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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I need help which is the best at the moment I have come off the depro injection as although no periods was on it for over 3years but serious mood swings and yes I gained weight with it. Not good when your trying to loose weight. A bit weary of the coil heard good and bad things about its and the pill I fell prgnant both times on it so thinking about getting the implant what are the side affects to this and are there any other options. Currently just using condoms which are fine but I do like to double up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had the implant a few years ago... it seemed like a miracle for a while! Then I put on weight, and it made me quite depressed. No periods for a year (which is good and bad lol). It seems nothing is perfect! We're all different though. Hope you find the right thing for you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i got pregnant on the implant

having said that ive got my 2nd one in with the theory that lightning doesnt strike twice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ive neem on depo 10 years now, never had a problem with it

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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago

Northamptonshire

DON'T get the Mirena coil, I had it fitted just over 8 months ago and am how waiting to get the damn thing removed, one of the worst decisions I have ever made I have had weight gain - gained and lost a stone in one month Headaches, swollen fingers, exhaustion and last but not least, in the whole time I have only NOT bleed for a grand total of 10 weeks A touch inconvenient when trying to arrange meets.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"ive neem on depo 10 years now, never had a problem with it "

I have been on it more or less since I had my youngest but my doctor suggested a break as was getting serious mood swings with it. And I dont trust the pill x

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By *ngelsdevilWoman
over a year ago

Merseyside

Iv had the implant since October 2010 and it's been a very bumpy road for me! Iv had very irregular bleeding from it sometimes going for 6 months without a break (obviously not full period the whole time most of the time it was low flow) and it comes and goes as it pleases which is annoying especially when you get offered a meet and you can't go because of it! I was on the pill before hand and had to try 4 different ones before I found one that's agreed with me so now probably against advice of doctors iv just started taking the ones I had left to bring me off so I can go on meets! Also I lost 4.5 stone in 2009 and iv put 4 back on now I'm no way blaming the implant soley for this as I did go off my diet but I do believe it's contributed to my weight gain as I had all the will power in the world with food before I had it!

I would say go for it you can always have it removed after a few months if it's not for you, it could work wonders and many women don't have periods on it, I think iv just been unlucky!

Give it a go!

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

My only serious contribution would be to ask whether you've considered having you tubes tied or 'he' has the snip.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i am no expert but my ex had the coil.. not sure which one, but i am sure she was told it was good for 10 years.

never had a problem with it. regular periods, no noticably different moods from before and no weight gain..

surely your GP practice has a nurse who deals with this to advise you of each type.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ihave the coil and to be honest if i was swinging no way would i rely on condoms as a form of birth control

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My only serious contribution would be to ask whether you've considered having you tubes tied or 'he' has the snip."

Believe me I would but my doctor wont do it as I am as he quotes "unsettled" although I am a single mum with two children x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got the implant fitted in may haven't had a period but having quite bad cramp pains on and. Off. For about 5 weeks now. Hope this is some help to you but remember we all react differently to different things good luck whatever you choose x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"DON'T get the Mirena coil, I had it fitted just over 8 months ago and am how waiting to get the damn thing removed, one of the worst decisions I have ever made I have had weight gain - gained and lost a stone in one month Headaches, swollen fingers, exhaustion and last but not least, in the whole time I have only NOT bleed for a grand total of 10 weeks A touch inconvenient when trying to arrange meets. "

I've had Mirena coil in for nearly 3 years and the only problem I've had is the threads disappearing.. I've had no bad symptoms, no weight gain and I very rarely bleed! and my sex drive went thru the roof!! BONUS

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich


"My only serious contribution would be to ask whether you've considered having you tubes tied or 'he' has the snip.

Believe me I would but my doctor wont do it as I am as he quotes "unsettled" although I am a single mum with two children x"

Sounds like the pill is your only serious option of double protection then - notwithstanding your mention of two bundles of joy...

Do you use a spermicidal jelly to help kill any 'escaping swimmers' ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My only serious contribution would be to ask whether you've considered having you tubes tied or 'he' has the snip."

good idea, i would have been steralised if my hubby hadnt had a vasectomy when my son was five.

i knew when i was pregnant with him i wouldnt want any more kids.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i am on my third mirena coil and i love it, no weight gain, only two periods this year, higher sex drive too and no mood swings and the bonus being it lasts 5 years, i fell pregnant on the pill and then had the coil and have'nt looked back although with this one i did bleed for the first ten weeks but not heavily just general spotting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No problems at all with the Mirena here either, going for my second one soon.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"I need help which is the best at the moment I have come off the depro injection as although no periods was on it for over 3years but serious mood swings and yes I gained weight with it. Not good when your trying to loose weight. A bit weary of the coil heard good and bad things about its and the pill I fell prgnant both times on it so thinking about getting the implant what are the side affects to this and are there any other options. Currently just using condoms which are fine but I do like to double up."
I would discuss with practice nurse, GP or family planning clinic, they will have access to your medical history and deal with contraception issues all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was just gonna type that femme.....i was at fp yesterday discussing all this with nurse wbilst getting my smear....we are all different what suits one wont suit the other.....id say make an app and ask the professionals.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"I've had Mirena coil in for nearly 3 years and the only problem I've had is the threads disappearing.."

I blame Ruggers...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best mate swears by the Mirena coil. I was on pill and ended up one of the unlucky ones and had a pulmonary embolism lol. I had a fibroid that wasn't diagnosed and pill made things worse. Thankfully I've now had hysterectomy so no need for birth control lol.

I agree with others go speak to your GP or nurse as they can look at your history and discuss all options and you can discuss pros and cons and any issues you might have.

Good luck !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i took the pill for 3 years after my son was born.

you have to take it at the same time every single day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, you can get a non-hormonal coil.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i took the pill for 3 years after my son was born.

you have to take it at the same time every single day."

Thats where many people fall down as they don't take it regularly or forget the odd day and end up getting pregnant.

Anyway advice wise everyone has different preferences, the best thing to do is talk about it with more than one doctor and see what he advises as they will have access to your medical history and will give you the best advice.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

My doc told me to try the coil but decided againest it as I have heard some good things but heard many bad things which outweight the good..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I got an app tomz to discuss I figured as I am not playing next few weeks best get it sorted now x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"DON'T get the Mirena coil, I had it fitted just over 8 months ago and am how waiting to get the damn thing removed, one of the worst decisions I have ever made I have had weight gain - gained and lost a stone in one month Headaches, swollen fingers, exhaustion and last but not least, in the whole time I have only NOT bleed for a grand total of 10 weeks A touch inconvenient when trying to arrange meets. "

I had that coil, I felt it had dropped down about half a CM and thought the dr could just pop it back but she could and I was told it wasn't even working!!! I had to have it out and daren't have another. I was on the mini pill which with the time restrictions was a duff but couldn't go on the other pill because idly migraines. I have now had the implant fitted and have turned into a psycho!!! It's settling down now after about 7 weeks so think I'll stick with it, so far no periods which is great because they were all over the place!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I got an app tomz to discuss I figured as I am not playing next few weeks best get it sorted now x"

That's the best option all round and if you are not happy with what you are told make sure you get a second opinion. Just remember implants or orally taken pills need a little while to settle so keep unseeing condoms.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I got an app tomz to discuss I figured as I am not playing next few weeks best get it sorted now x

That's the best option all round and if you are not happy with what you are told make sure you get a second opinion. Just remember implants or orally taken pills need a little while to settle so keep unseeing condoms. "

I always usually double up but have had a break from the depro going to ask abour=t being sterilized again and not leaving till the doc says yes its my body x

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I'm on my second implant, and it has been great for me, I was a bit unsettled for the first six months, as I had a light period every two weeks or so, now I'm lucky if I get one every six months that last more than 1 day, so it's been a god send for me x

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I have a copper coil - the one with no hormones.

I was going to try the mirena, but I needed to wait to have mine fitted by a consultant as I have a tricky cervix, so they put me on the mini pill for a while. It was both the best and worst thing!

Same hormones as the mirena and they really don't suit me! So when psychotic crazed me lobbied for an earlier appointment with the consultant before I killed someone they took me off the pill and fitted a copper coil.

My first few periods were heavier but then they settled down. I can't tell its there and it doesn't need to come out for 13 years - I even got £20 of m&s vouchers for being part of a medical survey!

So don't rule the non-hormonal coil out as outdated.

Good luck tomorrow.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I have the Depo injection, and at the beginning I had serious mood swings, I now take vitamin B6 daily, and the mood swings have stopped. Evening Primrose is another supplement that can be taken, but I can't take that with the epilepsy drugs I'm on.

I'm lucky I haven't gained weight with the injection this time round. I did the first time I was on it, about 5 years ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Copper coil here too, third one, this one is good for 10 years, no issues, light pain free periods mostly, and best of all no hormones so the mood swings r just natural and no weight issues!!!! All good in my book

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Copper coil here too, third one, this one is good for 10 years, no issues, light pain free periods mostly, and best of all no hormones so the mood swings r just natural and no weight issues!!!! All good in my book "

Thanks girls there is a lot to discuss tomz x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Come back and let us know what u learn and decide on the. Shazz x good luck

Oh btw, coil going in pinches, take a few ibuprofens or paracetamol before going to get fitted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another vote for mirena coil. I'm on my second which will last 10 years as I'm over 45. No weight gain or mood swings and virtually no bleeding! Bliss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so glad I found this thread as I'm in exactly the same position- i'm on my 2nd implant and would love to be able to claim my body back from chemicals.

Not sure I've found an alternative to suit me yet though... So looks like I'll be sticking with it for another 3 years

Em

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

The thing is with the hormones, they either agree with you pretty much straight away or you have to stick at them for 6 months till your system gets used to them.I would have been arrested or sectioned before the six months was up (not including the days when I simply cried,.just tears rolling down my face all day for no reason ).

So if you can test drive them with a pill instead of having the coil fitted then do so. If all goes well have the mirena - I'm jealous of all the ladies who hardly bleed on it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well girls finally getting somewhere am on the mini pill to start of with and on the wait list to be sterilized I will be having the new procedure where they go up through the vagina so no cutting plus its an outpatients procedure x

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By *acciWoman
over a year ago

leeds

I would advise any ladies on depo to be careful and make sure you have a break after 3yrs. My daughter was on it didnt have a break and now has Brittle Bones and yes the doctors blame the injection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The thing is with the hormones, they either agree with you pretty much straight away or you have to stick at them for 6 months till your system gets used to them.I would have been arrested or sectioned before the six months was up (not including the days when I simply cried,.just tears rolling down my face all day for no reason ).

So if you can test drive them with a pill instead of having the coil fitted then do so. If all goes well have the mirena - I'm jealous of all the ladies who hardly bleed on it!"
had the mirena and bleed every day for 9 months it made me anameic and genrally an awful person so u r rite if it works great if it doesn't it can make your life hell x

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By *parrow77Man
over a year ago

cheshire

My ex was on pill 8 yrsbut we did use condoms a lot but we were strict with times an takin it too

An regularly did pregnancy tests

I suppose main thing is play safe an if u use pill, condoms, coil or others best be safer than sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What age will Doctors consider sterilization? Im sure i dont want any more kids

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By *acciWoman
over a year ago

leeds

Dnt know about now but when i had it done,you have to be 30+ or have had 3 kids x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dnt know about now but when i had it done,you have to be 30+ or have had 3 kids x"

6 years and 2 implants.. woo lol

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I want to be sterilized, but no doctor will even consider it.

I do not want children, and due to earlier problems, it is unlikely I would be able to conceive anyway.

Last time I went to the doctors about sterilization, I was told to come back with my husband when I had been married a few years, and then the decision can be made together.

Made me feel very patronized, as if I was unable to make the decision alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

wonder how much it would cost privately to pay for sterilization.. *wonders off to google*

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

A consultant gynecologist told me the NHS wouldn't consider me till I was 40 for sterilization.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ok in my quick search (no answers yet) i found this on the bbc website from Oct 2010 where an American charity were paying £200 for drug addicts to be sterilized...

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-london-11545519

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

condoms don't cause side effects as they use a barrier method rather than hormonal - so no weight gain and side effects!

also they prevent stds' / stis' unlike hormonal birth control / coils.

lots of different varieties available with differing texture /flavors / colours / novelties (like those performa ones that are coated with a special benzocaine 5% gel to prolong arousal and play time before orgasm).. spermicidal jelly and a condom probably the least invasive method in terms of side effects considering your experiences.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What age will Doctors consider sterilization? Im sure i dont want any more kids"

I have been asking my doc for past 10 years and he kept putting me off but now on the wait list so will see how long that will take x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"condoms don't cause side effects as they use a barrier method rather than hormonal - so no weight gain and side effects!

also they prevent stds' / stis' unlike hormonal birth control / coils.

lots of different varieties available with differing texture /flavors / colours / novelties (like those performa ones that are coated with a special benzocaine 5% gel to prolong arousal and play time before orgasm).. spermicidal jelly and a condom probably the least invasive method in terms of side effects considering your experiences.

"

But condoms can split or come off would prefer to double up x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

£980 for female sterilization according to BPAS.org

but costs according to this charity £1660 to have an abortion 19-24 weeks

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By *a and kaCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire(ish)

I got sterilized on the NHS at 31. Had to fight my doctor for the referral but was well worth it.

Is finally nice to have my body back, after years of yo-yo weight gain and loss and 2 pregnancies (both on the pill!!)

And it means I can have Ma cream pie any time I like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I as sterilized on the NHS in my late 20s and had a hysterectomy at 30 due to consistent problems with contraception and my periods. Best thing I ever did, I already had 3 young children so although had to put up a bit of a fight convincing the docs I won in the end.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"condoms don't cause side effects as they use a barrier method rather than hormonal - so no weight gain and side effects!

also they prevent stds' / stis' unlike hormonal birth control / coils.

lots of different varieties available with differing texture /flavors / colours / novelties (like those performa ones that are coated with a special benzocaine 5% gel to prolong arousal and play time before orgasm).. spermicidal jelly and a condom probably the least invasive method in terms of side effects considering your experiences.

But condoms can split or come off would prefer to double up x"

that's true although less likely to happen if applied correctly and used in conjunction with a reputable spermicidal lube water based lube.. also another avenue worth investigating if you don't want to go down the hormonal contraceptive route again..

a diaphragm used in conjunction with a spermicidal jelly for you and a condom for you sexual partner.

potentially would also probably provide a decent amount of protection against unwanted pregnancy. although because they're reusable most don't like the idea of cleaning them ect after playing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

off topic perhaps, but if i had mental capacity and wanted to be sterilized surly a GP could at least consider that as an option.

Couples are offered IVF, abortions are traumatic procedures for something id more than likely result in having if i should ever fall pregnant. Its a well known fact that no contraceptive is 100%

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"off topic perhaps, but if i had mental capacity and wanted to be sterilized surly a GP could at least consider that as an option.

Couples are offered IVF, abortions are traumatic procedures for something id more than likely result in having if i should ever fall pregnant. Its a well known fact that no contraceptive is 100%"

My doc would'nt do it even though I am a single mum of two they are getting older and I dont want any more he says I am unsettled and I may regret it but it is my choice and my body x

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By *a and kaCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire(ish)


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My doc would'nt do it even though I am a single mum of two they are getting older and I dont want any more he says I am unsettled and I may regret it but it is my choice and my body x"

I had the same issues but I asked him if he was refusing to let me have it done. That it was my body and if he wouldn't refer me I would leave the practice and find a doctor that would!! He soon changed his tune. Stand firm, if you are sure and don't let them try to discourage you. They do this on purpose to make sure you are 100% sure of what you are about to have done

Good Luck x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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My doc would'nt do it even though I am a single mum of two they are getting older and I dont want any more he says I am unsettled and I may regret it but it is my choice and my body x

I had the same issues but I asked him if he was refusing to let me have it done. That it was my body and if he wouldn't refer me I would leave the practice and find a doctor that would!! He soon changed his tune. Stand firm, if you are sure and don't let them try to discourage you. They do this on purpose to make sure you are 100% sure of what you are about to have done

Good Luck x "

I am now on the wait list yay finally x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have two points in the tubes tied debate

1. I wanted my tubes tied after my first son, did NOT want any more kids, well I meet my husband a year or so later and now have more, so Think Very carefully.

2. See a private doctor, I saw BUPA and they could do it for about 700, which isn't that much if you compare it to the effort/hassle of BC for the next 20/30 years... Your employer may even give you BUPA healthcare (you would still have a pay a portion)

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By *essiCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

on my 2nd mirena coil..no side effects at all for me tbh.and the only difference with this and the first is i'm not quite so bang on with my due dates,having said that its only "light spotting "

best thing ie had done after 20 years of suffering the works..we're all different and i was very sceptical about it but glad i did

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Just a note to previous posters who suggest spermicidal jelly and spermicidal products (including extra safe type condoms wither spermicide on).

The active ingredient, nonynoxyl 9 is not recommended by the WHO for people who are NOT in a monogamous relationship due to the risk if irritation and thereby a much higher risk of HIV transmission.

The NHS guidance also recommends against it, but some clinics still hand out these condoms

The stuff melts nail polish, makes my salivary glands go into overdrive as the tissues in my mouth begin to swell and it causes ulcers in my foof.

Please, if you swing don't use spermicide or spermicidally lubricated condoms.

After I told a friend about this, she switched and finally said goodbye to years of suffering from bacterial vaginosis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will hear horror stories for every kind of contraception and of course success stories.

We are all individual so noone can tell you how you will adapt, its a case of trial and error.

I have the Mirena coil and I love it. Haven't had a period since it was fitted, apart from the settling down bleeding of the hormones adjusting to my body. But equally there are lots who it hasn't suited.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just take it up the arse all the time. I have never heard of anyone getting pregnant after a good buggering.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well girls finally getting somewhere am on the mini pill to start of with and on the wait list to be sterilized I will be having the new procedure where they go up through the vagina so no cutting plus its an outpatients procedure x"

I have just had this procedure done. The NHS have been performing it in Southampton for about 4 years now. Being only 36 with no children I thought that I would be refused, but after a very long discussion with a female doctor and another with the doctor that performs sterilisations in Southampton, it was agreed that I could have the procedure (did take husband to the last appointment as backup). The Essure method is so far so good, it was painful, but that is because I don't have children. Recovery so far hasn't been to bad, I went to work the day after it was done.

I would say it is best to have it done by the NHS and an experienced doctor.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On my second Mirena coil, no periods, no weight gain, no mood swings, been the best thing I had - everyone is different hun - go with wot u feel comfortable with

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