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"Personally I'd like to enjoy that side with them, so ideally I'd like to fancy them in both modes." Thanks Peach, I thought this thread was going to disappear into the ether and that my typo's wouldn't be noticed either | |||
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"Personally I'd like to enjoy that side with them, so ideally I'd like to fancy them in both modes. Thanks Peach, I thought this thread was going to disappear into the ether and that my typo's wouldn't be noticed either " Typo's? What typo's? | |||
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"Personally I'd like to enjoy that side with them, so ideally I'd like to fancy them in both modes. Thanks Peach, I thought this thread was going to disappear into the ether and that my typo's wouldn't be noticed either " Like PP says ideally I would like to enjoy them in both modes, I’m not phased by men who enjoy silky soft fabrics or make up, actually I used to encourage my late partner to wear my silk stockings or body suits now and again | |||
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"So ladies of Fab, Of you had got talking to a guy on here and things were going well, you got o and liked the guy enough to maybe consider a social or more at some point and he then drops a bombshell. He tells you that he crossdresses but it is something that he does privately and won't ever expect you to go to Tesco's with him dressed up as he wouldn't dream of it either. He does it for himself but is also happy to share it with you if you chose to but is equally happy to keep it to himself too. Would this put you off him and you'd walk away or would you be curious or open enough to try to accept him for what he is. And im not talking about a hairy guy who is going to pinch your lingerie, I mean someone who shaves their body hair off and really makes the effort to look the part even if its clear they are still a man in a dress.....someone like me. Thoughts please." I find that a big turn on | |||
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"It's not a turn on for me, but it wouldn't put me off. If a man is comfortable enough to share that with me, I'll do anything I can to be supportive. Let's play dress up, let me help you get the best out of your makeup and shape, let's enjoy together. I know it's not quite the same, but I spend a lot of time around Drag Queens, and live for this shit! I love to help and share, always love and support with both of us. I'd love to get my brushes out for the husband, but he won't let me, booo! " Actually, on reflection, I wouldn't know if it's a turn on for me really. I haven't put a lot of thought into it, and the men I've been lucky enough to help with makeup/dressing haven't been interested in me! So who knows, but it's deffo not a turn off! | |||
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"It wouldn’t put me off, and if he wants to go to Tesco in fem then that’s cool too. I’d never want anyone to feel I’m embarrassed to be with them. That’s bloody horrible. Same rules apply with everyone though, if we’re going to Tesco then you better get some salt and vinegar Pringles. " Of course you like salt and Vinegar Pringles | |||
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"It wouldn’t put me off, and if he wants to go to Tesco in fem then that’s cool too. I’d never want anyone to feel I’m embarrassed to be with them. That’s bloody horrible. Same rules apply with everyone though, if we’re going to Tesco then you better get some salt and vinegar Pringles. Of course you like salt and Vinegar Pringles " The elite tier Pringle | |||
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"It wouldn’t put me off, and if he wants to go to Tesco in fem then that’s cool too. I’d never want anyone to feel I’m embarrassed to be with them. That’s bloody horrible. Same rules apply with everyone though, if we’re going to Tesco then you better get some salt and vinegar Pringles. Of course you like salt and Vinegar Pringles The elite tier Pringle " This is neither the point of this thread nor is it an accurate or acceptable opinion to hold | |||
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"It wouldn’t put me off, and if he wants to go to Tesco in fem then that’s cool too. I’d never want anyone to feel I’m embarrassed to be with them. That’s bloody horrible. Same rules apply with everyone though, if we’re going to Tesco then you better get some salt and vinegar Pringles. Of course you like salt and Vinegar Pringles The elite tier Pringle This is neither the point of this thread nor is it an accurate or acceptable opinion to hold" Excellent commitment to being wrong all the time | |||
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"It wouldn’t put me off, and if he wants to go to Tesco in fem then that’s cool too. I’d never want anyone to feel I’m embarrassed to be with them. That’s bloody horrible. Same rules apply with everyone though, if we’re going to Tesco then you better get some salt and vinegar Pringles. Of course you like salt and Vinegar Pringles The elite tier Pringle This is neither the point of this thread nor is it an accurate or acceptable opinion to hold" This is very much the point of the thread. Its about who and why others are comfortable with a man who crossdresses, not just a tube of pringles. P.s. sour cream and chives are the best | |||
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"I've got a warm and fuzzy feeling seeing some of the comments, its good to see that views are slowly but surely changing although its also good to hear the flip side as well and the reasons why so all comments are equally important and valid " I wouldn't call myself a crossdresser as it's not something that i identify with, for me it's more an occasional kink. But I've "come out" in two relationships now, in the first it went very badly, though i'm not sure that relationship was right in the first place, and she immediately assumed it meant i was gay and didn't find her attractive. In the other she encouraged me and even did some shopping for lingerie with me (that i still own now), sadly life got in the way of that relationship as the sex side was great. I'm still pretty nervous of telling women i meet about it because of what the reaction could be, in the same way i'm nervous to say i'm bi, i hope that changes as attitudes change but as the old saying goes, once bitten twice shy | |||
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"I would be happy to accept him which ever way he felt comfortable and if he looked anything like you sophie I'd be asking for tips too. My ex fwb is a very hairy man who likes to dress but only in private and never does his hair or makeup." For all of us who exist somewhere on the spectrum it can be very difficult. Yes I do my best and to the level I enjoy it to and others like your ex FWB did theirs for themselves too. It is really difficult to even think about telling a significant other as the outcomes can vary massively and you are scared to lose that person but then should you live a life in turmoil instead? I know for me now that it has to come out as I never want to try and hide it again but also know that if I ever do want a relationship, finding someone open enough to accept all sides of me is going to narrow down who I may one day meet considerably. Such is life but personally I am happy being me now, it just took me till I was 45 to realise that I could be happy this way and that some others would one day accept me as I am. | |||
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"It's not a 'bombshell'. I find it really offensive to discriminate against hairy men who like to wear lingerie. So because my guy is butch, hairy and likes to wear lingerie but doesn't wear wigs or makeup he's a lesser being. Fucking great. " Sorry, I really didn't mean anything to sound like that and I do try not to discriminate against anyone. I've also been that hairy guy in a pair of knickers and know how many see it sometimes and im glad you're one of those who see past that. The bombshell I meant was coming out with dressing in any form from wearing knickers right through to those who need to transition, the fear of coming out is there for us all and we clearly know we all have a lot to lose by doing so. Your ex FWB is no more or less valid than any of us...its hard from any position we find ourselves in. My apologies. | |||
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"It's not a 'bombshell'. I find it really offensive to discriminate against hairy men who like to wear lingerie. So because my guy is butch, hairy and likes to wear lingerie but doesn't wear wigs or makeup he's a lesser being. Fucking great. " Was this aimed at my comment? I can assure you I was not discriminating against hairy men. I actually prefer hairy men. I was stating that was his level of comfort and that is absolutely fine and doesnt make him a lesser being. My apologies if it came across otherwise. | |||
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"It's not a 'bombshell'. I find it really offensive to discriminate against hairy men who like to wear lingerie. So because my guy is butch, hairy and likes to wear lingerie but doesn't wear wigs or makeup he's a lesser being. Fucking great. Sorry, I really didn't mean anything to sound like that and I do try not to discriminate against anyone. I've also been that hairy guy in a pair of knickers and know how many see it sometimes and im glad you're one of those who see past that. The bombshell I meant was coming out with dressing in any form from wearing knickers right through to those who need to transition, the fear of coming out is there for us all and we clearly know we all have a lot to lose by doing so. Your ex FWB is no more or less valid than any of us...its hard from any position we find ourselves in. My apologies." No my offence is generic, not aimed at you Sophie. At the words in the OP but not at you personally. I take offence at my own reflection most days. No need to apologise. I know how many people see it and I do understand your use of the term bombshell. I'm just annoyed in general. Xx | |||
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"It's not a 'bombshell'. I find it really offensive to discriminate against hairy men who like to wear lingerie. So because my guy is butch, hairy and likes to wear lingerie but doesn't wear wigs or makeup he's a lesser being. Fucking great. Was this aimed at my comment? I can assure you I was not discriminating against hairy men. I actually prefer hairy men. I was stating that was his level of comfort and that is absolutely fine and doesnt make him a lesser being. My apologies if it came across otherwise. " No need to apologise to me. As above. xx | |||
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"So ladies of Fab, Of you had got talking to a guy on here and things were going well, you got o and liked the guy enough to maybe consider a social or more at some point and he then drops a bombshell. He tells you that he crossdresses but it is something that he does privately and won't ever expect you to go to Tesco's with him dressed up as he wouldn't dream of it either. He does it for himself but is also happy to share it with you if you chose to but is equally happy to keep it to himself too. Would this put you off him and you'd walk away or would you be curious or open enough to try to accept him for what he is. And im not talking about a hairy guy who is going to pinch your lingerie, I mean someone who shaves their body hair off and really makes the effort to look the part even if its clear they are still a man in a dress.....someone like me. Thoughts please." It wouldn’t bother me at all. I have long experience of being with someone who dresses. But then, I’m bi, so maybe it’s cheating for me to answer this question! I like and am very open to meeting crossdressers, though my preference is for feminine ladies who know what they’re doing with makeup etc. For something casual I wouldn’t be interested in doing makeovers or teaching about makeup - that’s mainly down to lack of time and preferring to spend that time on play. In a relationship of course it would be different and I’d be happy to do that kind of thing. I should also say that that is my preference for crossdressers. Trans women (and trans men for that matter) I don’t look at any differently from cis women and men. | |||
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"Tgirls don't always get a good press on fabswingers but I am glad that we are treated with respect by sensible people. " Tgirls put up with pretty much the worst of everything in society, the murder rates for trans is higher than the average, as is the suicide rate and unemployment rate, it's really about time the prejudice towards them ends. We're in the 21st century now and there's no reason why that sort of prejudice against people who just want to live their true lives should exist. Sorry to get a bit political there but i have good friends who are trans and it really saddens me how they are treated by society. | |||
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"But I've "come out" in two relationships now, in the first it went very badly, though i'm not sure that relationship was right in the first place, and she immediately assumed it meant i was gay and didn't find her attractive. In the other she encouraged me and even did some shopping for lingerie with me (that i still own now), sadly life got in the way of that relationship as the sex side was great." My attitude changed over the years, from your first relationship, evolving to your second more accepting and supportive one. Years ago, I was narrow minded and if a man as much want to wear one tiny skimpy knickers, I would go off him instantly! Then I met a guy who I loved very much who asked me if I minded if he wore a silky camisole when we next had sex. I was wary but love conquers all ... but he moved abroad and that relationship ended. Then more recently, I clocked a lean but very handsome bald guy at Legs 800. It was love at first sight!!! But then I noticed he had a big bag with him... And was just about to start his transformation into a leggy tranny... We were a relationship for nearly a year and loved doing weekend trips to Sparkle, Brighton for events... And lots and lots of shopping of course! | |||
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"It wouldn’t put me off, and if he wants to go to Tesco in fem then that’s cool too. I’d never want anyone to feel I’m embarrassed to be with them. That’s bloody horrible. Same rules apply with everyone though, if we’re going to Tesco then you better get some salt and vinegar Pringles. " Unfortunately it seems that we are fundamentally incompatible I prefer the sweet chilli flavour... | |||
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"I know for me now that it has to come out as I never want to try and hide it again but also know that if I ever do want a relationship, finding someone open enough to accept all sides of me is going to narrow down who I may one day meet considerably. Such is life but personally I am happy being me now, it just took me till I was 45 to realise that I could be happy this way and that some others would one day accept me as I am." This exactly Sophie. I deliberately put Gemma up on Fab rather than a guy profile. After Gemma costing me my marriage, I had a decision to make. Stick to normal "dating" & risk dropping the subject into conversation later & then watch as the poor girl fled in horror. Or try a different way by going down the route of presenting as Gemma in the hope of stumbling across a lady who was willing to accept & maybe even enjoy & join in. Like you say it's lean pickings but I'd rather be honest & upfront. I've been told countless times by friends & contacts fab isn't for dating. I know that, I'm not daft. But I don't know how else to go about it. I can't exactly go on conventional dating sites & out myself to all & sundry, especially on this Island of backwards views. Yes it's very hard & yes it's very lonely. This last year has been tough keeping motivated & still clinging to hope. Gemma is not compulsory in the bedroom, I'm happy as guy me, but I can't deny I'd like some Gemma fun too. But I can't lie no matter what the cost. If it means I stay single for a long time, I'd rather that than tear some poor girls emotions to pieces later once I'd got close. Brave post honey & very thought provoking, nice one. X | |||
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"I know for me now that it has to come out as I never want to try and hide it again but also know that if I ever do want a relationship, finding someone open enough to accept all sides of me is going to narrow down who I may one day meet considerably. Such is life but personally I am happy being me now, it just took me till I was 45 to realise that I could be happy this way and that some others would one day accept me as I am. This exactly Sophie. I deliberately put Gemma up on Fab rather than a guy profile. After Gemma costing me my marriage, I had a decision to make. Stick to normal "dating" & risk dropping the subject into conversation later & then watch as the poor girl fled in horror. Or try a different way by going down the route of presenting as Gemma in the hope of stumbling across a lady who was willing to accept & maybe even enjoy & join in. Like you say it's lean pickings but I'd rather be honest & upfront. I've been told countless times by friends & contacts fab isn't for dating. I know that, I'm not daft. But I don't know how else to go about it. I can't exactly go on conventional dating sites & out myself to all & sundry, especially on this Island of backwards views. Yes it's very hard & yes it's very lonely. This last year has been tough keeping motivated & still clinging to hope. Gemma is not compulsory in the bedroom, I'm happy as guy me, but I can't deny I'd like some Gemma fun too. But I can't lie no matter what the cost. If it means I stay single for a long time, I'd rather that than tear some poor girls emotions to pieces later once I'd got close. Brave post honey & very thought provoking, nice one. X " Fab is what ever you want it to be for and don’t let anyone tell you different | |||
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"Tbf, if I liked him enough to see him regularly I would be ok with a hairy guy that buys his own underwear, not pinch mine, as much as one that primps on a more serious level too " That’s a fair point too. If I like and fancy a guy he can wear whatever he wants with me. But like you say, not my stuff! | |||
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"Tbf, if I liked him enough to see him regularly I would be ok with a hairy guy that buys his own underwear, not pinch mine, as much as one that primps on a more serious level too That’s a fair point too. If I like and fancy a guy he can wear whatever he wants with me. But like you say, not my stuff!" You know most of us already have our own stuff and that goes both ways....keep your hands off my eyeshadow brushes | |||
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"Tbf, if I liked him enough to see him regularly I would be ok with a hairy guy that buys his own underwear, not pinch mine, as much as one that primps on a more serious level too That’s a fair point too. If I like and fancy a guy he can wear whatever he wants with me. But like you say, not my stuff! You know most of us already have our own stuff and that goes both ways....keep your hands off my eyeshadow brushes " It's ok, I don't wear eyeshadow | |||
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"Tbf, if I liked him enough to see him regularly I would be ok with a hairy guy that buys his own underwear, not pinch mine, as much as one that primps on a more serious level too That’s a fair point too. If I like and fancy a guy he can wear whatever he wants with me. But like you say, not my stuff! You know most of us already have our own stuff and that goes both ways....keep your hands off my eyeshadow brushes " | |||
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"Tbf, if I liked him enough to see him regularly I would be ok with a hairy guy that buys his own underwear, not pinch mine, as much as one that primps on a more serious level too That’s a fair point too. If I like and fancy a guy he can wear whatever he wants with me. But like you say, not my stuff! You know most of us already have our own stuff and that goes both ways....keep your hands off my eyeshadow brushes It's ok, I don't wear eyeshadow " Eyeliner then....and woe betide you if you borrow and ladder my stockings! | |||
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"Tbf, if I liked him enough to see him regularly I would be ok with a hairy guy that buys his own underwear, not pinch mine, as much as one that primps on a more serious level too That’s a fair point too. If I like and fancy a guy he can wear whatever he wants with me. But like you say, not my stuff! You know most of us already have our own stuff and that goes both ways....keep your hands off my eyeshadow brushes It's ok, I don't wear eyeshadow Eyeliner then....and woe betide you if you borrow and ladder my stockings!" Stay the fuck away from my sanitary towels, not just for a month .... but always. They just ain't for your body form and I don't care how well they would work as plasters or I dunno, sticky things for fixing things. | |||
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"Tbf, if I liked him enough to see him regularly I would be ok with a hairy guy that buys his own underwear, not pinch mine, as much as one that primps on a more serious level too That’s a fair point too. If I like and fancy a guy he can wear whatever he wants with me. But like you say, not my stuff! You know most of us already have our own stuff and that goes both ways....keep your hands off my eyeshadow brushes It's ok, I don't wear eyeshadow Eyeliner then....and woe betide you if you borrow and ladder my stockings!" Nope no eye liner either only ever my own mascara would never borrow stockings, mostly due to the laddering... I kinda like getting them in that state so would be rude, really | |||
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"Tbf, if I liked him enough to see him regularly I would be ok with a hairy guy that buys his own underwear, not pinch mine, as much as one that primps on a more serious level too That’s a fair point too. If I like and fancy a guy he can wear whatever he wants with me. But like you say, not my stuff! You know most of us already have our own stuff and that goes both ways....keep your hands off my eyeshadow brushes It's ok, I don't wear eyeshadow Eyeliner then....and woe betide you if you borrow and ladder my stockings! Stay the fuck away from my sanitary towels, not just for a month .... but always. They just ain't for your body form and I don't care how well they would work as plasters or I dunno, sticky things for fixing things." Fine but don't you dare tell me what I can and can't use a tampon for Watch top gear if you dont think that have multiple uses | |||
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"Tbf, if I liked him enough to see him regularly I would be ok with a hairy guy that buys his own underwear, not pinch mine, as much as one that primps on a more serious level too That’s a fair point too. If I like and fancy a guy he can wear whatever he wants with me. But like you say, not my stuff! You know most of us already have our own stuff and that goes both ways....keep your hands off my eyeshadow brushes It's ok, I don't wear eyeshadow Eyeliner then....and woe betide you if you borrow and ladder my stockings! Nope no eye liner either only ever my own mascara would never borrow stockings, mostly due to the laddering... I kinda like getting them in that state so would be rude, really " So tell me more about getting stockings in that state | |||
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"Tbf, if I liked him enough to see him regularly I would be ok with a hairy guy that buys his own underwear, not pinch mine, as much as one that primps on a more serious level too That’s a fair point too. If I like and fancy a guy he can wear whatever he wants with me. But like you say, not my stuff! You know most of us already have our own stuff and that goes both ways....keep your hands off my eyeshadow brushes It's ok, I don't wear eyeshadow Eyeliner then....and woe betide you if you borrow and ladder my stockings! Stay the fuck away from my sanitary towels, not just for a month .... but always. They just ain't for your body form and I don't care how well they would work as plasters or I dunno, sticky things for fixing things. Fine but don't you dare tell me what I can and can't use a tampon for Watch top gear if you dont think that have multiple uses " You're welcome to them. I've a couple of boxes knocking around but I just can't get on with them. Mental block from my teenage years. Bastard things. | |||
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"Tbf, if I liked him enough to see him regularly I would be ok with a hairy guy that buys his own underwear, not pinch mine, as much as one that primps on a more serious level too That’s a fair point too. If I like and fancy a guy he can wear whatever he wants with me. But like you say, not my stuff! You know most of us already have our own stuff and that goes both ways....keep your hands off my eyeshadow brushes It's ok, I don't wear eyeshadow Eyeliner then....and woe betide you if you borrow and ladder my stockings! Stay the fuck away from my sanitary towels, not just for a month .... but always. They just ain't for your body form and I don't care how well they would work as plasters or I dunno, sticky things for fixing things. Fine but don't you dare tell me what I can and can't use a tampon for Watch top gear if you dont think that have multiple uses You're welcome to them. I've a couple of boxes knocking around but I just can't get on with them. Mental block from my teenage years. Bastard things." Take a close look at Crocodile Dundee's hat....tampons and creosote | |||
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"Absolute heaven! And let me tell you ladies, there’s always spare make up and stockings in the house! I’m always raiding Abby’s drawers V" I look forwards to somebody raiding my drawers | |||
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"Absolute heaven! And let me tell you ladies, there’s always spare make up and stockings in the house! I’m always raiding Abby’s drawers V I look forwards to somebody raiding my drawers " Make sure it’s the right kind of raid Polly! I get told off for the wrong one! xxx | |||
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"Tbf, if I liked him enough to see him regularly I would be ok with a hairy guy that buys his own underwear, not pinch mine, as much as one that primps on a more serious level too That’s a fair point too. If I like and fancy a guy he can wear whatever he wants with me. But like you say, not my stuff!" That's pretty much what my partner said to me "wear your own stuff, not mine". Doesn't stop her wearing mine though! | |||
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"Cross dressing feels like one of societies last big taboo's, but as with all the other old taboo's it's starting to change. I think in 5-10 years no one will bat an eyelid at any man that wants to wear anything from panties, to lingerie, through to shaving and dressing completely. At least i hope so anyway as it's rubbish having to keep it in private " We've got quite a few cross dressers near me - they go shopping fully made up, no-one bats an eyelid. | |||
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"I like it, I’ve gone out shopping for someone I’ve met in the past. Thoroughly enjoyed picking outfits out for him to wear. " Love doing this! Going out together and choosing what to wear for each other whilst wearing sexy lingerie underneath... then going back and dressing/undressing each other! Can cam now if any ladies interested? | |||
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"Tbf, if I liked him enough to see him regularly I would be ok with a hairy guy that buys his own underwear, not pinch mine, as much as one that primps on a more serious level too That’s a fair point too. If I like and fancy a guy he can wear whatever he wants with me. But like you say, not my stuff! You know most of us already have our own stuff and that goes both ways....keep your hands off my eyeshadow brushes " Oh is that so??? | |||
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"Tbf, if I liked him enough to see him regularly I would be ok with a hairy guy that buys his own underwear, not pinch mine, as much as one that primps on a more serious level too That’s a fair point too. If I like and fancy a guy he can wear whatever he wants with me. But like you say, not my stuff! You know most of us already have our own stuff and that goes both ways....keep your hands off my eyeshadow brushes Oh is that so??? " I always thought sharing was caring ha! Would always prefer for a woman to choose to dress me in hers! | |||
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"Tbf, if I liked him enough to see him regularly I would be ok with a hairy guy that buys his own underwear, not pinch mine, as much as one that primps on a more serious level too That’s a fair point too. If I like and fancy a guy he can wear whatever he wants with me. But like you say, not my stuff! You know most of us already have our own stuff and that goes both ways....keep your hands off my eyeshadow brushes Oh is that so??? " Yep, what's mine is mine so get your own | |||
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"I definitely wouldn’t have an issue with it, it’s just clothes at the end of the day, it’s the person that’s the turn on. The only thing is I like to be dominated and would they want to do that dressed as a female........ that’s the only thing that could be a deal breaker " The way someone dresses doesn't mean they're going to be submissive at all, some you’ll find could be quite dominant and nor does it mean they will always be dressed either. You might be a little surprised at how some of us look when we're not presenting as crossdressers. | |||
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"I definitely wouldn’t have an issue with it, it’s just clothes at the end of the day, it’s the person that’s the turn on. The only thing is I like to be dominated and would they want to do that dressed as a female........ that’s the only thing that could be a deal breaker The way someone dresses doesn't mean they're going to be submissive at all, some you’ll find could be quite dominant and nor does it mean they will always be dressed either. You might be a little surprised at how some of us look when we're not presenting as crossdressers." I didn’t say they would I’m just saying if they were that’s the only thing that would be an issue | |||
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"I definitely wouldn’t have an issue with it, it’s just clothes at the end of the day, it’s the person that’s the turn on. The only thing is I like to be dominated and would they want to do that dressed as a female........ that’s the only thing that could be a deal breaker The way someone dresses doesn't mean they're going to be submissive at all, some you’ll find could be quite dominant and nor does it mean they will always be dressed either. You might be a little surprised at how some of us look when we're not presenting as crossdressers. I didn’t say they would I’m just saying if they were that’s the only thing that would be an issue " The same as with anything on here, you chat and find things out and see what works for you | |||
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"Those that mind don't matter, those that matter don't mind. Some like it, some hate, some are ok with it. Just never hide it, espescially to please someone else " This takes a long time to learn but is one of the best things you can come to understand both as a tv/ts and as someone getting involved with one | |||
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"It wouldn’t put me off, and if he wants to go to Tesco in fem then that’s cool too. I’d never want anyone to feel I’m embarrassed to be with them. That’s bloody horrible. Same rules apply with everyone though, if we’re going to Tesco then you better get some salt and vinegar Pringles. Of course you like salt and Vinegar Pringles The elite tier Pringle This is neither the point of this thread nor is it an accurate or acceptable opinion to hold" Jeez, lighten up dude, there’s always time for salt and Vinegar Pringles, my main question is why do they come in tennis ball containers, what’s your thoughts on this fascinating topic?! | |||
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"Every partner I’ve ever had broke up with me once they new about my dressing . I’ve never found a woman that was really into cross dressing or more importantly me . I’ve gave up to be honest x" I think being open from the beginning would prevent this | |||
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"It wouldn't put me off. In fact it may encourage me haha x" In my experience I don't think it's that easy a subject to bring up with a woman if you've just met (unless they knew before hand obvs!) Wish more women were more open minded like you! x | |||
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"I’d be very honoured that they confided in me and I’d discuss it with them how they wanted to proceed. It’s only clothes. " . You are a special lady | |||
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"I’d be very honoured that they confided in me and I’d discuss it with them how they wanted to proceed. It’s only clothes. " I often hear from tgirls that they wish they could meet a woman like you, as a lot of girlfriends or wives are not accepting of their man dressing as a woman. | |||
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"Every partner I’ve ever had broke up with me once they new about my dressing . I’ve never found a woman that was really into cross dressing or more importantly me . I’ve gave up to be honest x I think being open from the beginning would prevent this " I was ashamed of it and wanted it to go away . It’s always felt like a curse . Work and family life stopped me telling people xxx | |||
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"had a cd relationship for 2 years, I got bored in the end unfortunately" Shame, not something you'd be willing to try again then? | |||
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"had a cd relationship for 2 years, I got bored in the end unfortunately Bored of the person themselfs? Or bored of them cross dressing?" | |||
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"Every partner I’ve ever had broke up with me once they new about my dressing . I’ve never found a woman that was really into cross dressing or more importantly me . I’ve gave up to be honest x I think being open from the beginning would prevent this " Yeah that's what I intend to or am trying to do atleast, be open and honest from the beginning. Even trying some dating sites, but not much luck. But yeah I would rather they knew from the beginning instead of hurting somone down the road. | |||
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"Every partner I’ve ever had broke up with me once they new about my dressing . I’ve never found a woman that was really into cross dressing or more importantly me . I’ve gave up to be honest x I think being open from the beginning would prevent this Yeah that's what I intend to or am trying to do atleast, be open and honest from the beginning. Even trying some dating sites, but not much luck. But yeah I would rather they knew from the beginning instead of hurting somone down the road." Me too. Now only putting profiles up as Lynette so it's blatantly obvious this is part of my life and I'd want any future partner to be accepting and a part of it. Fingers crossed! | |||
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"Every partner I’ve ever had broke up with me once they new about my dressing . I’ve never found a woman that was really into cross dressing or more importantly me . I’ve gave up to be honest x I think being open from the beginning would prevent this Yeah that's what I intend to or am trying to do atleast, be open and honest from the beginning. Even trying some dating sites, but not much luck. But yeah I would rather they knew from the beginning instead of hurting somone down the road. Me too. Now only putting profiles up as Lynette so it's blatantly obvious this is part of my life and I'd want any future partner to be accepting and a part of it. Fingers crossed!" I worked with a girl a few years ago and we got on crazy well, people thinking we where together ect. I genuinely really liked her and seemed mutual. I was going to ask her out. But she had told me about her previous fiancee that came out as Trans and she nearly committed suicide over it blaming herself. She said I really reminded of him alot too lol. Obviously she had no clue about the "real" me, so I couldn't do that to her again down the road. The reason why I have put myself out there on other sites as Chloe first | |||
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"Very difficult to bring up the subject. Not as if Crossdressing is considered “normal”. I have even had it where a potential partner has said that someone at her work found her husband in her undies and divorced him. How do you gauge their reaction when you tell them that you’d like to be dressed up in sexy lingerie. xxxx" True you never know how someone will react if you told them. Many women seem to be fine with TVs but frown upon guys that just enjoy wearing lingerie! | |||
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"Personally I'd like to enjoy that side with them, so ideally I'd like to fancy them in both modes." For attraction/sex purposes i'm with peach, platonic wise wouldn't fuss me & god help any one who kicks off at my mates....claws come out | |||
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"Can I just say there are a lot of gorgeous women on this thread, so why can't I meet one????" Lockdown? xx | |||
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"Can I just say there are a lot of gorgeous women on this thread, so why can't I meet one???? Lockdown? xx" And even after that, distance! | |||
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"Very difficult to bring up the subject. Not as if Crossdressing is considered “normal”. I have even had it where a potential partner has said that someone at her work found her husband in her undies and divorced him. How do you gauge their reaction when you tell them that you’d like to be dressed up in sexy lingerie. xxxx True you never know how someone will react if you told them. Many women seem to be fine with TVs but frown upon guys that just enjoy wearing lingerie! " I think that's a fine line. To be in acceptance of a kink and sharing a kink are different states of mind, lots are seeking kink partners to share their interests with but unfortunately assume just because you accept the kink you must like to play with it as well, I've had lots of conversations stall from that | |||
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"Personally I'd like to enjoy that side with them, so ideally I'd like to fancy them in both modes." | |||
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"I would be more than happy to meet and see what came from that as at the end of the day I may not be there cup of tea at all. I would be more concerned that they felt comfortable enough that they could open up more to me if they wanted/needed to. And hopefully if nothing more, an amazing friendship would be able to grow and they would feel able to share both halves of themselves " True it's more than just clothes but a connection of minds/attraction... love this reply! | |||
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"I met a wonderful man through this site and after our first meet, he told me about his TGirl alter-ego. I was taken aback. Not disgusted or anything, just surprised. Mulled it over for a few minutes, and felt that as we'd clicked so well in our meeting he was worth getting to know, and if she is a part of him, then I'd get to know her too. For me it's not about the male or female, it's the kindred spirit inside. I've just embraced it and have a brilliant time with both aspects. Also, a guy who truly understands the excitement of finding a dress with pockets is a real gem!" What do you keep in your dress pockets?? | |||
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"I met a wonderful man through this site and after our first meet, he told me about his TGirl alter-ego. I was taken aback. Not disgusted or anything, just surprised. Mulled it over for a few minutes, and felt that as we'd clicked so well in our meeting he was worth getting to know, and if she is a part of him, then I'd get to know her too. For me it's not about the male or female, it's the kindred spirit inside. I've just embraced it and have a brilliant time with both aspects. Also, a guy who truly understands the excitement of finding a dress with pockets is a real gem!" . Wow that is a refreshing change gorgeous understanding lady that doesn’t ridicule a guy just because he likes to slip into stuff now and then .. so thank you for sharing your beautiful comments on this subject | |||
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"Perhaps worth thinking that the person may be struggling with their gender identity and their cross dressing may ultimately be a stepping stone to coming out as trans 24/7. " . Wow now theirs a thought ., am I | |||
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"I think my concern would be that I wouldn't actually be feminine enough for them, and that my body wouldn't compare well, if they had legs that go on for miles and looked stunning in a dress." . You have beautiful legs I would look gorgeous in stockings I don’t think you would have any competition of me | |||
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"I think my concern would be that I wouldn't actually be feminine enough for them, and that my body wouldn't compare well, if they had legs that go on for miles and looked stunning in a dress.. You have beautiful legs I would look gorgeous in stockings I don’t think you would have any competition of me " Oh I don't know, you certainly look elegant in heels. | |||
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"I think my concern would be that I wouldn't actually be feminine enough for them, and that my body wouldn't compare well, if they had legs that go on for miles and looked stunning in a dress." First, trust me that wouldn't be an issue! Second, it depends on what the person's motives were for dressing. Some just dabble and enjoy it, be that sexually or not. Others dress to adopt a different persona, and others really want to become a woman. I would say it's only really the latter that MIGHT be comparing themselves to you, and if so it would only really be to see how well they pass as a woman. So actually if they did have longer legs etc then I would guess it would be more of a confidence boost for them, rather than a disappointment towards you. Whatever their reasons, it does take a lot for a dresser to share both sides of their personality openly with someone, so if they do then they really do think a lot about you and that should be all that matters x | |||
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"I think my concern would be that I wouldn't actually be feminine enough for them, and that my body wouldn't compare well, if they had legs that go on for miles and looked stunning in a dress. First, trust me that wouldn't be an issue! Second, it depends on what the person's motives were for dressing. Some just dabble and enjoy it, be that sexually or not. Others dress to adopt a different persona, and others really want to become a woman. I would say it's only really the latter that MIGHT be comparing themselves to you, and if so it would only really be to see how well they pass as a woman. So actually if they did have longer legs etc then I would guess it would be more of a confidence boost for them, rather than a disappointment towards you. Whatever their reasons, it does take a lot for a dresser to share both sides of their personality openly with someone, so if they do then they really do think a lot about you and that should be all that matters x" Very true | |||
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"Also, a guy who truly understands the excitement of finding a dress with pockets is a real gem! What do you keep in your dress pockets?? " Tissues, lippie, cash, car keys, small animals, cat treats, hairbands, hipflask, sweets. That sort of thing. | |||
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"Also, a guy who truly understands the excitement of finding a dress with pockets is a real gem! What do you keep in your dress pockets?? Tissues, lippie, cash, car keys, small animals, cat treats, hairbands, hipflask, sweets. That sort of thing. " Bunny crumpets? | |||
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"Also, a guy who truly understands the excitement of finding a dress with pockets is a real gem! What do you keep in your dress pockets?? Tissues, lippie, cash, car keys, small animals, cat treats, hairbands, hipflask, sweets. That sort of thing. Bunny crumpets? " Busted!! | |||
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"It wouldn’t put me off, and if he wants to go to Tesco in fem then that’s cool too. I’d never want anyone to feel I’m embarrassed to be with them. That’s bloody horrible. Same rules apply with everyone though, if we’re going to Tesco then you better get some salt and vinegar Pringles. " Go to Tesco’s a few times as per one of my pics when dressed as Katie, the hardest part is plucking up the courage to get outa the car, after that it’s just swallow deep and walk. I try to make sure I’m dressed as a normal woman would be not showing anything that would be contentious or get me arrested for flashing stocking tops so making sure I wear a below knee dress or skirt etc, some people clock me and stare other look, see and look away as quick as they can, others look and ignore. | |||
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"It would put me off, I am sorry. I have been approached like this before and while I respect it, it is a turn off for me. So would be happy to chat qnd probably meet up socially if we got in, etc- but not sexually... " I have met some really wonderful women whilst I'm out, respectful, paid such lovely compliments on my outfits and heels and make up etc, but I dont go out to look for women to have sex with, I just like having a girlie chat with them, my lufe is not all about sex, though I do have a massive sex drive, but I also love to meet up for a coffee, shopping, lunch, more shopping, restaurants and bars and clubs etc | |||
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"I (Mrs) have a friend who likes lingerie and heels. We met when I was single have only chatted and exchanged a mutual Appreciation of all things sexy, but he felt comfortable to share with me and I never judged. I like him as a person, all sides to him. I’m all honestly he can rock pretty lingerie better than I can. If Mr was into that I’d love nothing more than going shopping and encouraging him. I sincerely hope attitudes are changing and more people accept people for who they are. Mrs" . Thank you both xx your very special understanding couple xx | |||
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"Personally I'd like to enjoy that side with them, so ideally I'd like to fancy them in both modes. Thanks Peach, I thought this thread was going to disappear into the ether and that my typo's wouldn't be noticed either Typo's? What typo's? " Mmmm T-ypo's, their so sexy, so round and inviting, don't you just want to do one now and again it's just so wrong but so Tyyyy poooo, HEY every one to their own kink. | |||
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"Personally I'd like to enjoy that side with them, so ideally I'd like to fancy them in both modes." Love this haha My ex categorically told me she wouldn’t fancy me in drag .... oooo a challenge | |||
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"I (Mrs) have a friend who likes lingerie and heels. We met when I was single have only chatted and exchanged a mutual Appreciation of all things sexy, but he felt comfortable to share with me and I never judged. I like him as a person, all sides to him. I’m all honestly he can rock pretty lingerie better than I can. If Mr was into that I’d love nothing more than going shopping and encouraging him. I sincerely hope attitudes are changing and more people accept people for who they are. Mrs" . Wow beautiful and standing lady I just wish there was more ladies out there that like the idea of a man dressed up not particularly been convincing just feeling the same way she does when she slipped into stockings and high heels it just changes your whole aspect on the sexiness of it all | |||
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"I have posted this elsewhere, but this is my story, all true, which kind of gives a different angle/take on this. Many years ago when I was 19/20 I had a relationship with an older lady (early 30s) who told me an awful lot about sex! One night when we played she suggested I wear her stockings for some fun which I was up for and it went from there. We started having sex with both wearing s&s, then she bought me my own set. Before long we'd go out together to buy matching lingerie, sets, basques etc and we'd do photo shoots etc, sending the film off to PO boxes in the back of Escort! Eventually we'd be going out for nights out, regular vanilla nights to normal clubs, dressed normal but with matching lingerie on, knowing each others secret. Once or twice she went as far as making me up for a night of fun at home. I can't say I ever loved dressing and I certainly was never convincing but she found it incredibly horny and it drove her wild. That I did love! It was on holidays in PdI that we first met a few genuine beautiful dressers on a night out and that really intrigued us both - and made us fuck like crazy back at the hotel. One of the last nights on holiday, a visit to the old yumbo centre saw one thing lead to another and ended with the most gorgeous TV masturbating in front of us until they came over my partners feet in her sandals. That was the night I discovered I was attracted to dressers. Also, it was the night that led to our adventures involving others." . Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this my favorite subject you said you were lucky lucky guy indeed to have such a gorgeous lady do this for you so jealous | |||
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