FabSwingers.com forum: PTSD and sex

By *RST OP Couple
over a year ago

S. Northants

I've lost count how many times I've written this and not posted it.

I know saying this will automatically put us in people's not list rather than hot list. But, I have PTSD. I won't go into the details of how or why, as honestly, nobody here needs to know.

Since I've had it Sex has become a sort of a therapy for me, more the extra sex (we still have a great sex life at home together). I'm not saying I become Jekyll without it, far from it. I'm still the nice approachable gent with or without. But it does properly chill me out and helps me stay grounded. Even to a degree the forums can help me.

Has anyone else experienced this?

Be nice. Stay safe.

DR x

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"I've lost count how many times I've written this and not posted it.

I know saying this will automatically put us in people's not list rather than hot list. But, I have PTSD. I won't go into the details of how or why, as honestly, nobody here needs to know.

Has anyone else experienced this?

Be nice. Stay safe.

DR x"
is it the sex that's chilling you out or is it the calming of the mind that interactions bring?

Nobody should hold it against you unfortunately ptsd is real and minifests in many forms I ask as for me it's anything to still the mind and stop the compulsive thoughts early

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By *RST OP Couple
over a year ago

S. Northants

I understand people may not wish to post in here, so you are more than welcome to message privately.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

Manifests

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By *RST OP Couple
over a year ago

S. Northants

"I've lost count how many times I've written this and not posted it.

I know saying this will automatically put us in people's not list rather than hot list. But, I have PTSD. I won't go into the details of how or why, as honestly, nobody here needs to know.

Has anyone else experienced this?

Be nice. Stay safe.

DR xis it the sex that's chilling you out or is it the calming of the mind that interactions bring?

Nobody should hold it against you unfortunately ptsd is real and minifests in many forms I ask as for me it's anything to still the mind and stop the compulsive thoughts early"

It seems to definitely be the sex for me. Caring affection/attention from someone is nice, but it's the sex that chills me.

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By *loxMan
over a year ago

fawdon

What’s PTSD?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine is the opposite.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"What’s PTSD?"
post traumatic stress syndrome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

"What’s PTSD?"

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

A nasty illness that a lot of people get through experiencing something traumatic.

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

I don’t have a PTSD and really sorry to hear that you have this struggle in life but I remember times that I was feeling very very very down and it really helped me to lift up my spirit. That’s actually the reason how I decided to start swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had PTSD following a serious car accident and would experience anxiety around different situations, I agree sex is a good way to sooth and relax the mind, the endorphines released by sex is very therapeutic, I also find running on rough tracks, hills to be just as soothing. I am thankfully recovered and have very few anxiety attacks now, I wish you well and hope you recover xx

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Have you looked into EFT?

It sounds ridiculous but they are using it in Walter Reed for the military with severe PTSD.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

If it works for you use it be careful it doesn't up up causing deeper seated issues further down the line though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What’s PTSD?"

It's something that you have experienced that can make you feel very anxious and other negative emotions.

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By *exySquirrelsCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I've lost count how many times I've written this and not posted it.

I know saying this will automatically put us in people's not list rather than hot list. But, I have PTSD. I won't go into the details of how or why, as honestly, nobody here needs to know.

Has anyone else experienced this?

Be nice. Stay safe.

DR x"

Yes. Exactly this. V has PTSD and when she’s feeling at her worst sex really helps her. But only sex with R when she’s triggered.

She says it feels ‘grounding’ if that makes sense? Like the anxiety and panic of when she’s triggered can be soothed with sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

PTSD = Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is a mental disorder that can develop after a person is exposed to a traumatic event, such as sexual assault, warfare, traffic collisions, child abuse, or other threats on a person's life. Symptoms may include disturbing thoughts, feelings, or dreams related to the events, mental or physical distress to trauma-related cues, attempts to avoid trauma-related cues, alterations in how a person thinks and feels, and an increase in the fight-or-flight response. A person with PTSD is at a higher risk of suicide and intentional self-harm.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"Have you looked into EFT?

It sounds ridiculous but they are using it in Walter Reed for the military with severe PTSD."
I think this requires a belief was in a program with it at Headley Court it only made me laugh as I obviously don't believe in the system cognative therapy is another one that for me couldn't work i made my own breakthroughs but at least these treatments allowed me to see the top of the cliff before falling off it

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By *RST OP Couple
over a year ago

S. Northants

"If it works for you use it be careful it doesn't up up causing deeper seated issues further down the line though "

Fortunately for me mine is not related to any form of sexual history or anything along those lines, so that shouldn't be an issue for me. There's nothing in my past negative related to sex (thankfully!

) so hopefully nothing that will/can stir up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"IBut, I have PTSD. I won't go into the details of how or why, as honestly, nobody here needs to know."

Regardless of the source, it is worthwhile to investigate this with a counsellor / therapist to work towards a solution for you. While having it soothed by sex sounds great, the realities of PTSD can be extremely serious and have a huge impact on your life and your ability to function. It is something that in almost all cases can be treated, or at the very least reduced and managed.

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By *RST OP Couple
over a year ago

S. Northants

"I've lost count how many times I've written this and not posted it.

I know saying this will automatically put us in people's not list rather than hot list. But, I have PTSD. I won't go into the details of how or why, as honestly, nobody here needs to know.

Has anyone else experienced this?

Be nice. Stay safe.

DR x

Yes. Exactly this. V has PTSD and when she’s feeling at her worst sex really helps her. But only sex with R when she’s triggered.

She says it feels ‘grounding’ if that makes sense? Like the anxiety and panic of when she’s triggered can be soothed with sex. "

I defintely get that grounding feeling. For me Sex with ST is good for this, but as she's pregnant at the moment it's not as rough as I've found gives the best release.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"If it works for you use it be careful it doesn't up up causing deeper seated issues further down the line though

) so hopefully nothing that will/can stir up. "
I was meaning more the addiction side of it and the then need to feed that compulsion

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By *RST OP Couple
over a year ago

S. Northants

"Have you looked into EFT?

It sounds ridiculous but they are using it in Walter Reed for the military with severe PTSD."

Not heard of EFT. What's that one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great op to open up..

I have c-ptsd..(complex), I found going to clubs helped me.. freedom , relaxing and well ....everything a club has to offer.

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By *RST OP Couple
over a year ago

S. Northants

"If it works for you use it be careful it doesn't up up causing deeper seated issues further down the line though

) so hopefully nothing that will/can stir up. I was meaning more the addiction side of it and the then need to feed that compulsion"

Ah got you.

see what you mean.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you looked into EFT?

It sounds ridiculous but they are using it in Walter Reed for the military with severe PTSD.

Not heard of EFT. What's that one? "

Tried tapping helps alittle..

Emdr helped me.

Look up asmr

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By *RST OP Couple
over a year ago

S. Northants

"Great op to open up..

I have c-ptsd..(complex), I found going to clubs helped me.. freedom , relaxing and well ....everything a club has to offer."

Clubs were on our to-do list for 2020, obviously that didn't happen.

Did you find that there was no pressure to mask things there? I mean, everyone is there for a common purpose you can just be you.

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By *RST OP Couple
over a year ago

S. Northants

"Have you looked into EFT?

It sounds ridiculous but they are using it in Walter Reed for the military with severe PTSD.

Not heard of EFT. What's that one?

Tried tapping helps alittle..

Emdr helped me.

Look up asmr"

I've tried the tapping, found myself more likely to start beating a drum section than relaxing.

I've done CBT and EMDR, although they both helped me to a degree deal with the incident it's the other effects that still get to me. I'm happy with the incident now.

Will look into ASMR a little more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've lost count how many times I've written this and not posted it.

I know saying this will automatically put us in people's not list rather than hot list. But, I have PTSD. I won't go into the details of how or why, as honestly, nobody here needs to know.

Has anyone else experienced this?

Be nice. Stay safe.

DR x"

It makes sense on many levels, its a safe place to release tension, to explore and forget the outside world. For that Period of time all else falls away as you absorb yourself in play. A few others i speak with refer to their sexual escapades as their “safe place” escapism, something that fills a void for a short while. Trauma has odd ways of manifesting and we all cope in our own way.

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By *RST OP Couple
over a year ago

S. Northants

"I've lost count how many times I've written this and not posted it.

I know saying this will automatically put us in people's not list rather than hot list. But, I have PTSD. I won't go into the details of how or why, as honestly, nobody here needs to know.

Has anyone else experienced this?

Be nice. Stay safe.

DR x

It's defintely an escape. That's why I spent so much time in the forums last year. Doesn't quite give the escape that the physical sex does, but it certainly helped me think outside of the real world.

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By *exySquirrelsCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I've lost count how many times I've written this and not posted it.

I know saying this will automatically put us in people's not list rather than hot list. But, I have PTSD. I won't go into the details of how or why, as honestly, nobody here needs to know.

Has anyone else experienced this?

Be nice. Stay safe.

DR x

Yes. Exactly this. V has PTSD and when she’s feeling at her worst sex really helps her. But only sex with R when she’s triggered.

She says it feels ‘grounding’ if that makes sense? Like the anxiety and panic of when she’s triggered can be soothed with sex.

I defintely get that grounding feeling. For me Sex with ST is good for this, but as she's pregnant at the moment it's not as rough as I've found gives the best release. "

Absolutely the same for V. If she’s really triggered, a good hard fuck is better than anything else to bring her back to herself. She feels calmer and the PTSD induced overthinking stops.

She had EMDR therapy and CBT which was great as the PTSD is from a very traumatic car crash. She can drive again no worries but very occasion the anxiety around loss of control is triggered. Her therapist told her when that happens to find a place she feels safe and that happens to be sex with R.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"Have you looked into EFT?

It sounds ridiculous but they are using it in Walter Reed for the military with severe PTSD.

Not heard of EFT. What's that one?

Tried tapping helps alittle..

Emdr helped me.

Look up asmr

I've tried the tapping, found myself more likely to start beating a drum section than relaxing.

I've done CBT and EMDR, although they both helped me to a degree deal with the incident it's the other effects that still get to me. I'm happy with the incident now.

Will look into ASMR a little more. "

EFT is tapping yes. Glad you got some relief. Anxiety and PTSD are beasts to handle. My anxiety is sky high after a miserable Christmas and all this covid business. I am sure there are many in the same boat.

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By *RST OP Couple
over a year ago

S. Northants

Ah OK, I didn't realise the tapping was EFT.

I never really got the hang of it. I'd start off fine, but suddenly is find I was tapping along to Bo Rhap or something.

Unfortunately my CBT and EMDR have all been done via online video calls rather than face to face, so maybe I've missed the focus points on this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you looked into EFT?

It sounds ridiculous but they are using it in Walter Reed for the military with severe PTSD."

This treatment has been a game changer for a friend, its now fairly widely available so that good.

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