FabSwingers.com forum: Done with it all

By *entish_Heathen OP Man
over a year ago

Chatham

It's been such a struggle. Mental health has taken a kicking but I keep trying to reach out and connect with people. It's just not happening for me. So lost and lonely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hang in there (not literally!!!) it does get easier I’m in recovery from a relapse of my BPD but help is out there you’ve reached out even if it’s on a swingers site that’s the main thing. Talk about how you feel or put your effort into something creative that really helps me. Be kind to yourself. It’s an awful time for all of us at the moment let alone us with mental health on top. Remember you aren’t alone. Take care OP xx

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Its shit I know mate .

Plenty of nice folk here to chat to here , I'm sure many of us are feeling it .

Talking helps

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

It's a tough time for many people, but just hang on in there. Everyone is the object of someone's desire, even if they don't know it.

Also, better times are coming AND there is always something great to see.

Give this a watch, it's only a minute, but it's really funny: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o3-SW7B8A-Y

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By *r Costa xxMan
over a year ago

stirling

Try jumping on the chat rooms, plenty folk talking in there, good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry you are feeling this way.

But trying to make contacts via messages is a lost cause right now because of Covid and all.

However, the forum has a great community and it's easy to make friends and connections in here.

I'm Cindi

Pleased to meet you

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm sorry you're struggling.

Take it moment by moment if you have to. This will end eventually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't stress buddy, many of us feel the same.

He who has a why can bear almost any how...

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

That's not a great way to feel. I don't suppose it helps but from what I see there are lots of people feeling the same.

Welcome to the forum...this is a great place to get involved and eventually even make friends.

I hope you feel better about things soon x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's really tough mate I know. Bad enough in the best of Januarys and this is far from the best.

This isn't always the best place to make you feel better, but there are some lovely people to chat to if you hang in here and get used to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry you're struggling. I've been where you are and it does pass.

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By *entish_Heathen OP Man
over a year ago

Chatham

Thank you for your responses. I used to go in chat often, but found it a bit cliquey. I have reached out on the forums before and most people were amazing and I was very humbled.

Perhaps you are right about trying to reach out with messages, I've just been trying to put things in place to cope, but nothing seems to be working.

I've been living in a new area for over a year, thanks to lockdowns, making friends has been maddeningly difficult.

I'm sorry, I shouldn't have posted, I know there are others a lot worse off than me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's been such a struggle. Mental health has taken a kicking but I keep trying to reach out and connect with people. It's just not happening for me. So lost and lonely."

It just happened. All above connected with your words. I know its not what you meant. But it is something to cherish too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of people are feeling pretty similar right now, knowing you aren't alone can help somewhat with how you are feeling. Please know that although it doesn't feel like it things will get better. Keep reaching out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you for your responses. I used to go in chat often, but found it a bit cliquey. I have reached out on the forums before and most people were amazing and I was very humbled.

Perhaps you are right about trying to reach out with messages, I've just been trying to put things in place to cope, but nothing seems to be working.

I've been living in a new area for over a year, thanks to lockdowns, making friends has been maddeningly difficult.

I'm sorry, I shouldn't have posted, I know there are others a lot worse off than me"

Of course you should have posted. No need for comparing who has it worse..

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

"Thank you for your responses. I used to go in chat often, but found it a bit cliquey. I have reached out on the forums before and most people were amazing and I was very humbled.

Perhaps you are right about trying to reach out with messages, I've just been trying to put things in place to cope, but nothing seems to be working.

I've been living in a new area for over a year, thanks to lockdowns, making friends has been maddeningly difficult.

I'm sorry, I shouldn't have posted, I know there are others a lot worse off than me"

I'm glad you've posted. It's far better you did than you didn't. Plus watch that link I sent, it's really funny and will put a smile on your face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you for your responses. I used to go in chat often, but found it a bit cliquey. I have reached out on the forums before and most people were amazing and I was very humbled.

Perhaps you are right about trying to reach out with messages, I've just been trying to put things in place to cope, but nothing seems to be working.

I've been living in a new area for over a year, thanks to lockdowns, making friends has been maddeningly difficult.

I'm sorry, I shouldn't have posted, I know there are others a lot worse off than me"

Hey we might all be in the same storm but we’re not all in the same boat don’t worry about it. The worse thing you can do is compare. Only you know your story. Just keep talking and keep being open. Trust me there’s light at the end of the tunnel I’m living proof. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you for your responses. I used to go in chat often, but found it a bit cliquey. I have reached out on the forums before and most people were amazing and I was very humbled.

Perhaps you are right about trying to reach out with messages, I've just been trying to put things in place to cope, but nothing seems to be working.

I've been living in a new area for over a year, thanks to lockdowns, making friends has been maddeningly difficult.

I'm sorry, I shouldn't have posted, I know there are others a lot worse off than me"

You're way better off posting than messaging. There are always worse off people than you, but that doesn't negate your feelings.

Stick in there buddy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP you shared your thoughts and feelings, there's nothing wrong with that

Don't feel bad about it.

Just because there is someone worse off than ourselves, it does not mean our issues don't matter

But I recommend being silly and daft in the forum, it helps keep you happy when you post stupid comments and jokes and you make friends along the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP you shared your thoughts and feelings, there's nothing wrong with that

Don't feel bad about it.

Just because there is someone worse off than ourselves, it does not mean our issues don't matter

But I recommend being silly and daft in the forum, it helps keep you happy when you post stupid comments and jokes and you make friends along the way.

This OP, this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dig in OP

Plenty of people care and will listen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m sure a lot of people on here have felt similar emotions at times in their lives and you are absolutely not alone in spirit. Fab can be a rather brutal place for single men but I’ve seen a lot of very supportive and genuine people on the forums. Please continue to post whatever is on your mind - in current circumstances all positive contact must be a good thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take this thread as an example OP.

Look how many replies you have from us already.

Us forum folk might be a crazy bunch, but we are there for eachother

Is it better to send 20 messages with no reply, or have a laugh and make friends here

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By *entish_Heathen OP Man
over a year ago

Chatham

"Take this thread as an example OP.

Look how many replies you have from us already.

Us forum folk might be a crazy bunch, but we are there for eachother

Is it better to send 20 messages with no reply, or have a laugh and make friends here

Thank you, each and every one of you. That's all I can say at the moment x

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

Oh, OP. Never apologise for posting how you feel.

Just as the guys above say, chat & have fun in the forums. And if you're not sleeping, head to the Late Night Nocturnal thread - that's a very friendly group on there and you'll be more than welcome xx

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By *entish_Heathen OP Man
over a year ago

Chatham

"Oh, OP. Never apologise for posting how you feel.

I have popped in on occasion, I know Jim from there. I should come in more often x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh, OP. Never apologise for posting how you feel.

Red I think we need to bring the hot tub back tomorrow

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Never apologise. Reaching out helps. And those of us who are reply are giving of our own free will.

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman
over a year ago

lancashire

"It's been such a struggle. Mental health has taken a kicking but I keep trying to reach out and connect with people. It's just not happening for me. So lost and lonely."

Hey...a lot of people are struggling at the moment with Mental Health...myself included...since all this covid shite I'm more using fab as a social chat site...with the odd filthy phone call had

Hang on in there matey, have you tried any other help? Don't give up...when you feel down log on and say Hi...to me or any one...loads of people on here will want to help you feel so much better....Big Hugs to you..x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"with the odd filthy phone call had

Can I have your number please

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By *entish_Heathen OP Man
over a year ago

Chatham

"It's been such a struggle. Mental health has taken a kicking but I keep trying to reach out and connect with people. It's just not happening for me. So lost and lonely.

Hey...a lot of people are struggling at the moment with Mental Health...myself included...since all this covid shite I'm more using fab as a social chat site...with the odd filthy phone call had

I joined a talking therapy type group and they have been a really good bunch, despite having problems of their own. I have been to the Drs, but I think I need to call back. Thank you x

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman
over a year ago

lancashire

"It's been such a struggle. Mental health has taken a kicking but I keep trying to reach out and connect with people. It's just not happening for me. So lost and lonely.

Hey...a lot of people are struggling at the moment with Mental Health...myself included...since all this covid shite I'm more using fab as a social chat site...with the odd filthy phone call had

I joined a talking therapy type group and they have been a really good bunch, despite having problems of their own. I have been to the Drs, but I think I need to call back. Thank you x"

Have you got some antidepressants to take?...they do help!! you should feel proud that you have reached out and said how you are feeling..good for you

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By *entish_Heathen OP Man
over a year ago

Chatham

"It's been such a struggle. Mental health has taken a kicking but I keep trying to reach out and connect with people. It's just not happening for me. So lost and lonely.

Hey...a lot of people are struggling at the moment with Mental Health...myself included...since all this covid shite I'm more using fab as a social chat site...with the odd filthy phone call had

I joined a talking therapy type group and they have been a really good bunch, despite having problems of their own. I have been to the Drs, but I think I need to call back. Thank you x

Have you got some antidepressants to take?...they do help!! you should feel proud that you have reached out and said how you are feeling..good for you

Yes I do, have upped my dosage, I'm not sure if they're working, but I'm still taking them x

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman
over a year ago

lancashire

"with the odd filthy phone call had

Can I have your number please

Well hello Cindi...I cannot message you privately cos' of your filters...love a filthy chat...so get in touch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re doing the right thing here op and here’s hoping things get easier for you as each day turns!!!!

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman
over a year ago

lancashire

"It's been such a struggle. Mental health has taken a kicking but I keep trying to reach out and connect with people. It's just not happening for me. So lost and lonely.

Hey...a lot of people are struggling at the moment with Mental Health...myself included...since all this covid shite I'm more using fab as a social chat site...with the odd filthy phone call had

I joined a talking therapy type group and they have been a really good bunch, despite having problems of their own. I have been to the Drs, but I think I need to call back. Thank you x

Have you got some antidepressants to take?...they do help!! you should feel proud that you have reached out and said how you are feeling..good for you

Yes I do, have upped my dosage, I'm not sure if they're working, but I'm still taking them x"

Well keep taking them but you must call your Doctor as they may not be working...even if they did seem to be at one point..x

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By *entish_Heathen OP Man
over a year ago

Chatham

"with the odd filthy phone call had

Can I have your number please

Well hello Cindi...I cannot message you privately cos' of your filters...love a filthy chat...so get in touch

I can't contact you either. Thank you for your kind words x

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By *entish_Heathen OP Man
over a year ago

Chatham

In fact, if anyone here wants to get in touch, I will be most grateful for your time x

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By *ilfCrumpet9Man
over a year ago

Wirral

"In fact, if anyone here wants to get in touch, I will be most grateful for your time x"

Feel free to contact me mate not a problem I am suffering in a similar way. Maybe help talking to someone who is actually going through the same thing. I am sure most nice folks on here including me won't mind you con them or me

Take good care mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We bother suffer from a spectrum of mental health issues/disorders. January isnt a good month for anyone. I know it's just a swingers site, but you'd be surprised how many people here are struggling also. It's good even to reach out on here. Stay strong theres people that will chat so you aren't alone.

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By *entish_Heathen OP Man
over a year ago

Chatham

"We bother suffer from a spectrum of mental health issues/disorders. January isnt a good month for anyone. I know it's just a swingers site, but you'd be surprised how many people here are struggling also. It's good even to reach out on here. Stay strong theres people that will chat so you aren't alone.

Thank you

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By *rive u crazyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

The first week of work has been a long nightmare for most of us. Add that we're a bunch of pervs so mental health doesn't live here at all. Jokes aside, sending messages can be very depressing: even if it's plenty of genuine people, it's hard to get an answer no matter how polite you are. But the forums are good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The first week of work has been a long nightmare for most of us. Add that we're a bunch of pervs so mental health doesn't live here at all. Jokes aside, sending messages can be very depressing: even if it's plenty of genuine people, it's hard to get an answer no matter how polite you are. But the forums are good"

There are perves here

Why was I not informed of this?

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By *rive u crazyMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

There are perves here

Why was I not informed of this?

Oh fuck. Was it a secret

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