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Porn - Time spent - addiction?

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By *hamCouple30 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Out of interest and honesty, how much time do you spend a week looking at and masterbasting watching hardcore porn?

I think (Leo) I've spent at least 3 hours a day doing this. Also I had 50Gb of saved films (now deleted) and hundreds of bookmarks for porn sites (also deleted).

I started to find great comfort in spending time doing this alone.

I plan to change this and never to return to looking at porn for satisfaction, instead focusing on my wife, child and hobbies.

I love sex but find I'm so distant and distracted from everything else. Also I'm constantly thinking about sex.

Has anyone else done this or experienced these feelings?

Leo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's great that you have recognised this. I very rarely watch porn in all honesty, at least porn films, rather watch videos I have made with others.

Have you tried to cut back on it yet, or are you planning to at the moment? Do you think you will find it difficult?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Recognising the issue is a great first step. It is a recognised addiction so you could find help with it through your doctor.

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By *hamCouple30 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Thanks for the comments both. I'm starting now. Deleted all films and links.

I will struggle but know the benefits are worth it.

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By *hamCouple30 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

It must only be real sexual interaction with others.

My wife is very wonderful and we like to share with others.

Porn is a fake world that is flooding my thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very very rarely watch it because overuse of porn can desensitize you to sex with real people and mess up your relationships. It's good you have recognised it's getting out of control. There's a great Ted Talk about it, which shows any problems can be reversed.

https://youtu.be/wSF82AwSDiU

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

use to watch porn a lot when jen. Was working. Watching it to much makes you think about sex far to much. I try not to watch it as much now and feel better for it.

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By *hamCouple30 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Thanks for link to the Ted Talk.

I'm surprised that so far I've had very supportive comments.

I think a lot of my dependency comes from my childhood and issues I had. Not sexual issues just not enough love I wanted.

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By *racy_JacksWoman
over a year ago

Derby

I am sorry to hear that you are struggling with this

There is a lot of debate around understanding these issues as an addiction, and porn or sex addiction is not a recognised disorder (compulsive sexual behaviour disorder is recognised by the world health organisation. This is not the same as an addictive disorder). You will see that the TED talk with Gary Wilson includes a disclaimer that the talk includes claims that are not supported by research. Some people find it useful to understand their sexual behaviour as an addiction, but it can also be quite harmful and some have likened sex addiction treatment to conversion therapy. I would be wary of going down this particular path

There is a useful discussion on out of control porn viewing here

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=GjevzF3QJ4I&list=PLHQ0Tyxvp8-FylevGdFaDREWMViUAMmV-&index=1&t=339s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for link to the Ted Talk.

I'm surprised that so far I've had very supportive comments.

I think a lot of my dependency comes from my childhood and issues I had. Not sexual issues just not enough love I wanted. "

How does that correlate to your use of porn?

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By *hamCouple30 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

I seek comfort from it without judgment from anyone.

All action and pleasure.

This makes up for childhood memories of being alone with no family.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Thanks for link to the Ted Talk.

I'm surprised that so far I've had very supportive comments.

I think a lot of my dependency comes from my childhood and issues I had. Not sexual issues just not enough love I wanted. "

How does a lack of love and affection as a child translate into sexual acts between adults ?

Serious Q ...... ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I seek comfort from it without judgment from anyone.

All action and pleasure.

This makes up for childhood memories of being alone with no family. "

I'm never gonna be able to follow that, but it's not about me

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