FabSwingers.com forum: Manners

By *omSnow OP Man
over a year ago

Woking

Why is it that people don't even reply to messages, even if it's a "no thank you". Manners don't cost a thing and keep things friendly. What is wrong with some people?

...(I ask for a friend)...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No reply means not interested.

Simples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it that people don't even reply to messages, even if it's a "no thank you". Manners don't cost a thing and keep things friendly. What is wrong with some people?

...(I ask for a friend)...

Fab rules unfortunately, no reply is a polite decline.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

^^ What they said

There are many and varied reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oooh, I know this one, cause when someone (usually women) give a polite no thanks, people (usually men) sometimes take that as a cue to say ‘but why?!’ Or try to engage in further conversation, no one owes anyone a reply on here.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

No reply means no interest.

Lots of Fab guys can’t seem to accept this.

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By *essica FlabbitWoman
over a year ago

west midlands/shropshire

"Why is it that people don't even reply to messages, even if it's a "no thank you". Manners don't cost a thing and keep things friendly. What is wrong with some people?

...(I ask for a friend)...

Because even when I've been polite and said no they think that's me engaging with chat.

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

I wish this topic would get added to the list of forums no no topics. Its done to death and is covered in faqs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately OP, men outnumber everyone else here.

It's a numbers game.

When I don't have my message filters active I get over 200 messages a day.

It's physically impossible to reply to all as there's not enough hours in the day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No reply means no interest.

Lots of Fab guys can’t seem to accept this."
I can Iif they say no thanks i reply back and say good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What’s been sed above plus I get a bit sick off geting nasty comments thrown my way

Because some guy got butt hurt and his ego denned because I have sed no

And some how somewhere someone told him is tv/ts are easy

And found out wrong and had his ego hurt

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Manners include learning the norms of the environment you're in.

The FAQ states that delete without reply means no thank you.

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By *uriouscouple83Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

What they said ^

It’s a polite no thanks.

We don’t like to be rude but we do on occasion put the message filters up and if we have replied to someone, they can then slip through said filters.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Copied from the FAQ section

There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

"No reply means no interest.

Lots of Fab guys can’t seem to accept this. I can Iif they say no thanks i reply back and say good luck"

And thats the kinda response that makes people not reply

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By *aughty_Smooth_OperatorMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

They should bring in auto reply system a pre written message no thanks or not interested saves all the hassle

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By *uby Tuesday 55Woman
over a year ago

Combe Martin

"Why is it that people don't even reply to messages, even if it's a "no thank you". Manners don't cost a thing and keep things friendly. What is wrong with some people?

...(I ask for a friend)...

Because even when I've been polite and said no they think that's me engaging with chat. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wish this topic would get added to the list of forums no no topics. Its done to death and is covered in faqs."

Most blokes never get as far as message filters so trusing them to make it to FAQ?? Nope!

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Why is it that people don't even reply to messages, even if it's a "no thank you". Manners don't cost a thing and keep things friendly. What is wrong with some people?

...(I ask for a friend)...

Because even when I've been polite and said no they think that's me engaging with chat.

This

Yep, often leads to something like....

OK cool, so, what you up to? Much luck on here?

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

"I wish this topic would get added to the list of forums no no topics. Its done to death and is covered in faqs.

Most blokes never get as far as message filters so trusing them to make it to FAQ?? Nope!

Hahahahahaha until they start a thread in the forum and get answers spoon fed to them

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"They should bring in auto reply system a pre written message no thanks or not interested saves all the hassle

Except it wouldn't - because either the "but why" or abusive follow ups would happen - or if it was "auto message and block" you'd get moans on the forum about being blocked instead of moans about no replies - so it would just make the problem a different problem really

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

"Why is it that people don't even reply to messages, even if it's a "no thank you". Manners don't cost a thing and keep things friendly. What is wrong with some people?

...(I ask for a friend)...

When I receive junk mail I dont reply

I have zero idea why some men are under a delusion that their one sided desire to communicate is an act worthy of response let alone thanks ??

Some earth men are funny

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By *xTwo4FunTimesxXCouple
over a year ago

chester

"Why is it that people don't even reply to messages, even if it's a "no thank you". Manners don't cost a thing and keep things friendly. What is wrong with some people?

...(I ask for a friend)...

Think about it.

Women can get thousands of messages as they are vastly outnumbered.

Lets say in this case its 500 messages though. Lets also say that after reading all 500 messages the lady in question is not interested in any of those 500 messages.

To open the message,type no thanks and hit send may take upto 30 seconds.So to reply to each and every message it will take 4 hours and 10 minutes approximately.Just so "your friend" gets a no thanks.....

And that is before the "why not" or the abusive replies start.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

"Why is it that people don't even reply to messages, even if it's a "no thank you". Manners don't cost a thing and keep things friendly. What is wrong with some people?

...(I ask for a friend)...

Because even when I've been polite and said no they think that's me engaging with chat.

This

Yep, often leads to something like....

OK cool, so, what you up to? Much luck on here?

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

because if we do reply and say, 'no thanks' we normally get a load of questions as to why not or general abuse. Easier not to reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it that people don't even reply to messages, even if it's a "no thank you". Manners don't cost a thing and keep things friendly. What is wrong with some people?

...(I ask for a friend)...

You have to remember the amount of messages women will be getting on here if they sent a no thanks to everyone they wouldn't have time to actually have a conversation with the people they are interested in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have tried being polite and replying to everyone to say no thanks ‘noob mistake’ I know. Generally they just engage in further questions or conversation. So had to stop.

As it happens I am now too busy heading to all the takeaways and local shops to take their flyers back and tell them ‘no thanks’

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Also, people don't like hearing things like .....

Dude, I know you've stated you love my profile but it's blatant you ain't read it ya spunkbubble. Being polite isn't just random words you think sound "nice" and have flung together and sent to every vagina owner within 50 miles, it's about actions too. That includes doing the polite thing and reading the words someone has written in order to give people a clue and make an informed decision about them. I'm more than tits and taco and you've been rumbled.

*not a real one but may well be one day*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also, people don't like hearing things like .....

*not a real one but may well be one day*"

Peach’s thank you so much I just burst out laughing ooo and is it ok to steal spunkbubble That’s such a good one lol

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"because if we do reply and say, 'no thanks' we normally get a load of questions as to why not or general abuse. Easier not to reply"

Yes. Manners cost the risk of being abused, in this case.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Also, people don't like hearing things like .....

*not a real one but may well be one day*

Peach’s thank you so much I just burst out laughing ooo and is it ok to steal spunkbubble That’s such a good one lol "

Angel you can steal the whole fucking paragraph

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also, people don't like hearing things like .....

*not a real one but may well be one day*

Peach’s thank you so much I just burst out laughing ooo and is it ok to steal spunkbubble That’s such a good one lol

Angel you can steal the whole fucking paragraph

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Thanks you so much x

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By *ympho6969Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

"Why is it that people don't even reply to messages, even if it's a "no thank you". Manners don't cost a thing and keep things friendly. What is wrong with some people?

...(I ask for a friend)...

As someone who went out their way recently to do exactly that (reply to every message), i can confirm that the amount of abuse i got increased also.

I did get a few polite responses thanking me for letting them know however. Is it enough to balance out so ill continue to reply to all messages? Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No reply means no interest.

Lots of Fab guys can’t seem to accept this. I can Iif they say no thanks i reply back and say good luck

And thats the kinda response that makes people not reply"

If someone replies and says "good luck" that's the end of your world?

Friendly site my fucking arse!!

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Manners cost nothing and i have plenty but i do not have plenty free time to answer all my messages and this i apologise for.x

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"Why is it that people don't even reply to messages, even if it's a "no thank you". Manners don't cost a thing and keep things friendly. What is wrong with some people?

...(I ask for a friend)...

Because the vast majority of messages we receive are not worth responding to. It would take more effort on our part to type "Not interested" than the sender put into their message.

We already have in our profile text that if you write "Hi" or "Hiw are you?" to us then you won't get a reply, yet most of the messages we get are exactly that.

I have experimented with such people and I never found any of them have anything even vaguely interesting to say.

If we implement a filter in the future then anybody who we have replied to automatically gets to bypass it.

Do that's why we don't bother replying to messages that are total shit. Does that answer your question?

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

"No reply means no interest.

Lots of Fab guys can’t seem to accept this. I can Iif they say no thanks i reply back and say good luck

And thats the kinda response that makes people not reply

If someone replies and says "good luck" that's the end of your world?

Friendly site my fucking arse!!

Why would the person saying no interest need good luck?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it that people don't even reply to messages, even if it's a "no thank you". Manners don't cost a thing and keep things friendly. What is wrong with some people?

...(I ask for a friend)...

Because the vast majority of messages we receive are not worth responding to. It would take more effort on our part to type "Not interested" than the sender put into their message.

We already have in our profile text that if you write "Hi" or "Hiw are you?" to us then you won't get a reply, yet most of the messages we get are exactly that.

I have experimented with such people and I never found any of them have anything even vaguely interesting to say.

If we implement a filter in the future then anybody who we have replied to automatically gets to bypass it.

Do that's why we don't bother replying to messages that are total shit. Does that answer your question? "

Thats why as we are not looking to meet single guys we blocked Them. Nothing nasty its just our preference. It we take that filter down the messages get rediculous. Its nothing personal OP it just peoples preferences on here.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

We reply to all our messages even if it’s a message saying fancy a fuck

.Single women get a ridiculous amount of messages unless they use filter and there’s just not enough hours in the day for them to reply to them all.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

General example of how it goes..

Random message incoming from a person,sometimes with no photo and "fill this in later" on profile.

I play nice and send the "Nice but not for me" message.

That's me done as far as I'm concerned.End of.

But then I get a "What do you mean/What are you looking for/how do you know?"

It just gets tedious....

So that's why people choose not to reply or just delete and block.

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By *edGrayCouple
over a year ago

Swindon

Messages are like junk mail, I don't have to reply to them, only if I am interested in what they are offering!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it that people don't even reply to messages, even if it's a "no thank you". Manners don't cost a thing and keep things friendly. What is wrong with some people?

...(I ask for a friend)...

Tell your friend it’s how fab works and it works well imho.

I reply to all messages and sometimes I wish I didn’t because they really don’t deserve a reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cause the ladies will be forever replying trying to get through 500 messages a day they get from us men. They dont reply accept move on

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Why is it that people don't even reply to messages, even if it's a "no thank you". Manners don't cost a thing and keep things friendly. What is wrong with some people?

...(I ask for a friend)...

Why should anyone be told they have no manners because they don’t reply to you? That’s grossly unfair! They receive 100s of messages so if your message does not stand out then it’s not replied to....simple as. One does not need to be a rocket scientist to work it out........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't reply to deliberately wind those I'm not interested in. Not only do I lack manners I'm downright evil. *shrugs* ah well.

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By *leasure4leisureMan
over a year ago

south

Would a button saying polite no thank you and a block at the same time not be the way forward ?

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Would a button saying polite no thank you and a block at the same time not be the way forward ? "

Not really, it would just shift the "problem" elsewhere as you'd get men moaning about being blocked despite sending a "polite" message instead of moaning about not getting a reply.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

If one has time a quick reply of no thanks then block as this saves the ‘why’, ‘what you want’, ‘why am I not your type’ plus further abuse.

I’ve hidden my profile because of such behaviour and I feel much safer now.

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By *r_smooth_alloverMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Would a button saying polite no thank you and a block at the same time not be the way forward ? "

Thats what I have said they should bring in

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By *r_smooth_alloverMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"If one has time a quick reply of no thanks then block as this saves the ‘why’, ‘what you want’, ‘why am I not your type’ plus further abuse.

I’ve hidden my profile because of such behaviour and I feel much safer now. "

Thats fair enough but you shouldn't have to hide your profile the simple pre text auto reply if fabs brought in would save huge amounts of time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nowt to do with manners. I’m very well-mannered

. I rarely replied. I used to block and delete if I wasn’t interested. Can’t be arsed with unnecessary abuse and grief. I did explain this on my profile though. Now I probably look at messages every couple of days just to check if any friends have messaged. I don’t even read any others as my filters have everyone filtered out so it should come up that I’m not interested anyway when they send it.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Just send them a dick pic. You’ll definitely get a reply then

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"If one has time a quick reply of no thanks then block as this saves the ‘why’, ‘what you want’, ‘why am I not your type’ plus further abuse.

I’ve hidden my profile because of such behaviour and I feel much safer now.

Thats fair enough but you shouldn't have to hide your profile the simple pre text auto reply if fabs brought in would save huge amounts of time "

It would not work due to entitled guys still not accepting the decision of the woman. I feel very safe now from such men having hidden my profile so I can’t be listed in a search.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it that people don't even reply to messages, even if it's a "no thank you". Manners don't cost a thing and keep things friendly. What is wrong with some people?

...(I ask for a friend)...

I asked this when I first joined.....close thread now and run to the hills lol

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Because I like to spend my time on fab perving, not responding "no thanks" to 500 messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nobody owes anybody anything ...

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"Would a button saying polite no thank you and a block at the same time not be the way forward ? "

No it wouldn't. If we get a lazy message that shows they have not read our profile where it specifically says we will delete "Hi hru" messages, then we don't want to say thank you. What should we be thanking anybody for? We don't appreciate shit messages. We have told somebody in our profile what to expect if they send one. The response has already been given. What we want is to ignore the message, just like they ignored our profile. That is the most appropriate response to the vast majority of messages we get.

Why should people who get stacks of messages have to push a button anyway? The rules of the site are clear: No response means not interested. There is no need to add a button when this is already in place.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

"No reply means no interest.

Lots of Fab guys can’t seem to accept this. I can Iif they say no thanks i reply back and say good luck

And thats the kinda response that makes people not reply

If someone replies and says "good luck" that's the end of your world?

Friendly site my fucking arse!!

Why would the person saying no interest need good luck?"

It's just a way of trying to be polite and saying that the message was received and understood, rather than just ignore it. Some people feel its rude not to reply to a message.

I get that 'good luck' itself might not be the greatest as it implies they might need luck, but I highly doubt that was the intention.

Maybe 'best wishes' would be better?

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"No reply means no interest.

Lots of Fab guys can’t seem to accept this. I can Iif they say no thanks i reply back and say good luck

And thats the kinda response that makes people not reply

If someone replies and says "good luck" that's the end of your world?

Friendly site my fucking arse!!

Why would the person saying no interest need good luck?

It's just a way of trying to be polite and saying that the message was received and understood, rather than just ignore it. Some people feel its rude not to reply to a message.

I get that 'good luck' itself might not be the greatest as it implies they might need luck, but I highly doubt that was the intention.

Maybe 'best wishes' would be better? "

How about ‘warm regards’ ?

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

"No reply means no interest.

Lots of Fab guys can’t seem to accept this. I can Iif they say no thanks i reply back and say good luck

And thats the kinda response that makes people not reply

If someone replies and says "good luck" that's the end of your world?

Friendly site my fucking arse!!

Why would the person saying no interest need good luck?

It's just a way of trying to be polite and saying that the message was received and understood, rather than just ignore it. Some people feel its rude not to reply to a message.

I get that 'good luck' itself might not be the greatest as it implies they might need luck, but I highly doubt that was the intention.

Maybe 'best wishes' would be better? "

Just want to clarify, the 'style people feel it's rude not to reply' not.

I don't mean it's rude for others to not reply to them, but it's rude for them to not reply to a message.

I have this issue and feel bad for not responding. Not worried if others don't respond to me though, as I understand that means they aren't interested.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

"No reply means no interest.

Lots of Fab guys can’t seem to accept this. I can Iif they say no thanks i reply back and say good luck

And thats the kinda response that makes people not reply

If someone replies and says "good luck" that's the end of your world?

Friendly site my fucking arse!!

Why would the person saying no interest need good luck?

It's just a way of trying to be polite and saying that the message was received and understood, rather than just ignore it. Some people feel its rude not to reply to a message.

I get that 'good luck' itself might not be the greatest as it implies they might need luck, but I highly doubt that was the intention.

Maybe 'best wishes' would be better?

How about ‘warm regards’ ? "

Yep, that works too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always try to reply to every one but sometimes manners dont work if people don't take no for an answer. Depends on the person I suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the above

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By *athan 123Man
over a year ago

rochdale oldham border

Manners cost nothing it’s rude to ignore people that’s my feelings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why does written rejection mean so much to you? Is it going to make you feel any better with an inbox full of no

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By *omSnow OP Man
over a year ago

Woking

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By *omSnow OP Man
over a year ago

Woking

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Manners cost nothing it’s rude to ignore people that’s my feelings "

Your feelings won't change what's been said above.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

"Why is it that people don't even reply to messages, even if it's a "no thank you". Manners don't cost a thing and keep things friendly. What is wrong with some people?

...(I ask for a friend)...

It is nothing to do with manners. Do you contact every company that sends you junk mail to politely tell them your not interested?

The reasons why people won't reply are many and varied, but for us it's because sending a message to someone means that they can then by pass your email filters for ever more, which normally ends in a block, which is far less friendly than your solution.

Just out of interest, how would your friends feel about an inbox full of rejection emails? Would that help the situation in any way?

No reply is the site wide default setting for no and as you have agreed to the site rules you'll have to learn to abide by them.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

When you first start here, you can be so inundated with messages that it's simply not possible to reply to all of them.

If you reply no thanks...that can lead to situations and conversations that you didn't want to have in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"[Removed by poster at 07/01/21 21:53:56]"

Don't be. Advocating for manners as well as other good things in life should be a trendy topic but unfortunately it's not. Just don't take it personal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ladies get so many messages from all the Fred west’s on here , their inboxes are not that much of a novelty like us guys

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

"No reply means no interest.

Lots of Fab guys can’t seem to accept this. I can Iif they say no thanks i reply back and say good luck

And thats the kinda response that makes people not reply

If someone replies and says "good luck" that's the end of your world?

Friendly site my fucking arse!!

Why would the person saying no interest need good luck?

It's just a way of trying to be polite and saying that the message was received and understood, rather than just ignore it. Some people feel its rude not to reply to a message.

I get that 'good luck' itself might not be the greatest as it implies they might need luck, but I highly doubt that was the intention.

Maybe 'best wishes' would be better?

How about ‘warm regards’ ?

Yep, that works too."

My all time favourite has to be "your loss"

Love that one more then the sound of silence

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over a year ago

Because it would be a full time job for some. Because it encourages another message you might feel obliged to reply to. Yada yada yada.. many reasons.

I rarely reply. I don't feel guilty at all. Its a universal code for not interested on here, some things cannot be translated into fab like manner of replying to anyone who passes by and says good morning or a nice thing to you. Because in real life it doesn't happen all the time. For a man whose inbox on average doesn't flood with messages it might be difficult to put himself in shoes of a woman feeling out of depth; because either of quantity of the messages or poor quality of them. Just speaking from my own experience here, not for everyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people dont even give you the chance to say no thanks. The initial message is one of harmless enough communication, about a status update or forum thread for example, but after that they just talk at you, not directly propositioning you but trying to flirt all the same. Very frustrating.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

"Why is it that people don't even reply to messages, even if it's a "no thank you". Manners don't cost a thing and keep things friendly. What is wrong with some people?

...(I ask for a friend)...

The no response is code for not interested and wish to avoid conflict or made to feel guilty.

Get use to it my friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No reply means no interest.

Lots of Fab guys can’t seem to accept this. I can Iif they say no thanks i reply back and say good luck

And thats the kinda response that makes people not reply

If someone replies and says "good luck" that's the end of your world?

Friendly site my fucking arse!!

Why would the person saying no interest need good luck?

It's just a way of trying to be polite and saying that the message was received and understood, rather than just ignore it. Some people feel its rude not to reply to a message.

I get that 'good luck' itself might not be the greatest as it implies they might need luck, but I highly doubt that was the intention.

Maybe 'best wishes' would be better?

How about ‘warm regards’ ?

Yep, that works too.

My all time favourite has to be "your loss"

Love that one more then the sound of silence "

We had that on a forum post the other day as in it was our loss not wanting a young guy to fuck jenny as they have better staying power and stamina. I replied to say we were mot being nasty as it was our preference to not meet youngsters. Which got us another digging reply. Ijust stopped replying to the post in the end as he would not realise he was acting stupidly with his replies. Some hate rejection i guess.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

We always reply even if it's a no thank you, but single females simply won't have the time to respond to hundreds of messages.

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By *un KnightsCouple
over a year ago

South West

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I used to think I should reply to every message but found that a polite "no, thank you - we are looking for different things" (or words to that effect) in many cases would lead to further messages like "What are you looking for" etc. Before I knew it I was writing not one but half a dozen messages, all leading to the same outcome that I did not wish to meet.

These days, I will still reply if the original message is crafted as a personal message rather than a one line/ copy and paste message. But even then I sometimes get rude messages in return so sometimes it is a bit of a no=win situation.

The positive outcome is that anybody who decides to become offensive just confirms that I really did not want to meet them in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It took me about a year of polite declines before I just delete these days. If effort has been applied (which sadly is rare) then I'll make the effort to suitably reply.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It's often suggested that "people" who don't reply to messages are rude or lack manners. Often "people" means women or couples.

Women do not *have* to be polite to men especially strangers from the Internet. It's not their duty to be nice to men at all. The basic social niceties apply to all genders and types of profile. Therefore in my opinion, nobody should expect a response to a message sent to someone they don't know from Adam much less imply that the recipient has no manners

I know it must be frustrating, nobody likes to feel ignored. However if a female relative was approached by a man she wasn't interested in, what would you advise them to do? I always told our daughter to ignore them and if they persisted tell them to "fuck off" as loudly as possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah, this perennial question again

It's OK having T&C's & FAQ's, but are people going to go looking for them when there's a sea of tits in the way?

I think some key points need adding to the sign up process

Even a simple 'read the statements below and tick each one' before you are allowed to proceed

Not paragraph upon paragraph, but simple one line statements

It's not going to end the entitlement, but it might, just might, cut down on the amount of times this question is asked and re-adjust the expectation of some new members

I mean, I can't join a FB group about dog rescue without filling in chapter & verse - and the group T&C's are there, first line

I can, however, join an adult site with pretty much zero screening or accountability and have to go and search out the T&C's and FAQ's if, and only if, I want to

Seems a bit of a skewed state of affairs to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

P.S.

Who else knew exactly what this thread would be about before opening?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why is it that people don't even reply to messages, even if it's a "no thank you". Manners don't cost a thing and keep things friendly. What is wrong with some people?

...(I ask for a friend)...

Because even when I've been polite and said no they think that's me engaging with chat. "
this or they turn nasty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"P.S.

Who else knew exactly what this thread would be about before opening?

Me!

Literally just had this, replied politely, he answered with why not, I replied you’re not for me, he replied shame. So now I’ve spent time doing that, when I could have been perving! I know what I’d rather do

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By *dinMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Why is it that people don't even reply to messages, even if it's a "no thank you". Manners don't cost a thing and keep things friendly. What is wrong with some people?

...(I ask for a friend)...

Because even when I've been polite and said no they think that's me engaging with chat. this or they turn nasty"

Yep too many men behave like assholes so can't blame the ladies for not replying but spoils it for us gents with manners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's often suggested that "people" who don't reply to messages are rude or lack manners. Often "people" means women or couples.

Could not love this more!

Shake off those ‘good girl’ shackles(except from someone you want it from

), stop being polite to complete strangers and put yourself first!

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester

"No reply means no interest.

Lots of Fab guys can’t seem to accept this."

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"P.S.

Who else knew exactly what this thread would be about before opening?

True, you are right, of course...however, new people join and perhaps for them it is the first time they have encountered the situation

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By *RSTCouple
over a year ago

S. Northants

"Why is it that people don't even reply to messages, even if it's a "no thank you". Manners don't cost a thing and keep things friendly. What is wrong with some people?

...(I ask for a friend)...

If someone has taken the time to read our profile and sends a message which is relevant to us and what we're looking for we will always try to show some respect and respond politely.

If someone clearly hasn't taken 5 minutes to read ours we will often not respond.

The amount of messages some of the ladies/couples get, we don't hold it against them if we don't get a reply. They are no obligated to respond.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ah, this perennial question again

It's OK having T&C's & FAQ's, but are people going to go looking for them when there's a sea of tits in the way?

I think some key points need adding to the sign up process

Even a simple 'read the statements below and tick each one' before you are allowed to proceed

Not paragraph upon paragraph, but simple one line statements

It's not going to end the entitlement, but it might, just might, cut down on the amount of times this question is asked and re-adjust the expectation of some new members

I mean, I can't join a FB group about dog rescue without filling in chapter & verse - and the group T&C's are there, first line

I can, however, join an adult site with pretty much zero screening or accountability and have to go and search out the T&C's and FAQ's if, and only if, I want to

Seems a bit of a skewed state of affairs to me"

I didn't read any of this, I just ticked the box.

Joking...!

I totally agree with what you say. People don't read FAQ's or T&C no matter how short. Some see tits and cock and their brain disengages.

See pussy... me want... send message...

No reply... wtf... me want pussy...

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Joking...!

I totally agree with what you say. People don't read FAQ's or T&C no matter how short. Some see tits and cock and their brain disengages.

See pussy... me want... send message...

No reply... wtf... me want pussy..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reply to mine op !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reply to mine op ! "

Hello gorgeous!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reply to mine op !

Hello gorgeous!!"

I meant in private ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Reply to mine op !

Hello gorgeous!!

I meant in private ffs"

. Was just saying hello. Missed you

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By *wingpaulMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

It's a bug bear of mine as the point many who say no reply means not interested are simply overlooking that it's often the guy responding to a message surely manners dictate a simple polite no thanks

It's not a sweet shop and nobody here is just a thing

If you iniciate you ought to respond it's just a cultural thing

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"It's a bug bear of mine as the point many who say no reply means not interested are simply overlooking that it's often the guy responding to a message surely manners dictate a simple polite no thanks

It's not a sweet shop and nobody here is just a thing

If you iniciate you ought to respond it's just a cultural thing "

I assumed the OP meant the initial message is ignored. If one has been in communication and are then ignored it could be a number of reasons why. Life outside Fab, something was said that they didn’t like, if it was the latter I would message saying we were not compatible and wishing them well then block so no further contact takes place.

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