FabSwingers.com forum: Gay sex for straight men

By *ab_expat OP Man
over a year ago

Reading

[please, be gentle... this is a real and very personal question, hence not easy to ask]

Hi guys,

I'm a heterosexual 40-something man. I have never had sex with a man.

At the moment I don't have a partner and there is something I have always wondered. How would it be to have sex with another man?

To be honest, I have never been attracted to another man or even close to have sex. I have been in threesomes with other men, but the focus was always on the woman

I love sex. Finding a partner is not easy and one often wonders if things are going to work in bed, how long is going to take, etc.

I know it might be a bit of a cliche, but my understanding is that gay men are quite promiscuous (as most men, I dare to say!). So sometimes I have wondered if it would be just an easier/faster route, maybe even less complicated?

At the same time I don't really want to create expectations or waste anybody's time. I generally need an intellectual connection before I have sex with someone, and this would not be an exception.

What do you think? is it crazy? have you tried this approach?

Thanks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a wank and see how you feel about it after. All the best X

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

Just a thought, but maybe don’t set out with homophobic stereotypes in mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'So sometimes I have wondered if it would be just an easier/faster route, maybe even less complicated?'

Might make your bum a bit sore though

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By *ustathingMan
over a year ago

Reading

Why don't you organise a social when we're allowed with a gay/bi guy?

I'd imagine if you were honest and upfront about it being your first time, they would be pretty understanding if things did escalate...

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I think that to some degree men can detach from the situation more easily so would do things they wouldn't normally.

Over time it becomes a chore trying to find a suitable woman who's interested, and going with another dude is a means to an end more than anything else.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Basically what your whole post appears to be saying OP is "I'm desperate therefore I'll take cock"

Yet you want an intellectual connection?

Would be a no from me, purely because of everything you've said in your OP

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By *adetMan
over a year ago

South of Ipswich

"I think that to some degree men can detach from the situation more easily so would do things they wouldn't normally.

Over time it becomes a chore trying to find a suitable woman who's interested, and going with another dude is a means to an end more than anything else."

Pretty much this

I get contacted by straight guys that just need 'quick relief' There's never anything more to it

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Its a thought that is not uncommon on here and with the uncertainty of your feelings on the matter, I'd advise going to a club (when we are allowed to) to explore more rather than rush into something that you are not 100% into

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By *uriouscouple83Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

If you want a quick shag then get your ass over to fab guys and I am sure you will find what you are looking for.

If, as you say, you have no attraction to men however you may want to think about it a bit more. Possibly a fleshlight?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you want a quick shag then get your ass over to fab guys and I am sure you will find what you are looking for.

If, as you say, you have no attraction to men however you may want to think about it a bit more. Possibly a fleshlight? "

If he doesn’t really fancy men then he’s probably better off without the flashlight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you want a quick shag then get your ass over to fab guys and I am sure you will find what you are looking for.

If, as you say, you have no attraction to men however you may want to think about it a bit more. Possibly a fleshlight? "

The nights are drawing out now.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

There’s usually a fair few gay guys on here who actively seek “straight” men.

Brace yourself, they’ll be along soon.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

If it works for you then go for it.

From being on here I've found that a lot of men are promiscuous, and straight men like cock.

You'll have many more chances of getting sex, or your cock sucked by men than you will women.

Once we're allowed to meet again have a look for bi men or put on your status that you're straight looking to try a man out.

You'll be inundated I think.

Good luck

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"If you want a quick shag then get your ass over to fab guys and I am sure you will find what you are looking for.

If, as you say, you have no attraction to men however you may want to think about it a bit more. Possibly a fleshlight?

If he doesn’t really fancy men then he’s probably better off without the flashlight.

I don't fancy women but I've enjoyed oral with one.

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

I got no opinion on your original post besides hypothetical, OP.

If its on your mind, go chat to some guys. Leave sex out of the conversation and your mind.

Then come back here, reread and ask yourself how much of this you answered yourself.

G'luck I guess, dude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you want a quick shag then get your ass over to fab guys and I am sure you will find what you are looking for.

If, as you say, you have no attraction to men however you may want to think about it a bit more. Possibly a fleshlight?

If he doesn’t really fancy men then he’s probably better off without the flashlight.

I don't fancy women but I've enjoyed oral with one.

Women love to talk

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"If you want a quick shag then get your ass over to fab guys and I am sure you will find what you are looking for.

If, as you say, you have no attraction to men however you may want to think about it a bit more. Possibly a fleshlight?

If he doesn’t really fancy men then he’s probably better off without the flashlight.

I don't fancy women but I've enjoyed oral with one.

Women love to talk "

I was talking into her vagina for an hour.

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By *amanthaJonesTrans1966TV/TS
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I always considered myself as straight as much as I could be, but I had a fascination for lingerie, just the feel of it against the skin, after a bad relationship breakdown, to which I nearly commited suicide, after coming out of hospital, I did a lot of thinking, that's when I decided to progress as Samantha and finally fully dressing and going out about Portsmouth, since then I've came out, I enjoy my life as it is now, I'm happier, stronger and more confident, but it was about 18 years ago whilst out walking through some woods around 6am one morning when this guy approached me, saying how attractive I was and loved the outfit and heels, he then asked me if I would like to join him and have some fun together, til this point, I had never thought of having sex with a guy, but for some strange reason I found it exhilarating and exciting, so I said yes but I'm a virgin, please be gentle, I could not have wished for a better first time, he was gentle and caring and considerate, the perfect first time lover, after that we met on a regular basis in the mornings til I moved away, since then, I am totally bottom now, and totally ad-dic-ted to recieving cocks both ends, and I go out to bars and clubs and hotels etc and attend tgirl and lgbt events and often get chatted up by guys, and tgirls and the occasional male/female couple too, well that was before covid came along and ruined all my plans of many weekends away staying in hotels far and wide, such as Brighton A-Bar, Pink Punters BNO night in Milton Keynes, LFF in Leeds, Canal Street in Manchester as well as the Zodiac Club in North London

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By *amanthaJonesTrans1966TV/TS
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"[please, be gentle... this is a real and very personal question, hence not easy to ask]

Hi guys,

I'm a heterosexual 40-something man. I have never had sex with a man.

At the moment I don't have a partner and there is something I have always wondered. How would it be to have sex with another man?

To be honest, I have never been attracted to another man or even close to have sex. I have been in threesomes with other men, but the focus was always on the woman

I love sex. Finding a partner is not easy and one often wonders if things are going to work in bed, how long is going to take, etc.

At the same time I don't really want to create expectations or waste anybody's time. I generally need an intellectual connection before I have sex with someone, and this would not be an exception.

What do you think? is it crazy? have you tried this approach?

Thanks!

So if you're not sure about going with a guy, would you meet a sexy, feminine and convincing transgirl and see how things go.

As I have met quite a few straight married guys or guys who have a girlfriend or guys who date women though they don't have a partner at the time, and they would like to see how things go, is there a sexual connection, as they fab my photos, wink at me, chat me up, saying on how they would like to treat me.

Some guys first ask for a social meet, either for a drink of coffee or in a bar for something stronger (possibly dutch courage), and take things from there, other guys have met me down Eastney nudist beach in Portsmouth to see if they like what they see in the flesh as it is, or in the tropics in Portsmouth for their tgirl sessions.

Maybe, once this lockdown is done with and places ate open again, maybe find a local male only sauna, ask if they do themed nights, like tgirl sessions, daddy's days, bears night etc, as everyone has their preferences in what they think off or enjoy, worthwhile considering, but for the moment, could I suggest watching some gay guy porn or transsexual porn etc to see if it excites you, that way you would have a better understanding on how you would like to meet, also another thing to consider is, are you a top, bottom or versatile, do you want to be the guy fucking others, or the one recieving or a bit of both, again you need to think of this as in what position you would take as some guys are only top or bottom as others are versatile, whereas tgirls, most are totally bottom, only a few are versatile or totally top.

Hope this helps!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How come you're not listed then as bi-curious? And why in your update today you're looking for a girlfriend?

By the way, gay or bi men are no more promiscuous than anyone else.

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