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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Any comments..

I've my profile and we have a couple's profile...

My partner is very adamant on what she will do and what she won't.

She tells me to come on here and find somebody who's into the same things as me.

My profile appears to be a complete waste of time, where as the couples profile gets a fair amount of interest.

She manages the couples profile and chats to varies people even had a few meets (only from guys wanting to meet her alone).

I'm starting to feel somewhat peeved and considering putting a stop to the whole thing.

Any thoughts ?

Mike.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So it would be ok if it was the other way around? No room for jealousy in swinging. If it’s bothering you say to wife you only want to meet together or not at all

It’s the because I’ve not got meets I don’t want her to have meets bit which is what’s bothering me by what you have wrote tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well Mike, you joined in the middle of a global pandemic and we are currently in a lockdown, so I’d suggest you cool your jets and chill till this thing blows over. All the best to you both X

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Firstly this is perhaps something you should be sitting down and discussing with your wife and explaining to her what exactly it is that is causing you to feel as you are, and see if you can find a way to work around that - perhaps only meeting as a couple for a while? Or even agreeing boundaries as to what is acceptable for you both?

You've not said what it is that is causing you to feel the way you are - is it the fact your wife is meeting others? Or the fact you haven't been able to? Or perhaps how she is going about it?

What did you agree before you took the steps you have?

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

"Well Mike, you joined in the middle of a global pandemic and we are currently in a lockdown, so I’d suggest you cool your jets and chill till this thing blows over. All the best to you both X"

This

And get yourself out there once pandemic is over. Parties, swingers clubs, social events etc, ideal to go to together with your partner or by yourself.

Until then, sit tight x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women will always 'do better' than men

If you can't hack that, you need to speak up and talk

Hopefully, your wife will value your relationship over swinging

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Gemini made a valid comment, I think it's the way she goes about it.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

To add to what I said OP - if the issue is your lack of meets then like any other single guy on here perhaps (pandemic aside) consider why that might be?

Yes the balance of men to women is a factor, but it doesn't *have* to be an inhibitor - you have it all within your control to get a good experience from the site (even without any guarantees of meets) but it comes down to getting it right in a number of areas:

Attitude

Approach

Expectations

Profile

Pictures

Get those right and it won't guarantee a thing, but it will improve your perceptions and experience - remember that blindly mailing people isn't the only way to attract attention either - the forums and chat rooms are great ways to do that for example.

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By *etsplay4realCouple
over a year ago

Essex - Cambs Border!

OMG! Seriously your asking in a forum?

You definitely should be discussing this with your wife not dirty laundry comes to mind in public in my opinion as a female.

* First. My thought was Give Up swinging.

* Second. Why are you swinging?

* Third. Have you both really talked in depth re swinging limits boundaries together prior to joining fab let alone swinging?

Back to the drawing board my Sweet, talk to each other my darling you get much more out of swinging if No insecurities or jealousy full stop. Trust me.

Entering swinging has got to be 100% secure with each other you asking advice in a public forum as a woman not sit comfortable.

Oh I like men too not a man revenge girl for the record lol if you wonder.

I wish you all the best.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"Gemini made a valid comment, I think it's the way she goes about it.

If that's the case then it's something you need to sit down and have an open and honest conversation with your wife about it - but be prepared to listen to her too and look for compromises etc

If you can't communicate then you're on a very rocky road I'm afraid

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Apart from what has been suggested prior, maybe mention the couple’s profile on your write up. Some women won’t believe the line “I’m partnered but have permission to meet” on a single guy’s profile.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

As most have touched upon and our number one rules, Communication and Honesty.

Without these your swinging lives could end up in misery.

Talk it out between you.

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By *etsplay4realCouple
over a year ago

Essex - Cambs Border!

"Well Mike, you joined in the middle of a global pandemic and we are currently in a lockdown, so I’d suggest you cool your jets and chill till this thing blows over. All the best to you both X"

Has he joined in his couples profile in a pandemic or just as a single male? Mike what is your couples profile or how long have you been on as a couple?

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By *etsplay4realCouple
over a year ago

Essex - Cambs Border!

"As most have touched upon and our number one rules, Communication and Honesty.

Without these your swinging lives could end up in misery.

Talk it out between you."

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By *etsplay4realCouple
over a year ago

Essex - Cambs Border!

"Apart from what has been suggested prior, maybe mention the couple’s profile on your write up. Some women won’t believe the line “I’m partnered but have permission to meet” on a single guy’s profile. "

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By *carlet_woman_xxWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

Does your wife know about the forums

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By *etsplay4realCouple
over a year ago

Essex - Cambs Border!

"Does your wife know about the forums

Could this be a fifth amendment answer lol?

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By *carlet_woman_xxWoman
over a year ago

somewhere

"Does your wife know about the forums

Could this be a fifth amendment answer lol?

No comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As been said mention your cpls profile in your single profile. Kinda validates you a lil more.

We only joined for ffm an i(miss) decided it wasnt enough, as much as i enjoy it i want my full swap haha.

Felt like i was missing out.

Talk to your wife/partner, dont let it eat away at you. It needs to be 100% open and clear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Women will always 'do better' than men

If you can't hack that, you need to speak up and talk

Hopefully, your wife will value your relationship over swinging "

This bud. Talk to her. It sounds like you are unhappy she gets more attention and its making you jealous.

If you were getting meets you wouldnt be having this issue would you?

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By *etsplay4realCouple
over a year ago

Essex - Cambs Border!

"Does your wife know about the forums

Could this be a fifth amendment answer lol?

No comment

Well that's that candle blown out then sweet? xx Happy New Year xx

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