FabSwingers.com forum: Tinder

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not sure if I'm allowed to use this name in a post title but here go's.

I read with interest the long Tinder thread that used to be here which I can no longer find and now come back with further feedback.

I went out and put Tinder to the test myself so that I would be better qualified to comment. Off the block I purchased Tinder Gold which gave me access to LIKES and 1 BOOST. To be quite honest ..it works.

The common Bio pre-requisite is NO ONS or NO FWB seen on many Female profiles. Sift these prudes out and you good to go.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

If it works so well why are you back on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why are people on a dating site that don't want ONS etc .. prudes OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've hooked up with lots of guys off Tinder and I don't have any of the paid extras. Works well for ONSs

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By *estofbothCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

I’m interested in using it for other girls, but know a few people on there and as I’m married don’t really want to show up in the immediate area and give our lifestyle away.

Is it possible to exclude say a 10 mile radius from your home location, or even view people but not be viewed yourself before swiping?

Just after a bit of advice before starting a profile and having some potentially awkward questions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m interested in using it for other girls, but know a few people on there and as I’m married don’t really want to show up in the immediate area and give our lifestyle away.

Is it possible to exclude say a 10 mile radius from your home location, or even view people but not be viewed yourself before swiping?

Just after a bit of advice before starting a profile and having some potentially awkward questions.

Sadly it does not work like that i belive there is a setting where you can only be seen by people you have liked so then you would just limit who you swipe on once you have seen there distance from you etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me personally I find tinder very fit and miss, I get the matches but they are either to far away or fake profiles,

The ones I get talking to the chat seems to dry up pretty quick.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

https://youtu.be/yvUbGGrnI9E

Can't hear it's name now without this popping into my head

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes you are welcome to ask me for advice. Just be advised though that Tinder swipe is Bio-driven. Being a dating site the browser wants to know about you and see your face. You will be minimizing your returns 10fold by not appearing open. It is a dating site...HOWEVER..if you are shrewd you can pull some very hot chicks.

"Just after a bit of advice before starting a profile and having some potentially awkward questions.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I personally have found Tinder completely useless. Even had a paid account for a couple of years. I get more attention on here. Obviously my face is just *that* terrible!

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

"I personally have found Tinder completely useless. Even had a paid account for a couple of years. I get more attention on here. Obviously my face is just *that* terrible!

Nah..it's your skinny little arse!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

People like you are the reason I no longer use dating sites OP. To many liars and cheats wanting one night stands and hook ups, doing anything they can to get them. That does not make me a 'prude' as you so nicely put it.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I personally have found Tinder completely useless. Even had a paid account for a couple of years. I get more attention on here. Obviously my face is just *that* terrible!

Nah..it's your skinny little arse!

I don't show my arse on Tinder. I can completely understand how someone would confuse it with my face, though.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Love Tinder. Half decent bio and pics and you are set.

Had a great spring summer in 2017 using it. It wasn’t just the fun but had some really good dates and met some people I’m still in touch with.

Introduced one of them to here.

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By *enuine MikeMan
over a year ago

Guildford

Tinder has been a complete waste of time for me.

Was actively on that site daily for 4 years and never had 1 meet.

Guess it Says more about me than the website

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tinder has been a complete waste of time for me.

Was actively on that site daily for 4 years and never had 1 meet.

Guess it Says more about me than the website

Well worked for me on tinder. I found my bisexual partner jenny on there.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Tinder has been a complete waste of time for me.

Was actively on that site daily for 4 years and never had 1 meet.

Guess it Says more about me than the website

I feel your pain. Five years and counting, paid account for two, not a single meet.

Female friend of mine joined up. Left again pretty much immediately after getting hammered with two thousand notifications in a single day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People honestly not getting one date from tinder in years?? Seem like decent shape lads so I’m confused!

I’ve honestly met at least 50 women from tinder and it could be closer to 100. I’ve no idea. Didn’t sleep with remotely that anoint now but I’d say it was at least 15-20 of them or slightly more.

Are you guys in a sparsely populated area maybe? Where I am it’s about 100k but a big touristy area and also a fairly changeable population in terms of people living there for short periods too

I wouldn’t consider myself much better than average in body or looks department and most women don’t match with me that I’d like to match with Burgas still had quite a really positive return from tinder

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I (Luke) tried it in 2016 for about three months and had two meets and one other interested person. It struck me that if you have decent photos and a good attitude you can go a long way.

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By *enuine MikeMan
over a year ago

Guildford

"Tinder has been a complete waste of time for me.

Was actively on that site daily for 4 years and never had 1 meet.

Guess it Says more about me than the website

Well worked for me on tinder. I found my bisexual partner jenny on there. "

I know 2 people who are now married who have found love on Tinder.

I've also worked with others who had weekly Tinder dates.

It clearly works for some but hasn't done shit for me. Glad I dont pay for it otherwise I be demanding for my money back lol

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By *enuine MikeMan
over a year ago

Guildford

"I (Luke) tried it in 2016 for about three months and had two meets and one other interested person. It struck me that if you have decent photos and a good attitude you can go a long way. "

You need to have a match first before you go onto stage 2 with communication.

If you aren't even getting a match, you are simply stuck in Limbo

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"People honestly not getting one date from tinder in years?? Seem like decent shape lads so I’m confused!

Are you guys in a sparsely populated area maybe? Where I am it’s about 100k but a big touristy area and also a fairly changeable population in terms of people living there for short periods too

Thank you for the implied compliment. You're very kind.

Nottingham has a population of about 332,000. Rises to about 1.6 million if you consider Nottingham and Derby to be a single metroplitan area.

I had slightly better luck with OkCupid. I've been on it slightly longer than Tinder, and again paid for it a couple of times. It got me two whole meets! Unfortunately, one of them eventually ghosted, and the other one died.

Conversely, within half a dozen trips to my local club, I was helping a guy DP his wife, and arranging to do more with them in future before the pandemic hit.

Obviously there's something wrong with my online presence, but I've never been able to figure out what it is.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Didn’t Tinder start out as a “hook up” app and then morphed into a dating app?

Anyhoo, I have found it to be very good. I think the most important thing is to be honest on your profile and don’t swipe right on people that state “no ONS”. My profile always states clearly what I am looking for, however sometimes people don’t read that so when it comes to the first message I always politely ask if they have read my profile. 7 out of 10 matches then evaporate but those that are looking for the same as me tend to chat.

To be honest I prefer bumble as the woman has to make the first move when it comes to messaging which usually guarantees that they have read your profile.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Didn’t Tinder start out as a “hook up” app and then morphed into a dating app?

To be honest I prefer bumble as the woman has to make the first move when it comes to messaging which usually guarantees that they have read your profile.

People – including a lot of Fabbers – claim that Tinder still is a hook-up app. With all due respect, they are catastrophically wrong. It's absolutely flooded with monogamous "LOOKING FOR MY ONE AND ONLY" types; perhaps even more so than OKC.

I'm on Bumble too; I really liked the sound of ladies making the first move. Unfortunately, it has so few users it's perhaps even more useless than Tinder and OKC.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this related to the chainsaw thread?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Tnks for the feedback. Last bit of advise for those struggling on Tinder: DON'T GO IN TOO HORNDOG...JUST TREAT THE OPPOSITE SEX WITH RESPECT AND BINGO YOU WILL SUCCEED.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

I had mixed success on there and bumble, quite a number of dates and hook ups where we both knew the score, and one short lived 'relationship'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never used any of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm banned from tinder!!! Have absolutely no idea why as they didnt say.

Anyone fancy a date?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no luck on dating apps - I find the whole thing contrived - I’m so used to meeting someone through friends or work or at a party - I’ve never been able to do the online dating. I’ve met one person through a dating app - and I got over excited I liked them and frightened them away with my mania.

Hook ups for me till something clicks into place.

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

"I've hooked up with lots of guys off Tinder and I don't have any of the paid extras. Works well for ONSs

xx"

Doesn't count 'coz you're a woman.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Tnks for the feedback. Last bit of advise for those struggling on Tinder: DON'T GO IN TOO HORNDOG...JUST TREAT THE OPPOSITE SEX WITH RESPECT AND BINGO YOU WILL SUCCEED."

You've got to get matches before you even have to worry about making that mistake. I haven't had one since November 2018.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not sure if you ate just kidding or for real? If for real then I don't understand your struggle. There is always someone for everyone. Not all the girls on Tinder have stunning looks and not all guys do. Don't understand your struggle.

You've got to get matches before you even have to worry about making that mistake. I haven't had one since November 2018."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say I don't want a one night stand or a hook up on here, I'm certainly no prude

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I say I don't want a one night stand or a hook up on here, I'm certainly no prude "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tinder has been a complete waste of time for me.

Was actively on that site daily for 4 years and never had 1 meet.

Guess it Says more about me than the website

Well worked for me on tinder. I found my bisexual partner jenny on there.

I know 2 people who are now married who have found love on Tinder.

I've also worked with others who had weekly Tinder dates.

It clearly works for some but hasn't done shit for me. Glad I dont pay for it otherwise I be demanding for my money back lol"

Guess you have to strike lucky. I was lucky finding jenny and her being in to swinging and also being bi. John

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Not sure if you ate just kidding or for real? If for real then I don't understand your struggle. There is always someone for everyone. Not all the girls on Tinder have stunning looks and not all guys do. Don't understand your struggle.

You've got to get matches before you even have to worry about making that mistake. I haven't had one since November 2018.

I am completely, totally, 100% serious. There's no reason for me to lie about this; there's nothing to gain from making myself look this pathetic!

I had more success in half a dozen visits to my local club than I've had in five-plus years on Tinder. No matches since November 2018, and no matches have responded to a message since early 2016.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But how do you know if you got LIKES if you don't have GOLD membership or Platinum. Unless you have a boosted membership you won't know that someone liked you. And besides...the are MILLIONS of girls on Tinder..half of Britain so how do you even know someone even realised that you liked them unless they have GOLD membership.

HOWEVER..if indeed you do have GOLD and you still didnt get matches then best you stick to picking up hot chicks at your local pub. lol

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"But how do you know if you got LIKES if you don't have GOLD membership or Platinum. Unless you have a boosted membership you won't know that someone liked you. And besides...the are MILLIONS of girls on Tinder..half of Britain so how do you even know someone even realised that you liked them unless they have GOLD membership."

Firstly, we weren't talking about likes; we were talking about *matches*. It's kind of you to try to make me feel better about it, but moving the goalposts won't work.

Secondly, I thought the same thing, so I paid for Tinder Gold for two of the five years I've been on there. That showed me, very conclusively, that I'm not getting the likes.

So yeah, there might be millions of women on Tinder, but none of them seem to want what I'm offering. Which is their prerogative, of course. Please note that I set aside some time to use Tinder every time I visited a different city, sitting and swiping until it ran out of people to show me. Nothing. I did this Nottingham, Derby, Sheffield, Leeds, Hull and Birmingham. I'd try it in Manchester in London too, but I haven't had much occasion to visit those places.

"HOWEVER..if indeed you do have GOLD and you still didnt get matches then best you stick to picking up hot chicks at your local pub. lol"

I don't have a "local pub", and I haven't had any success in any pub since 2017. *Clubs* are where it's at.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thnks for your message. But dont think that you are understanding me. It all starts with a LIKE...you cannot get a MATCH before you first get a LIKE. A counter LIKE is what leads to a MATCH.

But enough of that. The clubs are what strokes your boat so fill your boots..have fun.

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By *ndrew CareyMan
over a year ago

Peterborough, Cambridgeshire & Lincolnshire

I prefer PoF, Tinder is good but PoF in my experience has more "adults".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pof I find quite good ! feel some features could be free .

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"But dont think that you are understanding me. It all starts with a LIKE...you cannot get a MATCH before you first get a LIKE. A counter LIKE is what leads to a MATCH."

I have already stated above that I don't get matches because I am not getting the likes. Please explain what you think I don't understand.

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By *enuine MikeMan
over a year ago

Guildford

Firstly, we weren't talking about likes; we were talking about *matches*. It's kind of you to try to make me feel better about it, but moving the goalposts won't work.

Secondly, I thought the same thing, so I paid for Tinder Gold for two of the five years I've been on there. That showed me, very conclusively, that I'm not getting the likes.

HOWEVER..if indeed you do have GOLD and you still didnt get matches then best you stick to picking up hot chicks at your local pub. lol

I don't have a "local pub", and I haven't had any success in any pub since 2017. *Clubs* are where it's at. "

Dude!

Im in the same boat as you. Been on Tinder for years, or was until I got so fed up with it I closed my account. In almost 5 years I didnt recieve not one meaningful match which I find not only embarrassing but quite understand why? Im not gods gift to women and nor do I claim to be but not match!

Like you, I used to run out of women in my area. Started off at 25 miles and branched out to a 50 mile radius. Probably swiped through 15k users.

Anyway I feel your pain bud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no luck on dating apps - I find the whole thing contrived - I’m so used to meeting someone through friends or work or at a party - I’ve never been able to do the online dating. I’ve met one person through a dating app - and I got over excited I liked them and frightened them away with my mania.

Hook ups for me till something clicks into place. "

But you started a thread about online dating

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By *al-TeaserCouple
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

"Why are people on a dating site that don't want ONS etc .. prudes OP?

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By *al-TeaserCouple
over a year ago

Stoke-on-Trent

"Love Tinder. Half decent bio and pics and you are set.

Had a great spring summer in 2017 using it. It wasn’t just the fun but had some really good dates and met some people I’m still in touch with.

Introduced one of them to here. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a bit confused by this. I work in a male dominated environment and don't know many lads that's don't get 2-3 meets a week off tinder.

You can now see blurred out pics of those that like you so it isn't hard to work out who they are and match. Like the OP said... out those that are not looking for hook ups.

They are some fairly consistent approaches to maximise returns, such as targeting certain demographics, and the paid service makes it really easy to see who's liked you and match. Some hints in your profile like "adventurous" and certain photos to hook them in (like a photo with a puppy and a starter with you and a couple of friends to get them to start to flick through your profile tosee which one is you

).. you can also manipulate the algorithm once you know how it works. If you travel this that like you will appear first when you go home and you can see they aren't from near you so know they will be a match. Etc.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

I don’t want to be seen as one of those douchelike pick up experts. But borrow a horse and have your picture taken next to it upload it to Tinder.

Watch what happens

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

"I don’t want to be seen as one of those douchelike pick up experts. But borrow a horse and have your picture taken next to it upload it to Tinder.

Watch what happens

I've got a Pony.

Photo is on Tinder.

Didn't work. Well, I say that I got messages, just not off people I wanted to date.

My best results have come from just talking to people.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

"I don’t want to be seen as one of those douchelike pick up experts. But borrow a horse and have your picture taken next to it upload it to Tinder.

Watch what happens

I've got a Pony.

Photo is on Tinder.

Didn't work. Well, I say that I got messages, just not off people I wanted to date.

My best results have come from just talking to people. "

I wonder if having a Pony helps in here? Hmmm...

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

"I don’t want to be seen as one of those douchelike pick up experts. But borrow a horse and have your picture taken next to it upload it to Tinder.

Watch what happens

I've got a Pony.

Photo is on Tinder.

Didn't work. Well, I say that I got messages, just not off people I wanted to date.

My best results have come from just talking to people. "

Oh yeah you have to be able to communicate. Tinder did wonders for my dating small talk.

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By *enuine MikeMan
over a year ago

Guildford

"I don’t want to be seen as one of those douchelike pick up experts. But borrow a horse and have your picture taken next to it upload it to Tinder.

Watch what happens

Thats a great shout. I've got a mate who happens to own a "Sloth" mask from the Goonies. Might ask him to wear it and take a selfie with him.

Might improve my chances LOL!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly, we weren't talking about likes; we were talking about *matches*. It's kind of you to try to make me feel better about it, but moving the goalposts won't work.

Secondly, I thought the same thing, so I paid for Tinder Gold for two of the five years I've been on there. That showed me, very conclusively, that I'm not getting the likes.

HOWEVER..if indeed you do have GOLD and you still didnt get matches then best you stick to picking up hot chicks at your local pub. lol

I don't have a "local pub", and I haven't had any success in any pub since 2017. *Clubs* are where it's at.

Dude!

Like you, I used to run out of women in my area. Started off at 25 miles and branched out to a 50 mile radius. Probably swiped through 15k users.

Anyway I feel your pain bud"

Been there, several times, no longer believe people get numerous meets per month at all, including men on here.

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

I tried POF. Would users say there is any difference? I probably sent ten messages a day for a month using different approaches. I think I got one response which was an argument about football of all things.

Curious but am too traumatised to try Tinder after that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hook ups for me till something clicks into place.

But you started a thread about online dating

Touché! Yeah I did - because I’m having zero luck - I still find the process contrived - it doesn’t mean I’m not doing it as it seems to be the modern way.

As I say - hookups until

Something clicks - and so far nothing has - plus I never know when to drop what I’m into x

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I'm a bit confused by this. I work in a male dominated environment and don't know many lads that's don't get 2-3 meets a week off tinder."

... or maybe you don't know many lads that don't *claim* to get two or three meets a week?

"You can now see blurred out pics of those that like you"

Where?

"They are some fairly consistent approaches to maximise returns, such as targeting certain demographics, and the paid service makes it really easy to see who's liked you and match."

As I've explained multiple times above, I paid for Tinder Gold for two years. Didn't help in the slightest.

"you can also manipulate the algorithm once you know how it works. If you travel this that like you will appear first when you go home and you can see they aren't from near you so know they will be a match. Etc."

Please explain in clear English what any of this means.

"I don’t want to be seen as one of those douchelike pick up experts. But borrow a horse and have your picture taken next to it upload it to Tinder.

Watch what happens

Don't worry, you don't sound like an expert... because in one of my Tinder photos, I am *riding* a horse. In another photo, me and a different horse are posing for the camera together. (Did you know that some horses understand posing for pictures? They absolutely do.) In a third photo, I am grinning at the big friendly parrot perching on my arm. Achieves nothing for me. I just don't get likes.

Again, there is *obviously* something wrong with my online presence, but I'm fucked if I can figure out what it is.

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

Is the pond simply too full of male fish these days? Back in 2010 I was on an online hookup site and managed fairly regular meets and made quite a few online friends. I was just myself and I didn't feel like I needed to sell myself. Now it feels laborious and you need to jump through hoops.

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