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By *shley01 OP   Man
over a year ago

london

Hi all, I’ve had a fab account for a little while now but I’m never on the site enough because I don’t know how to use it properly, when I say “use it properly” I don’t mean going around hooking up with everyone I simply mean just engaging with people and making friends.

I never really know what to say to people so I don’t basically, i like meeting and talking to people I can hold a conversation on any topics but when I do occasionally come on to fab it’s as if I get some sort of writers block.

So I was hoping that maybe some of you wonderful fabbers out there can maybe show me the ropes, perhaps give me some advice on things to say to get people to trust me.

I’ll be greatful for any advice that may come my way.

Thanks in advance and everyone please stay safe.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Just be yourself and treat it the same as you would in "real life" - talk to people as people and not sex objects or if you find messaging someone blind is not your thing, find other ways to interact with the site - forums and chat rooms are a good way to get known and get to know others, and can spark conversations on the side.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you want us to tell you how deceive people then?

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Be yourself.

Be respectful, polite, friendly, not pushy.

Good luck.

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By *shley01 OP   Man
over a year ago

london

That is the last thing I’d ever wanna do, deceiving people is not the way to be in my opinion, being honest and open is the way to be for sure. I just don’t seem to have the right ice breakers in me so I’m looking for any advice on how to be, how would you like someone to start a conversation with yourself? If I may ask, thanks for the reply, I do appreciate it.

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By *shley01 OP   Man
over a year ago

london

Thanks for the advice

This is my first time on any of the forums to be honest, how do you find them?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Be yourself.

There is no way to use Fab properly. You have to abide by the rules they set out, but how you interact and who you meet is all down to personal choice.

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By *shley01 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"So you want us to tell you how deceive people then? "

That is the last thing I’d ever wanna do, deceiving people is not the way to be in my opinion, being honest and open is the way to be for sure. I just don’t seem to have the right ice breakers in me so I’m looking for any advice on how to be, how would you like someone to start a conversation with yourself? If I may ask, thanks for the reply, I do appreciate it.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Just be you....I always find wit and charm work

P.s welcome to the forums x

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By *shley01 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Be yourself.

There is no way to use Fab properly. You have to abide by the rules they set out, but how you interact and who you meet is all down to personal choice.

"

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you want us to tell you how deceive people then? "

Is that what he asked? No wonder he's having trouble when there's people like you on the site jumping to them conclusions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you want us to tell you how deceive people then?

That is the last thing I’d ever wanna do, deceiving people is not the way to be in my opinion, being honest and open is the way to be for sure. I just don’t seem to have the right ice breakers in me so I’m looking for any advice on how to be, how would you like someone to start a conversation with yourself? If I may ask, thanks for the reply, I do appreciate it.

"

Be open and honest. No bullshit or sayimg what people want to hear. Just be you. Be natural, chatty, upbeat. Project yourself in a good way. If a lady says no thanks do not get stroppy or abusive as they get a lot of that on here. Just be a nice chap. Chat in the forums and make connections. Just be the real you. J&J

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By *shley01 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Just be you....I always find wit and charm work

P.s welcome to the forums x"

Right, gotcha, I’ll get working on some material right away ha. I feel excited to be on the forums, thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you want us to tell you how deceive people then?

Is that what he asked? No wonder he's having trouble when there's people like you on the site jumping to them conclusions."

To many are asking what to say or what to act like. How can you tell the real them when we are programming them to be not the real them?

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Just be you....I always find wit and charm work

P.s welcome to the forums x

Right, gotcha, I’ll get working on some material right away ha. I feel excited to be on the forums, thank you "

Just try not to take things to heart...sometimes the forums can be an unforgiving place x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just be you....I always find wit and charm work

P.s welcome to the forums x

Right, gotcha, I’ll get working on some material right away ha. I feel excited to be on the forums, thank you "

Welcome to the forum ashley. I am not being brutal but rather than being what we tell you to be id rather see the real you if that makes sense?

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By *shley01 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"So you want us to tell you how deceive people then?

That is the last thing I’d ever wanna do, deceiving people is not the way to be in my opinion, being honest and open is the way to be for sure. I just don’t seem to have the right ice breakers in me so I’m looking for any advice on how to be, how would you like someone to start a conversation with yourself? If I may ask, thanks for the reply, I do appreciate it.

Be open and honest. No bullshit or sayimg what people want to hear. Just be you. Be natural, chatty, upbeat. Project yourself in a good way. If a lady says no thanks do not get stroppy or abusive as they get a lot of that on here. Just be a nice chap. Chat in the forums and make connections. Just be the real you. J&J"

Well put, thank you!

This is exactly the feedback I was hoping to receive, will go a long way for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you want us to tell you how deceive people then?

Is that what he asked? No wonder he's having trouble when there's people like you on the site jumping to them conclusions.

To many are asking what to say or what to act like. How can you tell the real them when we are programming them to be not the real them? "

You sound like a nice person.

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By *shley01 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Just be you....I always find wit and charm work

P.s welcome to the forums x

Right, gotcha, I’ll get working on some material right away ha. I feel excited to be on the forums, thank you

Welcome to the forum ashley. I am not being brutal but rather than being what we tell you to be id rather see the real you if that makes sense? "

I understand where you’re coming from, I’m always myself every second of everyday, sometimes we all have bad days but I never change the person I am. I’m honest, considerate of others and always respectful, I don’t know how to be any other way I just really want people to see that. I feel good after these lovely messages thank you again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you want us to tell you how deceive people then?

Is that what he asked? No wonder he's having trouble when there's people like you on the site jumping to them conclusions.

To many are asking what to say or what to act like. How can you tell the real them when we are programming them to be not the real them?

You sound like a nice person."

I am. Just its better for us all on here to see the real them and not the fake persona just to get them a shag. This guy sounds a lovely and genuine guy accually!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just be you....I always find wit and charm work

P.s welcome to the forums x

Right, gotcha, I’ll get working on some material right away ha. I feel excited to be on the forums, thank you

Welcome to the forum ashley. I am not being brutal but rather than being what we tell you to be id rather see the real you if that makes sense?

I understand where you’re coming from, I’m always myself every second of everyday, sometimes we all have bad days but I never change the person I am. I’m honest, considerate of others and always respectful, I don’t know how to be any other way I just really want people to see that. I feel good after these lovely messages thank you again "

And that's the you we want to see. Well done.

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By *shley01 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Just be you....I always find wit and charm work

P.s welcome to the forums x

Right, gotcha, I’ll get working on some material right away ha. I feel excited to be on the forums, thank you

Just try not to take things to heart...sometimes the forums can be an unforgiving place x"

I will try not to! Wish me luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be yourself. Show you've read a profile by referencing it in your message. Don't be pushy, if you don't get a reply, move on.

You'll get there.

Welcome to the forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you want us to tell you how deceive people then?

Is that what he asked? No wonder he's having trouble when there's people like you on the site jumping to them conclusions.

To many are asking what to say or what to act like. How can you tell the real them when we are programming them to be not the real them? "

I agree.

Welcome to the forum OP. Maybe join in chatting on forum threads, people seem to make friends that way. Look out for social events when they are allowed again.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP you have had great advice from all above me.

Welcome to the forums... enjoy

Her x

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

No advice, but welcome to the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find the forums fun. I used to be in the chatrooms a lot too, but only in the daytime. That's when people chat. In the evening they just badger whoever is on cam and no one really chats much.

Oh and with the forums, I'd watch for a while lol. People can pile in on someone for saying something offensive, which they may not have realised was offensive lol. But on the most part it's a great group of people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello, just be you. The forums are a good way to get to know people

Welcome and enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be you, don't bust your ass trying to be something someone else wants you to be and have a sense of humour. Happy fabbing

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By *shley01 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Be yourself. Show you've read a profile by referencing it in your message. Don't be pushy, if you don't get a reply, move on.

You'll get there.

Welcome to the forum "

Thank you for your sound advice, I will take all of it on board, You’re a star. X

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By *shley01 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Be you, don't bust your ass trying to be something someone else wants you to be and have a sense of humour. Happy fabbing "

I’m currently working on some new jokes to tell lol, after all laugher is good for the soul isn’t it, thanks for the advice, all these positive vibes are really making me feel good.

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

My advice would be to read profiles of the people who catch your attention before messaging.

And don't copy and paste!

Make it personal to them.

Good luck op. And welcome to the forums.

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By *shley01 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Hello, just be you. The forums are a good way to get to know people

Welcome and enjoy"

Gotcha! Ima keep it real as always, thank you x

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By *shley01 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"My advice would be to read profiles of the people who catch your attention before messaging.

And don't copy and paste!

Make it personal to them.

Good luck op. And welcome to the forums. "

Wise words, thanks x ??

And thanks for the welcome, it’s safe to say I am feeling very welcome at this point ??

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By *shley01 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"No advice, but welcome to the forums

"

I appreciate the welcome, thanking you.

If you do think of anything that may be of good advice please do let me know. X ??

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By *shley01 OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"OP you have had great advice from all above me.

Welcome to the forums... enjoy

Her x"

Wish me luck. Hehe. X

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