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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm so tired of married men or attached men contacting me pretending to be single. I usually figure it out through patterns of communication, but it just really annoys me when I'm getting on really well with someone only to find out later. I realise most of fab are married, but has anyone had any success with them not messaging and pretending to be single?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure I understand the question

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

"I'm not sure I understand the question

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

I think that she’s is asking if anyone has had success from unmarried men contacting them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sorry to clarify, any way to stop married men who pretend they're not married from contacting me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry to clarify, any way to stop married men who pretend they're not married from contacting me."

Block single men

Find them yourself

Some might still be married though

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

Unfortunately the only way is to block ALL men and search for yourself

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By *hysoseriouslyMan
over a year ago

Kent

It’s not just married men that do this.

Unfortunately if all you have to do is select a box on a profile there isn’t much that can be done.

It’s the same with men pretending to be women (why do that!), or to be couples when you never get to speak to the “female” half and it seems really they are just trying to lure women inti meeting.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

I’m not sure that most men on here aren’t single. It’s an issue with both men and women but I do see a lot of people own their situation on their profiles or in convos in the forums.

My approach is simply to be up front. Some people are ok with it and others aren’t. Give people all the information and let them make an informed decision and respect whatever they decide either way.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

There is no way OP but it sounds like you are smart enough to suss them out. Maybe assume all men are attached until they prove they are not.

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By *exymum07Woman
over a year ago

west lothian

Met a guy on here we were meeting fot months amazing fuck

he went on holiday we were face timing seen womens underwear drying in nthe back ground yip married

end off meets gutted as he was amazing

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I’m not sure that most men on here aren’t single. It’s an issue with both men and women but I do see a lot of people own their situation on their profiles or in convos in the forums.

Agreed - peeps, be upfront then I can decide whether I want to proceed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry to clarify, any way to stop married men who pretend they're not married from contacting me."

Is it ok for married men who tell you upfront to contact you?

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By *aulupforitMan
over a year ago

Corbridge

"Met a guy on here we were meeting fot months amazing fuck

he went on holiday we were face timing seen womens underwear drying in nthe back ground yip married

end off meets gutted as he was amazing "

Might of been wearing the underwear himself

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Sorry to clarify, any way to stop married men who pretend they're not married from contacting me.

Is it ok for married men who tell you upfront to contact you? "

It would be for me then I would block them immediately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have on my profile that cheats need not message and still get messages from married men...

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By *is_a_visMan
over a year ago

Cambridge/ London but often Herts/ East Anglia

I'm single but I'm still sitting here thinking it would be impossible to prove that to anyone, unless of course you came to my place and had free reign to explore email accounts and phones. Slightly easier if you needed to check marriage registers perhaps.

Sadly I guess all we have is trust, and yes, sadly it is broken by so many people who do pretend to be something they are not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great thread

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By *ympho6969Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

Dont rush a meet. Lots of chatting and paying attention to details helps. Not fool proof. Ive been caught out and left a meet an hour in after i saw womens clothes hanging up drying in the spare room.

I tend to stay away from men who cant accom, not always as i know people have their own suituations in life, but this helps more rhan you know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry to clarify, any way to stop married men who pretend they're not married from contacting me.

Is it ok for married men who tell you upfront to contact you?

It would be for me then I would block them immediately. "

Thank you for your input

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not sure that most men on here aren’t single. It’s an issue with both men and women but I do see a lot of people own their situation on their profiles or in convos in the forums.

If everyone thought and behaved like this it wouldn’t be an issue

I actually don’t have an issue with married people on here. Everyone has their reasons but at least be honest about it and allow people to make an informed choice! It’s lying I have a big issue with.

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

"I’m not sure that most men on here aren’t single. It’s an issue with both men and women but I do see a lot of people own their situation on their profiles or in convos in the forums.

If everyone thought and behaved like this it wouldn’t be an issue

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By *osh7inchMan
over a year ago

birmingham

Women are the same cam across 2 that eventually told me they was on here secretly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It will always be a problem and a lot of men don’t bother reading profiles but I usually state I am looking for a man available on Fri and Sat nights to socialise with for restaurant, cinema and theatre trips. You get a few that can still organise that but it scares away most.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not sure that most men on here aren’t single. It’s an issue with both men and women but I do see a lot of people own their situation on their profiles or in convos in the forums.

If everyone thought and behaved like this it wouldn’t be an issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not sure that most men on here aren’t single. It’s an issue with both men and women but I do see a lot of people own their situation on their profiles or in convos in the forums.

If everyone thought and behaved like this it wouldn’t be an issue

I mention it on every profile I've had.

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

"I'm so tired of married men or attached men contacting me pretending to be single. I usually figure it out through patterns of communication, but it just really annoys me when I'm getting on really well with someone only to find out later. I realise most of fab are married, but has anyone had any success with them not messaging and pretending to be single?"

This, this does my head in too not to mention makes it incredibly hard to trust people I’m trying to find a relationship with while dating. I think we just have to keep filtering them out one way or another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not sure that most men on here aren’t single. It’s an issue with both men and women but I do see a lot of people own their situation on their profiles or in convos in the forums.

If everyone thought and behaved like this it wouldn’t be an issue

I mention it on every profile I've had.

That’s good but I don’t even think you have to do that. It’s none of the world of fab’s business as far as I’m concerned. The important thing is to mention it to anyone you speak to privately, pretty early on too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not sure that most men on here aren’t single. It’s an issue with both men and women but I do see a lot of people own their situation on their profiles or in convos in the forums.

If everyone thought and behaved like this it wouldn’t be an issue

I mention it on every profile I've had.

I have to do that anyway because it's not just us men that don't read profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont know why guys can't be honest but than maybe its part of the game for them.

I don't meet married guys as a rule but have broken the rule once or twice, and have been caught out twice by a guy who lied. Its pretty shirty thing to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not sure that most men on here aren’t single. It’s an issue with both men and women but I do see a lot of people own their situation on their profiles or in convos in the forums.

If everyone thought and behaved like this it wouldn’t be an issue

I mention it on every profile I've had.

I have to do that anyway because it's not just us men that don't read profiles.

Ah ok. That’s up to you though. So many married men get random unnecessary abuse sent to them just for having it on their profile. No need x

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

I'm single, but it's been assumed by some forum users that I'm lying about that

As all meets are off for the foreseeable that's not much of an issue, but it's still annoying to be lumped in with the "all men are cheaters" mentality that's an ever present undercurrent on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not sure that most men on here aren’t single. It’s an issue with both men and women but I do see a lot of people own their situation on their profiles or in convos in the forums.

If everyone thought and behaved like this it wouldn’t be an issue

I mention it on every profile I've had.

I have to do that anyway because it's not just us men that don't read profiles.

Ah ok. That’s up to you though. So many married men get random unnecessary abuse sent to them just for having it on their profile. No need x"

It has happened on the odd occasion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately if they want to lie and say they are single the only option you have to suss out for yourself if you think they are married or attached.

I've been caught out. One said he was single and we met several times. He was great. But I then found out he was married so stopped it all.

You get used to patterns and the tell tale signs but some are very good and smart at hiding it and will appear single and you'll still get caught out. You just have to trust your judgement and that is all there is to it.

It's annoying I know but you'll just get used to it and know the signs.

Applies to men and women equally imo.

There's also the people that say they're single but are clearly part of a couple on here and lie about it and you may never see the profile as they'll have blocked you from it.

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By *lex46TV/TS
over a year ago

Near Wells

"I'm single but I'm still sitting here thinking it would be impossible to prove that to anyone, unless of course you came to my place and had free reign to explore email accounts and phones. Slightly easier if you needed to check marriage registers perhaps.

Sadly I guess all we have is trust, and yes, sadly it is broken by so many people who do pretend to be something they are not."

Married or attached men are fairly easy to spot.

Can't accommodate (sometimes)

Messages usually late at night or possibly around lunchtime.

Can only meet during the day.

Arranges a meet, then goes quiet for a few days.

Offers crap excuses for days not online, not answering messages etc.

If three of these happens, they're attached.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

We ask them outright at the start. Then it’s on them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve come across lots of attached women so it’s not always the guys either ..

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

In "normal times" , my profile states that I only meet at weekends in the evening and that they must be able to accommodated ...It helps .

I also swap phone numbers early on (I'm the worst penpal in the world anyway).

If those prerequisites are an issue ... that's perfectly fine, just walk on by

Also ordinarily I meet for a social fairly quickly, within a couple of weeks. I just haven't got the attention span needed to chat to "virtual friends" for months. And it also helps sieving out the attached men that are relying on opportunities to get out or plain time wasting/fantasist .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

In "normal times" , my profile states that I only meet at weekends in the evening and that they must be able to accommodated ...It helps .

I also swap phone numbers early on (I'm the worst penpal in the world anyway).

If those prerequisites are an issue ... that's perfectly fine, just walk on by

I would subscribe to this - and by and large I use this "process" of elimination. It's no absolute guarantee but it s out the majority of people who lie about their status. Principally, I dont have an issue with married people meeting others - it is just not what I want to do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I want to say I dont have a problem with married men or anyone in a relationship on here. As most men in the answers have said, just be upfront about it

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By *ultured Gent16Man
over a year ago

close.

It makes it tougher for genuinely single guys.

And you can’t keep something like hidden forever so why lie in the first place?

I’m a big believer in “If you’re not happy or satisfied at home, Address why or get out.”

Cheating destroys lives.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't meet anyone that can't invite me to their house.

Problem solved.

I'm sure there are people that can't accommodate for many reasons other than they're attached - but it s the cheaters out.

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over a year ago

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Ask the question before get into deep, or look for signs they might be. If people are honest upfront, it’s easier for each person to make up their own minds whether to meet or not.

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By *xdirtyboyxxMan
over a year ago

chorley

"I don't meet anyone that can't invite me to their house.

Problem solved.

I'm sure there are people that can't accommodate for many reasons other than they're attached - but it s the cheaters out.

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

I’m not single, nor am I cheating I’m 100% open on my profile too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m single ...

but may pretend to be married if it gets someone like the author into a conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask for number and facetime them at 10pm lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It will always be a problem and a lot of men don’t bother reading profiles but I usually state I am looking for a man available on Fri and Sat nights to socialise with for restaurant, cinema and theatre trips. You get a few that can still organise that but it scares away most."

Have you tried an escort agency?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve come across lots of attached women so it’s not always the guys either .. "

Yeah, they forget that!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I’m not sure that most men on here aren’t single. It’s an issue with both men and women but I do see a lot of people own their situation on their profiles or in convos in the forums.

Agreed - peeps, be upfront then I can decide whether I want to proceed.

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman
over a year ago

lancashire

I've had both married men saying they are single and genuine single guys contact me...I still have contact with the single guys...Guys in a relationship No thanks even if they say 'the wife/gf knows I'm on here'...I know it's not just a bloke thing that tell porky pies..Honesty always best!!

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By *quirrelMan
over a year ago

East Manchester

"I don't meet anyone that can't invite me to their house.

Problem solved.

I'm sure there are people that can't accommodate for many reasons other than they're attached - but it s the cheaters out.

That's why I don't get many meets.

I'm married, but separated pending a divorce.

I have my children with me, hence I can't invite anyone over.

And because the kids report everything to mum, she would just love to get my infidelity down on the divorce papers and get a bigger share of our assets.

And my job plays a big part too, i work in telecommunications, I'm on-call 7 days a week because of the bills I have to pay keeping a roof over our heads,so I don't work normal hours.

And since the pandemic closed all the club's and I'm getting older I'm getting to the upper age limit of the majority of couples and single women's choice of partner.

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

This!

I've coined a term "WAG Curfew". Most attached guys can't meet on a Friday or Saturday evening. Not that I'm trying to avoid them (like the OP), it's just my preferred time to socialise...

It does sort the men out from the cheaters...

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

"Married or attached men are fairly easy to spot.

Can't accommodate (sometimes)

Messages usually late at night or possibly around lunchtime.

Can only meet during the day.

Arranges a meet, then goes quiet for a few days.

Offers crap excuses for days not online, not answering messages etc.

If three of these happens, they're attached. "

Good one!

Take note OP, here speaks the voice of experience! Lol

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By *oneyand_ICouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

Dirty little marrieds.

They only message during slimming world or jw club times, lunch breaks or morning poop time.

They can only meet when she visits family or has a convention but cannot pay for hotels.

Or during the day when they pretend to be at work.

Little shits.

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By *hy guy400Man
over a year ago

nottinghamshire

I’m Single, you ladies are more than welcome to message me.... genuine and honest too!! X

Go on ladies, send me a message!! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried an escort agency?

Ha ha - I have never had to resort to an escort agency for sex. I am very selective and like men who are expert, kinky lovers who want to build a relationship to include all of that and some social time together, occasionally - although I am always happy to pay my way socially. I have no interest in co-habiting, getting married or paying a man to feign interest in me. Sex is always better when there is genuine attraction and intellectual compatibility.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This!

I've coined a term "WAG Curfew". Most attached guys can't meet on a Friday or Saturday evening. Not that I'm trying to avoid them (like the OP), it's just my preferred time to socialise...

It does sort the men out from the cheaters..."

Yes - I have no problem with men who are honest about being married, just about liars.

If they can’t be seen in public or fit into my schedule then I’m not interested.

Some men on Fab just want a free whore for fuck and go’s who they can pick up and drop to suit themselves.

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

i figure if they are happy to lie, then i'm outta there

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

If they are happy to lie to their partner imagine what they would be like with us? Men who are cheating are defo a no for me.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

Sadly I guess all we have is trust, and yes, sadly it is broken by so many people who do pretend to be something they are not."

I've just got the txt messages from my ex saying she doesn't want to be with me anymore and can't even be bothered trying to resolve it.

I had to show a couple of people that to prove I'm single

Can't be bothered now though tbh, if after people have chatted to me and met me, they still don't trust me then I don't really want anything to do with them.

Trust is important to me.

To the original point, I'm not sure there is anything you can do at some people are just too good at lieing. You just have to go with your gut.

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

Nobody would think that im marriage material. They are probably right!

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"Sorry to clarify, any way to stop married men who pretend they're not married from contacting me."

You could put NO MARRIED MEN as a header, not in the third out fourth sentence.

Then call their bluff by saying you like them to accommodate - obviously not in reality - but just to gauge their reaction.

I think with the whole lockdown thing going on, people are desperate for communication, even without a chance of a meet, so it might settle once we're clear.

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By *is_a_visMan
over a year ago

Cambridge/ London but often Herts/ East Anglia

"Sorry to clarify, any way to stop married men who pretend they're not married from contacting me.

You could put NO MARRIED MEN as a header, not in the third out fourth sentence.

Then call their bluff by saying you like them to accommodate - obviously not in reality - but just to gauge their reaction.

I think with the whole lockdown thing going on, people are desperate for communication, even without a chance of a meet, so it might settle once we're clear."

Can I just ask why you would use the phrase 'obviously not in reality' when it comes to asking the guy to accommodate?

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

Not sure why anyone would be dishonest on here tbh. It’s all over my profile and some are ok with it and others not. But it takes all sorts

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By *orthEastJohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle Upon Tyne

I'm married and upfront about it a respect a professional that says no attached. Sadly to many people on fab are dishonest, but allso many great people on here. But the most irritating experience I had a married woman, playing away but had an issue with me being attached. Knowing my luck odds are it was a bloke pretending.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Not sure why anyone would be dishonest on here tbh. It’s all over my profile and some are ok with it and others not. But it takes all sorts "

Lots of dishonest people on here cheating. I wonder how they would feel if their spouse was doing the same....?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you like someone and are getting along with them, ask them to video chat at breakfast,dinner time or even in bed. If you know their working hours ask to chat when they won't be at work.

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

"Not sure why anyone would be dishonest on here tbh. It’s all over my profile and some are ok with it and others not. But it takes all sorts

Lots of dishonest people on here cheating. I wonder how they would feel if their spouse was doing the same....? "

They probably are!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I assume everyone here has a partner whether its married,

'its complicated', recurring ex etc as my own situation was far from simple. For the shyer ones, with it not on their profile, it always comes out in messages beforehand if its gone about in a non judgemental fashion, and as above posters say there are always clues that will lead to the answers. I do though also believe guys that say they are single when they are actually single, they just seem to have a way about them that is super keen to make sure you really truly know they are whereas the not single are less vocal on trying to convince you. My experience anyway. I couldn't tell you if a woman was single or not though over messages, they are crafty buggers, but also much more likely to tell you straight out

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

"Not sure why anyone would be dishonest on here tbh. It’s all over my profile and some are ok with it and others not. But it takes all sorts

Lots of dishonest people on here cheating. I wonder how they would feel if their spouse was doing the same....? "

As it’s a free world you are entitled to judge me and others. So please be my guest

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"Sorry to clarify, any way to stop married men who pretend they're not married from contacting me.

You could put NO MARRIED MEN as a header, not in the third out fourth sentence.

Then call their bluff by saying you like them to accommodate - obviously not in reality - but just to gauge their reaction.

I think with the whole lockdown thing going on, people are desperate for communication, even without a chance of a meet, so it might settle once we're clear.

Can I just ask why you would use the phrase 'obviously not in reality' when it comes to asking the guy to accommodate?"

I mean not in the first instance, always best to first meet publicly, in my opinion.

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By *hocCock1Man
over a year ago

Southampton

Bound to be a few bad apples in a barrel, especially a barrell marked NAUGHTY ie Fab

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Not sure why anyone would be dishonest on here tbh. It’s all over my profile and some are ok with it and others not. But it takes all sorts

Lots of dishonest people on here cheating. I wonder how they would feel if their spouse was doing the same....?

As it’s a free world you are entitled to judge me and others. So please be my guest

Ha ha I only asked a question as I am intrigued how they would feel.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

When lockdown ends and it's safe from a health point of view, ask if you can meet them for a coffee on a Saturday or Sunday lunchtime. Ideally in their home town. Maybe ask them on a Thursday or Friday! If yes, and all goes well, then you might be sure they are single!

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By *RD2020Man
over a year ago

Stirling

Maybe these married guys identify as single,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They won't let you remember.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"When lockdown ends and it's safe from a health point of view, ask if you can meet them for a coffee on a Saturday or Sunday lunchtime. Ideally in their home town. Maybe ask them on a Thursday or Friday! If yes, and all goes well, then you might be sure they are single!"

I’m going to do just that....good idea.

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By *aulupforitMan
over a year ago

Corbridge

Most I would assume would be devastated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put on your profile that you are happy to meet attached or married men as long as they tell you in their first message.

If you say you won't meet xyz they will just lie about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As per an earlier post. It's safer to assume everyone has a partner and just ask them to be honest from the start. Act impartial but use that truth weather you want to progress it or not.

That's what I have done. I did meet 2 married women here that were listed as single but I had the truth beforehand to make my own decisions.

Happy fabbing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe these married guys identify as single,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many married men are able to pop out for coffee at the weekend in the day - however it won’t be in their home town as many on Fab don’t tell you their actual town (for obvious security reasons I have no problem with that).

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

Is it a reasonable assumption that if you are on here as a solo male or female that you are in fact what the masses would consider ‘single’?

This isn’t like ‘dating’ sites where you explicitly state that you are single, it’s complicated, in w relationship, divorced etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just love that someone called themselves: Mary fucking poppins. Made my day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am married and I’m upfront about it x if anyone’s interested hola at me xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

% wise there will be as many married women cheating as there will be men ...men get the rought end of the stick because of there numbers.... men and women cheat ....not just men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best to be honest in this lifestyle, if married with permission then they should be fine with confirmation from their wife via phone

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Is it a reasonable assumption that if you are on here as a solo male or female that you are in fact what the masses would consider ‘single’?

This isn’t like ‘dating’ sites where you explicitly state that you are single, it’s complicated, in w relationship, divorced etc. "

This is a swingers site. Are married cheating men swingers? I think not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I want to say I dont have a problem with married men or anyone in a relationship on here. As most men in the answers have said, just be upfront about it "

I have it on my profile as it saves wasting people’s time, including my own. I don’t see the point in pretending otherwise.

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

"% wise there will be as many married women cheating as there will be men ...men get the rought end of the stick because of there numbers.... men and women cheat ....not just men"

I don't think anyone is denying that .

The OP is a woman and posting from her perspective.

If I was looking to meet women, I wouldn't knowingly meet married one either

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I am married and I’m upfront about it x if anyone’s interested hola at me xx

I don’t think this thread was about advertising yourself.....

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

"Is it a reasonable assumption that if you are on here as a solo male or female that you are in fact what the masses would consider ‘single’?

This isn’t like ‘dating’ sites where you explicitly state that you are single, it’s complicated, in w relationship, divorced etc.

This is a swingers site. Are married cheating men swingers? I think not."

Ok..... If a single man and a single woman meet on a swingers site and have sex, are they swinging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it a reasonable assumption that if you are on here as a solo male or female that you are in fact what the masses would consider ‘single’?

This isn’t like ‘dating’ sites where you explicitly state that you are single, it’s complicated, in w relationship, divorced etc.

This is a swingers site. Are married cheating men swingers? I think not.

Ok..... If a single man and a single woman meet on a swingers site and have sex, are they swinging? "

Half the people on here aren’t swingers. It was perhaps a swingers site originally. I’m the furthest away from a swinger you can get and I’m here

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"Is it a reasonable assumption that if you are on here as a solo male or female that you are in fact what the masses would consider ‘single’?

This isn’t like ‘dating’ sites where you explicitly state that you are single, it’s complicated, in w relationship, divorced etc.

This is a swingers site. Are married cheating men swingers? I think not.

Ok..... If a single man and a single woman meet on a swingers site and have sex, are they swinging? "
no but neither are cpls who only meet single fems.

Swinging I'd say is about willingness to spend a period of time with multiple folk and partake in sexual encounters when you feel like it.

Even that doesn't cover it.

I view myself as a freespirit not a swinger

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.

Just pop on your profile that if he is married that you will give them the FULL bunny boiler treatment going to their house, work, his mother in law, the papers and television..... etc. The sun pay £200 for a story and you will put in that he wore women’s underwear and likes to be called Daisy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've had this happen so many times. So we always say a phone call between the 2 ladies early on and it's amazing how many job and child care issues come up.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"We've had this happen so many times. So we always say a phone call between the 2 ladies early on and it's amazing how many job and child care issues come up. "
maybe not understanding the ops issue lol its about cheating hubby's pretending to be single

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Is it a reasonable assumption that if you are on here as a solo male or female that you are in fact what the masses would consider ‘single’?

This isn’t like ‘dating’ sites where you explicitly state that you are single, it’s complicated, in w relationship, divorced etc.

This is a swingers site. Are married cheating men swingers? I think not.

Ok..... If a single man and a single woman meet on a swingers site and have sex, are they swinging? "

You answered my question with another question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I guess anyone can find a way round anything OP, a bit like the lockdown veri you posted in your profile text!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I guess anyone can find a way round anything OP, a bit like the lockdown veri you posted in your profile text! "

Oh! Meeeaaaooowww!

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By *lthomasMan
over a year ago

Wolves

my profile states I'm married right near the top. No subterfuge from me.

When I read on a profile "no attached or married" I never contact them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well I guess anyone can find a way round anything OP, a bit like the lockdown veri you posted in your profile text! "

Did you read what it says?

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"Well I guess anyone can find a way round anything OP, a bit like the lockdown veri you posted in your profile text! "

There is nothing at all wrong with doing that either. The veri says they met a long time ago. We don't see a problem in her profile text.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am married and I’m upfront about it x if anyone’s interested hola at me xx

I don’t think this thread was about advertising yourself....."

Certainly not! However, I already did... apologies for all offended!

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By *evonshireboyMan
over a year ago

North Devon

Why does anyone care?

I thought the idea of this site was to create sexual relationships, not to find life partners. If you want that, eHarmony is thataway

I'm not here to police people's relationships, that's up to the people I meet and their partners/husband/boyfriend to sort out

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"Why does anyone care?

I thought the idea of this site was to create sexual relationships, not to find life partners. If you want that, eHarmony is thataway

I'm not here to police people's relationships, that's up to the people I meet and their partners/husband/boyfriend to sort out"

Some people do use this site to find life partners. This site can be used for many different reasons. Many couples have met each other on here.

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"Why does anyone care?

I thought the idea of this site was to create sexual relationships, not to find life partners. If you want that, eHarmony is thataway

I'm not here to police people's relationships, that's up to the people I meet and their partners/husband/boyfriend to sort out"

We care very much how our actions affect other people - we wouldn't want to be part of something that will almost certainly end up splitting a family into pieces - with often the children involved fairing the worst.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Why does anyone care?

I thought the idea of this site was to create sexual relationships, not to find life partners. If you want that, eHarmony is thataway

I'm not here to police people's relationships, that's up to the people I meet and their partners/husband/boyfriend to sort out"

That’s a bit of a strange attitude. I would very much be bothered if an angry wife came at me or stalked me because I had been near her husband who hadn’t ‘sorted’ out his marriage. Married cheats are too much drama, that’s both genders.

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.

Even the craziest sex hook ups are built on a bit of trust. If you have to spin a web of lies to get your leg over then you are not up to much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I make my relationship status very clear on my profile. What others make of that is not my business.

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