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Schrödinger’s douche bag

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This is when a man (or woman) says something offensive and decides whether they were joking based on the reaction of people around him, this happens quite often in the forums, (just seen another example of this) where the Op starts to back peddle when he realised what he said was pretty shitty and people aren’t having it. I think at least have the plums to stand by your original statement. Anyone else noticed Schrödinger's douche bag in the forums ?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Often

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Schrödingers Douche Bag. Did you come up with that, or is it an actual thing?

Either way, it’s awesome and made me laugh my arse off

Oh... and yes... noticed it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Schrödingers Douche Bag. Did you come up with that, or is it an actual thing?

Either way, it’s awesome and made me laugh my arse off

Oh... and yes... noticed it."

I’d like to say I come up with it, but it’s something I saw on the inter web, it tickled me, cause I’ve seen it plenty of times on here, but didn’t realise there was a name for it. I usually say ‘Is that the sound of back peddling I can hear?!’ when someone does it in the forums, let’s face it, most of the times it’s a bloke.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab fora is the gift that keeps on giving. I blame lockdown for it

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

To be honest I see more of the opposite. Posts that are clearly jokes but taken excessively seriously. Obviously everything is open to being misread but sometimes I think people are just looking for a fight or intentionally misreading things to try and cause a bit of drama.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

On the flip side though, something being a joke isn't always a good defence. Jokes can still be offensive, especially when the audience isn't appropriate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"On the flip side though, something being a joke isn't always a good defence. Jokes can still be offensive, especially when the audience isn't appropriate. "

Being offended doesn’t mean you’re right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On the flip side though, something being a joke isn't always a good defence. Jokes can still be offensive, especially when the audience isn't appropriate. "

Yep especially when it is passed of as 'banter' "sorry, just having bants" makes my shit itch

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"On the flip side though, something being a joke isn't always a good defence. Jokes can still be offensive, especially when the audience isn't appropriate.

Being offended doesn’t mean you’re right."

Right about what?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"On the flip side though, something being a joke isn't always a good defence. Jokes can still be offensive, especially when the audience isn't appropriate.

Being offended doesn’t mean you’re right.

Right about what? "

Some men are offended when a woman on here doesn’t reply, just cause he’s taken it personally, doesn’t mean she did anything wrong cause he’s offended, a woman has ever right not to reply. Just cause someone’s offended, doesn’t mean it has to be respected.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"On the flip side though, something being a joke isn't always a good defence. Jokes can still be offensive, especially when the audience isn't appropriate.

Being offended doesn’t mean you’re right.

Right about what?

Some men are offended when a woman on here doesn’t reply, just cause he’s taken it personally, doesn’t mean she did anything wrong cause he’s offended, a woman has ever right not to reply. Just cause someone’s offended, doesn’t mean it has to be respected. "

You posted that people claim to be joking when others are offended by their post. I said that jokes can still offend. I don't really understand what you're trying to say.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"On the flip side though, something being a joke isn't always a good defence. Jokes can still be offensive, especially when the audience isn't appropriate.

Being offended doesn’t mean you’re right.

Right about what?

Some men are offended when a woman on here doesn’t reply, just cause he’s taken it personally, doesn’t mean she did anything wrong cause he’s offended, a woman has ever right not to reply. Just cause someone’s offended, doesn’t mean it has to be respected.

You posted that people claim to be joking when others are offended by their post. I said that jokes can still offend. I don't really understand what you're trying to say."

My original post was that people test the water out first when they post something slightly controversial, if it goes tits up, they then claim it was all a joke and chill out guys, etc etc, it’s not having the balls to stick by the original post that annoys me. I’m just saying the offended bit is subjective, people can choose to be offended or not, either way nothing happens when you’re offended.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love this concept

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

To use it's common name, foot in mouth syndrome!

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"On the flip side though, something being a joke isn't always a good defence. Jokes can still be offensive, especially when the audience isn't appropriate.

Being offended doesn’t mean you’re right.

Right about what?

Some men are offended when a woman on here doesn’t reply, just cause he’s taken it personally, doesn’t mean she did anything wrong cause he’s offended, a woman has ever right not to reply. Just cause someone’s offended, doesn’t mean it has to be respected.

You posted that people claim to be joking when others are offended by their post. I said that jokes can still offend. I don't really understand what you're trying to say.

My original post was that people test the water out first when they post something slightly controversial, if it goes tits up, they then claim it was all a joke and chill out guys, etc etc, it’s not having the balls to stick by the original post that annoys me. I’m just saying the offended bit is subjective, people can choose to be offended or not, either way nothing happens when you’re offended. "

Haha okay but in the situation you posted about the person clearly does care about offending as otherwise why would they try to backpeddle? Saying something is a joke isn't a get out of jail free card though.

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone


"Anyone else noticed Schrödinger's douche bag in the forums ?!"

Ha! Thanks for sharing. I wasn't aware of the term. So I Googled it and Urban Dictionary explained it by saying "he", "his", "him" etc.

Is this a man thing then?

(waiting for response...)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Anyone else noticed Schrödinger's douche bag in the forums ?!

Ha! Thanks for sharing. I wasn't aware of the term. So I Googled it and Urban Dictionary explained it by saying "he", "his", "him" etc.

Is this a man thing then?

(waiting for response...)"

Yeah, totally. I typed men, then thought I’d better include everyone, so changed it.

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone


"Is this a man thing then?

(waiting for response...)

Yeah, totally. I typed men, then thought I’d better include everyone, so changed it."

Pppfftt you're supposed to take offence... You're no fun...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Haha, only joking guys, yeah, people need to lighten up yeah, whoa, why serious, I’m a great guy, everyone needs to chill! Etc etc

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

some things never change

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" some things never change "

There’s a classic example, so I thought I’d give this thread a little bump!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Great term, thanks OP - I had not heard of the "douchebag" part of it, just the cat.

I think one of the problems not just on Fabs, but in any written communication, that despite emojis we often cannot communicate the emotion accurately. That is why many posts are taken the wrong way, serious when they were not intended to be and vice versa.

Benefit of doubt might be administered as a helpful way to not be offended perhaps?

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas


" some things never change

There’s a classic example, so I thought I’d give this thread a little bump! "

Good thinking batman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the forum, in messages and in real life! I knew another version of that phrase as Schroedinger's Tw@t though

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

‘‘Tis true! I often think that I can hear that strange whirring sound of pedals going the wrong way.

Sometimes people make assumptions about a forum post/poster based on their OP, where there wasn’t anything to be inferred, other times they’re back tracking faster than a camper facing a bear

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

I stand by every single offensive view and opinion I have and my block list supports that

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By *oldswarriorMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

The majority of posts in the virus forum

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By *tew008Man
over a year ago

edinburgh


"I stand by every single offensive view and opinion I have and my block list supports that "

So it’s empty?

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Yes this is way too common in the threads

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"I stand by every single offensive view and opinion I have and my block list supports that

So it’s empty?"

Yeah because they all block me first

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By *rKinksMan
over a year ago

Alton


"This is when a man (or woman) says something offensive and decides whether they were joking based on the reaction of people around him, this happens quite often in the forums, (just seen another example of this) where the Op starts to back peddle when he realised what he said was pretty shitty and people aren’t having it. I think at least have the plums to stand by your original statement. Anyone else noticed Schrödinger's douche bag in the forums ?!"

This is brilliant thank you

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

All the time . All adds to the entertainment though .

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I’m a people watcher and I love people watching here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"‘‘Tis true! I often think that I can hear that strange whirring sound of pedals going the wrong way.

Sometimes people make assumptions about a forum post/poster based on their OP, where there wasn’t anything to be inferred, other times they’re back tracking faster than a camper facing a bear"

You can often hear them grinding the clutch as they whack it in reverse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with everything you say OP. However, I reserve the right to agree with someone else if they are hot. Unless they eventually side with you or someone I don't like.

I think that covers the bases.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I agree with everything you say OP. However, I reserve the right to agree with someone else if they are hot. Unless they eventually side with you or someone I don't like.

I think that covers the bases. "

I always agree with hot women, it’s funny how hot women are always right about everything.

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