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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Can honestly say I've never enountered this, in real life or on here.

Sounds like just an excuse from their end as they're not that into you ( and I don't that in a mean way).

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By *ugofirstMan
over a year ago

livingston

As you say, many people on here with kids. Everyone has a past life so people should be accepting and see where things go.

Good luck

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Having seen the veris on the accounts of people with children, it's clear many people are fine with it. Like Minnie, it's not something I've come across on here either, I must say.

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By *aylor8Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle

Never ever come across that..

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island

I have Disney+ it will keep them quite, while we share a bottle of wine.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I'm not phased by someone who has children.. obviously they're needs come first so just make arrangements to fit in with childfree times...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Can honestly say I've never enountered this, in real life or on here.

Sounds like just an excuse from their end as they're not that into you ( and I don't that in a mean way).

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Quite agree with the latter part.

But I have seen this in the forums and on profiles. Single mothers being slated in a few instances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose its their perogative really.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Can't think why it would make a difference for just sex if someone had kids or not.

From a dating perspective, like you say I can understand it more. It works both ways though. My dad actually seeks women with kids when dating as he said if they're parents themselves they tend to understand parent things more and get that they won't always be number one priority.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

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Also sounds like the kind of excuse those guys who expect you to "meet now" come up with.

If they can't accept you have a life outside FAB then they're best avoided in my experience OP.

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By *eefyBangerMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

As long as the kids aren’t present during any meets (it happens on here believe it or not, some women will say the kids will be asleep when they sometimes have a meet) then I have no issue whatsoever.

What I do find cheeky though is women without kids using the term MILF on their profile x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry to hear you're having an issue. I've not had problems with meets or FWB in the past despite being married with children. Can't say it's ever really come up aside from the occasional "how many" and "how old". Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont understand why this would be hurtful though.

Its a preference like any other.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

Also sounds like the kind of excuse those guys who expect you to "meet now" come up with.

If they can't accept you have a life outside FAB then they're best avoided in my experience OP."

Agreed! I don't have kids but I work long shifts. I've had to end things with a guy because he didn't get that just because I'm free, it doesn't mean I can drop everything to meet for sex. Sometimes I'm knackered after working 12 hours or it's my only day off in 10 days and I'm not up for leaving the sofa .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

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I have young kids but jenny stayed with me. Dont be used as a cum dump for the thirsty fuckers out there. If they dont like you hsve kids its their loss. Chin up chic. John

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

It very much depends on what you ultimately want from a guy.

If its purely a FWB thing, even long term then having kids shouldn't be too much of an issue.

If its a full on relationship then be honest from the start that you're hoping for this if it works out and then important decisions can be made by you both.

It's always worth talking early on in both situations as a happy place can be found either way or you know to walk away early on.

Best of luck OP, there are guys out there who wont have a problem with you having kids so don't lose heart or sleep over it.

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By *ilmissplumpyWoman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"As long as the kids aren’t present during any meets (it happens on here believe it or not, some women will say the kids will be asleep when they sometimes have a meet) then I have no issue whatsoever.

What I do find cheeky though is women without kids using the term MILF on their profile x"

Haha ??????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's either a poor excuse for fear of offending or some such, or they're looking for a more flexible meet now kind of thing. Their loss isn't it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a kid myself, so whether they have a kid or not doesn't bother me in the slightest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a dating site so I wouldn't worry if a woman had kids

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Can't think why it would make a difference for just sex if someone had kids or not.

From a dating perspective, like you say I can understand it more. It works both ways though. My dad actually seeks women with kids when dating as he said if they're parents themselves they tend to understand parent things more and get that they won't always be number one priority."

This I’m the same on Tinder I prefer women with kids as I understand their issues. Also if something should emerge and a relationship starts then the children would have new friends to play with.

On the dating scene it’s rare a woman will not want to date me due to me having kids I see every other weekend. It has happened but the lady I’m sort of seeing currently who’s never had kids, is happy to hear about mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

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Some men think with their penoir and only their penoir.. We are all not like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it sounds like a strange one. As surely if it’s just FWB then it makes no difference as long as it doesn’t particularly impact time / availability etc for you to meet. And if someone is averse to children, then at least that will help clear the way for others too. Personally, I think if someone doesn’t want children, then it may actually be ideal to meet someone who has done the maternal / paternal thing etc.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm sorry to hear you're having an issue. I've not had problems with meets or FWB in the past despite being married with children. Can't say it's ever really come up aside from the occasional "how many" and "how old". Xx"

I'm not having an issue, it's just something I noticed a fair amount and wanted to question. I have a lot of freedom (before covid hit) and only ever had one person use it but thats a whole messed up story on their part.

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

Some men think with their penoir and only their penoir.. We are all not like that.

"

It's true, some of us just don't have the charm to pull off 'penoir'.

Believe me, I've tried.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

"

I have just come out of a marriage where I raised another person's son as my own for 10 years, and it hurts like hell now she has completely cut me off from him. For that reason I will never raise anothers children again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't avoid a woman who has kids. Didn’t know it would be much of an issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why does having a preference to not want to meet someone with kids turn into a man bashing thread.....

Oh wait fab... I forgot

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

I have just come out of a marriage where I raised another person's son as my own for 10 years, and it hurts like hell now she has completely cut me off from him. For that reason I will never raise anothers children again."

I feel for you. I'm aware this happens and plays a big part in why some will avoid. My ex took on my first two as if they were his own and I haven't cut him off from them at all. But he's encountered the fact they don't go see him but will see their father who has done next to nothing and that isn't great either. Plus they are at the ages where they are busy doing their own things in life now too so that doesn't help.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why does having a preference to not want to meet someone with kids turn into a man bashing thread.....

Oh wait fab... I forgot "

It's not man bashing. I bet there are a fair few single dads that get this too.

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By *hysoseriouslyMan
over a year ago

Kent

I think if you are dating anyone you should get to like and understand them and everything that makes them who they are.

Children are a really important part of this and there really shouldn’t be a problem with it. Especially if you aren’t actually bringing them to the meetings!

Surely only inexperienced people think the world is made up of completely single, childless sex goddesses who are addicted to the reception of cock pics?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why does having a preference to not want to meet someone with kids turn into a man bashing thread.....

Oh wait fab... I forgot

It's not man bashing. I bet there are a fair few single dads that get this too. "

No not your original post sorry.

But the generalisation that those with that preference are looking for cum buckets etc....

If a single dad had posted this the responses would be different.

Not your fault OP just fab being fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

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I'm fine if someone does and doesn't have kids. And I agree and understand as you mentioned about from a dating perspective, though if you just want a FB, I can't see how it can be an issue.

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By *entleman_spyMan
over a year ago

nearby

For me, from a Fabs perspective it makes no difference to me at all, from a dating perspective then it would as I have made a conscious decision I do not want kids as part of my life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could understand if you where dating (probably been said before) or if the kids where in the same location. All about protecting the kids and not introducing adults into their life.

But as for FWBs: I see no problem at all, of course these things have to be planned a little bit more. All in all people have children and that's completely different from this world. Good luck x

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By *ympho6969Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

I've never found it to be an issue. I am very open about having a child. Its even on my profile and doesn't prevent me getting plenty of attention on here

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By *otPrinceHarryMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Personally, avoiding women who have children on Fab, would like be avoiding women who have children for my quiz team. The children are nothing to do with the fun we're having.

Everyone has commitments that can sometimes be a time sink, and priorities that are well above meeting me.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Personally, avoiding women who have children on Fab, would like be avoiding women who have children for my quiz team. The children are nothing to do with the fun we're having.

Everyone has commitments that can sometimes be a time sink, and priorities that are well above meeting me."

Great attitude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

I have just come out of a marriage where I raised another person's son as my own for 10 years, and it hurts like hell now she has completely cut me off from him. For that reason I will never raise anothers children again.

I feel for you. I'm aware this happens and plays a big part in why some will avoid. My ex took on my first two as if they were his own and I haven't cut him off from them at all. But he's encountered the fact they don't go see him but will see their father who has done next to nothing and that isn't great either. Plus they are at the ages where they are busy doing their own things in life now too so that doesn't help. "

In my early 20s I got with a women with 2 young children age 2 and 4 at the start of our relationship. We were together 3 years all that love, xmas', 1st day at school etc counted for nothing as when we split I was instantly cut off which totally hurt like hell.

Like the above I've a friend who put 10 years in a relationship as a step dad once it ended you guessed it he was cut out. Luckily 1 of the kids ignored the mother and has a good relationship with her step father to this day. The other kid didn't choosing the biological father who had let him down constantly through life.

I decided after my experience that I wouldn't date women with children and never did again.

I met K 3 years ago and we have just had our first child which has been amazing. I also know that no matter what happens in the future he will always be my child.

KJ

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By *otPrinceHarryMan
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Personally, avoiding women who have children on Fab, would like be avoiding women who have children for my quiz team. The children are nothing to do with the fun we're having.

Everyone has commitments that can sometimes be a time sink, and priorities that are well above meeting me.

Great attitude "

Thank you! I seem to be on a run of pearls of wisdom this week. It's a Christmas Miracle!

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Personally, avoiding women who have children on Fab, would like be avoiding women who have children for my quiz team. The children are nothing to do with the fun we're having.

Everyone has commitments that can sometimes be a time sink, and priorities that are well above meeting me.

Great attitude

Thank you! I seem to be on a run of pearls of wisdom this week. It's a Christmas Miracle!"

Haha! Taking your part as one of the wise men in the nativity very seriously haha!

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By *ucidityWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

"

From a swinging perspective I don’t see it being an issue, I’ve met people who have to organise around family life and it’s not a problem.

From a relationship perspective, I can see it being more of an issue. Some people aren’t ready for children and some people don’t want children and some folk can’t have children.

Everyone I know who has children says your life is altered when you have them, that’s a big thing to ask of somebody and they have a right to say that it’s not for them.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Probably because you won't be there at the snap of their fingers.

When my son lived at home the amount of times I'd hear "well put the little one to bed and we'll just be quiet" made me fucking sick. They'd really apply pressure too and not take no for an answer.

It was at that point I'd tell em my son was 16, hardly little and would have totally kicked their arse, then blocked the disrespectful spunkwazzocks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

"

Gotta love a MILF. Sorry to be crass, it’s just I don’t see the issue with a woman having kids.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

From a swinging perspective I don’t see it being an issue, I’ve met people who have to organise around family life and it’s not a problem.

From a relationship perspective, I can see it being more of an issue. Some people aren’t ready for children and some people don’t want children and some folk can’t have children.

Everyone I know who has children says your life is altered when you have them, that’s a big thing to ask of somebody and they have a right to say that it’s not for them. "

In terms of swinging when we meet single ladies or other couples for fun the fact they have kids is completely irrelevant.

As a guy looking for a relationship then that's totally different as per my previous post.

KJ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

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Yes, me. I do NOT avoid them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Probably because you won't be there at the snap of their fingers.

When my son lived at home the amount of times I'd hear "well put the little one to bed and we'll just be quiet" made me fucking sick. They'd really apply pressure too and not take no for an answer.

It was at that point I'd tell em my son was 16, hardly little and would have totally kicked their arse, then blocked the disrespectful spunkwazzocks."

I've had the 'get a babysitter' crap a fair few times and I agree that some don't like the fact your availability is limited and they can't have you when they want you.

I get weekday overnight, fortnightly weekends and I get one day a fortnight where they come home late.

So getting a babysitter is a real piss take!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally, avoiding women who have children on Fab, would like be avoiding women who have children for my quiz team. The children are nothing to do with the fun we're having.

Everyone has commitments that can sometimes be a time sink, and priorities that are well above meeting me."

Brilliant analogy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Probably because you won't be there at the snap of their fingers.

When my son lived at home the amount of times I'd hear "well put the little one to bed and we'll just be quiet" made me fucking sick. They'd really apply pressure too and not take no for an answer.

It was at that point I'd tell em my son was 16, hardly little and would have totally kicked their arse, then blocked the disrespectful spunkwazzocks.

I've had the 'get a babysitter' crap a fair few times and I agree that some don't like the fact your availability is limited and they can't have you when they want you.

I get weekday overnight, fortnightly weekends and I get one day a fortnight where they come home late.

So getting a babysitter is a real piss take! "

I've had an FWB where we could do this as she had kids and I don't and it worked out really well.

We both got time and space of our own and made the most of the time we did have and appreciated it more I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't understand why people mention their kids on a sex site. A person's availability for a fuck is their own business. They don't have to explain their reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really don’t mind if women have kids or not tbh

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By *esse1972Man
over a year ago

Rugeley

If someone has kids it doesn’t bother me. Why should it. We are all here for flirting, fun and meeting up. If you have to work round family not a problem. I’m sure your find someone who will treat you with the respect you deserve xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find a woman who talks about her children and prioritises them somewhat arousing. I'm not blowing hot air, I have practical experience of this....of course, she has to understand that I will also speak endlessly about my boy and prioritise him.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

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I'd say you've had a lucky escape and better to find out now rather than them pretending to like children to get to meet you if that makes sense.

No issues from me at all and in general I find single mums to be caring kind people

As always there are exceptions and I know a few single mums I wouldn't go near (nothing to do with them having children, they're just nasty cows)

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Its not a concern for us, however I could appreciate that for some it could be their preference to meet people without children due to their impact on limiting availability and spontaneity for sexual meets.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Cos you are not available 24/7 , at their beck and call and can't provide an instant hotel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No problem with single mums. I've dated a few. As long as you accept you're their lowest priority from the start you should be ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

"

I think it’s the opposite; women tend to dismiss single fathers who have sole responsibility of a child. Just my experience.

Personally people must be very narrow minded and immature to reject someone just because they have children.

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By *osebud6688Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

I don’t date Dads and I wouldn’t be keen on having a FwB who has children. This is a personal preference and mainly boils down to the fact that in my experience, meets with Dads are difficult to arrange.

This doesn’t make me inexperienced at life or unfair towards people with children. It’s my choice and I would be baffled if somebody was upset with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can't think why it would make a difference for just sex if someone had kids or not.

From a dating perspective, like you say I can understand it more. It works both ways though. My dad actually seeks women with kids when dating as he said if they're parents themselves they tend to understand parent things more and get that they won't always be number one priority."

Perfectly said.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Nobody else has said it, so I will:

The other person having kids increases the likelihood that they'll have to change plans or dash off at short notice.

I understand that shit happens when people have kids, and that they have to be a priority. However, it does mean that people with children are more unreliable.

Good planning is great, of course, but kids introduce an element of unpredictability that can't be fully mitigated.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nobody else has said it, so I will:

The other person having kids increases the likelihood that they'll have to change plans or dash off at short notice.

I understand that shit happens when people have kids, and that they have to be a priority. However, it does mean that people with children are more unreliable.

Good planning is great, of course, but kids introduce an element of unpredictability that can't be fully mitigated. "

So if we replaced the word kids with spouse it's pretty much the same thing.

Although if the other parent has the kids why does the parent who doesn't have to leave or cancel so often?

Just curious

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Nobody else has said it, so I will:

The other person having kids increases the likelihood that they'll have to change plans or dash off at short notice.

I understand that shit happens when people have kids, and that they have to be a priority. However, it does mean that people with children are more unreliable.

Good planning is great, of course, but kids introduce an element of unpredictability that can't be fully mitigated.

So if we replaced the word kids with spouse it's pretty much the same thing.

Although if the other parent has the kids why does the parent who doesn't have to leave or cancel so often?

Just curious "

I'm sorry, but I don't agree that it's the same thing. I would feel sorry for anyone who's spouse is as chaotic / disruptive / vulnerable / whatever as a child is.

I can't answer your hypothetical question because a) I don't grill people for details of whatever the child-based crisis is this time, and b) you're assuming there's another parent.

I recognise that I may have committed Fab suicide by daring to be anything less than effusive about children. Curses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they have kids that live with them I avoid.

For a start other peoples kids are boring.i feel uncomfortable being in a house where kids live.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d meet with someone with kids , as long as they don’t walk in ! ????

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By *avesalldaysMan
over a year ago

Reading

I don't understand why that'd be a problem. People have kids, nothing wrong with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am guessing it's because you aren't instantly available when they want you to be, maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A woman with children has never put me off before. So long as you both communicate & respect one another's responsibilities & schedules, shouldn't be a problem at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having kids has never been a factor in meeting someone, if there is a connection that is the important thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I certainly wouldn't avoid a lady with kids.

Only mugs would be so stupid.

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

Really well it’s never been a problem for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single dad, the only issue I’ve found with trying to meet a woman with kids is when our weekends clash...

as then there is no point as it is nearly impossible to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nobody else has said it, so I will:

The other person having kids increases the likelihood that they'll have to change plans or dash off at short notice.

I understand that shit happens when people have kids, and that they have to be a priority. However, it does mean that people with children are more unreliable.

Good planning is great, of course, but kids introduce an element of unpredictability that can't be fully mitigated. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are missing the obvious fact. When a woman gives birth to a child her fanny is like a wizard's sleeve. Those things don't shrink again.

Imagine what it's like after giving birth more than once.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby


"I am guessing it's because you aren't instantly available when they want you to be, maybe? "

Nahhhh not at all for me, if you both think you're worth it then you'll work with any timing issues not use them as an excuse.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Putting myself in the position of the childless person (coz my lad has grown up and moved out, and given what happened over the last few years for me)

We can't help who we catch the feels for. When I met my ex there was zero intention of being anything more than FWBs, that shit soon changed.

Yes I was led to believe he was separated from his daughters mum but that's not the point here. The point was, separated (or not) he would still have a relationship with her to a degree. I wouldn't have ever wanted to be prioritised over the daughter, but absolutely in my mind should have come before the mother.

A lot of arsehole parents use their children as a bartering tool to get their own way, or disrupt the lives and plans of the parent they have split from. I CAN understand people not wanting to be involved in that.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

OK we're a couple, but at least one of us is a man.

We have met a couple and two single ladies in our time. One of the single ladies doesn't have children. Everybody else does. It hasn't even crossed our minds that we should avoid anybody with children.

My outlook would be the same if I was a single man.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a preference really, I have friends who won't ever be with someone with kids but it's more to do with they don't want any sort of uncomfortable situation with the woman's ex and the kids dad etc. Lots don't care, and some do.

A girl on here told me she didn't want to speak to me when I told her I was Irish as her ex was Irish so she doesn't like us

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"People are missing the obvious fact. When a woman gives birth to a child her fanny is like a wizard's sleeve. Those things don't shrink again.

Imagine what it's like after giving birth more than once.

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Comical

If I ever change my user name its got to be Wizard's Sleeve

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By *aneyyMan
over a year ago

london

I’ve seen women with and without kids. Neither mattered really other than finding a time when the woman with kids could meet did sometimes get tricky.

With kids a weekend or day you thought was going to be free can change in an instant at times, which is really the only reason I can think for why someone wouldn’t want to be with someone with kids on here.

Off here though I must admit I personally try to steer clear of women with kids, only because I’ve tried it and it was a lot of uncontrollable drama I could avoid. That’s more than an fwb though and not a hard no for me. Just a situation I will avoid where possible

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Would you feel rejected if a woman with kids decided to keep her kid free time to herself instead of meeting?

Lets say she wanted to just do nothing for the day or something she can't achieve with kids around?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Would you feel rejected if a woman with kids decided to keep her kid free time to herself instead of meeting?

Lets say she wanted to just do nothing for the day or something she can't achieve with kids around? "

Ish, but that's the selfish side. Although having been there I appreciate how important "me time" is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being on here just looks like I avoid women full stop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would not avoid anybody just because they had children. I cannot see anybody turning OP down for any reason...wow!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Would you feel rejected if a woman with kids decided to keep her kid free time to herself instead of meeting?

Lets say she wanted to just do nothing for the day or something she can't achieve with kids around?

Ish, but that's the selfish side. Although having been there I appreciate how important "me time" is."

Love the honesty! I think we all would if you really wanted the meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Id never meet/date someone with young kids. Kids come first so more chance of xancellations

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

"

What have they actually said ? I genuinely can't believe numerous guys have used you having kids as an excuse not to meet you under normal circumstances

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Would you feel rejected if a woman with kids decided to keep her kid free time to herself instead of meeting?

Lets say she wanted to just do nothing for the day or something she can't achieve with kids around?

Ish, but that's the selfish side. Although having been there I appreciate how important "me time" is.

Love the honesty! I think we all would if you really wanted the meet. "

Yep, especially if both have limited free time.

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By *iguy for funMan
over a year ago

CIRENCESTER

to me it's availability, and no not looking for for someone to be available 24/7 or the drop of a hat

have had dates arranged where it went well nd it was see you in three weeks on Wednesday, provided "his father (that useless cockwomble) doesn't let me down again" her words btw, and guess what?

equally had a great day out with one ,went back to hers that eve as her teenage daughter(14/15 if my memory serves me correctly) was having a sleep over at a friends to discover her at home with as she didn't feel up to it. her mother was more upset than me btw.

do for me it's that extra unpredictability factor i'm afraid

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By *illy_the_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

hoorn, Netherlands


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

"

I imagine its dependant on whether they're using it as an excuse to stay away. If its that you have kids in the house and you want them to come over then to be honest, that would be understandable, I wouldn't ever meet someone with children in the house

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

"

I have kids and know they come as part of the package. So I wouldn’t be put off by that. Especially with someone hot as yourself.

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By *ongueFkYouMan
over a year ago

Bradford

That is just daft if u ask me! I have and I would meet someone who had kids what's wrong with having kids! Its their loss

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

What have they actually said ? I genuinely can't believe numerous guys have used you having kids as an excuse not to meet you under normal circumstances "

Always the same on the forums. Of you post a question on a specific subject most will assume you have an issue with it.

I never said numerous and that I had an issue with it.

I've had it once where someone has used my kids as an excuse.... I did post this earlier.

I've seen profiles and status's etc that state no single mums and other comments directed at single mums not being good for meets.

I was literally questioning why some would avoid single mums. I can't see a problem with it in terms of meets but I can see why in a dating sense it would be a preference. So I posted the thread to see what others thought.

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By *ongueFkYouMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

What have they actually said ? I genuinely can't believe numerous guys have used you having kids as an excuse not to meet you under normal circumstances

Always the same on the forums. Of you post a question on a specific subject most will assume you have an issue with it.

I never said numerous and that I had an issue with it.

I've had it once where someone has used my kids as an excuse.... I did post this earlier.

I've seen profiles and status's etc that state no single mums and other comments directed at single mums not being good for meets.

I was literally questioning why some would avoid single mums. I can't see a problem with it in terms of meets but I can see why in a dating sense it would be a preference. So I posted the thread to see what others thought. "
I actually prefer meeting single mums or anyone with kids that shouldn't put people off

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"Would you feel rejected if a woman with kids decided to keep her kid free time to herself instead of meeting?

Lets say she wanted to just do nothing for the day or something she can't achieve with kids around? "

I’ve experienced this more than your original OP. I know your kid free tonight so why don’t you want to meet? Simple, because there is more to my life than my kid and having sex, it’s called friendship and socialising or just maybe I’m going to enjoy the peace and quiet.

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

I have no issues with meeting women with kids or without kids... obviously if they do have children then organisation may be a little more difficult, but it’s not impossible

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Would you feel rejected if a woman with kids decided to keep her kid free time to herself instead of meeting?

Lets say she wanted to just do nothing for the day or something she can't achieve with kids around?

I’ve experienced this more than your original OP. I know your kid free tonight so why don’t you want to meet? Simple, because there is more to my life than my kid and having sex, it’s called friendship and socialising or just maybe I’m going to enjoy the peace and quiet. "

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Would you feel rejected if a woman with kids decided to keep her kid free time to herself instead of meeting?

Lets say she wanted to just do nothing for the day or something she can't achieve with kids around?

I’ve experienced this more than your original OP. I know your kid free tonight so why don’t you want to meet? Simple, because there is more to my life than my kid and having sex, it’s called friendship and socialising or just maybe I’m going to enjoy the peace and quiet.

"

Exactly. Time where nothing is wanted/expected of you. Time when you're thinking about yourself, or thinking about nothing. Nobody calling your name, no pressure. Doing what you want to at your own pace or no pace. Just taking a breath and appreciating quiet time.

We all need to recharge our batteries and it's nobody else's business how or when we do it.

Self care is important.

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By *isces WomanWoman
over a year ago

West London

Im not a MILF when I've been called that I correct them. Kids are part and parcel of life. I dont avoid a man with kids. If im turned on by them im turned on my them. Im fond of dad bods.

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By *allumUKMan
over a year ago

KingsLynn

I'm fine with it. Just aslong as they aren't a total handful. I'm pretty good with kids so don't really see a problem with it.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Most of the women I’ve met on here have kids. It doesn’t bother me in the slightest, I’m not being asked to baby sit them!

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By *ssex 2204Man
over a year ago

billericay

It don't matter if its just a one night meet or on a more regular thing the man or women will always put the kids first any respectful person would understand that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kids make all the shite in this world go away!

Kids are a blessing regardless who Brought them into this world. I'd happily date a girl that had kids. X

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

My apologies I misread the bit where you said you have had countless (not numerous) people not wanting to be involved with you because you had kids as being fab related when you meant away from fab.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"Would you feel rejected if a woman with kids decided to keep her kid free time to herself instead of meeting?

Lets say she wanted to just do nothing for the day or something she can't achieve with kids around?

I’ve experienced this more than your original OP. I know your kid free tonight so why don’t you want to meet? Simple, because there is more to my life than my kid and having sex, it’s called friendship and socialising or just maybe I’m going to enjoy the peace and quiet.

Exactly. Time where nothing is wanted/expected of you. Time when you're thinking about yourself, or thinking about nothing. Nobody calling your name, no pressure. Doing what you want to at your own pace or no pace. Just taking a breath and appreciating quiet time.

We all need to recharge our batteries and it's nobody else's business how or when we do it.

Self care is important. "

Nail on the head

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By *ent in BlackMan
over a year ago

Silsden

It’s never been a problem for me, but I have four of my own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kids, no problem.

Bad taste in shoes, fuck right off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

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I sont have a problem with it

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

No not at all. Provided there is a good connection there is never a problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone without kids, I would prefer to have a relationship with someone without, but it doesn't bother me too much. It's definitely fairly low down the list of things that I think are important. For something more casual, it wouldn't bother me at all.

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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago

Blackpool, Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield

It wouldn't bother me if she had kids or not on here. If it's just fun/sex, it doesn't make a big difference to me.

I wouldn't want a full-on relationship with a woman with children, but that's down to my preference not to have children at all, rather than any dislike of women who have had them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

"

I would be happy to meet someone who had kids, I have kids myself and wouldn't want to meet anyone who wasn't happy I had kids

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally not an issue..

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

"

It wouldn't bother me in the slightest, personally. I think it's just another one of those outdated, old-fashioned hang-ups and stigmas that are a result of our culture's history of sexual oppression (mainly of women).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never come across this in 11 years on here, but then I've never felt the need to mention my children to anyone I've met on here either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never come across this issue. It’s clear from my profile pic that I have children but if it was an issue for them then it wouldn’t really bother me... everyone has their preferences. Though I might find it a bit strange that it would be an issue for a fb/fwb.

If I was looking to date rather than just have sex with someone then I’d rather date someone with children.

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By *onny135Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Never been an issue with any of the ladies or couples I've met. It may take a little organising but that can add to the fun and build up. Always worth it!!

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By *rMrs84Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

Wouldn’t bother us from a swinging perspective. So long as kids are out the house when we’re playing.

In a dating sense? I never would have when I was dating but I got married at 22. At my current age I wouldn’t see it as an overall problem I don’t think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fascinating question and discussion. At least for me, children are not really an issue for FWB friendship as long as I feel comfortable the mother is making sure the children are safe and properly taken care of when the two of us are together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If anyone has issues with a persons life style or circumstances, they don’t deserve your attention or time. The problem is there’s alone and best avoided. Life is difficult enough, without having a negative energy in your space.

Dating someone with children can be such fantastic enriching feeling when accepted into the family circle

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By *stroboy78Man
over a year ago

Abergavenny

From a dating perspective i would never even consider dating a woman with children as I saw them as a burden and an inconvenience as I have no children or ties like ex wives. I like to do what I want, when I want and liked a partner to be the same without any prior commitments like children.

That was until I met my ex. I ignored the fact she had children and the inconvenience that they caused with attempting to arranged anything as she was an incredible person and she was like the piece of me I'd been missing my entire life. As time went on and we got proper serious i met her children who were 3 and 5 at the time. I can honestly say I loved them as my own as there was nothing I wouldn't have done for them and still would if they ever needed anything.

Would I meet someone again with children? 100% definitely and that would go for a fwb or an actual partner.

I accept that some people wouldn't want a partner with children, I used to be like that but from my opinion now of the situation it is very narrow minded. Thats my 2 pence worth anyway.

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By *oober698Man
over a year ago

Lincoln


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

"

I am in total agreement with you about this stage in life and dating. You are not alone. I am a single dad and have been treated the same way. Relationships and kids can be complicated and stressful if they cannot blend, so FWB works. If it leads somewhere else from that then so be it, only time will tell. Best of both worlds then and if the interest in swinging is there, you can carry on!

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By *quaman87Man
over a year ago

douglas

Suppose its a preference for some.

Shallow if you ask me.

If I find a women attractive and like her and she has kids It wouldn't bother me, I wouldnt entertain a women that wanted me but wouldn't accept my children. No thanks

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

"

For the life of me I can't figure that 1 out,

Its a swing site not a find a life mate site, why would it matter how many kids you have,

You could the The old lady in the shoe with 100 kids ( except hot and not that old) and they should not care about that on your play time,,

So yea BS there on their part OP.

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By *adtaffladMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

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By *adtaffladMan
over a year ago

Rhyl


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

"
there are some strange men obviously i cant see why its an issue

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

"

A woman having kids has never put me off.

And tbh, if someone is letting that put them off you, especially as a fwb, then they are a bloody fool.

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By *oomarangMan
over a year ago

Chester

I won’t meet a woman at her house while the kids are in the house, but I have meet them or picked them up and taken them back to my house and gone to their house when the kids are in school

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By *ustforfun49Man
over a year ago

chesterfield


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

"

I can't see why you can have fun like the rest of us

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By *oppet22TV/TS
over a year ago

huddersfield

I would meet yes why not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't believe that any guy would be this closed minded. It certainly wouldn't be an issue for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I won’t meet a woman at her house while the kids are in the house, but I have meet them or picked them up and taken them back to my house and gone to their house when the kids are in school "

That's a really good point. Perhaps the men think because the woman openly mentioned kids, that they will be in the house for the meet.

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By *heHungStudentMan
over a year ago

Kettering


"I won’t meet a woman at her house while the kids are in the house, but I have meet them or picked them up and taken them back to my house and gone to their house when the kids are in school

That's a really good point. Perhaps the men think because the woman openly mentioned kids, that they will be in the house for the meet. "

Potentially that or they may feel that it will be harder to arrange a meet and as a lot of guys on here are prone to a meet now message they feel like theres less point in trying

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By *nakes every wereMan
over a year ago

Stockton


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I

struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

"
no not at all your are stunning lass they are idiots or mad haha x

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By *nfinity1Man
over a year ago

Near Bournemouth


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

"

I couldn't care less if someone had kids or not. If I want to meet them then I WILL (given the chance).

I have kids myself so know it can be a stumbling block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

"
well I just think that’s an excuse from someone me i do mind ladies that have had children personally I find them more sexy

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By *oroRick1027Man
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

I don't avoid any women. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is plenty of guys??

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I never avoid on here or even when looking for a relationship it's never an issue for me

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By *reeneggsandsamMan
over a year ago

Perpignan and cap

Unless they walk into the room with a Tray of half time oranges I really don't see the problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely don't care if they have children!

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By *etsplay68Man
over a year ago

beaconsfield


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing? thats crazy , if its just meeting for nsa fun or swinging, it should have no bearing at all , you look stunning so why should the fact that you have kids stop any guy wanting have fun with you x

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By *oxychicWoman
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

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By *alty surpriseMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

Being a man and a father, it wouldn't bother me at all, if the woman had kids or not, it's about the woman herself x

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

When I meet people in a club for sex I don’t ask them if they have kids. If they are a true couple and in their 40s the chances are that they probably will do

As I rarely do home meets it doesn’t matter

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I avoided men with young kids and elderly parents they cared for because I found they took priority, and rightly so, but it meant last minute cancellation.

Similar with married men, last minute cancellation. There are many childfree and single people on Fab to play with: no need for complications.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"As you say, many people on here with kids. Everyone has a past life so people should be accepting and see where things go.

Good luck "

Why should they? No one has to accept jack! People are looking for "like minded" people. You wouldn't expect someone looking for a slim playmate to give a bbw a chance because she was slim once.

What people need to accept is they don't have universal appeal and get over it.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Why does having a preference to not want to meet someone with kids turn into a man bashing thread.....

Oh wait fab... I forgot "

Men aren't allowed preferences silly. Get with the programme!

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By *outhman15Man
over a year ago

southampton

It dosen't bother me at all

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I don't understand why people mention their kids on a sex site. A person's availability for a fuck is their own business. They don't have to explain their reasons.

"

This!

There are many undesirables around who actively seek women with kids. That said, I've seen people post on here that they drug and lock their kids in their room in order to have sex with strangers, so it takes all sorts.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

I think it’s the opposite; women tend to dismiss single fathers who have sole responsibility of a child. Just my experience.

Personally people must be very narrow minded and immature to reject someone just because they have children. "

Disagree: and I have children!

People are entitled to have preferences that exclude me for whatever reason without them being called names.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I don’t date Dads and I wouldn’t be keen on having a FwB who has children. This is a personal preference and mainly boils down to the fact that in my experience, meets with Dads are difficult to arrange.

This doesn’t make me inexperienced at life or unfair towards people with children. It’s my choice and I would be baffled if somebody was upset with this. "

It baffles me too!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"I certainly wouldn't avoid a lady with kids.

Only mugs would be so stupid."

This is what I have a problem with: name calling because someone has a preference.

No one is entitled to a meet, no one has the right to question another's preferences because they're excluded: talk about entitlement!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As you say, many people on here with kids. Everyone has a past life so people should be accepting and see where things go.

Good luck

Why should they? No one has to accept jack! People are looking for "like minded" people. You wouldn't expect someone looking for a slim playmate to give a bbw a chance because she was slim once.

What people need to accept is they don't have universal appeal and get over it."

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

Wow are some men so shollow

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"From a dating perspective i would never even consider dating a woman with children as I saw them as a burden and an inconvenience as I have no children or ties like ex wives. I like to do what I want, when I want and liked a partner to be the same without any prior commitments like children.

That was until I met my ex. I ignored the fact she had children and the inconvenience that they caused with attempting to arranged anything as she was an incredible person and she was like the piece of me I'd been missing my entire life. As time went on and we got proper serious i met her children who were 3 and 5 at the time. I can honestly say I loved them as my own as there was nothing I wouldn't have done for them and still would if they ever needed anything.

Would I meet someone again with children? 100% definitely and that would go for a fwb or an actual partner.

I accept that some people wouldn't want a partner with children, I used to be like that but from my opinion now of the situation it is very narrow minded. Thats my 2 pence worth anyway."

My other half has never wanted children. At 18 his then girlfriend thought she was pregnant, it horrified him so much he dumped her, left Holland and moved to Belgium.

He really does not like children. He's right wing and thinks unions and labour voters tree hugging interfering busybodies. He speaks six languages, has lived in Belgium, Switzerland and France dating leggy Scandinavian blonde types.

Seven years ago he sent me a message on here. Nothing sexual he was impressed with my profile, the text, not the content as we weren't matched: he can't even say "submissive". Our exchanges led to him saying I have to meet you and buy you a drink. To date, he's the only man I've ever been nervous about meeting.

He was late and I could see him running towards me. He dropped on his knees begging for forgiveness in front of a crowd of people: I was smitten.

I'm black, size 24. When we met I was a full time union official. I have 3 children. I now have six grandchildren, another on the way and we're still going strong.

We have our moments, we really shouldn't work and I'm certainly not his usual type. People do give us odd looks as he looks like a cross between Jason Statham and Bruce Willis whilst he reckons I look like Diane Abbott!

Point is, people are different, thank goodness. It doesn't mean because everyone doesn't have a Paul on the the road to Damascus moment and reassess their preferences they're arseholes!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Wow are some men so shollow "

Why is it shallow?

Men have limited time too and perhaps past experiences have taught them last minute cancellations are inevitable.

Lots of white knights on their chargers on this thread. Men are allowed preferences without name calling.

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

As long as she didn't bring then on the meet , it wouldn't bother me if she had kids or not ,

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

I've seen posts, usually from ignoramuses, talking bollocks about women with children for various reasons.

I can honestly say it's never been something that has bothered me. I actually think the majority of those I have met would have had children, whether single mums or a couple. Sometimes it's actually easier to meet a single mum or hot wife that have children, especially school age. Several of the mums I have met, I have done so during school hours, luckily I'm self employed. Yes, there has been the odd cancellation due to a child being off school, but then something could come up with met that I had to cancel. It all comes down to expectations. So much easier if you have none and go with the flow.

I used to have in my profile that I met single mums. I only recently removed it as I didn't want couples thinking I just wanted to meet 121.

Women with children? No more difficult to meet than anyone else in my opinion.

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By *athan 123Man
over a year ago

rochdale oldham border


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

"

As your a fab I wouldn’t even think about it , your hot as they come you could have 10 children if I’m lucky enough to be your fwb I’d be over the moon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never come across this personally, perhaps just an excuse? Must admit though, I wouldn't actually go to anyone from here's house if there were kids there!

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

If it's just a fwb situation they are after then I can understand. He's most likely just wanting sex when it's convenient and if you have your kids a lot of the time then it's not. Most guys would pick a female without kids I would imagine

Ruby

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I now feel that I must clarify that I have met, will meet, and *do* meet women who have kids (obviously not meeting anyone during the pandemic).

However, that means that I also have to accept there is a significantly greater chance of them changing or abandoning our plans due to child-related disruption. I will never be a knob about it, but I’m not going to claim I don’t feel disappointment and frustration when it happens.

I can understand why the above factors would put someone off a potential play partner.

I am also uncomfortable with the amount of shaming going on in this thread. “Ignoramuses”. “True couples”. “Mugs”. “Stupid”.

Fab: Where it’s acceptable to discriminate against someone because of their ethnicity, but not because they have kids.

Fucking hell.

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant


"I now feel that I must clarify that I have met, will meet, and *do* meet women who have kids (obviously not meeting anyone during the pandemic).

However, that means that I also have to accept there is a significantly greater chance of them changing or abandoning our plans due to child-related disruption. I will never be a knob about it, but I’m not going to claim I don’t feel disappointment and frustration when it happens.

I can understand why the above factors would put someone off a potential play partner.

I am also uncomfortable with the amount of shaming going on in this thread. “Ignoramuses”. “True couples”. “Mugs”. “Stupid”.

Fab: Where it’s acceptable to discriminate against someone because of their ethnicity, but not because they have kids.

Fucking hell.

"

Then you have not seen some of the threads that I have. Men shaming women because they have had children. The emphasis on had, not got children at home. Men believing that women who have had children are and I quote 'slack' 'gaping' and as someone on here mentioned 'wizard sleeves'. This comes from ignorance, which is why I used the word ignoramuses.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I now feel that I must clarify that I have met, will meet, and *do* meet women who have kids (obviously not meeting anyone during the pandemic).

However, that means that I also have to accept there is a significantly greater chance of them changing or abandoning our plans due to child-related disruption. I will never be a knob about it, but I’m not going to claim I don’t feel disappointment and frustration when it happens.

I can understand why the above factors would put someone off a potential play partner.

I am also uncomfortable with the amount of shaming going on in this thread. “Ignoramuses”. “True couples”. “Mugs”. “Stupid”.

Fab: Where it’s acceptable to discriminate against someone because of their ethnicity, but not because they have kids.

Fucking hell.

Then you have not seen some of the threads that I have. Men shaming women because they have had children. The emphasis on had, not got children at home. Men believing that women who have had children are and I quote 'slack' 'gaping' and as someone on here mentioned 'wizard sleeves'. This comes from ignorance, which is why I used the word ignoramuses. "

Correct. I have not seen that.

What I am seeing, in this thread, is people shaming hypothetical others for having a preference.

Apparently, on Fab, having a preference is fine when it comes to someone's ethnicity, but it's not fine when it comes to them having kids.

Funny that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

"

That's a poor excuse and after looking at your pics and profile I wouldn't care you had kids.

Wow very pretty xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be completely honest when I was dating in my early 20s and had a child of my own I was seeking men without children, I guess selfishly I wanted to see him when I wanted to and not have to work around his childcare. As I’m older that’s bothered me less

I do understand it from a relationship point of view as it means they have to work around when your available and they may be expected to become father figure but I don’t see what value it has on fab

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

"

Good lord! No! Just No! I mean you look sexy as hell in your pictures, sexy heels and lingerie too. Everymans fantasy. Not that that would make any difference, even on a site like this, your kids are part of you and I'd guess will always come first. Where's the harm in that? It's not a negative at all. I struggle to believe you are struggling for decent guys on here... But if its the case... Hope you have a bit better luck in 2021 when bastard covid is not front and centre of everything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who DON'T avoid women with children?

There's quite a thing about women without kids being a better option. I've had my kids used as the reason why someone wouldn't be involved with me countless times.

(Which really hurts because I struggled to get them and their existence is then made to be a negative. Which is just awful)

At this stage in life plenty of people have kids. I can understand on a dating perspective but when it's fwb etc why is it such a thing?

"

Sounds like you’ve been unlucky, although if that’s the kind of attitudes you’ve been encountering you’re probably better off not having had anything to do with them.

Wouldn’t be an issue for me as I’m a parent too.....certainly not an issue with pics like yours

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Doesn’t bother me at all. When you get to my age and start dating invariably people will have kids.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading through all the comments it seems there’s a select few, maybe just need to be better at selecting the ones who will understand more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn’t bother me at all. When you get to my age and start dating invariably people will have kids.

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This, goes with the territory...

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By *ighorn2006Man
over a year ago

Ceredigion / N France

I've had the pleasure of a few single mums (not from here) and it's never been a problem.

Some had older kids, which was a touch because they did their own thing. One had a 14 yo and although I / we wanted adult times I also included the 14 yo with trips out, a camping holiday, etc. I even wanted this one to be permanent but sadly she didn't.

So it's not always an obstacle .... but can be the perfect excuse.

Life's about compromise on all sides.

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