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Laziness guilt

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By *orthern Stars OP   Couple
over a year ago

Durham

I'm sat on my sofa with a coffee, posting on here and chatting, but I have so many other things I should be doing, housework, paperwork, etc etc.

I always and up feeling guilty for sitting even though in my head I know I work 6 days a week so I should be able to sit and relax a little.

Do you feel guilty over sitting relaxing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm sat on my sofa with a coffee, posting on here and chatting, but I have so many other things I should be doing, housework, paperwork, etc etc.

I always and up feeling guilty for sitting even though in my head I know I work 6 days a week so I should be able to sit and relax a little.

Do you feel guilty over sitting relaxing?"

Oh my god so much. I have to keep saying to myself; "rest is productive too". Instead I keep saying to myself; "you still haven't done x and y and z"

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Always struggled with the difference between relaxing and wasted time. Can't say I've found the solution but it's getting easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes! All the time. Although my friends like to remind me that relaxing is good for me and is just as productive (especially if I'm falling asleep standing up) I know it's hard but try not to feel guilty lovely, self care is important too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By *adbury girlWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

I try not to move around the house much before 11 as my sons are sleeping and I don’t need to rush anywhere as there is nowhere to go

I’m actually quite enjoying it but will be glad to go back to rushing around when I have places to go

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By *lipy123TV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

Guilty of the same thing but stuff it i am enjoying myself which is hard to do in these difficult times x

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

Definitely.......the saying tomorrow never comes keeps floating around in my head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be like this but I discovered the concept of not giving a fuck. There's dishes in the sink and housework that needs doing but I'll do it when I can be bothered. I work hard all week so I appreciate my down time so much more now!

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

No

If I don't relax then my body will crash and burn. I can't push it at 100 miles a hour in the week if I don't balance it out at the weekends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, but you have to be kind to yourself and give yourself a break to recharge, so you shouldn’t feel guilty especially at the moment.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I used to. When I first retired I had in the back of my mind constantly that I should be doing something "productive". I'd say it took me about 5 years to be comfortable and realise that it's ok to do things like read, sew, garden, listen to the radio or just nothing.

I had a conversation with a woman one day and heard myself saying that I'd had decades of getting up,going to work, coming home, loading the washing machine, putting dinner on, sorting school uniform etc etc etc and it reinforced in my mind that actually, yes, it is ok to relax and do something just for yourself.

Enjoy it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m the same. I’m not very good at relaxing. I’m actually thinking of going in the office and working as it’s quiet here. I really shouldn’t though.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Oh and stop calling it laziness. You work 6 days a week for goodness sake!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have nothing else to do. An expanse of time. It feels a waste.

Enjoy the busy.

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Yes, always.

I have to remind myself that it's healthy to just be.

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not guilty here got to have your relaxing time back in the lorry tomorrow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's more acute when you're working from home too. Even before all this I used to work from home often and I find that with work, uni and personal life all happening in the same surroundings I always have guilt that there's something else I could be doing, but you'd just go insane giving into that all the time. Down time is important too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say fuck it...there’s always more to be done...give yourself permission not to feel guilty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No guilt at all - you have to have downtime to yourself. Life is about balance, so if you're feeling guilty, you probably have a skewed work/life balance.

It's all about approach - training your brain to understand that downtime is me-time and that that's OK.

I tend not to do much in the way of things like housework at the weekends - a simple, but effective way to keep your time to yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No

If I don't relax then my body will crash and burn. I can't push it at 100 miles a hour in the week if I don't balance it out at the weekends "

This is me too

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