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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Recently I have been watching a lot of bi orgies for porn and it's starting to arouse me more.

However I'm not sure if I would like bi or not, and was wondering what other males think along with how they first tried bi play.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Important to remember there's nothing wrong with it, and I would suppose the best way would be to try it. Probably take it slow...

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

There is in only one way to know, try it and you'll know either way at least

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Only you can decide if it's for you or not OP - and right now you have time on your side to think it through before you're able to act on it.

Think carefully before "just trying" it though - for some that try and don't like, it can cause serious self-doubt/guilt. There's of course nothing wrong with it in the slightest and there is of course ultimately only one way to find out, but I better to be as sure as you can be before indulging than later regretting.

One thing to try once things return to normal is either a bi night at a club, or an all male sauna - where there's no pressure to "do" anything but you are in an environment where gay/bisexual activity is happening and you can at least see how comfortable you are with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish I had realised I was bi at your age instead of denying it for so long. I’d had Bebe experiences when a I was younger than you but passed them off as youthful curiosity. My first wake up was during an MMF when the husband of the couple started sucking my cock. His wife, told him off for not asking permission, but a I told him to carry on and quite enjoyed it. I tried a one to one a few years later but was too nervous to really enjoy it. So it was only when I started using the forum 7 years ago that I realised that I actually was bisexual. Why? Because I realised I fancied some of the bi male forum users

It took me 6 years to do anything about that in terms of meeting up with one for a bi MMF just before the first lockdown though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not bi or attracted to guys but not afraid of other cocks. The first time For me was meeting another couple mmf fun.

It was all focus on her, me and her otherhalf were straight never touched another guy before.

it got really heated touching/fuck licking ect ended up with dvp, double barrelled bj/hj.

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By *imbo59seMan
over a year ago

North Norfolk area

Many many years ago, I met a couple for, as far as I was aware, a straight 3sum. Turned into some oral bi play. Not what I had expected, but turned out to be fun all round.

Was probably lucky the way it came about, but enjoyable certainly!

Certainly not been averse to playing with couples where oral bi play is on the menu ever since.

As they say......suck it and see

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

These are the main things I have seen that make me curious, dvp and double barrelled.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"These are the main things I have seen that make me curious, dvp and double barrelled."

Try it.

We only regret the things we dont do... we learn from the things we have done

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This is very true, it just seems like it would be fun but I don't want to nose dive into things

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By *orthfieldsNickMan
over a year ago

West London

I was curious for years which I found very difficult. I was driving myself mad with desire and craving for something I’d never had, eventually I decided that I couldn’t carry on like that anymore and had to take the plunge and give it a go. I met another married guy for a wank & suck session and although I was very nervous I enjoyed it and I’m glad I tried it. As soon as it was over I felt like the weight of the world was off my shoulders and now it doesn’t seem such a big deal. I’ve not done it since for various reasons, but maybe I will do it again when the right chance comes up.

My honest advice would be to try it, there is nothing wrong with it and it doesn’t define you. If you don’t like it then you’ve not lost anything and just put it down as a weird experience. If you do like it then you’ve discovered something new about yourself and will have lots of fun ahead of you

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"These are the main things I have seen that make me curious, dvp and double barrelled."

Arguably neither of those activities are particularly bi - more just being comfortable with some bodily contact with another guy albeit genitally, they're more a bi (pun intended) product of activities with a woman.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why is it so confusing too, whats a top or bottom what else should I know?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it so confusing too, whats a top or bottom what else should I know?"

Top - giver

Bottom -taker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No idea if I’m bi or not. What I do know is I appreciate the human body be that female or male. Have met a couple of guys for sensual massage and loved it, but not sure I would want to go any further.

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By *ung_londonMan
over a year ago

London

Everyone is different but I’ve met some guys for whom the concern is that actually having sex with another guy (rather than privately fantasising about it) will fundamentally change who they are / who they feel they are. Sometimes that’s about a particular boundary - oral / anal for example. But the tension is about feeling that it means something massive to act on the desire.

For others, it’s more a sense of wanting to have an OK time - not being troubled so much about whether it means something massive but the familiar fab worries of whether the attraction will be there in the reality of a meet, whether lack of experience will make the sex problematic etc

You don’t need to spend too much time on these forums to discover that people have very firm but contradicting opinions about what constitutes being straight/bi/gay (among other things), which I think makes the whole thing even more confusing sometimes. But there are plenty of people (including others on this thread) who are both thoughtful and friendly on the subject. My feeling is that sexuality is much more complex than the language we usually use to describe it, which means many of us can find ourselves with more questions than answers. And as long as we try and behave decently to each other as we explore, that’s no bad thing.

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By *LAchillesMan
over a year ago

Archway

When normality resumes and such events are up and running again get yourself along to a bi-swingers evening. You can watch and participate, should you want/be invited. The atmosphere is relaxed and fun and they’re great places to meet others, make friends, ask questions and explore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I deliberately set out to break down the reserve I had about being with men, but it took a while and I started slow. Don't expect too much at first. You need to get comfortable with a man's body - it can be a big barrier. You may have to get comfortable with your own first.

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