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By *oomarang OP   Man
over a year ago

Chester

Just wondering what’s best to buy my wife as she seems to have lost all interest in sex and has been for several years, or am I going about it the wrong way, I’ve tried talking to her about it till I’m blue in the face and I’m losing all hope

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands

Randomly buying her a sex toy isn't a way to fix a sexual relationship problem. Talking is the only way to fix that, or even suggesting couples therapy

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

Maybe you would be better off investing the time spent on her on your wife?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why is buying her one of those going to help? Youre more likely to get it bounced off your head lol... Don't do it

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Your profile says you accommodate so why not bring someone back and let her watch. She may even join in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Noooo please don’t do this. There could be reasons she has gone off sex putting pressure on her with a sex you won’t help your case.

My hormones are all over the place at the moment and sometimes I don’t want touching by another but do occasionally play on my own.

But try and start by improving intimacy before pushing for sex

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I would say save your money.

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone

Is your wife aware of you being on here and meeting women for sex? Maybe her sex drive has gone due to her suspecting that you are playing away. You may not be as discreet as you think.

Ed

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is your wife aware of you being on here and meeting women for sex? Maybe her sex drive has gone due to her suspecting that you are playing away. You may not be as discreet as you think.

Ed"

This

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

If she's lost interest in sex, I doubt she has much interest in masturbation either.

If she feels like you're putting pressure on her, it's only going to make things worse.

Talk to her, spend time with her without trying to get into her knickers, give her cuddles without expectations.

If you don't know the issue, you can't try and fix it and the only person who can communicate that is her - but remember it could simply be that she just isn't interested.

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By *oomarang OP   Man
over a year ago

Chester


"If she's lost interest in sex, I doubt she has much interest in masturbation either.

If she feels like you're putting pressure on her, it's only going to make things worse.

Talk to her, spend time with her without trying to get into her knickers, give her cuddles without expectations.

If you don't know the issue, you can't try and fix it and the only person who can communicate that is her - but remember it could simply be that she just isn't interested."

I’ve tried all that talking to her giving her space I haven’t even raised the problem for 15 months now but still tell her I love her and kiss her good night

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By *oomarang OP   Man
over a year ago

Chester


"Is your wife aware of you being on here and meeting women for sex? Maybe her sex drive has gone due to her suspecting that you are playing away. You may not be as discreet as you think.

Ed"

I’ve only meet one person on here and that was for coffee nothing happened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it may be better to get yourself a toy. It doesn't sound like she is interested in one. If she were, surely she would have bought one herself?

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Maidstone


"Is your wife aware of you being on here and meeting women for sex? Maybe her sex drive has gone due to her suspecting that you are playing away. You may not be as discreet as you think.

Ed

I’ve only meet one person on here and that was for coffee nothing happened "

The fact you’re on here and hoping to meet anyone at all might be enough to put her off having sex with you, she’s probably not as clueless as you think she is. Maybe she just can’t be arsed with the drama that would come from confronting you. Or she’s waiting for hard evidence first. Or she’s beat you and your own game and is getting her pleasure elsewhere.

Lou x

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