FabSwingers.com forum: People don’t like foreigners

By *lox OP Man
over a year ago

fawdon

Happen more than one time I been just ignored only because I’m not from uk...

That’s sad...

Anybody had the same?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't had this experience, obviously because I'm from the UK. I just wanted to say I'm sorry you've experienced this, not everyone feels that way

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By *aysOfOurLivesCouple
over a year ago

Essex

"Happen more than one time I been just ignored only because I’m not from uk...

That’s sad...

Anybody had the same?"

Oops, looks like your being ignored in this post too

*shouldn’t laugh really*

I really wouldn’t think that’s the reason. Danvers are generally a lot more accepting of people than most other environments. Being foreign is not really a big concern for most I’m sure.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

Sorry youve had this happen to you OP.

I wouldn't ever ignore someone depending on where they were from as I find that quite abhorrent behaviour.

I would hope that this is an isolated incident for you and a good indicator that those who do treat you this way are best avoided anyway.

There are plenty of really lovely folk who would be more than happy to get to know you and in some cases, because you're from another country too

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

"I haven't had this experience, obviously because I'm from the UK. I just wanted to say I'm sorry you've experienced this, not everyone feels that way

I can't say that has been my experience , but of course I'll always be a "foreigner" , no matter how long I have been here.

Sorry your experience hasn't been as positive as mine

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By * AND R 777Couple
over a year ago

Teesside

How do you know why people are ignoring you, it could be for eny reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think any form of racism is abhorrent and it is not acceptable in this day and age. I understand people have preferences and I do not want to get into the preferences/racism argument.

I have to ask, If they have ignored you then how do you know it is because of your nationality?

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By *aysOfOurLivesCouple
over a year ago

Essex

I’ve just read your profile and would never ave thought you weren’t from the Uk. What leads you to think it’s a ‘foreign’ thing? ...it might be a ‘Morpeth’ thing

*oh I should really stop make light.

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By *lox OP Man
over a year ago

fawdon

I’m impressed about the answers you are so right and beautiful people!

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater

"Happen more than one time I been just ignored only because I’m not from uk...

That’s sad...

Anybody had the same?"
sorry to hear about your experience so far , but it got nothing do with where you come from, most English man get ignored to

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By *ilfCrumpet9Man
over a year ago

Wirral

Not really true mate maybe a very small minority but the bulk of folk don't have issues with it. At the end of the day we are all the same, red blood smelly shit so no one can take the higher moral ground.

Now if you mean on this site well mate we are all different we have our choices, likes, dislikes who we chose to get in bed with who we like but I wouldn't put that down to the fact that you are a foreigner. It's a preference thing and this has already been discussed in the past.

We all have qualities in our own rights and choices we are allowed to make. So don't take it personally good thing's come to those who wait patiently.

Just my view guys not aimed at anyone directly and not meant to offend anyone at all.

Take care stay safe and keep fabbing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’re more than likely being ignored because of your under crackers more than your nationality to be honest op but best of luck and chin up eh!!!

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Happen more than one time I been just ignored only because I’m not from uk...

That’s sad...

Anybody had the same?"

Not good if that is the case but looking at your profile it doesn't indicate where you originate from do when is this ignoring taking place?

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

"I’ve just read your profile and would never ave thought you weren’t from the Uk. What leads you to think it’s a ‘foreign’ thing? ...it might be a ‘Morpeth’ thing

*oh I should really stop make light. "

That was going to be my question; how do people know? Also, if they don't respond to you, how do you know that it's because your not from the UK? Single men get ignored on Fab usually because single women and couples get overwhelmed with messages.

Just stick with it OP, you'll kind someone given time. Covid isn't helping thing either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it difficult to argue that 'i wanna know what love is'...is a terrible song.

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By *lox OP Man
over a year ago

fawdon

Maybe I’m wrong...

Every person is different there are people that prefer have fabbi with just local people and other excited to meet people not from uk..

I’m happy to be Italian and I’m excited to meet English people!!

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By *omSnowMan
over a year ago

Woking

"Happen more than one time I been just ignored only because I’m not from uk...

That’s sad...

Anybody had the same?"
..There will always be people who don't answer mails, it is something you will have to accept or it will make you a whinger.

Why not try in your mail something about yourself, a little humour maybe, and then something about what they are after, making sure you match their profile is a way of hopefully getting an answer back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Site is all about couples and females etc, you are probably being ignored because you are a man along with the other thousands of male message senders, it is not race related!

Enjoy Fabbing and chill, well that is what I do!

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

I think it's too easy these days for people to use the race card. Racism is fastly becoming an outdated train of thought for the vast majority. I'd hazard a guess and as others have clearly stated, the competition on here for men is fierce and you feeling ignored is probably down to this. Good luck fella

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By *uck-RogersMan
over a year ago

Oakhill

I'm 66 years old. I went to the doctors and said to her. ''Doctor, People seem to be treating me like a pair of curtains, and ignoring me.

What was her reply. ''Pull yourself together. Next please''

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op, if anything you have a positive advantage over most guys on here by being Italian, as there are lots of women who love an accent. Say it loud and proud on your profile, and perhaps post a short video of you talking so they can hear your voice.

Good luck!

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

"I'm 66 years old. I went to the doctors and said to her. ''Doctor, People seem to be treating me like a pair of curtains, and ignoring me.

What was her reply. ''Pull yourself together. Next please'' "

The old Xmas cracker jokes are great aren't they

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did they say they weren’t interested because you weren’t from the UK?

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

"Op, if anything you have a positive advantage over most guys on here by being Italian, as there are lots of women who love an accent. Say it loud and proud on your profile, and perhaps post a short video of you talking so they can hear your voice.

Good luck!"

Hang about..... I've got a Rochdale accent.,,, does that count?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im from the UK,and I find that 90%+ of the people I mesaage on here don't reply to me. To be honest, I'm 99% sure its not because of where your from and more the fact your not their type. Thats just how it is on here, and to automatically assume its because people are racist is wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck!

Hang about..... I've got a Rochdale accent.,,, does that count?

I'm 4 miles away from you, I get ignored all the time

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

Of course, someone posts about their experience of xenophobia and people start lining up to tell them they're wrong about their own experiences

Could not be more typical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plus there is a killer virus sweeping the planet so maybe........

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I haven't, but I tend to get backhand compliment stuff over my nationality. I well believe it happens, OP, as well as any other factor.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Happen more than one time I been just ignored only because I’m not from uk...

That’s sad...

Anybody had the same?"

Yep, an Englishman abroad, happened in the usa, and spain, ignorant people who arn't worth thinking about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of course, someone posts about their experience of xenophobia and people start lining up to tell them they're wrong about their own experiences

Could not be more typical. "

His profile doesn’t even mention his nationality so that can’t be the reason for not getting replies, and it’s hardly unusual for single men to get ignored.

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By *reatformeatWoman
over a year ago

my own bubble

"Happen more than one time I been just ignored only because I’m not from uk...

That’s sad...

Anybody had the same?"

That’s just the forums hun

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

I'm English and get ignored myself sometimes so wouldn't take it personally, it's just the case for single guys as women and couples get lots of messages daily

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Happen more than one time I been just ignored only because I’m not from uk...

That’s sad...

Anybody had the same?

That’s just the forums hun "

Great ass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I were you, OP, I would put in my profile that I was Italian. A lot of "sexiest accent" threads I've seen have had posters say they find Italian accents sexy. Other than that, you're just another single guy amongst thousands.

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By *iss KissWoman
over a year ago

near Coventry

I'm going to ignore you, based purely on your picture. Socks with pants... NO!!!. Haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t worry mate, my Mrs is not from the UK and I ignore her as well

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By *rincess PhoenixWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Put on your profile that you're Italian as a lot of women are suckers for an accent! I once had an Italian man whisper in my ear in Italian during sex and it was such a turn on, he could've been saying anything to be honest as I don't speak the language but it was incredibly sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No. I have the opposite.

I think i get more interest once people find out im not from Uk.

I came here from Norway 20 years ago.

Always found people welcoming

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By *bwlookingforfunWoman
over a year ago

crawley

It goes other way for me. When I tell people where I am from they go straight away for "oh, I want to tick that box" and that's equally annoying.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"It goes other way for me. When I tell people where I am from they go straight away for "oh, I want to tick that box" and that's equally annoying. "

I hate it sooo much

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Of course, someone posts about their experience of xenophobia and people start lining up to tell them they're wrong about their own experiences

Could not be more typical. "

Pretty much every post on here is helpful and supportive of the op and done in good humour. Apart from yours.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I've lived in several countries and I'd be thoughtful and considerate about others who may feel excluded.

That said, on fab single men will typically be excluded/ignored very frequently, due to people wanting and being able to get full matches to the type of man that they are looking for. I don't think OP's post was about this but his experiences here may exacerbate his sense of exclusion elsewhere.

During tough, stressful times people also tend to close down and increasingly exclude others. Our covid situation is probably adding to your experience OP.

Find some decent people, to help to keep you grounded op - there are plenty of us here.

Hope things improve for you!

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By *konCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

That’s a sweeping generalization !

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I rarely read messages.

I've been called racist for not reading messaging even though I state quite clearly I ain't gonna read them so no point in sending them.

People use whatever "ism" or "phobe" that fits their agenda as sometimes it's easier to find a reason for rejection that tars the other person as rude or phobic than it is to simply accept they ain't interested.

I have ignored people because I'm wiping my arse and don't wanna get mixed up and use my phone instead of toilet roll.

I've ignored people because something good came on the telly and distracted me.

I've ignored people because work phoned.

I've ignored people because I've fallen asleep.

I've ignored people because I don't like the way they've spoken to me.

There are so so many reasons, and I'm willing to bet it will only be a minority that ignore you for being Italian.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I have the opposite.

I think i get more interest once people find out im not from Uk.

I came here from Norway 20 years ago.

Always found people welcoming "

Trust me when I say it’s got nothing to do with where the op comes from but more to do with the way he approaches fab!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think it’s a case of “people don’t like foreigners”.

I think it’s more like people can’t connect quite so well with someone from elsewhere that may speak another language, not speak English perfectly, have a different culture and therefore different interests/sense of humour etc. I wouldn’t brag yourself up over it though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are ignored, how do you know the reason? I'm constantly ignored and it's a complete mystery to me because I'm lovely..

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I fpubt very much it is anything to do with you being foreign OP. There are literally thousands of men on here, that is part of your problem. Good luck. X

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Of course, someone posts about their experience of xenophobia and people start lining up to tell them they're wrong about their own experiences

Could not be more typical. "

Of course they do because xenophobia can be a conclusion somebody comes to incorrectly, just as it can also be a the correct conclusion.

Just because somebody feels they have been treated with xenophobia does not mean that they have. Just as somebody who insults somebody can feel like they didn't say anything wrong, when they did.

The OP is wrong in that unless he was told directly that is the reason he was ignored, it is nothing more than an assumption. Is it possible that he has been ignored because he is not originally from the UK? Yes entirely possible, but it is just as possible that it is not the reason he was ignored.

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By *rightonfranceMan
over a year ago

brighton - chalais france

I'm a Brit living in France, does that make me Johnny Foreigner???

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"Happen more than one time I been just ignored only because I’m not from uk...

That’s sad...

Anybody had the same?"

Rubbish. If they ignore you then how do you know this is the reason. You are making false assumptions.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Of course, someone posts about their experience of xenophobia and people start lining up to tell them they're wrong about their own experiences

Could not be more typical.

Of course they do because xenophobia can be a conclusion somebody comes to incorrectly, just as it can also be a the correct conclusion.

Just because somebody feels they have been treated with xenophobia does not mean that they have. Just as somebody who insults somebody can feel like they didn't say anything wrong, when they did.

Exactly.

The maths doesn't work though.

You can't know unless you've been told, and you can't have been told if you HAVE been ignored.

Unless the OP worded it wrong and meant bypassed/disregarded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Happen more than one time I been just ignored only because I’m not from uk...

That’s sad...

Anybody had the same?"

How do you know you've been ignored because you're not from the UK?

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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"I think it's too easy these days for people to use the race card. Racism is fastly becoming an outdated train of thought for the vast majority. I'd hazard a guess and as others have clearly stated, the competition on here for men is fierce and you feeling ignored is probably down to this. Good luck fella

This plus the amount of profiles requesting BBC would indicate quite the opposite, but positive discrimination is still racism ...

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I don't mind where someone's from. As long as we can chat and have something in common, I'm happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Happen more than one time I been just ignored only because I’m not from uk...

That’s sad...

Anybody had the same?"

Did they say that or is it your guess?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some off my best meets are from people who didn’t aren’t originally from the uk

Couple off years ago use to meet this wonderful polish couple and they couldn’t have been any nicer absolutely wonderful couple

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By *inkywife1981Couple
over a year ago

A town near you

From my experience of England most people are friendly, sure in most big cities and towns lots of people are second generation something or other, just look at your best boxers. Teo of my favourite boxers now retired Joe Calzaghe and Carl Froch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No. I have the opposite.

I think i get more interest once people find out im not from Uk.

I came here from Norway 20 years ago.

Always found people welcoming

Trust me when I say it’s got nothing to do with where the op comes from but more to do with the way he approaches fab!!!!!

Oooo this has got my Spidey senses tingling

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