater to that......

Let’s have sex not war...."

Firstly, I'm with you on the sex not war idea. Bring it on!

On the rest, with the kindest and most sincere respect, you are wrong. We don't always get to choose our battles, and we shouldn't let things like racism go unchallenged. If we don't challenge it, how do we change it?

Oh, and I'm vegan and your analogy doesn't wash.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I don't want to meet pig ugly midgets or lanky strings of piss..... It's not on my profile though cos that'd be inflammatory at the very least.

When they message me it's not difficult to decline politely.

I accept that pig ugly midgets and lanky strings of piss can be of any race or culture though.

To dismiss an entire race _ased solely on their race would be racist...... by the most modern of definitions...

Seconded

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't want to meet pig ugly midgets or lanky strings of piss..... It's not on my profile though cos that'd be inflammatory at the very least.

When they message me it's not difficult to decline politely.

I accept that pig ugly midgets and lanky strings of piss can be of any race or culture though.

To dismiss an entire race _ased solely on their race would be racist...... by the most modern of definitions...

I think you should put it on your profile Granny

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By *ony456Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm mixed race and I don't see it as racist. For some, maybe but I just see it as what an individual finds sexualy attractive to them. Doesn't mean they'll treat you any different.

Putting, no gay guys, on a profile doesn't necessarily mean your homophobic. Just doesn't give you a twitch in yah pants.

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By *ony456Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm mixed race and I don't see it as racist. For some, maybe but I just see it as what an individual finds sexualy attractive to them. Doesn't mean they'll treat you any different.

Putting, no gay guys, on a profile doesn't necessarily mean your homophobic. Just doesn't give you a twitch in yah pants.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This is Fabswingers , a place to meet swingers for sex... if you want to talk about race relations in the world there are websites that cater to that......

Let’s have sex not war....

Firstly, I'm with you on the sex not war idea. Bring it on!

Oh, and I'm vegan and your analogy doesn't wash."

Facts!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm mixed race and I don't see it as racist. For some, maybe but I just see it as what an individual finds sexualy attractive to them. Doesn't mean they'll treat you any different.

Putting, no gay guys, on a profile doesn't necessarily mean your homophobic. Just doesn't give you a twitch in yah pants. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't want to meet pig ugly midgets or lanky strings of piss..... It's not on my profile though cos that'd be inflammatory at the very least. "

Now they are all subjective. You will know what pig ugly means to you, or the definition of a lanky string of piss.

To dismiss multiple millions of people on the grounds of their race though? Not a single one out of those could be attractive? A sweeping generalisation best, racism at worst.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just move on and dont get upset by it,

Look ..... my Father and Grandfather faced prejudice in trying to find employment, getting a loan from the bank , and finding a home to buy...

Black men are not facing prejudice trying to find sex on a swinging site....

People are here to fulfill their sexual desires... if you don’t fit into their sexual desires.... that’s your bad luck ..... "

Anyone who wasnt white anglo saxon protestant faced prejudice. see the opps original post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't want to meet pig ugly midgets or lanky strings of piss..... It's not on my profile though cos that'd be inflammatory at the very least.

When they message me it's not difficult to decline politely.

I accept that pig ugly midgets and lanky strings of piss can be of any race or culture though.

To dismiss an entire race _ased solely on their race would be racist...... by the most modern of definitions...

I'm happy to be called racist in that context. I won't be bullied into fucking people I'm not attracted to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm mixed race and I don't see it as racist. For some, maybe but I just see it as what an individual finds sexualy attractive to them. Doesn't mean they'll treat you any different.

Putting, no gay guys, on a profile doesn't necessarily mean your homophobic. Just doesn't give you a twitch in yah pants. "

Exactly. Cpls say no bi guys ect.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Just a thought, not to provoke a renewed debate...

The fact we are having the discussion means there are some issues and, on the positive side, we are able to talk about them.

Nobody has been offensive on this thread, which to me is a success regarding a difficult topic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't want to meet pig ugly midgets or lanky strings of piss..... It's not on my profile though cos that'd be inflammatory at the very least.

When they message me it's not difficult to decline politely.

I accept that pig ugly midgets and lanky strings of piss can be of any race or culture though.

To dismiss an entire race _ased solely on their race would be racist...... by the most modern of definitions...

I'm happy to be called racist in that context. I won't be bullied into fucking people I'm not attracted to. "

Our stance also. I am not racist. I have a good few friends in the black community. But posts basically saying if you do not want to fuck so and so you are racist are frankly disturbing. Se will not play with anyone we do not fancy playing with. Its not racist its our choice and preference. We do not want single guys and there have been many posts off guys slagging cpls off for it. Each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't want to meet pig ugly midgets or lanky strings of piss..... It's not on my profile though cos that'd be inflammatory at the very least.

When they message me it's not difficult to decline politely.

I accept that pig ugly midgets and lanky strings of piss can be of any race or culture though.

To dismiss an entire race _ased solely on their race would be racist...... by the most modern of definitions...

I'm happy to be called racist in that context. I won't be bullied into fucking people I'm not attracted to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just a thought, not to provoke a renewed debate...

The fact we are having the discussion means there are some issues and, on the positive side, we are able to talk about them.

Nobody has been offensive on this thread, which to me is a success regarding a difficult topic. "

100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see plenty of profiles requesting BBC only.

I dont get butthurt about it.

People have sex with who they wish.

Theres no need to start chucking an entire deck of racecards about because someone doesnt want to suck your winkle OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I see “no blacks or Asians” on women’s profiles, all I think of Is ‘no blanks no Irish no dogs’. Some things never change.."

Does your profile which states No single.men, mean you are a Homophobe, that you hate or dislike bi/gay/whatever men.

No, no reasonable person would think that. reasonable.people know it is your sexual Preference.

And that's what the no black or asian thing can also be.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

"I don't want to meet pig ugly midgets or lanky strings of piss..... It's not on my profile though cos that'd be inflammatory at the very least.

When they message me it's not difficult to decline politely.

I accept that pig ugly midgets and lanky strings of piss can be of any race or culture though.

To dismiss an entire race _ased solely on their race would be racist...... by the most modern of definitions...

I'm happy to be called racist in that context. I won't be bullied into fucking people I'm not attracted to. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see plenty of profiles requesting BBC only.

I dont get butthurt about it.

People have sex with who they wish.

Theres no need to start chucking an entire deck of racecards about because someone doesnt want to suck your winkle OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I see “no blacks or Asians” on women’s profiles, all I think of Is ‘no blanks no Irish no dogs’. Some things never change..

Does your profile which states No single.men, mean you are a Homophobe, that you hate or dislike bi/gay/whatever men.

No, no reasonable person would think that. reasonable.people know it is your sexual Preference.

And that's what the no black or asian thing can also be.

It's just automatic text when people block single males from messaging. He didn't add that to his profile as a 'profile comment'.

Other mail filters don't add text, just the Man one for some reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Look ..... my Father and Grandfather faced prejudice in trying to find employment, getting a loan from the bank , and finding a home to buy...

Black men are not facing prejudice trying to find sex on a swinging site....

People are here to fulfill their sexual desires... if you don’t fit into their sexual desires.... that’s your bad luck .....

I find it astonishing that people can state that there is no one within 3.26 million people that they find sexually attractive.

So for a black gentleman to tick every box to be an ideal match for someone, only to be excluded for the colour of their skin and race, that's racism.

I find it astonishing that a white man is more concerned about racism in the lifestyle than myself as a black man......

Thank you for your concern , you are doing God’s work by pointing out the white swingers that don’t want to have interracial sex.....

God speed my friend, God Speed....

Looool I guess the parenting of those 33 and younger wasn’t that great either.

I think my parents did a fine job.....

My Sister is a physician, my brother is a Electrical Engineer , and I’m a corporate board member of a Fortune 500 company and college professor.....

What my parents taught me was the world doesn’t owe you anything... You don’t want people to like you... you want people to RESPECT YOU....

To get someone’s respect, you must respect them first....

So If someone doesn’t want to meet me as a black man... You know what I do?

I RESPECT THEIR WISHES AND DO NOT CONTACT THEM.....

Let me help some of you out because life is about learning.....

The next time anyone reads a profile that that states “ No Asians or Blacks “ .....

Don’t send a message or start a thread about racism...

Go to google and type in “ interracial dating or interracial swinging “

Click on the websites , and your problems are solved....."

So well put.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I just (speed) read over the thread again and on balance, I think there is probably more agreement than disagreement.

The disagreement is about terminology, which for some of us is/can be loaded. For example if I saw a profile stating "No whites" it would bewilder me a bit and I would be asking why I was excluded _ased on the colour of my skin only.

If I saw a profile stating "no chubby women" I would move on to the next profile without blinking.

So I guess it really is about context, terminology and perhaps heightened sensitivity. And it is good to continue having these conversations, even if or perhaps especially when we disagree with each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Posts playing the race card over because people that dont want sex with you distract from the real racisim out there. One of my mates got picked on, beat up, treated shit at school by teachers all cos he was black. But i doubt he would not be on here bleating. About people who do not want to have sex with him. There are plenty cpls and single fems who are looking for sex with only black guys. I dont come on here and raise a post highlighting it! Far to many moaning posts on here than i have ever seen before. Life is for living not moaning about it. Look for people who want you just like we are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does your profile which states No single.men, mean you are a Homophobe, that you hate or dislike bi/gay/whatever men. "

He is dismissing all single men, irrespective of race, creed, colour or orientation. That is a clear preference, although you could argue if were so inclined, that it is sexist.

Dismissing millions of people purely down to their skin colour or ethnicity is racist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a mixed race couple at our age, we are happy to talk about the real racism that still exists, and that we have had to live with and suffer.

However we find it sad that on occasions the race card is played where there is no real need.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One of my mates got picked on, beat up, treated shit at school by teachers all cos he was black."

All aspects of racism need to be tackled, wherever and whenever they occur, on line or in real life. We shouldn't accept it, anywhere.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago

The dot in the i

Nah, it’s only personal preference, I don’t get upset at profiles looking for a bbw or tall or blonde or latex only

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Do we as humans with thoughts, feelings, experience, needs etc not have the right to be offended when we feel we are being mistreated (in the board sense of the word)?

I believe we do have a right (some argue a duty) to raise any issue which potentially threatens the principle of human equality.

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