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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'll try and keep it as short as possible! I'm completely new to this, Mike has done it before. We're straight, and it's clear on our profile, I feel uncomfortable when women message saying "I would love your wife's pussy" but he gets a bit moody because I'm uncomfortable. HELP!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are straight you are straight. Lots of couples play soft and full swap straight only. Never feel pressured.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi. Welcome!

You can block women from messaging if you want to. You will get unsavoury messages on here anyway though whatever you’re looking for unfortunately x

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By *ngelfayeWoman
over a year ago

:)

If he’s moody because you’re uncomfortable then I think he needs to work on that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll try and keep it as short as possible! I'm completely new to this, Mike has done it before. We're straight, and it's clear on our profile, I feel uncomfortable when women message saying "I would love your wife's pussy" but he gets a bit moody because I'm uncomfortable. HELP!!! "

This doesn't sound like this is for you, if you feel uncomfortable then pause and talk it over some more

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Then you need to sit down and talk it through some more.

Swinging is meant to be about fun. If there are any negative feelings for either/both of you then you need to take a step back,talk about your feelings and work through them.

Good luck to you both and hope you can find a way to enjoy the fun swinging brings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do women really message couples and say things like that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello welcome to the forums you can use filters to block woman and then if you want to open a line off communication up with them then you message them first and it will over ride the filter and alow them to message back x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do women really message couples and say things like that?"

I agree, sounds more like a male with a female account, and by the reaction possibly your OH testing your reaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do women really message couples and say things like that?"

When I was in a couple profile, yeah, I got that occasionally. However I often found it was weird and suspected men with fake accounts.

OP, if you’re straight, that’s it! Never feel pressured to push outside of your comfort zone. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If he’s moody because you’re uncomfortable then I think he needs to work on that! "

This ^^

We all have our particular boundaries and shouldn't be pressured to do things out of our comfort zone.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Moody because you're uncomfortable is a massive red flag for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll try and keep it as short as possible! I'm completely new to this, Mike has done it before. We're straight, and it's clear on our profile, I feel uncomfortable when women message saying "I would love your wife's pussy" but he gets a bit moody because I'm uncomfortable. HELP!!! "

First of all welcome to Fab and the forum.

My advice to you both is to talk and listen to each other without moodiness from either of you. Get to the bottom of you being uncomfortable and why he gets moody over it.

There are things you can do to combat women messaging you and that is to block them using your filters.

Having said that I am slightly envious that you receive such messages as I would welcome them on our couples profile because in all my years on Fab I have never received such messages

If you both can't communicate or be honest with each other then swinging is not something which is suitable for your relationship, the last thing you need is something which should be an added pleasure to an already wonderful relationship and sex life to become the thing which causes problems.

Best of luck both

Her x

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

So how would he feel if another man messaged to say they wanted his cock?.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"Do women really message couples and say things like that?"

Yes

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"So how would he feel if another man messaged to say they wanted his cock?."

Men do this too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take your time, respect each others boundaries and communicate about everything. Remember your relationship comes first, fun second

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By *carlet_woman_xxWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

Is this Mike from opinions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll try and keep it as short as possible! I'm completely new to this, Mike has done it before. We're straight, and it's clear on our profile, I feel uncomfortable when women message saying "I would love your wife's pussy" but he gets a bit moody because I'm uncomfortable. HELP!!! "

Don't even consider meeting people until you are 100% comfortable

You both have things to work on, as both individuals and as a couple

Pushing you out of your comfort zone isn't on - for you or anyone you might meet

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I would also say your time and do what is right for you.

Sharing this experience with someone who gets moody with you..well, I think I'd have a good chat with them.

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By *orny dave 1983Man
over a year ago

spenymoor

Am I doing something wrong I can’t seem to get anywhere with anyone xx

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace


"Am I doing something wrong I can’t seem to get anywhere with anyone xx"

We're in the middle of a pandemic, nobody is getting anywhere with anyone

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"Am I doing something wrong I can’t seem to get anywhere with anyone xx"

You only joined 4 weeks ago yet you already have a veri. I'd say that's very good going.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Moody because you're uncomfortable is a massive red flag for me.

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Yep.

Nothing can be forced. It's not something one can convinced themselves of feeling and if you would just do that to fulfill a fantasy for a partner, whilst still uncomfortable, how would you feel afterwards? I would feel sexually coerced.

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By *assy211279Woman
over a year ago

middle of nowhere Cornwall

I am bi and would love for some of what you get but no way would I stay with anyone who can't see that I want something. I also wouldn't be able to cope if people came on to me when I wasn't interested. You definitely need to discuss boundaries with your man and make sure you are both happy to play.

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