FabSwingers.com forum: How are people supposed to date?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

With the way things are now, how are people supposed to find love during a pandemic?

I’m not asking for meets off here or suggesting people meet. I’m talking real world situations. Like how are people supposed to meet people organically and date to find a proper relationship?

Last year was a write off, this year is looking to be the same. I’m gonna 40 in a couple of years, my chance to have another child is running out.

I’m fucking bored of being single.

Like what’s the solution? Fuck all the single people, it’s just tough that they’re on their own. That’s how it seems.

Discuss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s virtually impossible to meet someone away from online dating at the moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has anybody done a 'virtual date'?

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman
over a year ago

lancashire

"With the way things are now, how are people supposed to find love during a pandemic?

I’m not asking for meets off here or suggesting people meet. I’m talking real world situations. Like how are people supposed to meet people organically and date to find a proper relationship?

Last year was a write off, this year is looking to be the same. I’m gonna 40 in a couple of years, my chance to have another child is running out.

I’m fucking bored of being single.

Like what’s the solution? Fuck all the single people, it’s just tough that they’re on their own. That’s how it seems.

Discuss. "

Maybe check out Dating sites...get chatting to some guy then when it's ok to meet all the ground work has been done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have friends who go for lots of 'socially distanced walks' for dates. Progress is slow, but they are dating after a fashion.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I am tempted to go on tinder but even then you can’t meet the person. Can’t go out on a date. Can’t meet someone in the gym or a club or bar or a fitness class or out and about.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Yes i agree it seems impossible and an awful situation to be in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every male I come across at work is being assessed as a potential mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Every male I come across at work is being assessed as a potential mate

It’s how I ended up shagging my window cleaner last July!

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"I am tempted to go on tinder but even then you can’t meet the person. Can’t go out on a date. Can’t meet someone in the gym or a club or bar or a fitness class or out and about. "

If they’re close enough you can meet one person for a socially distanced walk or jog.

But you’re right, it’s incredibly difficult

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

At the moment it's virtually impossible. All you can do is chat and hope to connect with someone.

Old fashionedd non app based dating can't really kick in until we're back in tier 2.

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By *elshguy999Man
over a year ago

Caerphilly

Just separated, and I can't see a way of meeting again any time soon. Groundwork on internet dating I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every male I come across at work is being assessed as a potential mate

It’s how I ended up shagging my window cleaner last July! "

I may need to re employ one

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By *eoeclipseWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

"I have friends who go for lots of 'socially distanced walks' for dates. Progress is slow, but they are dating after a fashion."

That's the way it used to be :b

Can also just pick up the gumption to approach someone in a park or what not & give them a contact detail

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s extremely difficult.

The only way is socially distanced walks I guess.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can’t meet people online. I end up dismissing people based on their looks. It’s shit. I like to see people in the flesh and get a feel of their personality. Can’t really do that online.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every male I come across at work is being assessed as a potential mate

.....and the link to your company’s vacancies page is.......?

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"Can’t meet people online. I end up dismissing people based on their looks. It’s shit. I like to see people in the flesh and get a feel of their personality. Can’t really do that online. "

Some apps allow people to write a longer profile about themselves so you can get more of a feel for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Online is crap and most of the guys on the dating sites are also on fab.

Not sure what options are left, I'm 46 and I will admit id like to date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every male I come across at work is being assessed as a potential mate

.....and the link to your company’s vacancies page is.......?

Never mind that we can skip straight to the interview stage in the broom cupboard

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

"Can’t meet people online. I end up dismissing people based on their looks. It’s shit. I like to see people in the flesh and get a feel of their personality. Can’t really do that online.

Some apps allow people to write a longer profile about themselves so you can get more of a feel for them"
can u ever get a feel for someone on what they write on a profile, doesn't commication work better

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"Can’t meet people online. I end up dismissing people based on their looks. It’s shit. I like to see people in the flesh and get a feel of their personality. Can’t really do that online.

Some apps allow people to write a longer profile about themselves so you can get more of a feel for them can u ever get a feel for someone on what they write on a profile, doesn't commication work better

It’s a good start, and the apps let you message too.

No guarantees of course, the last ones that I went on looked good right up to the time we met

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am tempted to go on tinder but even then you can’t meet the person. Can’t go out on a date. Can’t meet someone in the gym or a club or bar or a fitness class or out and about. "

I met someone from the states in feb last year, online. Lockdown kept us apart but actually taking all the physical out, by zooming and stuff we got to know each better than We normally would’ve. We met in October and she is now back over there. We will get together properly as soon as allowed, but my point is it can be done and it helps you get to know the person properly because all you can do is talk.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

My single mate had an awful amount of socially distanced picnic dates in Richmond Park last summer before he formed a bubble with someone he liked.

Think he used bumble.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Online is crap and most of the guys on the dating sites are also on fab.

Not sure what options are left, I'm 46 and I will admit id like to date. "

I’ve recognised lots of Fabbers on dating apps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's making us go back to the old way of getting to know someone and date without touching.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

We don't envy anyone who is single and wishing to date. This who shit show is just, well, shit! And for people living alone or without a significant other for support, it must be very difficult.

Let's just hope we can get back to some normality this year.

Far too many people are suffering in one form or another, incl loneliness.

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I’ve been extraordinarily lucky. Both virtually and otherwise. Bit harder with total lockdown at the moment but I’m very patient and grateful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could be wrong but before the full lock down and even under tier 4, I assumed the rules allowed for meeting one person from outside your household outdoors while keeping social distance...

That could allow for dating scenarios. Or arrange to go shopping in the same grocery store.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst of course it is difficult, i honestly think it also presents an opportunity (for online anyway). It's no secret women get inundated with warped messages. It gives the chance to build up a bit of trust and respect and just to chat/message wothout the pressure of asking to meet etc. When the time comes and things are lifted then hopefully 2 people chatting have a strong (or as strong as can be) connection already!

Hope that makes sense, just my opinion anyway

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"Whilst of course it is difficult, i honestly think it also presents an opportunity (for online anyway). It's no secret women get inundated with warped messages. It gives the chance to build up a bit of trust and respect and just to chat/message wothout the pressure of asking to meet etc. When the time comes and things are lifted then hopefully 2 people chatting have a strong (or as strong as can be) connection already!

Hope that makes sense, just my opinion anyway"

Sounds total sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every male I come across at work is being assessed as a potential mate

It’s how I ended up shagging my window cleaner last July! "

Do you need your windows cleaned?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was thinking about this earlier today.

I've looked on dating sites previously and just not finding anyone who ticks enough boxes for me.

Ive looked on here and its the mostly the same males within 20 mile radius.

With social venues closed, its making it harder and I cant really see me actually finding anyone I would want to start a relationship with.

I'm happy to make online friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can’t meet people online. I end up dismissing people based on their looks. It’s shit. I like to see people in the flesh and get a feel of their personality. Can’t really do that online. "

You could use Zoom or other face to face mediums - you can get a good idea of a person if you have regular long chats, not just sexy ones. You can eat meals together online as well. If you are both single and live alone you could form a support bubble.

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By *mTheMrJMan
over a year ago

Barry

"With the way things are now, how are people supposed to find love during a pandemic?

I’m not asking for meets off here or suggesting people meet. I’m talking real world situations. Like how are people supposed to meet people organically and date to find a proper relationship?

Last year was a write off, this year is looking to be the same. I’m gonna 40 in a couple of years, my chance to have another child is running out.

I’m fucking bored of being single.

Like what’s the solution? Fuck all the single people, it’s just tough that they’re on their own. That’s how it seems.

Discuss. "

I'm totally feeling this.

Even online dating can be difficult as there's little room for progression, you don't get a real feel for a connection or chemistry without meeting in person.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Most people had a fit on here when someone suggested chatting someone up in real life. Meeting seems to be online only for most.

So maybe dating can be online only too now. Whack on zoom and have a date.

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By *enuine MikeMan
over a year ago

Guildford

I dont know what the answer is but pandemic or no pandemic, it makes no difference to me.

It doesn't matter what dating site i try, it seems like my profile simply doesn't exist.

I Haven't had a date or GF in years.

Whats sort of humbling in a cruel but perverse way is that I feel some sort of gratitude when I hear stories from other peoples misery. Glad its not just me then

Just being honest and telling you all how I feel

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

While it's not exactly the same, and the situation is limited you can totally get a feel for personality through messages, phone calls and video calls.

It is all about how much you actually want to do it.

Getting to know people through chat, once narrowed down to the genuine (not easy granted) it is no different than doing so in person. It is only your own mind not allowing you to do it that way.

The tools are all there, enough dating apps and websites, plenty of people have been able to do it to great sucess. The only thing holding you back from making a go of it is yourself.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

You can connect with them exchange numbers and as the rules state can meet at a distance one person outside the bubble but I'm not suggesting meeting whilst covid19 is still around but are options video or calling if you ever get to the point had few dates I was supposed to meeting at beginning of last year that never happened and with different rules between England and Scotland didn't help but that's life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s virtually impossible to meet someone away from online dating at the moment."

Volunteer to be working at a vaccination centre. You'll meet loads of folk over the next wee while.

Although you might want to wait a bit for now, unless 80+ is your bag.

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By *nna WulfWoman
over a year ago

Wandsworth

Back to good old fashioned wooing and courting innit.

I think good relationships are about communication... and that's all we can do at the moment so win win.

No?

Also - try twitter... for love I mean.

Good luck!

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

Its called bubble up.

Meet at a distance from each other, If you seem to get on a few times.

Then bubble up as a fwb or as a couple.

There is risks but if you both are singles and are within your own bubbles, Therefore you should be able to meet.

there is gains on both sides if either of you catch it, Then you share the responsabilitys between each other.

Im one of these that would shop while the other fwb was poorly and take care of them.

I would hope the other fwb would also do the same for me.

As we both wouldnt be able to go out anyway.

If you do go fwb or couple up and get droped then really you should not go near anyone for 2 weeks.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"With the way things are now, how are people supposed to find love during a pandemic?

I’m not asking for meets off here or suggesting people meet. I’m talking real world situations. Like how are people supposed to meet people organically and date to find a proper relationship?

Last year was a write off, this year is looking to be the same. I’m gonna 40 in a couple of years, my chance to have another child is running out.

I’m fucking bored of being single.

Like what’s the solution? Fuck all the single people, it’s just tough that they’re on their own. That’s how it seems.

Discuss.

I'm totally feeling this.

Even online dating can be difficult as there's little room for progression, you don't get a real feel for a connection or chemistry without meeting in person.

I disagree with the connection and chemistry because the options available of messages and calls count for everything as it's how in-depth the conversations are between the two is it what each other is wanting because regardless of the pandemic people have hectic lives but still would have to plan to arrange something between busy lives work children and so on and not everyone wants to rush into anything and would prefer to get too know each other more can be a cruel world at times because not everyone acts as serious but more like a quick shag

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

How about joining an online group for a subject you're interested in. That way if you connect with someone it's for who they are rather than someone who you know wants underwear access.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm currently doing the whole vanilla online dating thing and quite frankly it's clinical as fuck.

How do i but on a profile "wanted love of my life but must enjoy fucking other guys" *

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By *tudiousPipWoman
over a year ago

W Yorks

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Last year before all this kicked off, my newly single friend and I said no more meeting people online, we’ll stop going to raves (cos you can’t meet guys in a rave) and we would look for guys in the real world.

I’ve done the whole online thing for years and you’re just disposable. I wanted to meet a guy that didn’t use online dating or wasn’t into all the social media stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont know what the answer is but pandemic or no pandemic, it makes no difference to me.

It doesn't matter what dating site i try, it seems like my profile simply doesn't exist.

I Haven't had a date or GF in years.

Whats sort of humbling in a cruel but perverse way is that I feel some sort of gratitude when I hear stories from other peoples misery. Glad its not just me then

Just being honest and telling you all how I feel

I think a lot of people feel the same, they just won't admit it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree, people can act differently in the written word, or even speaking on the phone. Nothing can beat actually looking at someone in the eyes as you talk to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This time last year, I joined a big dating site.

Only met one person from it in the 6 months I was on there. We dated for a couple of months and realised we were better as friends. We're best mates now and that's better than anything I could have imagined.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

As a jolly singleton I’m afraid to say that Covid has been a boon as it has stopped “friends” arranging hideous blind dates for me so win there!

Having said that, perhaps in this hiatus it gives us all time to consider what we are looking for in life, and what kind of person (if any) would be complimentary to our dreams. In a way, slowing the pace of dating because of Covid may stop people rushing into things that they later regret. Perhaps moving relationship building from the rushed, intense experience that modern technology has promoted will turn out to be a good thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a jolly singleton I’m afraid to say that Covid has been a boon as it has stopped “friends” arranging hideous blind dates for me so win there!

***Perhaps moving relationship building from the rushed, intense experience that modern technology has promoted will turn out to be a good thing? ***"

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Hopefully this will happen. Rather than scrolling through disposable meat profiles, people will have to 'court' again and treat people like actual living breathing human beings.

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By *enuine MikeMan
over a year ago

Guildford

"I dont know what the answer is but pandemic or no pandemic, it makes no difference to me.

It doesn't matter what dating site i try, it seems like my profile simply doesn't exist.

I Haven't had a date or GF in years.

Whats sort of humbling in a cruel but perverse way is that I feel some sort of gratitude when I hear stories from other peoples misery. Glad its not just me then

Just being honest and telling you all how I feel

I think a lot of people feel the same, they just won't admit it. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a jolly singleton I’m afraid to say that Covid has been a boon as it has stopped “friends” arranging hideous blind dates for me so win there!

***Perhaps moving relationship building from the rushed, intense experience that modern technology has promoted will turn out to be a good thing? ***

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Hopefully this will happen. Rather than scrolling through disposable meat profiles, people will have to 'court' again and treat people like actual living breathing human beings. "

Meat profiles

I favour the slow burn approach too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Things aren't going to be like this forever.

It's temporary.

Dating apps will be a nightmare though - imagine how horny everyone will be

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By *racy_JacksWoman
over a year ago

Derby

I think that you would have to be very motivated to bother with online dating at the moment, seems like it’d be an uphill struggle

Avoid having ongoing text chats with anyone for too long, after a certain point that is detrimental as you start to build up an idea of the other person which likely isn’t accurate. Video calls are good but still don’t let you assess as much as meeting in person does. Tinder has a video call facility now

You can meet people outside for walks, of course, but basically limited to those in a few mile radius under lockdown. I went for a walk with someone a couple of weeks ago just for something to do. He was weird, which I was expecting, but it was great just chatting in person with someone new

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Last year before all this kicked off, my newly single friend and I said no more meeting people online, we’ll stop going to raves (cos you can’t meet guys in a rave) and we would look for guys in the real world.

I’ve done the whole online thing for years and you’re just disposable. I wanted to meet a guy that didn’t use online dating or wasn’t into all the social media stuff. "

I'm very much not interested in meeting anyone online ... it's in life for me or nowt!

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

Full Body condom ...!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the idea of genteel walks round a park. You could have a covid chaperone that poked you with a stick if you got too close to one another.

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

"I like the idea of genteel walks round a park. You could have a covid chaperone that poked you with a stick if you got too close to one another. "

That would be a group of 3 definitely a COVID fine chance me thinks

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’m just not looking at the moment. I lack the motivation to even muster small talk on here never mind trying to woo someone over with my wit and chat.

I just cannae be arsed with it. It seems so utterly pointless right now.

I’ve made peace with the fact I’ll probably die alone surrounded by 5000 cats as I wear musty shawls and eat cold baked beans from a tin.

Sorry. Not very motivational today.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like the idea of genteel walks round a park. You could have a covid chaperone that poked you with a stick if you got too close to one another.

That would be a group of 3 definitely a COVID fine chance me thinks

True yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Things aren't going to be like this forever.

It's temporary.

Dating apps will be a nightmare though - imagine how horny everyone will be

This ^^. People are behaving weirdly atm, and I’m sure it’s because they are so horny it’s addling their brains.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like the idea of genteel walks round a park. You could have a covid chaperone that poked you with a stick if you got too close to one another. "

died a little.. Very retro idea. Better - giant 2m ruler.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I know! Crazy! My age I wonder if it will ever happen again or destined to a lonely life! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I could do it if I wanted to date. I’m making new friends at the moment and feel in a good place. I’m just using other channels than I would if I could meet others physically.

However I understand how many people are really struggling right now and there but for grace go I.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I dont know what the answer is but pandemic or no pandemic, it makes no difference to me.

It doesn't matter what dating site i try, it seems like my profile simply doesn't exist.

I Haven't had a date or GF in years.

Whats sort of humbling in a cruel but perverse way is that I feel some sort of gratitude when I hear stories from other peoples misery. Glad its not just me then

Just being honest and telling you all how I feel

I think a lot of people feel the same, they just won't admit it.

This is true for me as well. The pandemic has made zero difference to my online dating experience.

Five years on Tinder: Zero meets.

Five years on OkCupid: Two meets. One ghosted, one deceased. Nothing since 2017.

I won't lie: It hurts to read all these stories of guys getting date after date. I find the loathsome "you get out what you put in" canard particularly galling.

307 days and counting since I last touched another human being.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know someone who's going on a date with a professional rugby player it'll be their first just a SD walk but I think it's all they can do for now so it is possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only way I seem to attract men is on Fab and for nothing more than sex... I get nothing on dating sites. Currently, I've been in more lockdowns than relationships.

It's difficult talking to any rare potentials because you just don't know when you can meet. I can't bubble with anyone and being an only parent, I won't risk meeting anyone until it really is safe to do so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s definitely a lonely time for single people at the moment and I’m no exception.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like the idea of genteel walks round a park. You could have a covid chaperone that poked you with a stick if you got too close to one another.

died a little.. Very retro idea. Better - giant 2m ruler. "

And top hats for all

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By *osebud6688Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

I’ve done the whole online thing for years and you’re just disposable. I wanted to meet a guy that didn’t use online dating or wasn’t into all the social media stuff. "

I’m similar, I only really wanted to date somebody who I crossed paths with in real life. Dating has been an utter write off for almost a year now and I have just given up.

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By *olkadotPrincessWoman
over a year ago

Hednesford

I met someone through Tinder, had a few socially distanced dates before we decided to 'bubble' ... Few months on and it's actually going really well. He's looking forward to his first club visit with me when things all reopen.

Yes, online dating is fucking rough going.. But, stick at it folks. I found my diamond in the rough

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By *piritualSFCMan
over a year ago

london

"Every male I come across at work is being assessed as a potential mate

Interesting and how does one convey this message, difficult as a male in the workplace.

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By *ubberclubberMan
over a year ago

Southsea

I'm giving Virtual Speed Dating a go next week.

I've done real speed dating in the past which has been great fun and with good results.

I'm fed up with all the apps now.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"I'm giving Virtual Speed Dating a go next week.

I've done real speed dating in the past which has been great fun and with good results.

I'm fed up with all the apps now."

Ohh where u doing that interested x

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By *isces WomanWoman
over a year ago

West London

Im on my own and I've given up. Ive adopted a dog instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like the idea of genteel walks round a park. You could have a covid chaperone that poked you with a stick if you got too close to one another. "

I'll be the stick poker if I can sharpen it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe people needs to give virtual meeting a good chance and see how it goes

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By *racy_JacksWoman
over a year ago

Derby

I did speed dating back in April. It was more people just wanting an opportunity to socialise, a couple of people were in different parts of the country

I know it’s likely tongue on cheek but it’s sad to see comments about ending up lonely, surrounded by cats etc. In longitudinal studies ratings of loneliness are similar in married people and those who have never been married. Those who report the lowest levels are single women who never married. Not having a romantic partner doesn’t mean being ‘alone’. I know that it doesn’t feel like that for a lot at the moment though. Pandemic life is not suited to being single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I did speed dating back in April. It was more people just wanting an opportunity to socialise, a couple of people were in different parts of the country

I agree with this sentiment wholeheartedly, but I'm mainly posting to say I love your username

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can’t meet people online. I end up dismissing people based on their looks. It’s shit. I like to see people in the flesh and get a feel of their personality. Can’t really do that online. "

Try a video message, then you can see if they live alone, are messy or are a serial killer...

Kidding about the last one

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By *racy_JacksWoman
over a year ago

Derby

"I did speed dating back in April. It was more people just wanting an opportunity to socialise, a couple of people were in different parts of the country

I agree with this sentiment wholeheartedly, but I'm mainly posting to say I love your username

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

"I’m just not looking at the moment. I lack the motivation to even muster small talk on here never mind trying to woo someone over with my wit and chat.

I just cannae be arsed with it. It seems so utterly pointless right now.

I’ve made peace with the fact I’ll probably die alone surrounded by 5000 cats as I wear musty shawls and eat cold baked beans from a tin.

Sorry. Not very motivational today.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

"With the way things are now, how are people supposed to find love during a pandemic?

I’m not asking for meets off here or suggesting people meet. I’m talking real world situations. Like how are people supposed to meet people organically and date to find a proper relationship?

Last year was a write off, this year is looking to be the same. I’m gonna 40 in a couple of years, my chance to have another child is running out.

I’m fucking bored of being single.

Like what’s the solution? Fuck all the single people, it’s just tough that they’re on their own. That’s how it seems.

Discuss. "

I think dating by discus is probably the best way at the moment. Just get a few disci and take your date at a social distance to a suitable field and throw them back and forth writing your sweet nothings on them. Obviously wiping the discus with antivirus wipes before you touch them

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By *aggy dollsCouple
over a year ago

bradford

We met through tinder 7 months ago, neither of us were particularly looking for love a such just a little extra social interaction. We chatted online and text for a bit then we had a phonecall that lasted for over 8 hours, we both knew there was something there between us so we went for a socially distanced picnic, shortly after that boris announced that single households could form a support bubble with 1 other household so I asked luna if she'd be my support bubble (bit of a gamble since we're not supposed to change our support bubbles, so if it didnt work out then we'd be stuck for company) since then we've only spent a couple of nights apart from eachother, it's been an amazing 7 months and one that I'll look back on with bittersweet memories but I believe that covid and lockdown brought us together and we've grown so strong that I couldn't imagine my life without her, it also helps that we were both swingers before we met and shes as bonkers as I am.

*disclaimer. No rules were broken in the making of this relationship.

Mr H.

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By *ubberclubberMan
over a year ago

Southsea

"I'm giving Virtual Speed Dating a go next week.

I've done real speed dating in the past which has been great fun and with good results.

I'm fed up with all the apps now.

Ohh where u doing that interested x"

It's called Slow Dating. I've done their real ones for years but giving the virtual stuff a go.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I don't think us singles have any hope at all at the minute.

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By *ightkitty4uWoman
over a year ago

Epsom

I’ve been single for years.... dating is impossible at the best of times let alone in a pandemic

It’s made me realise I would like a partner, someone to grow old with and have adventures with and share my life with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every male I come across at work is being assessed as a potential mate

It’s how I ended up shagging my window cleaner last July! "

Hahahahaha Lolol priceless

Just be thankful you’re a woman and a fine one at that. Imagine you’re a man....what options would you have had?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"While it's not exactly the same, and the situation is limited you can totally get a feel for personality through messages, phone calls and video calls.

It is all about how much you actually want to do it.

Getting to know people through chat, once narrowed down to the genuine (not easy granted) it is no different than doing so in person. It is only your own mind not allowing you to do it that way.

The tools are all there, enough dating apps and websites, plenty of people have been able to do it to great sucess. The only thing holding you back from making a go of it is yourself. "

I agree mostly. We’re being held back in terms of physically meeting tho.

And one other way it’s a lot worse is that most people by this stage (10 months in) just aren’t arsed with dating apps until there’s more certainty, so options in terms of who you might like are vastly reduced. Plus even if you do match with someone you like and get on well with it’ll probably fizzle out as it’s just too lol before an actual meet and then you’ve wasted a match. I think that’s a really big thing that’s stopping people using the apps. What’s the point of “wasting your potential” good matches by running out of steam. When you could leave it off until closer to a more normal time and not blow your chances

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Old skool think of the imaginary friends that you left behind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Every male I come across at work is being assessed as a potential mate

It’s how I ended up shagging my window cleaner last July! "

May I clean your windows please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have friends who go for lots of 'socially distanced walks' for dates. Progress is slow, but they are dating after a fashion."

This is maybe the way forward for a bit but a dog walk with a friend is a great way to start things off surely and if no dog then still a good start ?

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"We met through tinder 7 months ago, neither of us were particularly looking for love a such just a little extra social interaction. We chatted online and text for a bit then we had a phonecall that lasted for over 8 hours, we both knew there was something there between us so we went for a socially distanced picnic, shortly after that boris announced that single households could form a support bubble with 1 other household so I asked luna if she'd be my support bubble (bit of a gamble since we're not supposed to change our support bubbles, so if it didnt work out then we'd be stuck for company) since then we've only spent a couple of nights apart from eachother, it's been an amazing 7 months and one that I'll look back on with bittersweet memories but I believe that covid and lockdown brought us together and we've grown so strong that I couldn't imagine my life without her, it also helps that we were both swingers before we met and shes as bonkers as I am.

*disclaimer. No rules were broken in the making of this relationship.

Mr H."

Love this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If front line care workers have been vaccinated does that mean they can meet sexually? Will there be a new tag on everyone's profile that confirms they have been vaccinated and only they will be allowed to engage in meets? Has anyone discussed sex with the Prime Minister and the Cabinet?

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By *leeperMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I feel you on that it’s big lonely atm for me but hope later I can try dating

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By *onguesandpunsMan
over a year ago

East Midlands

It's really tricky and as most people have already pointed out, there was the option of going for walks and then bubbling up with that person if your respective circumstances allowed it. But that in itself is a big commitment at the moment.

The most challenging thing I find is staring at screens all day for work if you're working from home, and then continuing on screens for Fab or dating interactions outside work. Sometimes you just can't bear to look at a screen or type anymore!

I'm hoping we move down a few tiers in the spring. At least that allows picnics in the park or a film night in the back garden. Stay safe and well everyone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I got divorced 12 years ago I really didn't expect to still be single at this point. And now I'm feeling more lonely than ever. I've no idea. I'm on bumble and people match then don't reply so I've no chance of even getting as far as a date.

I don't work with anyone I'm likely to fancy and even before the lockdowns I'd never have the courage to chat someone up.

If I did get chatting to someone I wanted to meet, and they held my attention for more than 5 mins, I'd probably suggest a walk somewhere.

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By *leeperMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"When I got divorced 12 years ago I really didn't expect to still be single at this point. And now I'm feeling more lonely than ever. I've no idea. I'm on bumble and people match then don't reply so I've no chance of even getting as far as a date.

I don't work with anyone I'm likely to fancy and even before the lockdowns I'd never have the courage to chat someone up.

If I did get chatting to someone I wanted to meet, and they held my attention for more than 5 mins, I'd probably suggest a walk somewhere. "

I feel you dms open if anyone wants to talk

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I don't work with anyone I'm likely to fancy and even before the lockdowns I'd never have the courage to chat someone up.

If I did get chatting to someone I wanted to meet, and they held my attention for more than 5 mins, I'd probably suggest a walk somewhere.

I feel you dms open if anyone wants to talk "

That's kind of you x

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By *onguesandpunsMan
over a year ago

East Midlands

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By *onguesandpunsMan
over a year ago

East Midlands

*disclaimer. No rules were broken in the making of this relationship.

Mr H."

That's a lovely positive story. Congratulations!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know the feeling

tough times. Video calls, socially distanced walk. It's still possible.

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

"Every male I come across at work is being assessed as a potential mate

It’s how I ended up shagging my window cleaner last July! "
lol lucky man.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

At the moment when I message someone I find something about their profile I like I include that in the message then I say

If you would like to chat and maybe meet up for a drink or meal in the near future by all means message me.My thinking is with the way we are in the world all we can do at the moment is chat. I haven’t had much success so I guess when all this is over I will come off dating sites and concentrate on London meet up groups at least that way you get to see and chat with people and you never know where it can lead to.

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By *hagTonightMan
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

I think that people are still meeting more so outside of dating sites. I also wonder if they arent allowed to date how would the human race increase, will it be a case of less getting born during this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe some are blaming a pandemic for their lack of success in the dating game. Possibly people who were single many years before covid struck.

It certainly applies to certain people on Fab. I don't see formerly successful people on here complaining much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ultimately if you're both single people then you can form a support bubble together to get to know each other better. But at the start you can go for walks and exercise outdoors, video calls etc.

It's not the same though, as opportunities to meet new people (e.g. friends of friends at parties) are seriously reduced. So those saying it's easy, it's not. But if you DO meet someone, then it's definitely possible to get to know them during these times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As always, being single is harder on some than others.

The people I work with are all scattered around the country and most work from home, so office romance/socialise before covid was hard anyway.

This lockdown seems harder to me than the previous ones, could be because its winter and other reasons.

I've used dating sites previously and didn't have any luck, I've created profiles on a few sites, a few months ago but again I'm not getting any really attachment to anyone, so ended up deleting my profile.

I do wish I had a social bubble, especially at weekends so I could have a bit of face to face contact.

I do chat to my friends on the phone but it is just not the same and have been out for a few walks with them.

I do enjoy my own company but it would be nice to find someone to share things with going forward.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I believe some are blaming a pandemic for their lack of success in the dating game. Possibly people who were single many years before covid struck.

It certainly applies to certain people on Fab. I don't see formerly successful people on here complaining much. "

I’ve been single many years before the pandemic. I would meet emotionally unavailable man after emotionally unavailable man and guess where I found them all? Online, on here, on various dating sites.

I wanted to not use any dating sites to find someone as it’s never worked for me in the past. Wanted a guy that I met in a real life scenario, someone who wasn’t using dating apps or any other online tool for meeting people.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

"I believe some are blaming a pandemic for their lack of success in the dating game. Possibly people who were single many years before covid struck.

It certainly applies to certain people on Fab. I don't see formerly successful people on here complaining much.

Just because these men are online doesn't mean they're emotionally unavailable.

I would suspect that as both sexes get older, they become a bit more selectively careful over how they let their emotions come out due to things they have lived through and the people they have been involved with.

Some just take longer than others to drop their defenses too and allow people in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been really enjoying virtual dates. When the rules were a bit more lax and the virus was better controlled I started dating a gorgeous woman I met through a swinging friend. Since we've been locked back down more strictly we've had a lot of virtual dates.

A few times we've done video calls and I've shown her things I've been learning at pole classes, we've played silly online games, and this week we did a video call baking date

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