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Erectile disfunction...?

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By *mileTogether69 OP   Man
over a year ago

Brighton

Hey,

Obviously this condition is more widespread than most guys would like to admit.

Obviously if guy is unluckily enough to experience on first date/ meet its mortifying.

But for those in stable relationships ..... if this occurs in the in the heat of passion how do you deal with it.

Is play postponed immediately or do you get creative and work round it.

Cos the guy is probably still eager I expect .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Work around it.

There's far too much pressure on guys to perform, repeat, cum, not cum...

There's plenty of other stuff to do too.

I've had guys of different ages, builds, backgrounds that don't always 'perform smoothly' and it actually probably adds more in sexual variety than just continual cock action

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

The thing is it doesn't *have* to be mortifying regardless of the situation and relationship - if all concerned are adult about it and understanding and considerate, neither ED nor PE need to signal "Game Over".

Trouble is too many guys through embarrassment, shame, a false perception of how they're "supposed" to perform, and more run for the hills as soon as either situation arises (or doesn't!!).

I hold my hands up to having experienced both things from time to time, and know they're mostly in my head (and no end of someone saying "it doesn't matter" will help) but I also know that if they happen, they happen and there's not a great deal I can do about it, other than be adult, accept it has happened and find other ways to experience mutual pleasure - doesn't stop it playing on my mind of course, but helps me deal with it.

I'm also fairly open and honest about it upfront with potential partners and overwhelmingly they've been supportive and understanding.

The problem is when that understanding isn't there on either side - running for the hills from embarrassment doesn't help, but nor do those who deride guys when it happens to them.

It's the old pressure to perform thing too - both self-inflicted and because of the expectations (or perception of expectations) of others, and sites like Fab don't always help as they can build the perception that most men stand to attention on command and can go for hours - which simply isn't true.

The key of course is finding partners that are both compatible and understanding and minimising that pressure, both self-inflicted and perceived.

And the thing is, the overwhelming majority of guys will have experienced problems of this nature at some point - but won't admit it out of embarrassment, shame etc - perhaps if more of us were open about it it would help turn that around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pressure to perform, whether self imposed or external forces can be a bitch and you can feel mortified. I'm not ashamed to say I've had performance anxiety on occasion. Theres plenty of other stuff to do until/if you can get out of your own head. Let's face it any new situation you arent accustomed to can throw you out of sorts, and if someone were to judge me based on that. Fuck em. They're not people I would want to meet again anyway.

J

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally we just enjoy each other without sex and joined fab.

T

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I'd say work around it..no biggie.

There are plenty of ways to enjoy each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Pressure to perform, whether self imposed or external forces can be a bitch and you can feel mortified. I'm not ashamed to say I've had performance anxiety on occasion. Theres plenty of other stuff to do until/if you can get out of your own head. Let's face it any new situation you arent accustomed to can throw you out of sorts, and if someone were to judge me based on that. Fuck em. ***They're not people I would want to meet again anyway.***

J "

Especially ***

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 10/01/21 17:17:13]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is something I suffer with too. I’m on an anti-hypertensive medication that affects it and I get performance anxiety. Add to that and to confirm the old adage that things come in threes, I have a slight phobia to condoms due to putting it on wrong the first time I wore on, and spitting my banjo string. The subsequent effects of which have created difficulties for me since I was 19.

However, with an understanding partner, that can be overcome and if my cock decided it isn’t going to rise to the occasion in the way I would like we have always found alternative ways to give each other lots of pleasure. I hope one day the psychological side of this will stop affecting me, but if it doesn’t so be it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Work around it.

There's far too much pressure on guys to perform, repeat, cum, not cum...

There's plenty of other stuff to do too.

I've had guys of different ages, builds, backgrounds that don't always 'perform smoothly' and it actually probably adds more in sexual variety than just continual cock action "

While so agree and anyone who has met me, hasn’t met me because they think I am going to be great in the sack, they have met me because they like me and think they would enjoy getting more intimate with me. However that is not the predominant criteria for meeting on here, so there with always be those who are clear that they want a cock that is hard on demand and performs the way they have imagined it in their fantasies or have previously experienced it.

That nsaid I put myself under far more pressure than any partner ever has, and that sadly is the nub of the issue for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 10/01/21 18:02:39]"

Don’t even go there!!!!

I googled the injection method and fuck that no pun intended.

T

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I'd offer to go and put the kettle on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Removed by poster at 10/01/21 18:02:39]

Don’t even go there!!!!

I googled the injection method and fuck that no pun intended.

T"

Its only a little prick T

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"I'd say work around it..no biggie.

There are plenty of ways to enjoy each other "

Agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The thing is it doesn't *have* to be mortifying regardless of the situation and relationship - if all concerned are adult about it and understanding and considerate, neither ED nor PE need to signal "Game Over".

Trouble is too many guys through embarrassment, shame, a false perception of how they're "supposed" to perform, and more run for the hills as soon as either situation arises (or doesn't!!).

I hold my hands up to having experienced both things from time to time, and know they're mostly in my head (and no end of someone saying "it doesn't matter" will help) but I also know that if they happen, they happen and there's not a great deal I can do about it, other than be adult, accept it has happened and find other ways to experience mutual pleasure - doesn't stop it playing on my mind of course, but helps me deal with it.

I'm also fairly open and honest about it upfront with potential partners and overwhelmingly they've been supportive and understanding.

The problem is when that understanding isn't there on either side - running for the hills from embarrassment doesn't help, but nor do those who deride guys when it happens to them.

It's the old pressure to perform thing too - both self-inflicted and because of the expectations (or perception of expectations) of others, and sites like Fab don't always help as they can build the perception that most men stand to attention on command and can go for hours - which simply isn't true.

The key of course is finding partners that are both compatible and understanding and minimising that pressure, both self-inflicted and perceived.

And the thing is, the overwhelming majority of guys will have experienced problems of this nature at some point - but won't admit it out of embarrassment, shame etc - perhaps if more of us were open about it it would help turn that around."

I have has this a few times with jenny. Mainly due to me being turned on to much to quickly as she really knows what buttons to press to get me going quickly. But she is such a grounded and lovely person she makes me switch to doing oral in her which she knows gets me going again quickly just tasting her. If you have the right play partner/lover they should be understanding. For me its more pressure induced than ED itself. I sometimes get so turned on by her i want the whole cookie jar at once than one at a time so to speak. I have the most amazing partner, lover abd soulmate i could wish for in jenny. So to the guys who suffer you are not alone. I once watched a 21yr old guy at a 3fem gangbang who had a 10" cock who could not get hard due to nerves. All three women sucked hum off for ages but could not get hard. It is not just an age think pressure induced ED. it happens to all ages at some point due to pressure induced by ourselves to perform and sometimes by others who expect us to perform. I am so lucky to have an amazing and understanding partner in jenny. John

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