FabSwingers.com forum: Oh shit, he got caught

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just had an text from my mate asking if he can sleep here tonight, my reply no kids here, why?

His mrs has found out that he is on here and been erm shagging around.

Daft bugger left his iPod on when he went out, she went snooping and OMG, he's rumbled.

Divorce I think is next. Goona take some crawling here me thinks.

As a mate, what do I do?

What should he do?

Females, open floor.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put him up and wear your tin hat next time u go out - down to him to sort it not u - but mates look after each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

get him some Popcorn..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Peg him out in the back garden, chop his knackers off and burn the body! But on the other hand you may want to do something more extreme!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just had an text from my mate asking if he can sleep here tonight, my reply no kids here, why?

His mrs has found out that he is on here and been erm shagging around.

Daft bugger left his iPod on when he went out, she went snooping and OMG, he's rumbled.

Divorce I think is next. Goona take some crawling here me thinks.

As a mate, what do I do?

What should he do?

Females, open floor."

sounds like he wanted his cake and eat it .....tut tut

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Popcorn?

Honestly don't want to be in the middle.

Until tonight, didn't even know he's on here, some mate.

Feel sorry for his wife, she's beautiful and he doesn't deserve her.

Anyway, advice very welcome x

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"Popcorn?

Honestly don't want to be in the middle.

Until tonight, didn't even know he's on here, some mate.

Feel sorry for his wife, she's beautiful and he doesn't deserve her.

Anyway, advice very welcome "
but hes your friend

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

If it's my mate, he/she would have a place to doss at mine regardless.....when I left my husband, my best mate put me up till I could find a place of my own, she knew I wasn't happy in my marriage and cheated (I don't have the monogamy gene I reckon), but she's still friends with my ex and still my bessie mate as we've known each other 40 years......My advice would be look after your mate if he's a good mate xxxx Good luck with whatever you decide xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sod the mate, go round and keep his soon to ne ex wife company

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sod the mate, go round and keep his soon to ne ex wife company

Christ I wish.

One thing mate or not, I feel very sorry for his mrs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well just offer him a place to stay and don't get involved any more than that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sod the mate, go round and keep his soon to ne ex wife company

Christ I wish.

One thing mate or not, I feel very sorry for his mrs.

What because she is beautiful? What's the real agenda with this thread then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Remember to tell him "make sure you switch everything off" before you go to sleep.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let him stay at yours , then go and comfort his poor wife - with any luck she will give in to your charm and concern and be putty in your hands . The inevitable comfort shag and bobs your uncle - happy ending !

She feels bad enough to let him back , realises that maybe he was right after all - it's bloody good fun this swinging lark and it's happy ever after !

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

she should have been reassured,he was faithful,and didn't shag around.

eunuchs shag more than a single male on a swingers site.

some people eh.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sod the mate, go round and keep his soon to ne ex wife company

Christ I wish.

One thing mate or not, I feel very sorry for his mrs.

What because she is beautiful? What's the real agenda with this thread then?

He is a mate and you look after your mate.

His wife has always be friendly and pure towards me and many ladies she has met.

I feel sorry for her regardless she is beautiful xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"she should have been reassured,he was faithful,and didn't shag around.

eunuchs shag more than a single male on a swingers site.

some people eh.

Can you have female eunuchs ?

eunuchess,s

cuz i think im one

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

"she should have been reassured,he was faithful,and didn't shag around.

eunuchs shag more than a single male on a swingers site.

some people eh.

Can you have female eunuchs ?

eunuchess,s

cuz i think im one

only one way to find out peaches.

one prick,will make you eunuchless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"she should have been reassured,he was faithful,and didn't shag around.

eunuchs shag more than a single male on a swingers site.

some people eh.

Can you have female eunuchs ?

eunuchess,s

cuz i think im one

only one way to find out peaches.

one prick,will make you eunuchless.

Well i had two pricks this week, tho they dont count...one in me arm and one in me ass.

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

"she should have been reassured,he was faithful,and didn't shag around.

eunuchs shag more than a single male on a swingers site.

some people eh.

Can you have female eunuchs ?

eunuchess,s

cuz i think im one

only one way to find out peaches.

one prick,will make you eunuchless.

Well i had two pricks this week, tho they dont count...one in me arm and one in me ass.

i'm thinkin you may need another in the ass,and lucky for you,i've got one ready.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"she should have been reassured,he was faithful,and didn't shag around.

eunuchs shag more than a single male on a swingers site.

some people eh.

Can you have female eunuchs ?

eunuchess,s

cuz i think im one

only one way to find out peaches.

one prick,will make you eunuchless.

Well i had two pricks this week, tho they dont count...one in me arm and one in me ass.

i'm thinkin you may need another in the ass,and lucky for you,i've got one ready.

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

Wait a month and ask his wife/ex for his Iphone?

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By *n need of helpCouple
over a year ago

hull

got caught with his pants down ,he,s screwed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bro is a bro, even if he did something stupid. Of course that doesn't stop you telling him he was stupid for doing what he did.

Take him in, tell him he is a fool, but still make sure he is ok

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

your doing just the right thing putting him up dont get involved any further its up to him to sort his own life out well done you so far

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Sod the mate, go round and keep his soon to ne ex wife company

Christ I wish.

One thing mate or not, I feel very sorry for his mrs.

What because she is beautiful? What's the real agenda with this thread then?

He is a mate and you look after your mate.

His wife has always be friendly and pure towards me and many ladies she has met.

I feel sorry for her regardless she is beautiful xx"

That's twice you've put 'feeling sorry for her' and 'she's beautiful' in the one sentence.

How do those two go together ?

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

"Let him stay at yours , then go and comfort his poor wife - with any luck she will give in to your charm and concern and be putty in your hands . The inevitable comfort shag and bobs your uncle - happy ending !

She feels bad enough to let him back , realises that maybe he was right after all - it's bloody good fun this swinging lark and it's happy ever after !

sounds like a plan.

above all else, if he is a mate, you are duty bound to offer him a sofa/spare room.

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

must say, i hope all the married singes read this thread lol. notthat it will make a difference.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

give him a bed

don't suggest or agree to setting up a MMF whilst he is there,

and don't get involved in it moving forward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell him to not get caught next time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sod the mate, go round and keep his soon to ne ex wife company

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sod the mate, go round and keep his soon to ne ex wife company

Christ I wish.

One thing mate or not, I feel very sorry for his mrs.

What because she is beautiful? What's the real agenda with this thread then?

It's all becoming clear...

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By *ove to watch in suffolkMan
over a year ago

stowmarket

people that play away are disgusting serves him right he even betraid you as you say some mate , let his ex know about mums net so she can screw him over lol then get her on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would always put a mate up if him and his missus had split and he needed a place to crash. The only time I would not is if their was domestic abuse involved.

The guy was a cock cheating on his missus and playing on here. I hope this is a message for men on here. Think about what you have to lose for the sake of a extra-marital shag.

With regards to you keep referring to feeling sorry for her and her being beautiful, it sounds like you may be holding a flame for her. My advice is stay a friend and dont get intimately involved. I have had my fingers burnt doing this and lost a couple of good friends and the respect of other friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

agree with most on here.

put him up... he is a mate..

offer him advice...

certainly stay away from his wife....

in a sexual way.....

if you know them both well, dont take sides but be available as a mediator if they want a neutral person there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you know them both well, dont take sides but be available as a mediator if they want a neutral person there."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

tell him he made his bed now hes gotta lay in it

i wouldnt see a mate on the street so you can put him up for a few nights but its his own doing at the end of the day. not your mess to sort out

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Interesting that he turned to you and told you about being on here in his hour of need.

Friends in need are etc. Give him a bed and stay out of his marriage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't take this the wrong way but I'm happy your not my mate.

Hour of need and you have to check with a forum whether to help. Not just any forum but one I probably also use and the soon to be ex wife is probably trawling through right now with tears in her eyes.

On top of that you also reveal a desire for my Mrs, that's how I'd read it.

Is this a true story or just put together for a debate? If it is, are you a true friend or just an associate?

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Don't take this the wrong way but I'm happy your not my mate.

On top of that you also reveal a desire for my Mrs, that's how I'd read it.

Is this a true story or just put together for a debate? If it is, are you a true friend or just an associate? "

You've put down what I was thinking: glad he's not my friend.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Don't take this the wrong way but I'm happy your not my mate.

On top of that you also reveal a desire for my Mrs, that's how I'd read it.

Is this a true story or just put together for a debate? If it is, are you a true friend or just an associate? "

it is an interesting slant because since last night I have been thinking "in this situation what would I do...."

my answer would be "put him up.. for 1 night... in his greatest time of need... but I would also have called her and explained in no way does it mean I approve of what he did".....

maybe it is a story these "bulletproof" marrieds playing away should read.... if they think it can't happen to them... well it does...

but like someone above me said... like it would really make a difference because all they will say is "it won't happen to me because........."

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if he didnt want to get caught then he shouldnt have done anything to get caught doing.

Finished with my bf for exactly the same thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wait til she finds out you're on here too. Who do you think is gonna get the blame for putting him up to it? In all probability they'll get over it and you'll be the outcast

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Wait til she finds out you're on here too. Who do you think is gonna get the blame for putting him up to it? In all probability they'll get over it and you'll be the outcast

was thinking along similar lines, she has access to his profile are you and him also 'friends' on here?

she clocks on you are also a site user, regardless of your status she wont be best pleased..

guilt by association..

in no way should you mediate at all, your 'his' mate and have put him up..

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By *exy milf 1962Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Thank God we're are totally honest and upfront abt "MY" swinging solo!!

No1: BUT OMG!!! ~ Surely "THIS SITE" should have been the last place to ask advice~considering your wife can NOW access your Fab account and ALL the "others???"

No2: If (which is blatently obvious;-)

you weren't "Filling ya boots t'home"

Q? Why didnt u try talking to her 1st and try and explain exactly how u felt(assuming ya didnt)b4 joining dating and Swinging site's ~ ??

No3:If i was ya mate (and male) i would put you up obviously ~ but make sure that ya wife knew that i wasnt in anyway shape or form taking sides and offer to be an impartial friend to both

~ the need to comunicate is parramount

90% of relationships brake down "due to the lack of communication FACT!!"

U really need to sit her down and open ya heart to her and be totally HONEST!!!

Tell her how much you adore her ~ but how the lack of love n affection btwn ya is "absolutely KILLING YOU!"

I'm a firm believer that (if your not getting what you want at home~ then "EVENTUALLY" you will look elsewhere!!!!!!

We have talked through our needs and have ALWAYS had everything open and above board from the start~ HONESTY REALLY IS THE BEST POLICY!!! xx goodluck love ~ Helen x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't take this the wrong way but I'm happy your not my mate.

On top of that you also reveal a desire for my Mrs, that's how I'd read it.

Is this a true story or just put together for a debate? If it is, are you a true friend or just an associate? "

Exactly what I thought.

Personally I would not see a friend on the streets but they would be gone in the morning. My philosophy of of if it means potential hassle then avoid at all costs would extend to a friend in this situation. Though I would have little respect for a friend having an affair, if I found a friend was shagging around behind their partners back they would soon become an ex-friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank God we're are totally honest and upfront abt "MY" swinging solo!!

No1: BUT OMG!!! ~ Surely "THIS SITE" should have been the last place to ask advice~considering your wife can NOW access your Fab account and ALL the "others???"

No2: If (which is blatently obvious;-)

you weren't "Filling ya boots t'home"

Q? Why didnt u try talking to her 1st and try and explain exactly how u felt(assuming ya didnt)b4 joining dating and Swinging site's ~ ??

No3:If i was ya mate (and male) i would put you up obviously ~ but make sure that ya wife knew that i wasnt in anyway shape or form taking sides and offer to be an impartial friend to both

~ the need to comunicate is parramount

90% of relationships brake down "due to the lack of communication FACT!!"

U really need to sit her down and open ya heart to her and be totally HONEST!!!

Tell her how much you adore her ~ but how the lack of love n affection btwn ya is "absolutely KILLING YOU!"

I'm a firm believer that (if your not getting what you want at home~ then "EVENTUALLY" you will look elsewhere!!!!!!

We have talked through our needs and have ALWAYS had everything open and above board from the start~ HONESTY REALLY IS THE BEST POLICY!!! xx goodluck love ~ Helen x "

I must have totally misread the op original post cos I thought it was his mate not him who had been caught out on here.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

See i just dont get it, if hes a friend, you wouldnt be on here asking what to do,its a no brainer....

i have read the OPs responses and i have come to one or two conclusions...

1. He wants to try n earn brownie points with the females on the site

2. Hes not at all arsed about his friend but wouldnt mind being a shoulder to cry on to his friends missus

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By *ovedupstillCouple
over a year ago

mullinwire

tbf, depending on my relationship with each of them, i would be there for both.

give him a place to lay his head, for a short while, but as has been suggested, explain to her it in no way reflects my personal feelings on the matter.

if he wasnt a 'mate' for all i cared he could sleep in the gutter, or on a park bench, it would be her that would be getting all OUR sympathies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I bet she listened to Jeremy vine the other week about snooping on your other halfs phone/emails.

Oh dear!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See i just dont get it, if hes a friend, you wouldnt be on here asking what to do,its a no brainer....

i have read the OPs responses and i have come to one or two conclusions...

1. He wants to try n earn brownie points with the females on the site

2. Hes not at all arsed about his friend but wouldnt mind being a shoulder to cry on to his friends missus"

I doubt the Op will respond to posts like this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"See i just dont get it, if hes a friend, you wouldnt be on here asking what to do,its a no brainer....

i have read the OPs responses and i have come to one or two conclusions...

1. He wants to try n earn brownie points with the females on the site

2. Hes not at all arsed about his friend but wouldnt mind being a shoulder to cry on to his friends missus

I doubt the Op will respond to posts like this. "

Too right he wont he is round at his mates house shagging the arse off his mrs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe that this whole story is fabricated to get attention.

Its worked on the level that more people have looked at the OPs profile now but it does seem a little bit silly

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