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"Looking to download another app or join a site. I joined this during 1st lockdown and i find it hard to get anything back. Im polite and always try to make it known i have read profiles but still not much luck. So just wondering if there is something else i can try?" I am thinking the same I’m finding that fab members are non welcoming to us single guys at all | |||
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"Whichever site you join you will find that people are not meeting due to Covid" Not on about meetings even inboxes just seems no one actually talks lol | |||
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"I’ve heard “ fabswingers” is the best site to join, it’s full of friendly people who like to chat and have fun, you should give it a try and also be patient x " friendly people where are they? | |||
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"Whichever site you join you will find that people are not meeting due to Covid Not on about meetings even inboxes just seems no one actually talks lol"  | |||
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"Looking to download another app or join a site. I joined this during 1st lockdown and i find it hard to get anything back. Im polite and always try to make it known i have read profiles but still not much luck. So just wondering if there is something else i can try? I am thinking the same I’m finding that fab members are non welcoming to us single guys at all" Its like you take the time to read and send a friendly message and its just deleted. Over and over. People say others take no time to read and when people actually do its just disregarded | |||
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"I’ve heard “ fabswingers” is the best site to join, it’s full of friendly people who like to chat and have fun, you should give it a try and also be patient x " I am patient i just thinknits not really working. I know im not everyones cup of tea so im not expecting 100s of messages. But when you genuinely put effort in and no reply its quite disappointing | |||
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"Looking to download another app or join a site. I joined this during 1st lockdown and i find it hard to get anything back. Im polite and always try to make it known i have read profiles but still not much luck. So just wondering if there is something else i can try? I am thinking the same I’m finding that fab members are non welcoming to us single guys at all Its like you take the time to read and send a friendly message and its just deleted. Over and over. People say others take no time to read and when people actually do its just disregarded" OP, you messaged us and hadn't read our profile first, as we have requests for message content, which you ignored. We make the effort to reply to most messages, as we did with yours. The quality and effort put into the message in the first place, dictate the quality of reply. I had a single guy profile for years on here, and have never had to complain about level of response. But I knew that I needed to understand the site and swingers, and not just be looking for a lazy shag. | |||
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"Looking to download another app or join a site. I joined this during 1st lockdown and i find it hard to get anything back. Im polite and always try to make it known i have read profiles but still not much luck. So just wondering if there is something else i can try? I am thinking the same I’m finding that fab members are non welcoming to us single guys at all Its like you take the time to read and send a friendly message and its just deleted. Over and over. People say others take no time to read and when people actually do its just disregarded OP, you messaged us and hadn't read our profile first, as we have requests for message content, which you ignored. We make the effort to reply to most messages, as we did with yours. The quality and effort put into the message in the first place, dictate the quality of reply. I had a single guy profile for years on here, and have never had to complain about level of response. But I knew that I needed to understand the site and swingers, and not just be looking for a lazy shag." This isnt about you're profile so i hope you dont think it is. You did reply where some other just delete. I took notice and sent the face pic if the messages had flown I'd have sent more. Didnt really think it would be looked at after the rubbish luck | |||
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"Looking to download another app or join a site. I joined this during 1st lockdown and i find it hard to get anything back. Im polite and always try to make it known i have read profiles but still not much luck. So just wondering if there is something else i can try? I am thinking the same I’m finding that fab members are non welcoming to us single guys at all" There are a lot of profiles on FAB, we make a point of adding and updating our profile whenever we see something good on someone else's. Our profile is our shop window, telling people what we like, and don't so they can decide if they want to talk. As the saying goes, 'customers vote with their feet'! | |||
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 over the number of years that I have been on here off and on off and on off and on the competition for guys getting messages from women is always going to be difficult any website you're on it's always going to be difficult to get messages my mates been on a dating website for just over 2 years and he says that very rare that he will get a message back | |||
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"Sorry it hasn't worked for you OP, but as others have said we are in the middle of a pandemic. Also even in normal times FAB isn't a guarenteed shag. What were you expecting? I've found that people who are sucessful meeting people in real life, or who have realistic expectations of the site, are generally sucessful on here. If someone doesn't have those skills in real life they probably won't get meets on here either. Good luck on other sites and Happy New Year. " Happy new year too you too. Yeah i cant meet face to face at the moment thats why i tried this to get talking but its difficult to be read or be replied too. But i do understand all the pandemic etc. | |||
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"Looking to download another app or join a site. I joined this during 1st lockdown and i find it hard to get anything back. Im polite and always try to make it known i have read profiles but still not much luck. So just wondering if there is something else i can try? I am thinking the same I’m finding that fab members are non welcoming to us single guys at all Its like you take the time to read and send a friendly message and its just deleted. Over and over. People say others take no time to read and when people actually do its just disregarded OP, you messaged us and hadn't read our profile first, as we have requests for message content, which you ignored. We make the effort to reply to most messages, as we did with yours. The quality and effort put into the message in the first place, dictate the quality of reply. I had a single guy profile for years on here, and have never had to complain about level of response. But I knew that I needed to understand the site and swingers, and not just be looking for a lazy shag. This isnt about you're profile so i hope you dont think it is. You did reply where some other just delete. I took notice and sent the face pic if the messages had flown I'd have sent more. Didnt really think it would be looked at after the rubbish luck" Why would the messages have flown? What would have prompted a longer conversation? For us, a good start would have been you reading our profile, and then sending the message we ask for. If you've ignored 2 lines of text in our profile, and added your profile pic, which we can see already, you've made next to no effort. You were at least, polite. Worth a look at how you approach people on here before you blame the site for lack of success. You'll find it's easier to get chatting if you're not one of the million 'woe is me' brigade. | |||
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"Looking to download another app or join a site. I joined this during 1st lockdown and i find it hard to get anything back. Im polite and always try to make it known i have read profiles but still not much luck. So just wondering if there is something else i can try? I am thinking the same I’m finding that fab members are non welcoming to us single guys at all There are a lot of profiles on FAB, we make a point of adding and updating our profile whenever we see something good on someone else's. Our profile is our shop window, telling people what we like, and don't so they can decide if they want to talk. As the saying goes, 'customers vote with their feet'!" Actually haven't heard that saying if im honest haha. Im finding it difficult and wondered if there was another app or something better for singles as i was told this was good but maybe not for me it seems. But i genuinely hope you haven't took offense as you did reply back to me which i appreciate | |||
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"It’s tough for single guys on here. Single women get hundreds of messages a day so your message really must stand out, that’s if it even gets as far as being read. Add in a global pandemic which naturally makes sensible people wary of meeting anyone then logically your chances of success on here diminish further. Be patient and wait for things to get back to normal and reassess things then. The “woe Is me” approach won’t help you either." Thisnis true i suppose. Agreed. Just thought i would ask for any well known suggestions | |||
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"I've always said that it is tough for the single generation you got to remember of how many guys are actually on here even though it says it's a FabSwingers website we all know it's got different meanings over the number of years that I have been on here off and on off and on off and on the competition for guys getting messages from women is always going to be difficult any website you're on it's always going to be difficult to get messages my mates been on a dating website for just over 2 years and he says that very rare that he will get a message back"Oh damn. Yeah maybe its just an online thing i suppose just wondering if anyone had any suggestions | |||
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The issue isn't the site you are on."I dont remember that no it cant be an actual thing is it? Lol | |||
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"I always find I make better friends and contacts through the forum than from random messages. My advice is to join in with the craziness in the forum, let your personality shine and people are attracted to you
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"Looking to download another app or join a site. I joined this during 1st lockdown and i find it hard to get anything back. Im polite and always try to make it known i have read profiles but still not much luck. So just wondering if there is something else i can try?" have u tried the fish one? X | |||
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"I always find I make better friends and contacts through the forum than from random messages. My advice is to join in with the craziness in the forum, let your personality shine and people are attracted to you
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"Looking to download another app or join a site. I joined this during 1st lockdown and i find it hard to get anything back. Im polite and always try to make it known i have read profiles but still not much luck. Pof yeah i was on that a while but the accounts disappeared lol. Thats why i tried this So just wondering if there is something else i can try? have u tried the fish one? X" | |||
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"I always find I make better friends and contacts through the forum than from random messages. My advice is to join in with the craziness in the forum, let your personality shine and people are attracted to you
Thankyou il try to join more forum chats if thats better "There's a good bunch here, you'll enjoy it and make good friends, I'm sure of it | |||
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"Looking to download another app or join a site. I joined this during 1st lockdown and i find it hard to get anything back. Im polite and always try to make it known i have read profiles but still not much luck. Pof yeah i was on that a while but the accounts disappeared lol. Thats why i tried this So just wondering if there is something else i can try? have u tried the fish one? X" I have had more luck on there than here tbh when we are able to x | |||
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"Be patient fella, all good things come to those who wait. Join in the forums and get yourself noticed. It will happen when you least expect it too. " Thanks il do the forum thing as its been mentioned a few times thankyou | |||
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"Looking to download another app or join a site. I joined this during 1st lockdown and i find it hard to get anything back. Im polite and always try to make it known i have read profiles but still not much luck. Pof yeah i was on that a while but the accounts disappeared lol. Thats why i tried this So just wondering if there is something else i can try? have u tried the fish one? X I have had more luck on there than here tbh when we are able to x" Yeah? Thanks for honesty. Happy new year to all btw | |||
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"Just treat this site as harmless fun.....if in the future I meet someone and have fun great...if I dont get to meet then so be it....my hand always wants me " Ahaha this made me laugh but yet very true. Thanks | |||
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"Firstly you won't get anyone naming another site openly as it's against site rules and besides it's a bit off promoting other sites using this one - and from all I have heard about other sites anyway they are just the same as here in terms of getting a response, and many apparently lure guys into paying for access (at a much higher cost than here) only to be just the same. As for here, the pandemic aside, it's perfectly possible to have a good experience from the site, and the tools are all in any users hands to make it the best possible experience for themselves - there's no guarantees of anything of course but if you accept that and take a more laid back approach and don't make meeting such a focal point. Ultimately it comes down to five key things: Profile - make it the best it can possibly be, reflecting you and your personality along with what you are looking for, and just as importantly what you think you can offer - it's your shop window so dress it accordingly to entice people in. Pictures - build a decent set of them, showing you off in the best possible light. Attitude - be positive, be respectful and considerate - accept that not everyone is going to be as interested in you as you might be them. Approach - find one that works for you, it doesn't have to be about sending messages "blind" to other profiles - the forums and chat rooms are both great ways of sparking conversations and getting to know others and them you. Expectations - set them low in terms of getting replies to messages and getting meets, then set them a notch lower. Finally think about this - as you walk down the street there are probably 10% of people you see that you find attractive enough to be interested in finding out more about them - of that 10% probably 10% will be equally interested in getting to know you, so 1 in 100 people - Fab is no different, so don't lose sight of that and accept that you won't appeal to a large chunk of the site, but there will be a small percentage that you do hit it off with out there somewhere, just may take you a while to find them." Thats true i suppose. Thanks for the detailed reply. Il try to build it up abit better. Its my 1st time on thisnsite thats all | |||
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"I always find I make better friends and contacts through the forum than from random messages. My advice is to join in with the craziness in the forum, let your personality shine and people are attracted to you
Thankyou il try to join more forum chats if thats better
There's a good bunch here, you'll enjoy it and make good friends, I'm sure of it "Thankyou. Il try to build up and join the forums. Thanks again | |||
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