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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Having come back-on fab recently

I really does seem that once you hit 50 you don’t really seem to be needed

Or is it my profile is SH one T

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

You must be using the wrong bait. Depends on your expectations but age has never been an issue for me.

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

Yes, there are a lot of profiles that say 50 is their upper limit but there are just as many that say 55. I haven't looked at your profile but I wonder what your upper age limit is?

Maybe it gives you the opportunity to concentrate on those that are looking for someone of your age.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m guessing so ,I alway message with substance but no one seems to want to take a bite

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

Oh wow I'd better give up then I'm 66

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m guessing so ,I alway message with substance but no one seems to want to take a bite "

Perhaps it's not your age that is putting folks off

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By *allumUKMan
over a year ago

KingsLynn

I'm not far off turning 40. Giving this and the dating game a bit of a try. So far nothing on here at all, not even so much as a hello, not even in the chatrooms. I go in and say hi to everyone but nobody ever wants to engage and just ignore you. If it keeps up i'll just start a relationship with a female escort i think. I can handle my own company and have the money to choose a nice escort for regular fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not far off turning 40. Giving this and the dating game a bit of a try. So far nothing on here at all, not even so much as a hello, not even in the chatrooms. I go in and say hi to everyone but nobody ever wants to engage and just ignore you. If it keeps up i'll just start a relationship with a female escort i think. I can handle my own company and have the money to choose a nice escort for regular fun. "

One way or another men always pay for sex, buddy.

Patience is the key here - and I would say that to the OP as well.

As the for the 50s thing. I tend to prefer older women - not because of the age, but because of their sensibilities. My profile says 40+ - It used to say 45+

I also encounter women - usually in their late 40s or early 50s that want older 'gents'. I suspect therefore that the OP simply hasn't encountered the right female yet - not to mention COVID-19. So, again, it comes down to patience. I also wouldn't complain about it on the forums - not a good look in my opinion.

TLT

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

It still amazes me why people concentrate on those not interested in them instead of those that are.

Shock to the system realising you're "old" to the people you fancy: been there, c'est la vie!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry...what's the issue with 50s? Having the time of my life now!

I don't feel old yet because i'm still very mobile and am in no need to over-exert myself. When it pops into my mind that I'm in my 50s, I think of all the things I've done and seen and I am at peace with getting older.

Now, bring on grandfatherhood!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It still amazes me why people concentrate on those not interested in them instead of those that are.

Shock to the system realising you're "old" to the people you fancy: been there, c'est la vie! "

I think it's a natural inclination for some to want what they can't have. It can be difficult to come to the realisation that you are no longer the future, but the past.

"bet you were hot once' and all that.

Haha

There's likely to be someone for everyone here, but the OP, like most of us guys, is swimming in a shoal, so patience is required.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well i’m 65 and have had plenty of meets over several years. I think the most important thing that so many never seem to get is - stay online. People look at online profiles, it’s a fact.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast


"It still amazes me why people concentrate on those not interested in them instead of those that are.

Shock to the system realising you're "old" to the people you fancy: been there, c'est la vie!

I think it's a natural inclination for some to want what they can't have. It can be difficult to come to the realisation that you are no longer the future, but the past.

"bet you were hot once' and all that.

Haha

There's likely to be someone for everyone here, but the OP, like most of us guys, is swimming in a shoal, so patience is required. "

Speak for yourself mate. I'm Benjamin button.

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

Hasn’t stopped me..

J

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

My life began at 50. Think positive. You are golden, not old.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Only joined the site when I was over 50 and have no complaints about my experience, and know others of a similar age that feel the same, so age is not an inhibitor.

Perhaps focus on those that will meet you OP rather than waste time fretting about those that won't?

As for your profile there are a couple of potential red flags in there that may not serve you well - the veiled reference to "spoiling" someone for instance which may be seen by some as an attempt to buy a meet, and the taking pics thing (even though you've covered it with the memory card mention) will potentially put some off too - as trusting someone enough to allow that would need to come over time and discussion for a lot of people and not be a first meet kind of thing.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Being in the over 50's " wrinkly old man" category I tend to agree with the thinking that for most being over 50 is a death sentence in swinging terms.

Unless

Your female

Your a well hung male.

Your loaded.

You have thick skin and don't give up.

You have the libido of a 20 year old.

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

As a woman of 48 I'd have no worries about meeting men over 50. Unless all you are looking for is women a lot younger than yourself I can't see why you have a problem.

As for your profile it is all about what you want and not much about what you can give. Also as stated by a previous poster, the "spoiling and taking pics" might be putting some off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being 50 is something I can't change

I'm fucked if I am gonna get upset by people not wanting to shag me because of it

I think - and I may get torn a new arsehole for this one - that many people, especially blokes, want to be found attractive by younger people

That's OK of course, except they themselves don't find others in their age group that attractive either

So, when they see an attractive younger woman who has set her age preference lower than theirs, the pitted lip comes out

Or even worse, a woman of their age that sets her age limit lower cos (on here) she can get away with it, purely because of the amount of guys and because of the rise in popularity of the 'cougar' and the 'MILF'

That must be a right kick in the nuts to those that obsess on age as a barrier

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Being 50 is something I can't change

I'm fucked if I am gonna get upset by people not wanting to shag me because of it

I think - and I may get torn a new arsehole for this one - that many people, especially blokes, want to be found attractive by younger people

That's OK of course, except they themselves don't find others in their age group that attractive either

So, when they see an attractive younger woman who has set her age preference lower than theirs, the pitted lip comes out

Or even worse, a woman of their age that sets her age limit lower cos (on here) she can get away with it, purely because of the amount of guys and because of the rise in popularity of the 'cougar' and the 'MILF'

That must be a right kick in the nuts to those that obsess on age as a barrier"

Think you've pretty much hit the nail on the head there - more often than not it comes down to guys looking for something to blame for their lack of "success" on the site rather than looking a little closer to home for the reason - just made a similar point on the "why won't people meet bi men" thread.

Personally I've always accepted that some people won't meet me and have preferred to concentrate on those that will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being 50 is something I can't change

I'm fucked if I am gonna get upset by people not wanting to shag me because of it

I think - and I may get torn a new arsehole for this one - that many people, especially blokes, want to be found attractive by younger people

That's OK of course, except they themselves don't find others in their age group that attractive either

So, when they see an attractive younger woman who has set her age preference lower than theirs, the pitted lip comes out

Or even worse, a woman of their age that sets her age limit lower cos (on here) she can get away with it, purely because of the amount of guys and because of the rise in popularity of the 'cougar' and the 'MILF'

That must be a right kick in the nuts to those that obsess on age as a barrier"

My age limit is lower but its not 'because I can on here' its because I've always been so, my ex was 20yrs younger, its not about chronology but intellect and connections. That's not to say there isn't someone my own age I'd click with, I just haven't met any.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

A lot of people obsess over age and some link age to experience.

The two aren't always compatible though.

I was 51 when I first joined here with virtually no experience.

I have no interest in young women as I have daughters in their late 20's and that has no appeal to me at all.

I take people as I find them though within my chosen age preferences as I've found that there are many women on here who are 40+ and are also new to the journey.

I may joke about my age but it's never been a hindrance from my perspective.

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.

Yeah I don’t get this. As soon as I hit my mid 30’s woman were falling over themselves to hook up with me. the older I’ve got the more there were and that was before swinging! People who complain about not getting the sex they want, never get the sex they want. Make it happen. Just not now, not till we are 10m vaccinated in.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Bait", "bites"," dating game", "men always pay for sex". Smh what have I walked in to?. Women don't owe men sex and blaming women's preferences for you not getting it isn't a good look.

Have a look for the very positive threads currently running where people over 50 are chatting to each other.

I'm a 64 year old woman. My options are hugely reduced sexually. That is entirely down to my age and the way I now look. I know that, I expected it to happen and I don't blame men for it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/1106147

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Having come back-on fab recently

I really does seem that once you hit 50 you don’t really seem to be needed

Or is it my profile is SH one T

"

Tier 4?

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Pretty sure that a "woe is me" "feel sorry for me" type post isn't going to do you any favours.

Lower your expectations, relax, be positive.and most of all be happy.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being 50 is something I can't change

I'm fucked if I am gonna get upset by people not wanting to shag me because of it

I think - and I may get torn a new arsehole for this one - that many people, especially blokes, want to be found attractive by younger people

That's OK of course, except they themselves don't find others in their age group that attractive either

So, when they see an attractive younger woman who has set her age preference lower than theirs, the pitted lip comes out

Or even worse, a woman of their age that sets her age limit lower cos (on here) she can get away with it, purely because of the amount of guys and because of the rise in popularity of the 'cougar' and the 'MILF'

That must be a right kick in the nuts to those that obsess on age as a barrier

My age limit is lower but its not 'because I can on here' its because I've always been so, my ex was 20yrs younger, its not about chronology but intellect and connections. That's not to say there isn't someone my own age I'd click with, I just haven't met any. "

Me too Aimee

My other half is 24 years my junior

We didn't meet here, but we did meet online

My ex Mrs was 10 years older

... but it's not you or I that feel excluded by age

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