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By *nna Wulf OP   Woman
over a year ago

Wandsworth

In what order would you rank the love languages? (most to least important)

For me it's:

Touch - not necessarily sex although that is up there... but the more subtle touches. I'm really sensitive to touch and if I like you then just touching my hand can send round me the bend. Conversely if i don't know you or like you then the mention of an oily massage (boak) or hours of oral sex on me (dry boak) makes me shudder

Quality time - don't look at your phone when you're with me. I once went on holibobs with a 'lover' He was on facebook so much that I bought myself a ticket home. Grrrrrr.

Acts of service - help me out with stuff because you wanna.

Words of affirmation - touch and eye contact and tacit stuff are more important that actually words.. words can be skewed and misinterpreted.

Receiving gifts - genuinely don't give a fuck about receiving gifts (unless it's the gift of your time... or your touch) and I tend not to buy gifts for people either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'd definitely out touch up top. There's something different about being touched by someone you car about, especially skin on skin even just a hug or spooning. K and I are almost constantly touching if we're nearby even if that's just my hand on her leg while driving or sat on the sofa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In what order would you rank the love languages? (most to least important)

For me it's:

Touch - not necessarily sex although that is up there... but the more subtle touches. I'm really sensitive to touch and if I like you then just touching my hand can send round me the bend. Conversely if i don't know you or like you then the mention of an oily massage (boak) or hours of oral sex on me (dry boak) makes me shudder

Quality time - don't look at your phone when you're with me. I once went on holibobs with a 'lover' He was on facebook so much that I bought myself a ticket home. Grrrrrr.

Acts of service - help me out with stuff because you wanna.

Words of affirmation - touch and eye contact and tacit stuff are more important that actually words.. words can be skewed and misinterpreted.

Receiving gifts - genuinely don't give a fuck about receiving gifts (unless it's the gift of your time... or your touch) and I tend not to buy gifts for people either.

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Would add into no 2 - eye contact when speaking and listening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swap touch with quality time works for me

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Touch and eye contact is of utmost importance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know about the 5 love languages and have done the quiz on their website. I came out as highest on quality time and words of affirmation.

The 5 love languages is used in couples therapy and really useful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love languages?

'Ee up lass, get thar tits owt' isn't what you mean is it?

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By *nna Wulf OP   Woman
over a year ago

Wandsworth


"I think I'd definitely out touch up top. There's something different about being touched by someone you car about, especially skin on skin even just a hug or spooning. K and I are almost constantly touching if we're nearby even if that's just my hand on her leg while driving or sat on the sofa "

I like to be touched up top too

But yes it's the every day touches that are the best.

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By *nna Wulf OP   Woman
over a year ago

Wandsworth


"In what order would you rank the love languages? (most to least important)

For me it's:

Touch - not necessarily sex although that is up there... but the more subtle touches. I'm really sensitive to touch and if I like you then just touching my hand can send round me the bend. Conversely if i don't know you or like you then the mention of an oily massage (boak) or hours of oral sex on me (dry boak) makes me shudder

Quality time - don't look at your phone when you're with me. I once went on holibobs with a 'lover' He was on facebook so much that I bought myself a ticket home. Grrrrrr.

Acts of service - help me out with stuff because you wanna.

Words of affirmation - touch and eye contact and tacit stuff are more important that actually words.. words can be skewed and misinterpreted.

Receiving gifts - genuinely don't give a fuck about receiving gifts (unless it's the gift of your time... or your touch) and I tend not to buy gifts for people either.

Would add into no 2 - eye contact when speaking and listening."

definitely

unless I fancy them too much and can barely look them in the eye without giggling like a school girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In what order would you rank the love languages? (most to least important)

For me it's:

Touch - not necessarily sex although that is up there... but the more subtle touches. I'm really sensitive to touch and if I like you then just touching my hand can send round me the bend. Conversely if i don't know you or like you then the mention of an oily massage (boak) or hours of oral sex on me (dry boak) makes me shudder

Quality time - don't look at your phone when you're with me. I once went on holibobs with a 'lover' He was on facebook so much that I bought myself a ticket home. Grrrrrr.

Acts of service - help me out with stuff because you wanna.

Words of affirmation - touch and eye contact and tacit stuff are more important that actually words.. words can be skewed and misinterpreted.

Receiving gifts - genuinely don't give a fuck about receiving gifts (unless it's the gift of your time... or your touch) and I tend not to buy gifts for people either.

Would add into no 2 - eye contact when speaking and listening.

definitely

unless I fancy them too much and can barely look them in the eye without giggling like a school girl "

Wow Anna you are deeeeeelicious!!

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Mine are different for feeling loved and expressing love.

For feeling loved it's: quality time, touch, words of affirmation, acts of service, recieving gifts.

For expressing love its: quality time, acts of service, touch, giving gifts, words of affirmation.

For me quality time is about prioritising time together and fully making the most of time together. When you're just generally contented together. I'm also quite a tactile person and crave the physical touch of my lovers. Sometimes though when you pick up on what the particular love language of someone is you really appreciate those expressions of love for you. My nesting partner is an ex chef and likes to express his love with food. I joke he's a feeder but it's sweet when he picks up things because I like them or cooks one of my favourite dinners if I've had a bad day.

I express love in a somewhat similar way but also by how I feel I'm making an effort for others. I guess the acts of service aspect ties into the submissive element of my personality. I want to make someone's life easier, especially if they're stressed or working lots. I also enjoy gift giving but not in the sense of just spending money. For birthdays and things I like to give really thoughtful presents. Also smaller things like having in their preferred drink when they come round. I'm definitely more of a doer than a sayer when it comes to expressing love. I try to be better with the words if someone needs them but I'm mostly not that great at it.

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By *nna Wulf OP   Woman
over a year ago

Wandsworth


"Mine are different for feeling loved and expressing love.

For feeling loved it's: quality time, touch, words of affirmation, acts of service, recieving gifts.

For expressing love its: quality time, acts of service, touch, giving gifts, words of affirmation.

For me quality time is about prioritising time together and fully making the most of time together. When you're just generally contented together. I'm also quite a tactile person and crave the physical touch of my lovers. Sometimes though when you pick up on what the particular love language of someone is you really appreciate those expressions of love for you. My nesting partner is an ex chef and likes to express his love with food. I joke he's a feeder but it's sweet when he picks up things because I like them or cooks one of my favourite dinners if I've had a bad day.

I express love in a somewhat similar way but also by how I feel I'm making an effort for others. I guess the acts of service aspect ties into the submissive element of my personality. I want to make someone's life easier, especially if they're stressed or working lots. I also enjoy gift giving but not in the sense of just spending money. For birthdays and things I like to give really thoughtful presents. Also smaller things like having in their preferred drink when they come round. I'm definitely more of a doer than a sayer when it comes to expressing love. I try to be better with the words if someone needs them but I'm mostly not that great at it. "

This is comprehensive - what makes you think you're not so great with words?

I think I'm going to swap my top two and say that quality time is number 1 and touch is number 2. I took a quiz which said this but figured touch gives me more butterflies.... but without quality time there can be no touch can there? so yeah....

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Mine are different for feeling loved and expressing love.

For feeling loved it's: quality time, touch, words of affirmation, acts of service, recieving gifts.

For expressing love its: quality time, acts of service, touch, giving gifts, words of affirmation.

For me quality time is about prioritising time together and fully making the most of time together. When you're just generally contented together. I'm also quite a tactile person and crave the physical touch of my lovers. Sometimes though when you pick up on what the particular love language of someone is you really appreciate those expressions of love for you. My nesting partner is an ex chef and likes to express his love with food. I joke he's a feeder but it's sweet when he picks up things because I like them or cooks one of my favourite dinners if I've had a bad day.

I express love in a somewhat similar way but also by how I feel I'm making an effort for others. I guess the acts of service aspect ties into the submissive element of my personality. I want to make someone's life easier, especially if they're stressed or working lots. I also enjoy gift giving but not in the sense of just spending money. For birthdays and things I like to give really thoughtful presents. Also smaller things like having in their preferred drink when they come round. I'm definitely more of a doer than a sayer when it comes to expressing love. I try to be better with the words if someone needs them but I'm mostly not that great at it.

This is comprehensive - what makes you think you're not so great with words?

I think I'm going to swap my top two and say that quality time is number 1 and touch is number 2. I took a quiz which said this but figured touch gives me more butterflies.... but without quality time there can be no touch can there? so yeah.... "

I didn't mean not good with words in general, just not good at expressing love through words .

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By *nna Wulf OP   Woman
over a year ago

Wandsworth

Ahhh fair enough

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