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By *lim and louise OP   Couple
over a year ago

dromore

We have noticed over the last few weeks,we've had a lot of people's profiles looking at us but they do meet smokers,where it clearly says on ours that we both smoke,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

We do, but we think boys don’t as they always send us peens!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have noticed over the last few weeks,we've had a lot of people's profiles looking at us but they do meet smokers,where it clearly says on ours that we both smoke,"

We had loads that do not read the profiles. We will not meet youngsters but still have them contacting/looking at us. We altered our age setting to prevent this now. Not many read the profiles competely we found.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some do, most don't.

Some read them and only see what they want to see. We got criticism yesterday for not being clear about our sexuality even though it's clear in profile.

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By *ord PrefectMan
over a year ago

Hinckley area

Half the fun is to read a profile fully.. mostly I don't fit into a potential meet but I love a good read and tend to think that a build up through messaging where both parties are leaving messages that enable the other to bounce off replies are rare but a welcome treat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First place I look is the 'meet smokers' bit, if it says no then I dont even bother with the pictures or bio, just move myself along.

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

I steal jokes from profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think many do, as mine says I will not give out my phone number or have any messagesing apps, but I get loads of messages asking if I have Kik, WhatsApp.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do unfortunately 99% of the people that message me dont bother

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile is deliberately shit to reduce the messages I get.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

Don’t you need to look at peoples profiles first to see what there likes and dislikes are ?.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea


"My profile is deliberately shit to reduce the messages I get.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Yes i always read profiles. I dont care how good looking someone is if they havent got a decent profile im not interested in them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My profile is deliberately shit to reduce the messages I get.

"

I'm tempted just to put in the bio

"Fuck off"

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By *arriLadMan
over a year ago

North West

Mine clearly says not meeting but iv had 6 offers today to "drain me of every drop" and such, Not even a hey how you doing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup I do. I think those of us who come and use the forums are the ones that do.

Sometimes the pictures catch my eye but the profile itself is a bit off putting.

I did have a well thought out profile text but took it off as it really did not seem to make and difference.

Maybe I'll get round to a bit of a revamp 1 day

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I've been informed on many occasions that it's a sex site, not school, therefore reading isn't required.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I always read a profile pre messaging, kinda good manners I feel

And if I decide to message I tend to re read it to make sure I'm not missing something integral

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

Lots of people will be thankful I read their profiles or otherwise I'd have sent them a picture of a massive male chicken!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always read the profiles. If i dont meet their requirements i never send a message. The only occasional messages i get are from people who want to meet straight away. No chatting, not even asking for face pics.

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By *rincessPussycatTV/TS
over a year ago

a world of her own

"smokers" though is one of those options that lack subtlety.

I mean "won't meet smokers", does that mean it's alright as long as I don't smoke in their company?

I take these details with a pinch of salt myself (or should that be snuff).

For me the important thing is if somebody can be arsed to read a profile properly and address these potential differences when messaging, if not in the first message then at least while chatting. It separates out the "any hole's a goal" crew I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have noticed over the last few weeks,we've had a lot of people's profiles looking at us but they do meet smokers,where it clearly says on ours that we both smoke,"

They need to look at your profile to see that you are smokers. I assume that they then move happily along?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine clearly says not meeting but iv had 6 offers today to "drain me of every drop" and such, Not even a hey how you doing

"
nothing wrong with cutting to the Chase in normal times that is

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By *eard-lincolnMan
over a year ago

near lincoln

I read profiles but can’t say I check smokers/non smokers bit. But probably as I don’t smoke but don’t care if people do.

Maybe put it on your actual profile bit if it’s a big thing for you. As you only have a couple of lines any way

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"We have noticed over the last few weeks,we've had a lot of people's profiles looking at us but they do meet smokers,where it clearly says on ours that we both smoke,"

There's a lot that puzzles me about this question.

Are they contacting you or just looking? If they are just looking then how do you know they aren't reading your profile? Maybe they do read it, find out you are smokers, and then don't contact you for exactly that reason.

If you have looked at their profile and that's how you find out they won't meet smokers, could they not be equally puzzled why you (smokers) are looking at the profile of somebody who won't meet smokers?

And if they don't contact you, why does it matter that they looked at your profile anyway?

Or are you saying that they do contact you? That's different from what you describe.

Confused of Tunbridge Wells.

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By *arriLadMan
over a year ago

North West


"Mine clearly says not meeting but iv had 6 offers today to "drain me of every drop" and such, Not even a hey how you doing

nothing wrong with cutting to the Chase in normal times that is"

4 were blokes so even in normal times I'd wouldn't of been meeting haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I absolutely read all profiles.

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

Forum readers often look at the profiles of people who contributed a post. It does not mean they are going to meet them OP .Similarly people look at who is nearby or who is on line or who posted a photo out of interest and not because they are looking to meet the profile person who may not even match their own requirements . And of course the people looking with stealth mode activated are not even seen by you.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts


"We have noticed over the last few weeks,we've had a lot of people's profiles looking at us but they do meet smokers,where it clearly says on ours that we both smoke,"

Perhaps there isn't an option that says:

'I'm not keen on meeting people who smoke, but if they're hot we can overlook it, because it's not likely they'll both light up part way through and expect us to hold the ashtrays for them'

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By *rhugesMan
over a year ago

Cardiff


"We do, but we think boys don’t as they always send us peens! "

What are peens?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've read everyone's this week, been so bored haha

Read some right pearlers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read all profiles just because I dont want to waste anyones time

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

It's clear in my profile what I'm looking for and that I really dislike pet names ie. "Babe". If I had a pound for every message I get saying "hey babes" or "what you looking for" I'd be a very rich person!

So No. Some people do not read profiles

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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I'd say most of the people who send messages don't read a profile before sending the message, I hardly read them myself I just perv the pictures

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

We always do. It makes sense to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most people do read profiles. I get loaaads of views but 99% of them don't mail me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine clearly says not meeting but iv had 6 offers today to "drain me of every drop" and such, Not even a hey how you doing

nothing wrong with cutting to the Chase in normal times that is

4 were blokes so even in normal times I'd wouldn't of been meeting haha "
aww lol blame your cute butt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most people do read profiles. I get loaaads of views but 99% of them don't mail me. "

I'm not fluent in _______________________________________

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By *inamicMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

I make it a point to read every profile, usually can find a good conversation starter within a profile. Rather than just a hello lol. Plus a good way to let them know that you've actually read it aswell. Also tells you whether ur actually what they're looking for, so not wasting both ur times when messaging

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By *lasphemouscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

I think a lot do, but you'll always get chancers lol

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"We have noticed over the last few weeks,we've had a lot of people's profiles looking at us but they do meet smokers,where it clearly says on ours that we both smoke,"

You're a perfect match if they do meet smokers and you both smoke.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a lot of:

‘I know it says you don’t like ‘such and such’ on your profile, but thought I’d try anyway...

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By *rincessPussycatTV/TS
over a year ago

a world of her own


"Get a lot of:

‘I know it says you don’t like ‘such and such’ on your profile, but thought I’d try anyway...

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It's the ones that literally say "such and such" that get my goat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get a lot of:

‘I know it says you don’t like ‘such and such’ on your profile, but thought I’d try anyway...

"

This!! Almost every message starts like this, majority don’t get read, if they start like this it gets deleted unfortunately

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By *blasiansCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

We do.

Ps sometimes great bedtime reading and ensuing discusion.

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By *he force is strongeCouple
over a year ago

Doncaster

We dont smoke we use electronic cigarettes but we dont have a problem with meeting smokers,

But we do get a bit fed up of people asking,what are you into,what are you looking for, pretty sure it says the basics on our profile lol.

We are happy to answer any questions that are not on our profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most don't.

Save your energy typing out a long epic - especially a rant.

Not only is it boring - it's pointless.

There are a few profiles here that are a good read, really funny.

That's the kind of thing I want to read - I rarely believe a single word anyone says on here especially from the 'single straight ' man that's looking for a 'connection ' on his way home to his wife from a Bi Bare back gangbang.

Take it all with a pinch of salt.

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By *lim and louise OP   Couple
over a year ago

dromore


"We have noticed over the last few weeks,we've had a lot of people's profiles looking at us but they do meet smokers,where it clearly says on ours that we both smoke,

We had loads that do not read the profiles. We will not meet youngsters but still have them contacting/looking at us. We altered our age setting to prevent this now. Not many read the profiles competely we found. "
thanks will have to try this

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By *lim and louise OP   Couple
over a year ago

dromore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You do have a short and concise profile, some need a degree in English to understand and follow!

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By *ivaniaMan
over a year ago

London


"We have noticed over the last few weeks,we've had a lot of people's profiles looking at us but they do meet smokers,where it clearly says on ours that we both smoke,"

I always do, also verifications.

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By *lim and louise OP   Couple
over a year ago

dromore

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By *arriLadMan
over a year ago

North West


"Get a lot of:

‘I know it says you don’t like ‘such and such’ on your profile, but thought I’d try anyway...

"

"I know your straight but.."

"I'm not into guys sorry mate"

"Yeah but it's only a blowjob, discreet blah blah.."

How most the messages go

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have noticed over the last few weeks,we've had a lot of people's profiles looking at us but they do meet smokers,where it clearly says on ours that we both smoke,"

Happens all the time to me. I usually turn them away stating not for me as you don't meet smokers. They either disappear or come back saying they would meet a smoker.

I either delete them or carry on chatting.

I change my profile bio like the wind just to see who reads it. Though in covid I've been more of an idiot with it out of boredom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. Rarely read them....intact can't remember the last time I did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have noticed over the last few weeks,we've had a lot of people's profiles looking at us but they do meet smokers,where it clearly says on ours that we both smoke,"

No one knows what you do or don't like untill they open your profile

Btw,they have to look at it to read it

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Only when sitting on the toilet. Helps pass the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope. Rarely read them....intact can't remember the last time I did."

I can see why no one reads yours! It’s bloody hidden.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always especially if it's a good read but more often than not so many profiles are blank or have no info

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By *reativecouplederbyCouple
over a year ago

Derby

We read profiles and won't get in touch unless we think we're a match, but we get loads getting in touch that clearly haven't read ours then when they find out there's an unshaved pussy in the equation, they ghost us even tho it says it at the top of our bio!!

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

Always.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always read profiles very carefully before we message. We’re aware we’re not everyone’s cup of tea and don’t set ourselves up for a fall.

Having said that, we’re often left puzzled by some that message us as we’re so mismatched they must be replying to a completely different profile.

We also look in stealth as some think looking always equates interest.

V

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually do. I’ve not yet sent a penis picture straight off the bat......yet lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only the ladies that catch my eye, and I generally find I don't catch theirs..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have noticed over the last few weeks,we've had a lot of people's profiles looking at us but they do meet smokers,where it clearly says on ours that we both smoke,"

They sound a good match then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have noticed over the last few weeks,we've had a lot of people's profiles looking at us but they do meet smokers,where it clearly says on ours that we both smoke,

They sound a good match then "

Good spot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile is ranty.. to keep many away

Dont like it dont message me.

Made up from Aholes who thought it was ok to be abusive.so made a stance and some see thru it, some dam right rude.

Simples...blockkkkkk.

Those who dont read.. get blocked.

If they cba..then neither can I.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup. Almost always.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I noticed that you are located far away from me ... curiosity will mean that I will look at the pictures...fab some ... and that's all ..if you go on a wink at who you fancy thread I may send a wink ...but plan to meet ...nah ... not very likely ... sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always before I message or reply to a message if I'd like to get to know them.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I spend more time reading profiles than looking a pictures.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

I read them.

I like getting to know people and the profile is the first step to that.

Though I have got chatting to a few people through the forums who have told me certain bits of their profile are untrue, just to out unwanted messages. Still that wouldn't ever stop me from listening to what the profile says they want... as they wrote it for a reason.

Ignoring the profile is just pointless and a waste of both parties time.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

Following on from that, I do find I don't send many messages though, as I find it hard to start up a conversation when they say, they don't like x, y, z and don't give much indication of what they 'do' like.

I end up over-worrying that I'm going to be one of these time wasters too, just sending a fairly generic message that they would have heard hundreds of times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only tick box/category part I look at is height and age. Maybe they've read the text but just skimmed that bit as it's not a total dealbreaker? Or yeah, just not bothered going past the pretty pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope. Rarely read them....intact can't remember the last time I did.

I can see why no one reads yours! It’s bloody hidden. "

If I wanted it read, I wouldn't have hidden it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

99.9% of the women on here have blocked me, so no I don't/can't read them

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