FabSwingers.com forum: Adoption

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I was adopted at a very young age and was told I was adopted as a child.

Family friends knew and while I was in senior school, I told my friends. I was bullied over this a lot.

From my teens, I always said i wanted to meet my biological mum and dad. My adoptive parents knew I did but it caused many issues with and I understood the reasons.

A few years ago I traced them and have met them both. Both had their sides of the story and I accept that

I get on better with my Dad than mum. I only ever wanted to let them know I was ok and had an average childhood etc. Mum wants a lot more than this and I am not interested.

Has anyone traced their biological parents and formed a close relationship with them?

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My sister has found her biological Mum, her biological Dad had, unfortunately, passed a few years earlier

Mum & Dad adopted her when she was less than a month old through a Catholic church charity

They were told that she was the result of an unwanted teenage pregnancy in a violent domestic situation

It turns out that when she was born, her Mum was 16 and her Dad 17. It was her maternal grandmother that had decided that she would be given up for adoption at birth.

Her biological Mum gave birth to her and then the baby was taken away without her being able to see her or hold her.

Sadly, despite being teenage lovers, her biological parents stayed together all their lives until her Dad passed.

She has a brother, born a few years later to the same parents

I am very happy for her, that she has that closure and feeling of 'belonging' and the missing pieces in her jigsaw

My Mum (her adopted Mum) was a nightmare about it though. It didn't go down well at all. She was completely selfish about it - to the degree I fell her out with her about it

Dad was as cool about it as he ever was, he's a lot more pragmatic than he is emotional

As a result of Mums reaction, it's not something we discuss as a family

I know she has contact with her 'other family' and tbh that's her business

She's still my sister

By *verready5000Man
over a year ago

mansfield

The last thing my biological “father” did for me was pull out. I seen him once when I was about 10 for a minute or so, mum pointed him out in the street.

Luckily I have a great mum and my stepdad (call him dad as he bought me up since I was four) is ok.

I wouldn’t know him if I ran him over lol