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By *ightkitty4u OP Woman
over a year ago

Epsom

It’s that time of year when I decided I need to date! Actually date and find a companion/life partner... anything more that a FWB

As the world is still upside down and the dating apps are full of odd balls... online dating was better when it wasn’t cool!

Any tips on how/where to meet a fantastic chap?

I’d like:

Emotional available - feed up with meeting those who are not

Financial secure - as in if want to go out for day/meal I don’t get the I’ve got no money can you pay for it all statement... I’m happy to pay my way... and if want to go to Maldives half a chance of saving up and going! I’m not a gold digger

Amazing in bed -

Has manors - as in holds doors open and he walks the kerb side... yes I’m old fashioned and I like being “protected”

Lastly has to be kind - this needs no explanation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s that time of year when I decided I need to date! Actually date and find a companion/life partner... anything more that a FWB

As the world is still upside down and the dating apps are full of odd balls... online dating was better when it wasn’t cool!

Any tips on how/where to meet a fantastic chap?

I’d like:

Emotional available - feed up with meeting those who are not

Amazing in bed -

Has manors - as in holds doors open and he walks the kerb side... yes I’m old fashioned and I like being “protected”

Lastly has to be kind - this needs no explanation

Why not put this on your dating profile?

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I'm no expert, but here is my input.

Don't put all your eggs in one basket. Don't look only on here. You are probably familiar with Tinder and PoF, but there are others too. Get on as many as you can. A lot of it is chance, so give yourself as many chances as possible. How Hannah and I found each each other was total luck. We never looked or expected anything. It just happened. Give yourself the opportunity to stumble over somebody when you are not expecting it.

Get yourself out there and be prepared to put in a lot of time. Give guys a chance. Don't look for perfection. The guy for you might not have much money, or he may not like the Maldives, but the positives overwhelm that. Work out what you genuinely can't live without and consider the rest preferences that might allow non-perfect guys to get a look in.

If you have any interests then get actively involved in a way you can meet people through them. Maybe you are into rock-climbing or martial arts or wildlife conservation or reading or whatever. These can all become social opportunities that get you meeting people with similar interests.

The more guys you meet, the more likely you are to find one you really click with. Don't look for perfection and give guys a chance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have a great body ! Any guy should make a huge effort with you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is hard. Socially distance walk and picnics is a good start. Actually gives you better opportunity to get to know each other ??

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By *hysoseriouslyMan
over a year ago

Kent

I think it’s hard on a site like this, with lots of people looking for a hookup or the odious “meet now?” style of messaging that happens all the time.

But I have managed to meet a couple of really lovely, funny, kind and confident women on here over the time I have been on. I think it’s like any other dating site in that you have to read the profiles and mane choices based on the info you can see combined with seeing if they are on the forums where you get a sense of how people are with others. Especially people of differing views.

It is indeed the season for a refreshed outlook and positivity so maybe that next rock you turn over might just have the right rabbit hole to fall down hidden under it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s that time of year when I decided I need to date! Actually date and find a companion/life partner... anything more that a FWB

As the world is still upside down and the dating apps are full of odd balls... online dating was better when it wasn’t cool!

Any tips on how/where to meet a fantastic chap?

I’d like:

Emotional available - feed up with meeting those who are not

Amazing in bed -

Has manors - as in holds doors open and he walks the kerb side... yes I’m old fashioned and I like being “protected”

Lastly has to be kind - this needs no explanation

In the same boat and looking for this too, but with the added want that they don't have kids (im not paternal and like the freedom to drop everything and go away whenever we fancy a change). I also refuse to use dating apps so nothing will be happening until life returns to normal. I live alone, work alone and gave up my friends circle to my former partner. So until social places reopen I have resigned myself to being contented and single.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s that time of year when I decided I need to date! Actually date and find a companion/life partner... anything more that a FWB

As the world is still upside down and the dating apps are full of odd balls... online dating was better when it wasn’t cool!

Any tips on how/where to meet a fantastic chap?

I’d like:

Emotional available - feed up with meeting those who are not

Amazing in bed -

Has manors - as in holds doors open and he walks the kerb side... yes I’m old fashioned and I like being “protected”

Lastly has to be kind - this needs no explanation

Me too, so I’ll follow if you don’t mind

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By *r kink8585Man
over a year ago

ireland,

"It’s that time of year when I decided I need to date! Actually date and find a companion/life partner... anything more that a FWB

As the world is still upside down and the dating apps are full of odd balls... online dating was better when it wasn’t cool!

Any tips on how/where to meet a fantastic chap?

I’d like:

Emotional available - feed up with meeting those who are not

Amazing in bed -

Has manors - as in holds doors open and he walks the kerb side... yes I’m old fashioned and I like being “protected”

Lastly has to be kind - this needs no explanation

Me too, so I’ll follow if you don’t mind "
nice clamps..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you find such a man let me know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You want all that AND "Amazing in bed" as well????

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"It’s that time of year when I decided I need to date! Actually date and find a companion/life partner... anything more that a FWB

As the world is still upside down and the dating apps are full of odd balls... online dating was better when it wasn’t cool!

Any tips on how/where to meet a fantastic chap?

I’d like:

Emotional available - feed up with meeting those who are not

Amazing in bed -

Has manors - as in holds doors open and he walks the kerb side... yes I’m old fashioned and I like being “protected”

Lastly has to be kind - this needs no explanation

I have no family, no children, no dependents, no mortgage.......but too old

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you find such a man let me know! "

Won't that just start a fight?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...oh, and will you accept 4 out of 5?

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"It’s that time of year when I decided I need to date! Actually date and find a companion/life partner... anything more that a FWB

As the world is still upside down and the dating apps are full of odd balls... online dating was better when it wasn’t cool!

Any tips on how/where to meet a fantastic chap?

I’d like:

Emotional available - feed up with meeting those who are not

Amazing in bed -

Has manors - as in holds doors open and he walks the kerb side... yes I’m old fashioned and I like being “protected”

Lastly has to be kind - this needs no explanation

You’ve absolutely no chance. I decided one year ago I wanted to ‘date’. I joined quite a few dating sites and lucky for me there was a 14 day fund return if not happy! I put a lot of energy into chatting to guys, meeting for drinks. I discovered those dating sites were like Fab. Most guys after a quick shag. Most scared of commitment as they had experienced ex gf’s and ex wives ruining them so no trust. Total waste of time OP in my opinion and experience.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

I'm looking for the same OP. Fwb does not work at all for me as all they ever want is the benefits part. I would like to meet someone permsnt to share this lifestyle with.

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By *hysoseriouslyMan
over a year ago

Kent

"...oh, and will you accept 4 out of 5?"

This! That’s a good question my man... we might stand a chance if only these ladies would allow one slip haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...oh, and will you accept 4 out of 5?"

Depends which four, I would presume.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s that time of year when I decided I need to date! Actually date and find a companion/life partner... anything more that a FWB

As the world is still upside down and the dating apps are full of odd balls... online dating was better when it wasn’t cool!

Any tips on how/where to meet a fantastic chap?

I’d like:

Emotional available - feed up with meeting those who are not

Amazing in bed -

Has manors - as in holds doors open and he walks the kerb side... yes I’m old fashioned and I like being “protected”

Lastly has to be kind - this needs no explanation

I have no family, no children, no dependents, no mortgage.......but too old

Well if you ever just want somebody as a friend for meals and movies you are very welcome to drop me a message x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s that time of year when I decided I need to date! Actually date and find a companion/life partner... anything more that a FWB

As the world is still upside down and the dating apps are full of odd balls... online dating was better when it wasn’t cool!

Any tips on how/where to meet a fantastic chap?

I’d like:

Emotional available - feed up with meeting those who are not

Amazing in bed -

Has manors - as in holds doors open and he walks the kerb side... yes I’m old fashioned and I like being “protected”

Lastly has to be kind - this needs no explanation

I most wholeheartedly disagree. We are out there.

I do still have very 'old world' manners like walking on the road side of any pavement and standing whenever a lady comes to or leaves a table or room. I can't help it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m looking for similar, op.

Someone I can have a stress free laugh with. Who’s properly single and not being controlled by an ex. Who has some freedom of time to be able to be spontaneous.

I’m also fed up of being the one who pays for everything. What’s wrong with splitting the bill?

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By *moothGrooveWoman
over a year ago

Durham

You need to find a dating app / website which you pay to join,and someone a bit more than a nominal fee like fab for example.

People will to invest financially in looking for a life partner are probably going to looking for just that. There's too many people on free and cheap site just looking for casual sex. I'm not saying they're bad people at all, and you couldn't find love on them. But I'm sure you understand the point I'm making. A sexually frustrated, non solvent gentlemen is less likely to be on Elite Singles, and more likely to be on PoF.

Like a PP mentioned, walks are good start.

Good luck xx

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By *ightkitty4u OP Woman
over a year ago

Epsom

"You have a great body ! Any guy should make a huge effort with you x

Aww thank you... wish my ex’s had this outlook too!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"...oh, and will you accept 4 out of 5?"

Her list is the minimum requirement, so if you can't, meet the basics...

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By *ightkitty4u OP Woman
over a year ago

Epsom

"I'm no expert, but here is my input.

The more guys you meet, the more likely you are to find one you really click with. Don't look for perfection and give guys a chance. "

And how does one go about this when in tier 4 and I cannot leave my home?

As for Maldives was a suggestion, an on many dating apps and have been for years...

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"I’m looking for similar, op.

Someone I can have a stress free laugh with. Who’s properly single and not being controlled by an ex. Who has some freedom of time to be able to be spontaneous.

I’m also fed up of being the one who pays for everything. What’s wrong with splitting the bill?

I can't cope with the splitting everything every time, except the first meet. My long term friendships are more sort of, you pay for one, I buy the next. You paid for the cinema, I'll pay the entrance fee to the stately home .....

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By *hysoseriouslyMan
over a year ago

Kent

"I’m looking for similar, op.

Someone I can have a stress free laugh with. Who’s properly single and not being controlled by an ex. Who has some freedom of time to be able to be spontaneous.

I’m also fed up of being the one who pays for everything. What’s wrong with splitting the bill?

Do you seriously have to do this??

I usually have trouble with offering to pay, literally can’t get them to accept it more than half the time.

My dad would still clip me round the ear if he thought I wasn’t doing that (or opening doors for women for that matter!). Is it because the site is hookup based or you have a magnet for random crap men you are unaware of?

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Op, having read your profile, does the physical and age criteria there hold true to what you're looking for?

You state 44 to 60 years old. 5"11 and over. Good looking. In reasonable shape and preferably blue eyes. Can have a laugh, which to me translates as funny and engaging. Pair this with emotionally available, financially stable / well off, manners and a sex god in bed.

You are now looking for a small percentage of a small percentage of a small percentage of a small percentage of viable candidates.

The men you're looking for are likely all paired up. The ones who are not can easily attract women and are quite happy living the single life full of no strings fun. Assuming you win the lottery and actually come across one, they've likely been screwed over by an ex (as previously mentioned) and will be reluctant for any deeper emotional attachment. This is the reality of modern day dating.

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By *ightkitty4u OP Woman
over a year ago

Epsom

"You want all that AND "Amazing in bed" as well????

I want my cake and to eat it

Or I could go for the serval different guys option if they are happy with a poly relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dating apps.....to be honest, not really a solution I would see.

I know a few gentlemen who do meet the criteria listed,NONE of whom are likely to ever sign up to a dating site. They would meet through just going about normal life because the women do gravitate towards them.

For instance, one I know met a lady through a school visit at a top notch school. She started chatting to him during the school tour and exchanged numbers by the end of it. She then contacted him and it led on from there.

Place yourself in situations where you are likely to meet said gentlemen.

However, the "amazing in bed" part, I cannot attest to.

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By *ightkitty4u OP Woman
over a year ago

Epsom

"...oh, and will you accept 4 out of 5?"

Depends what the 4 are....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dating apps.....to be honest, not really a solution I would see.

Place yourself in situations where you are likely to meet said gentlemen.

However, the "amazing in bed" part, I cannot attest to."

I understand that this does not answer your question about it being during Covid lockdowns.

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By *ightkitty4u OP Woman
over a year ago

Epsom

"It’s that time of year when I decided I need to date! Actually date and find a companion/life partner... anything more that a FWB

As the world is still upside down and the dating apps are full of odd balls... online dating was better when it wasn’t cool!

Any tips on how/where to meet a fantastic chap?

I’d like:

Emotional available - feed up with meeting those who are not

Amazing in bed -

Has manors - as in holds doors open and he walks the kerb side... yes I’m old fashioned and I like being “protected”

Lastly has to be kind - this needs no explanation

This is also what I found via la internet, looking for inspiration on how to meet in the real world. I do need to give speed dating another go, I wasn’t in the right place last time I tried that.. Mentally I wasn’t ready

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

"It’s that time of year when I decided I need to date! Actually date and find a companion/life partner... anything more that a FWB

As the world is still upside down and the dating apps are full of odd balls... online dating was better when it wasn’t cool!

Any tips on how/where to meet a fantastic chap?

I’d like:

Emotional available - feed up with meeting those who are not

Amazing in bed -

Has manors - as in holds doors open and he walks the kerb side... yes I’m old fashioned and I like being “protected”

Lastly has to be kind - this needs no explanation

Ha don’t know where you find one but when you do let me know please.

Here becomes a fall back and always leads to disappointment. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s that time of year when I decided I need to date! Actually date and find a companion/life partner... anything more that a FWB

As the world is still upside down and the dating apps are full of odd balls... online dating was better when it wasn’t cool!

Any tips on how/where to meet a fantastic chap?

I’d like:

Emotional available - feed up with meeting those who are not

Amazing in bed -

Has manors - as in holds doors open and he walks the kerb side... yes I’m old fashioned and I like being “protected”

Lastly has to be kind - this needs no explanation

This is so sad, both that you felt that you need to say it, and that you’ve experienced it.

They are out there, and the right man will come along.

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By *ightkitty4u OP Woman
over a year ago

Epsom

"It’s that time of year when I decided I need to date! Actually date and find a companion/life partner... anything more that a FWB

As the world is still upside down and the dating apps are full of odd balls... online dating was better when it wasn’t cool!

Any tips on how/where to meet a fantastic chap?

I’d like:

Emotional available - feed up with meeting those who are not

Amazing in bed -

Has manors - as in holds doors open and he walks the kerb side... yes I’m old fashioned and I like being “protected”

Lastly has to be kind - this needs no explanation

I most wholeheartedly disagree. We are out there.

I do still have very 'old world' manners like walking on the road side of any pavement and standing whenever a lady comes to or leaves a table or room. I can't help it."

I love all that!

I went on a date back in summer when we could go out, meet at a restaurant, I dressed up, he arrived in “scruffy T-shirt’s shorts” he was already inside at the table when I arrived... he didn’t even stand to greet me... then after we parted two days later he texted me to say I looked nice.... no mention on the date that I looked nice... apparently he was to embarrassed to say...

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By *ightkitty4u OP Woman
over a year ago

Epsom

"You need to find a dating app / website which you pay to join,and someone a bit more than a nominal fee like fab for example.

Like a PP mentioned, walks are good start.

Good luck xx"

I used to pay for match.... well that was eye opening, still the same idiots as on the free sites!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s that time of year when I decided I need to date! Actually date and find a companion/life partner... anything more that a FWB

As the world is still upside down and the dating apps are full of odd balls... online dating was better when it wasn’t cool!

Any tips on how/where to meet a fantastic chap?

I’d like:

Emotional available - feed up with meeting those who are not

Amazing in bed -

Has manors - as in holds doors open and he walks the kerb side... yes I’m old fashioned and I like being “protected”

Lastly has to be kind - this needs no explanation

I most wholeheartedly disagree. We are out there.

I do still have very 'old world' manners like walking on the road side of any pavement and standing whenever a lady comes to or leaves a table or room. I can't help it.

I love all that!

I am choking at EVERYTHING you have just said. T-SHIRT???? There is no such thing. If it doesn't have a collar, it is called an UNDERSHIRT!! or merely for sports and bedtime purposes! I don't even want to start on the rest of that....my blood pressure can't cope.

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By *ightkitty4u OP Woman
over a year ago

Epsom

"I’m looking for similar, op.

Someone I can have a stress free laugh with. Who’s properly single and not being controlled by an ex. Who has some freedom of time to be able to be spontaneous.

I’m also fed up of being the one who pays for everything. What’s wrong with splitting the bill?

Oh I get that, but when the other party doesn’t put their hand in those pocket at all that bugs me.

Dated a chap in 2015... and he’d come over I’d cook dinner, provide drinks nibbles etc, money was tight on both sides, my bathroom lightbulb blew was £5 for a new bulb I couldn’t afford £5 at that time, his solution, try and steal one out of the communal hallway

Then on any occasion I purposely ran my elec down.... his solution oh you have the emergency use that..

Bearing in mind, I’d pick he up from the station, pay if we did go for a drink, provide food, which he’d happily eat and if I factored in left overs for next day he’d eat that too...

Literally ate me out of house and home! Never again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

AND I will not even allow my SON to go out with me in a t-shirt!!

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

From personal experience and that of observing others, its tough and you often have dates with a lot of bellends or people you're totally incompatible with before finding someone who's a good fit.

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By *ightkitty4u OP Woman
over a year ago

Epsom

"I’m looking for similar, op.

Someone I can have a stress free laugh with. Who’s properly single and not being controlled by an ex. Who has some freedom of time to be able to be spontaneous.

I’m also fed up of being the one who pays for everything. What’s wrong with splitting the bill?

Do you seriously have to do this??

I usually have trouble with offering to pay, literally can’t get them to accept it more than half the time.

It’s down to crap men out there!

My dad told me always offer to pay and have enough money in my purse when I do go on dates. If he declines then fair enough.

The amount of men that expect the woman to provide is astonishing, and they come out with we wants equal rights BS.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m looking for similar, op.

Someone I can have a stress free laugh with. Who’s properly single and not being controlled by an ex. Who has some freedom of time to be able to be spontaneous.

I’m also fed up of being the one who pays for everything. What’s wrong with splitting the bill?

Oh I get that, but when the other party doesn’t put their hand in those pocket at all that bugs me.

Then on any occasion I purposely ran my elec down.... his solution oh you have the emergency use that..

Bearing in mind, I’d pick he up from the station, pay if we did go for a drink, provide food, which he’d happily eat and if I factored in left overs for next day he’d eat that too...

Literally ate me out of house and home! Never again"

BUT I'll bet he was AMAZING in bed!!!

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By *hysoseriouslyMan
over a year ago

Kent

"From personal experience and that of observing others, its tough and you often have dates with a lot of bellends or people you're totally incompatible with before finding someone who's a good fit."

There really is not enough use of the term bellends!

I think you have to go on a lot of underwhelming dates to find one that is compatible.. just a shame you have to waste that time in hope of better to come

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m looking for similar, op.

Someone I can have a stress free laugh with. Who’s properly single and not being controlled by an ex. Who has some freedom of time to be able to be spontaneous.

I’m also fed up of being the one who pays for everything. What’s wrong with splitting the bill?

Taking turns would be even better

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By *hysoseriouslyMan
over a year ago

Kent

"I’m looking for similar, op.

Someone I can have a stress free laugh with. Who’s properly single and not being controlled by an ex. Who has some freedom of time to be able to be spontaneous.

I’m also fed up of being the one who pays for everything. What’s wrong with splitting the bill?

This really surprises me. I guess certain values are changing. Not necessarily for the better.

Do you seriously have to do this??

I usually have trouble with offering to pay, literally can’t get them to accept it more than half the time.

It’s down to crap men out there!

My dad told me always offer to pay and have enough money in my purse when I do go on dates. If he declines then fair enough.

The amount of men that expect the woman to provide is astonishing, and they come out with we wants equal rights BS.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"I’m looking for similar, op.

Someone I can have a stress free laugh with. Who’s properly single and not being controlled by an ex. Who has some freedom of time to be able to be spontaneous.

I’m also fed up of being the one who pays for everything. What’s wrong with splitting the bill?

Oh I get that, but when the other party doesn’t put their hand in those pocket at all that bugs me.

Then on any occasion I purposely ran my elec down.... his solution oh you have the emergency use that..

Bearing in mind, I’d pick he up from the station, pay if we did go for a drink, provide food, which he’d happily eat and if I factored in left overs for next day he’d eat that too...

Literally ate me out of house and home! Never again"

I don't keep a mental tally, but I can tell after a while if someone is taking advantage, then I walk away.

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By *ightkitty4u OP Woman
over a year ago

Epsom

"Op, having read your profile, does the physical and age criteria there hold true to what you're looking for?

You are now looking for a small percentage of a small percentage of a small percentage of a small percentage of viable candidates.

I have standards

Blue eyes is flexable, I can make him wear blue contacts...

But I’d like someone taller and not overweight and with head hair... I’ve dated too many bald/shaved men! And someone I can have a decent conversation with...

Those are non changeable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

.....and BINGO....there you have it.

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By *ightkitty4u OP Woman
over a year ago

Epsom

"Dating apps.....to be honest, not really a solution I would see.

Place yourself in situations where you are likely to meet said gentlemen.

However, the "amazing in bed" part, I cannot attest to."

And where are these situations in tier 4?!

I did get a part time job at a polo club in hope if catching someone’s eye... alas polo season didn’t happen this year...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

....taller....etc

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"I’m looking for similar, op.

Someone I can have a stress free laugh with. Who’s properly single and not being controlled by an ex. Who has some freedom of time to be able to be spontaneous.

I’m also fed up of being the one who pays for everything. What’s wrong with splitting the bill?

Taking turns would be even better

Just more relaxed, not keeping a tally. It works well in long term friendships. Luckily I my last friendships have always been with people who were generous too, so it was often a tussle if 'I'll pay, no you paid last time'.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dating apps.....to be honest, not really a solution I would see.

Place yourself in situations where you are likely to meet said gentlemen.

However, the "amazing in bed" part, I cannot attest to.

And where are these situations in tier 4?!

I did get a part time job at a polo club in hope if catching someone’s eye... alas polo season didn’t happen this year... "

Yes, I realised it didn't answer your particular quandary.

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By *ightkitty4u OP Woman
over a year ago

Epsom

"It’s that time of year when I decided I need to date! Actually date and find a companion/life partner... anything more that a FWB

As the world is still upside down and the dating apps are full of odd balls... online dating was better when it wasn’t cool!

Any tips on how/where to meet a fantastic chap?

I’d like:

Emotional available - feed up with meeting those who are not

Amazing in bed -

Has manors - as in holds doors open and he walks the kerb side... yes I’m old fashioned and I like being “protected”

Lastly has to be kind - this needs no explanation

I most wholeheartedly disagree. We are out there.

I do still have very 'old world' manners like walking on the road side of any pavement and standing whenever a lady comes to or leaves a table or room. I can't help it.

I love all that!

I’d beat stop, I could write a books of bad dates... that was a relatively “nice date” in comparison

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By *ightkitty4u OP Woman
over a year ago

Epsom

"From personal experience and that of observing others, its tough and you often have dates with a lot of bellends or people you're totally incompatible with before finding someone who's a good fit."

How many more frogs does one have to kiss ??

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over a year ago

"From personal experience and that of observing others, its tough and you often have dates with a lot of bellends or people you're totally incompatible with before finding someone who's a good fit.

How many more frogs does one have to kiss ?? "

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By *ightkitty4u OP Woman
over a year ago

Epsom

"I’m looking for similar, op.

Someone I can have a stress free laugh with. Who’s properly single and not being controlled by an ex. Who has some freedom of time to be able to be spontaneous.

I’m also fed up of being the one who pays for everything. What’s wrong with splitting the bill?

Oh I get that, but when the other party doesn’t put their hand in those pocket at all that bugs me.

Then on any occasion I purposely ran my elec down.... his solution oh you have the emergency use that..

Bearing in mind, I’d pick he up from the station, pay if we did go for a drink, provide food, which he’d happily eat and if I factored in left overs for next day he’d eat that too...

Literally ate me out of house and home! Never again

BUT I'll bet he was AMAZING in bed!!!

Actually no, he was shit... was a missionary position fan

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By *ightkitty4u OP Woman
over a year ago

Epsom

"I’m looking for similar, op.

Someone I can have a stress free laugh with. Who’s properly single and not being controlled by an ex. Who has some freedom of time to be able to be spontaneous.

I’m also fed up of being the one who pays for everything. What’s wrong with splitting the bill?

Oh I get that, but when the other party doesn’t put their hand in those pocket at all that bugs me.

Then on any occasion I purposely ran my elec down.... his solution oh you have the emergency use that..

Bearing in mind, I’d pick he up from the station, pay if we did go for a drink, provide food, which he’d happily eat and if I factored in left overs for next day he’d eat that too...

Literally ate me out of house and home! Never again

I don't keep a mental tally, but I can tell after a while if someone is taking advantage, then I walk away."

I did walk away... then my friends all asked what happened he was so lovely etc... and one told me that him eating everything wasn’t a good enough reason to break it off with someone!

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over a year ago

I think if you're to specific in what you're looking for with a list of things they must be / have then you are probably missing out on someone that might be right for you.

Internet dating swipe apps have made us like this - a series of pictures, stats and a few words does not paint a true picture of how someone is.

It's time to start dating everyone OP

Have a different date each weekend.

Dedicate yourself to the cause

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over a year ago

Sounds a real minefield OP. I’m sure it’s not easy, from the mood of the thread and what friends have said about online dating, it’s no easier for men or women. Maybe it’s unsurprising that some people are crap at dating in later life as they have bad habits or come across poorly, either due to being rusty or simply not suitable for / compatible with the other person etc.

Laughing through life, not being financially a burden for another, looking after oneself, and being honest and self-aware, with a healthy approach to sex, it’s not too much to ask.

I’ve never tried online dating but as Chillout says, it’s a very mathematical rarity in terms of chances in certain worlds. I wouldn’t use Fab for that purpose personally either, unless you stumble into something and it grows.

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By *ightkitty4u OP Woman
over a year ago

Epsom

"I think if you're to specific in what you're looking for with a list of things they must be / have then you are probably missing out on someone that might be right for you.

Internet dating swipe apps have made us like this - a series of pictures, stats and a few words does not paint a true picture of how someone is.

It's time to start dating everyone OP

Have a different date each weekend.

Dedicate yourself to the cause

And how do I get a different date each week?

I need to go speed dating....

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over a year ago

"I think if you're to specific in what you're looking for with a list of things they must be / have then you are probably missing out on someone that might be right for you.

Internet dating swipe apps have made us like this - a series of pictures, stats and a few words does not paint a true picture of how someone is.

It's time to start dating everyone OP

Have a different date each weekend.

Dedicate yourself to the cause

Hear, hear.

Don't limit yourself on the physical aspects either. It may be lovely that he's physically beautiful when dating but you might've missed out on the emotional one with someone less handsome or tall. Worst case scenario, you may make a friend who begins to look more attractive down the road.

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By *ightkitty4u OP Woman
over a year ago

Epsom

"I think if you're to specific in what you're looking for with a list of things they must be / have then you are probably missing out on someone that might be right for you.

Internet dating swipe apps have made us like this - a series of pictures, stats and a few words does not paint a true picture of how someone is.

It's time to start dating everyone OP

Have a different date each weekend.

Dedicate yourself to the cause

Hear, hear.

True...

I cannot put up with bad teeth or overweightness though... sorry to all those with those traits but I cannot do it

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over a year ago

"I think if you're to specific in what you're looking for with a list of things they must be / have then you are probably missing out on someone that might be right for you.

Internet dating swipe apps have made us like this - a series of pictures, stats and a few words does not paint a true picture of how someone is.

It's time to start dating everyone OP

Have a different date each weekend.

Dedicate yourself to the cause

And how do I get a different date each week?

I need to go speed dating.... "

Haha yes maybe

Women that I know that have met their partners online made it their full time job

They were proactive and messaged the men they fancied instead of sitting back and waiting to be messaged.

They arranged dates most weekends and relaxed about meeting someone with a specific set of qualities.

It's not settling I think it's being realistic about what's really important in a partner that isn't just for sex.

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over a year ago

"I think if you're to specific in what you're looking for with a list of things they must be / have then you are probably missing out on someone that might be right for you.

Internet dating swipe apps have made us like this - a series of pictures, stats and a few words does not paint a true picture of how someone is.

It's time to start dating everyone OP

Have a different date each weekend.

Dedicate yourself to the cause

Hear, hear.

True...

I cannot put up with bad teeth or overweightness though... sorry to all those with those traits but I cannot do it "

All right, I'll give you those.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I think if you're to specific in what you're looking for with a list of things they must be / have then you are probably missing out on someone that might be right for you.

Internet dating swipe apps have made us like this - a series of pictures, stats and a few words does not paint a true picture of how someone is.

It's time to start dating everyone OP

Have a different date each weekend.

Dedicate yourself to the cause

And how do I get a different date each week?

I need to go speed dating....

Haha yes maybe

Women that I know that have met their partners online made it their full time job

They were proactive and messaged the men they fancied instead of sitting back and waiting to be messaged.

They arranged dates most weekends and relaxed about meeting someone with a specific set of qualities.

It's not settling I think it's being realistic about what's really important in a partner that isn't just for sex."

I met both my partners online but I wouldn't say I made it my full time job. Being proactive about messaging first is true though. I don't really look for anything specific though, especially physically. I don't really have a physical type though. I do look for a certain sense of humour though and shared sexual interests. I met my long term partner on a kink dating app which made that part easier.

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

These threads always bring a wry smile.

For every tale told by women of crap dates or bad relationships with men, men could tell tales of difficult or troubled women.

At the end of the day it is difficult for both genders finding people. Throw in being kinky or different, the pool shrinks to a dried up puddle.

As others have said people will have to make use of the outdoors and or technology until things change.

Wishing everyone a merry Xmas and that they get what they want in the New Year.

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By *ugofirstMan
over a year ago

livingston

Short fat ginger but, never ever taken a penny from a lady and treated them well, holidays, meals gifts. But the flip side was, they thought I was a soft touch.

Happy single and with my dog.

Having a tick list to qualify will restrict and lead to situations where you get the people who you have ended up with and not happy about! I can find something attractive in virtually any female I see or talk too. Everyone could have a wish list but, the person could be an arsehole so stay open minded

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over a year ago

"I'm no expert, but here is my input.

The more guys you meet, the more likely you are to find one you really click with. Don't look for perfection and give guys a chance. "

Great answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You sometimes find that happiness when you are looking away and with someone who 'on paper' is nothing like you think you're looking for

On paper my ex was perfect, in reality, toxic

On paper my current Mr is nothing like I was looking for and I was largely disinterested - he pursued me, but in a non pushy way and I eventually chilled out and rode with it

I don't think you always find long term happiness by ticking boxes or being rigid with what you're looking for

I do, however, hope you find it

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

As a builder of most jobs dating has been interesting to say the least.

Ive been used by many ladies to do there propertys up and been dumped when done.

Ive built fitted wardrobes in there propertys and fitted nice new kitchens.

Dug over the garden changed it from a muddy area into a nice easy to maintain property.

Was for us to enjoy but got dumped when near or complete usualy caused by a silly argument.

To be honest I can see why the men have the attitude not going to pay for anything for your property.

you might be surprised on how many ladies have the its mine not yours attitude.

or the stuck in there ways attitude.

Nowadays for dating I stick to a bubble to meet a few times and progress from there.

We both have to share the walks meeting behind a screen for drinks and meals out together.

Not everyone has traits we all like but other traits make up for the missing ones.

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over a year ago

"I think if you're to specific in what you're looking for with a list of things they must be / have then you are probably missing out on someone that might be right for you.

Internet dating swipe apps have made us like this - a series of pictures, stats and a few words does not paint a true picture of how someone is.

It's time to start dating everyone OP

Have a different date each weekend.

Dedicate yourself to the cause

Agree a lot here - it siphons of a lot of the randomness which could have led to a good match

Maybe our lists and settings are too prohibitive on apps. I know for me the shittiest one is my age as I look only about 32/33 max when out and about whereas on the app it’s stopping anyone under 30/31 matching me anymore as their age limits are possibly under 35

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over a year ago

"It’s that time of year when I decided I need to date! Actually date and find a companion/life partner... anything more that a FWB

As the world is still upside down and the dating apps are full of odd balls... online dating was better when it wasn’t cool!

Any tips on how/where to meet a fantastic chap?

I’d like:

Emotional available - feed up with meeting those who are not

Amazing in bed -

Has manors - as in holds doors open and he walks the kerb side... yes I’m old fashioned and I like being “protected”

Lastly has to be kind - this needs no explanation

There are men like that out here in real life, OP what hobbies/interests do you have?

Do you want someone with baggage?

The list could be endless

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

I don't know anything about dating apps personally, but my recently divorced friend found Bumble to be a good app. She met a nice guy on there just as the pandemic started so they've got to know each other since March, are still together and making it work.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

That's quite a list of wants you have there OP, and probably similar to what a high percentage of women are looking for, especially on dedicated dating apps. To put it bluntly, what do you have to offer in return to these guys that are going to be in high demand? What makes you a better option than all the other women that are searching?

Personally, I've never had any trouble meeting lovely and attractive (in my opinion) guys, but then I've never gone "looking" as such...I just don't believe that it's possible to search for love, it's something that just happens. I have simply used different apps/websites as conduits to meet new people, and have always had the mindset of "let's have a drink/meal etc and see what happens". I don't date as such, I just have interesting social liaisons with different people, and I've often been told that it's my relaxed attitude to the whole dating thing that makes me stand out from the crowd.

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By *ightkitty4u OP Woman
over a year ago

Epsom

"That's quite a list of wants you have there OP, and probably similar to what a high percentage of women are looking for, especially on dedicated dating apps. To put it bluntly, what do you have to offer in return to these guys that are going to be in high demand? What makes you a better option than all the other women that are searching?

I have loads to offer...

Can cook

Am amazing at blow jobs, but I beg to differ

Have a wardrobe full of sexy lingerie

Am intelligent... maybe its this that is intimidating men as apparently they 'marry' down.. hypogamy

Am kind, lots of love to give and tons on empathy

Don't take fools lightly

Can Ski/Snowboard

Happy in wellies or heels

Love animals... horse, penguins ferrets not keen on reptiles

Full of wonderful spontaneous ideas

Love festivals

Happy to go camping or stay in a 5* hotel I do not mind either

Am loyal

Generous

Honest - absolute hate liars

Not a drama queen or duck pose person...

Am dyslexic and have a dash of ADHD to keep things interesting

Se I am a Catch, just need to find my lobster.... Yes full of random useless facts too

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over a year ago

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"As a builder of most jobs dating has been interesting to say the least.

Ive been used by many ladies to do there propertys up and been dumped when done.

Ive built fitted wardrobes in there propertys and fitted nice new kitchens.

Dug over the garden changed it from a muddy area into a nice easy to maintain property.

Was for us to enjoy but got dumped when near or complete usualy caused by a silly argument.

To be honest I can see why the men have the attitude not going to pay for anything for your property.

you might be surprised on how many ladies have the its mine not yours attitude.

or the stuck in there ways attitude.

Nowadays for dating I stick to a bubble to meet a few times and progress from there.

We both have to share the walks meeting behind a screen for drinks and meals out together.

Not everyone has traits we all like but other traits make up for the missing ones."

A ‘silly argument’?

What you have to remember is that we are all different and have different opinions.

How the hell did the women get you to do their DIY? I can’t even get a man to change a lightbulb! It seems I’ve bothered with lazy inconsiderate men!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id love this too this year but really dont want to have to date people

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over a year ago

"I'm no expert, but here is my input.

The more guys you meet, the more likely you are to find one you really click with. Don't look for perfection and give guys a chance. "

Agree with the above. A few pasted me over as i have young kids from my last marriage. We found each other on tinder, ( stay clear of pof, to many fucked up people on there. Yes its only my opinion but i came accross loads of head fucked women ob there) and now jenny will tell you i am the love of her life. Only an average guy in body and looks but i treat people right who treat me right. As said above if you only go for one type you most likely will get used ans dumped so may as well stay here and just fuck. We tidy guys are out there and we can be amazing in the sack or as jenny says about me that i am naughty and filthy to the core and she fucking loves it

. Keep your guard up and just wade through the chaf as you do in here as a female anyway. Good luck. John

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I’ve come to realise my expectations are far too high as to what I want in and from a man. I’m undatable! No man could cope with my demands.

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By *osebud6688Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

"I’ve come to realise my expectations are far too high as to what I want in and from a man. I’m undatable! No man could cope with my demands.

I am also undateable and I have totally given up on dating. My expectations are quite reasonable I just attract the wrong type of man.

I would suggest not trying to date until the pandemic eases - I dated during the summer and it’s really hard to keep anything going when you can’t see each other.

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over a year ago

"I’ve come to realise my expectations are far too high as to what I want in and from a man. I’m undatable! No man could cope with my demands.

That’s good that you’ve realised that. It’s like asking someone to buy a Ford for the price of a Ferrari

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over a year ago

"It’s that time of year when I decided I need to date! Actually date and find a companion/life partner... anything more that a FWB

As the world is still upside down and the dating apps are full of odd balls... online dating was better when it wasn’t cool!

Any tips on how/where to meet a fantastic chap?

I’d like:

Emotional available - feed up with meeting those who are not

Amazing in bed -

Has manors - as in holds doors open and he walks the kerb side... yes I’m old fashioned and I like being “protected”

Lastly has to be kind - this needs no explanation

There are men like that out here in real life, OP what hobbies/interests do you have?

Do you want someone with baggage?

The list could be endless"

Everyone has “baggage”. Isn’t that what having a life is? The whole baggage term is fucked up anyway and always used in an unattractive way

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over a year ago

"It’s that time of year when I decided I need to date! Actually date and find a companion/life partner... anything more that a FWB

As the world is still upside down and the dating apps are full of odd balls... online dating was better when it wasn’t cool!

Any tips on how/where to meet a fantastic chap?

I’d like:

Emotional available - feed up with meeting those who are not

Amazing in bed -

Has manors - as in holds doors open and he walks the kerb side... yes I’m old fashioned and I like being “protected”

Lastly has to be kind - this needs no explanation

There are men like that out here in real life, OP what hobbies/interests do you have?

Do you want someone with baggage?

The list could be endless

Everyone has “baggage”. Isn’t that what having a life is? The whole baggage term is fucked up anyway and always used in an unattractive way "

Baggage is an awful term yes.

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over a year ago

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"It’s that time of year when I decided I need to date! Actually date and find a companion/life partner... anything more that a FWB

As the world is still upside down and the dating apps are full of odd balls... online dating was better when it wasn’t cool!

Any tips on how/where to meet a fantastic chap?

I’d like:

Emotional available - feed up with meeting those who are not

Amazing in bed -

Has manors - as in holds doors open and he walks the kerb side... yes I’m old fashioned and I like being “protected”

Lastly has to be kind - this needs no explanation

There are men like that out here in real life, OP what hobbies/interests do you have?

Do you want someone with baggage?

The list could be endless

Everyone has “baggage”. Isn’t that what having a life is? The whole baggage term is fucked up anyway and always used in an unattractive way "

Here lies the problem re dating! Guys who call what we have in our lives as ‘baggage’. This is the reason we have problems finding the right man. No gentlemen with respect left in this world!

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over a year ago

I’m dating as well (on tinder, OKCupid, bumble and Feeld) so I hear you! I’m 44 soon and I’d love to meet someone for a serious relationship. Still hoping after all these years

I have on my profile here that I’d like to meet someone for something more serious even though it didn’t feel like the right place at first, but others seem to have met partners on here so why not try.

I want similar to you except I prefer to be the protective one

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By *iger-NWMan
over a year ago

Preston

Sorry, I have no manors. Just an ordinary house. (Joke!)

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over a year ago

Baggage sounds such a negative term, and what exactly can be classed as baggage anyway.

At 51 I've had a life, in those years I've had as much good as bad luck, along the way, things happen that show like a map the roads you took to get to where you are now.

Anything that's happened along the way isn't "baggage" your dragging about but rather things thats happened or you deal with thats made you who you are...

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over a year ago

"Baggage sounds such a negative term, and what exactly can be classed as baggage anyway.

At 51 I've had a life, in those years I've had as much good as bad luck, along the way, things happen that show like a map the roads you took to get to where you are now.

Anything that's happened along the way isn't "baggage" your dragging about but rather things thats happened or you deal with thats made you who you are...

I very much agree with this.

People seem to get pissed off that others won't accept their baggage yet they don't want to meet someone else with baggage.

It just seems to be a disposable tick box world these days. The other person must meet specific criteria and if they don't, just move onto the next one.

Same on here. Like a meat conveyor belt.

Very few people seem to see people as human beings..

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

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"I'm no expert, but here is my input.

The more guys you meet, the more likely you are to find one you really click with. Don't look for perfection and give guys a chance. "

GREAT advice.

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over a year ago

"It’s that time of year when I decided I need to date! Actually date and find a companion/life partner... anything more that a FWB

As the world is still upside down and the dating apps are full of odd balls... online dating was better when it wasn’t cool!

Any tips on how/where to meet a fantastic chap?

I’d like:

Emotional available - feed up with meeting those who are not

Amazing in bed -

Has manors - as in holds doors open and he walks the kerb side... yes I’m old fashioned and I like being “protected”

Lastly has to be kind - this needs no explanation

There are men like that out here in real life, OP what hobbies/interests do you have?

Do you want someone with baggage?

The list could be endless

Everyone has “baggage”. Isn’t that what having a life is? The whole baggage term is fucked up anyway and always used in an unattractive way

Here lies the problem re dating! Guys who call what we have in our lives as ‘baggage’. This is the reason we have problems finding the right man. No gentlemen with respect left in this world! "

Guys and women. I think we need to stop taking sides

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over a year ago

"It’s that time of year when I decided I need to date! Actually date and find a companion/life partner... anything more that a FWB

As the world is still upside down and the dating apps are full of odd balls... online dating was better when it wasn’t cool!

Any tips on how/where to meet a fantastic chap?

I’d like:

Emotional available - feed up with meeting those who are not

Amazing in bed -

Has manors - as in holds doors open and he walks the kerb side... yes I’m old fashioned and I like being “protected”

Lastly has to be kind - this needs no explanation

There are men like that out here in real life, OP what hobbies/interests do you have?

Do you want someone with baggage?

The list could be endless

Everyone has “baggage”. Isn’t that what having a life is? The whole baggage term is fucked up anyway and always used in an unattractive way

Here lies the problem re dating! Guys who call what we have in our lives as ‘baggage’. This is the reason we have problems finding the right man. No gentlemen with respect left in this world! "

Also your whole statement is so absolutist it potentially says more about you than any man your dated. Maybe you’re not aware of how you came across with that comment but oh boy it would stop me being interested in someone who talks like that. It looks awfully bitter and lacking insight

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over a year ago

"Sorry, I have no manors. Just an ordinary house. (Joke!)"

Was waiting to see who would say it haha

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"Baggage sounds such a negative term, and what exactly can be classed as baggage anyway.

At 51 I've had a life, in those years I've had as much good as bad luck, along the way, things happen that show like a map the roads you took to get to where you are now.

Anything that's happened along the way isn't "baggage" your dragging about but rather things thats happened or you deal with thats made you who you are...

I very much agree with this.

People seem to get pissed off that others won't accept their baggage yet they don't want to meet someone else with baggage.

It just seems to be a disposable tick box world these days. The other person must meet specific criteria and if they don't, just move onto the next one.

Same on here. Like a meat conveyor belt.

Very few people seem to see people as human beings..

That’s because a lot of people are quite selfish. You can use this in a positive sense to find someone/some people who doesn’t act like it’s all a conveyor belt. Water finds its own level. And all of us need to remember the vibes we each give off. Lots are quick to blame everyone else. When there is a common denominator in our dating lives we should think about why

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over a year ago

One day it will happen

... iam.awaiting a frog too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One day it will happen

... iam.awaiting a frog too"

Ribbit..ribbit...

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

Getting away from the negativity, it will be interesting to see of those of us looking who will be settled this time next year.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"It’s that time of year when I decided I need to date! Actually date and find a companion/life partner... anything more that a FWB

As the world is still upside down and the dating apps are full of odd balls... online dating was better when it wasn’t cool!

Any tips on how/where to meet a fantastic chap?

I’d like:

Emotional available - feed up with meeting those who are not

Amazing in bed -

Has manors - as in holds doors open and he walks the kerb side... yes I’m old fashioned and I like being “protected”

Lastly has to be kind - this needs no explanation

There are men like that out here in real life, OP what hobbies/interests do you have?

Do you want someone with baggage?

The list could be endless

Everyone has “baggage”. Isn’t that what having a life is? The whole baggage term is fucked up anyway and always used in an unattractive way

Here lies the problem re dating! Guys who call what we have in our lives as ‘baggage’. This is the reason we have problems finding the right man. No gentlemen with respect left in this world!

Wow you don’t know how relieved I am that you wouldn’t be interested in me! I’m not bitter, I’m just honest and men who can’t deal with that are not for me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"One day it will happen

... iam.awaiting a frog too

Ribbit..ribbit...

Ha ha ha

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over a year ago

"Getting away from the negativity, it will be interesting to see of those of us looking who will be settled this time next year."

I know for a fact I won't be. Sadly.

It would take someone with an awful lot of patience and all the other qualities and traits I'm looking for to be able to convince me to let them in to my life enough with my boys

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over a year ago

"Baggage sounds such a negative term, and what exactly can be classed as baggage anyway.

At 51 I've had a life, in those years I've had as much good as bad luck, along the way, things happen that show like a map the roads you took to get to where you are now.

Anything that's happened along the way isn't "baggage" your dragging about but rather things thats happened or you deal with thats made you who you are...

For me "baggage" in a dating sense means children, baby mummas that are still on the scene and emotional illness.

Everyone has lived a life but if I was looking to date I wouldn't want any of the baggage and drama that kids and their other parent brings.

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over a year ago

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By *uiet LightMan
over a year ago

Hove

"It’s that time of year when I decided I need to date! Actually date and find a companion/life partner... anything more that a FWB

As the world is still upside down and the dating apps are full of odd balls... online dating was better when it wasn’t cool!

Any tips on how/where to meet a fantastic chap?

I’d like:

Emotional available - feed up with meeting those who are not

Amazing in bed -

Has manors - as in holds doors open and he walks the kerb side... yes I’m old fashioned and I like being “protected”

Lastly has to be kind - this needs no explanation

Really enjoyed reading this thread, lots of good advice here!

Would also have loved to invited the lovely OP on a date, but pesky filters got in the way

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over a year ago

"It’s that time of year when I decided I need to date! Actually date and find a companion/life partner... anything more that a FWB

As the world is still upside down and the dating apps are full of odd balls... online dating was better when it wasn’t cool!

Any tips on how/where to meet a fantastic chap?

I’d like:

Emotional available - feed up with meeting those who are not

Amazing in bed -

Has manors - as in holds doors open and he walks the kerb side... yes I’m old fashioned and I like being “protected”

Lastly has to be kind - this needs no explanation

There are men like that out here in real life, OP what hobbies/interests do you have?

Do you want someone with baggage?

The list could be endless

Everyone has “baggage”. Isn’t that what having a life is? The whole baggage term is fucked up anyway and always used in an unattractive way

Here lies the problem re dating! Guys who call what we have in our lives as ‘baggage’. This is the reason we have problems finding the right man. No gentlemen with respect left in this world!

Wow you don’t know how relieved I am that you wouldn’t be interested in me! I’m not bitter, I’m just honest and men who can’t deal with that are not for me! "

Well seeing as there’s no gentlemen with respect left in the world I presume you’re not interested in any men anymore anyway

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Have to say even I have been thinking about it.... but don’t know if I the patience to deal with all the online stuff.....I have dabbled with places like pod but don’t really commit

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By *uyforyouMan
over a year ago

irvine

What Pandemic? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking for same things that your looking for I am based in london

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

In my experience here, relationships don’t come by searching for them, it’s too needy and boxed in for most swingers / poly people. They come when you find a FB and both realise you have a connection and don’t want to sleep with others as much

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over a year ago

"In my experience here, relationships don’t come by searching for them, it’s too needy and boxed in for most swingers / poly people. They come when you find a FB and both realise you have a connection and don’t want to sleep with others as much

Even meeting a fwb/fb would be nice right now but obviously that’s not been on the cards for a long time

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over a year ago

"...oh, and will you accept 4 out of 5?

Her list is the minimum requirement, so if you can't, meet the basics...

..which clearly explains why everyone here, is here....

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"It’s that time of year when I decided I need to date! Actually date and find a companion/life partner... anything more that a FWB

As the world is still upside down and the dating apps are full of odd balls... online dating was better when it wasn’t cool!

Any tips on how/where to meet a fantastic chap?

I’d like:

Emotional available - feed up with meeting those who are not

Amazing in bed -

Has manors - as in holds doors open and he walks the kerb side... yes I’m old fashioned and I like being “protected”

Lastly has to be kind - this needs no explanation

There are men like that out here in real life, OP what hobbies/interests do you have?

Do you want someone with baggage?

The list could be endless

Everyone has “baggage”. Isn’t that what having a life is? The whole baggage term is fucked up anyway and always used in an unattractive way

Here lies the problem re dating! Guys who call what we have in our lives as ‘baggage’. This is the reason we have problems finding the right man. No gentlemen with respect left in this world!

Wow you don’t know how relieved I am that you wouldn’t be interested in me! I’m not bitter, I’m just honest and men who can’t deal with that are not for me!

Well seeing as there’s no gentlemen with respect left in the world I presume you’re not interested in any men anymore anyway

You’ve absolutely got it! Wow you’re quick at working things out aren’t you?

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

"How the hell did the women get you to do their DIY? I can’t even get a man to change a lightbulb! It seems I’ve bothered with lazy inconsiderate men! "

On recent job im doing

Noticed the door where you couldnt even have peace as wouldnt lock infact wouldnt actually shut.

Last day of work, Not my job im insulating the property there renting.

Her daughters taking a shower im still working, she had to inform me she was taking a shower.

I stayed where I was working.

When she had finished ive taken the door off and planned it down and refitted it

So it now shuts and locks at least for christmas they can now enjoy toilet and showers with a door that locks.

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over a year ago

"It’s that time of year when I decided I need to date! Actually date and find a companion/life partner... anything more that a FWB

As the world is still upside down and the dating apps are full of odd balls... online dating was better when it wasn’t cool!

Any tips on how/where to meet a fantastic chap?

I’d like:

Emotional available - feed up with meeting those who are not

Amazing in bed -

Has manors - as in holds doors open and he walks the kerb side... yes I’m old fashioned and I like being “protected”

Lastly has to be kind - this needs no explanation

There are men like that out here in real life, OP what hobbies/interests do you have?

Do you want someone with baggage?

The list could be endless

Everyone has “baggage”. Isn’t that what having a life is? The whole baggage term is fucked up anyway and always used in an unattractive way

Here lies the problem re dating! Guys who call what we have in our lives as ‘baggage’. This is the reason we have problems finding the right man. No gentlemen with respect left in this world!

Wow you don’t know how relieved I am that you wouldn’t be interested in me! I’m not bitter, I’m just honest and men who can’t deal with that are not for me!

Well seeing as there’s no gentlemen with respect left in the world I presume you’re not interested in any men anymore anyway

You’ve absolutely got it! Wow you’re quick at working things out aren’t you?

I’m not going to get into the muck with an angry woman

G’luck

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"It’s that time of year when I decided I need to date! Actually date and find a companion/life partner... anything more that a FWB

As the world is still upside down and the dating apps are full of odd balls... online dating was better when it wasn’t cool!

Any tips on how/where to meet a fantastic chap?

I’d like:

Emotional available - feed up with meeting those who are not

Amazing in bed -

Has manors - as in holds doors open and he walks the kerb side... yes I’m old fashioned and I like being “protected”

Lastly has to be kind - this needs no explanation

There are men like that out here in real life, OP what hobbies/interests do you have?

Do you want someone with baggage?

The list could be endless

Everyone has “baggage”. Isn’t that what having a life is? The whole baggage term is fucked up anyway and always used in an unattractive way

Here lies the problem re dating! Guys who call what we have in our lives as ‘baggage’. This is the reason we have problems finding the right man. No gentlemen with respect left in this world!

Wow you don’t know how relieved I am that you wouldn’t be interested in me! I’m not bitter, I’m just honest and men who can’t deal with that are not for me!

Well seeing as there’s no gentlemen with respect left in the world I presume you’re not interested in any men anymore anyway

You’ve absolutely got it! Wow you’re quick at working things out aren’t you?

I’m not going to get into the muck with an angry woman

G’luck

Why presume I’m an angry woman? I’m baffled at that! What I am is an honest woman. Enjoy your evening Sweetie

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

This ^ it’s no different outside of here, I hear it so much from friends why can’t I find what I’m looking for? Simple just stop looking for the one and just concentrate on enjoying meeting new people, spending time with them with no pressure, rather than analysing in your head your tick box list. If things are supposed to progress they will naturally, from both sides.

You could also make some great friends along the way, not just a sexual partner.

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over a year ago

"It’s that time of year when I decided I need to date! Actually date and find a companion/life partner... anything more that a FWB

As the world is still upside down and the dating apps are full of odd balls... online dating was better when it wasn’t cool!

Any tips on how/where to meet a fantastic chap?

I’d like:

Emotional available - feed up with meeting those who are not

Amazing in bed -

Has manors - as in holds doors open and he walks the kerb side... yes I’m old fashioned and I like being “protected”

Lastly has to be kind - this needs no explanation

There are men like that out here in real life, OP what hobbies/interests do you have?

Do you want someone with baggage?

The list could be endless

Everyone has “baggage”. Isn’t that what having a life is? The whole baggage term is fucked up anyway and always used in an unattractive way

Here lies the problem re dating! Guys who call what we have in our lives as ‘baggage’. This is the reason we have problems finding the right man. No gentlemen with respect left in this world!

Wow you don’t know how relieved I am that you wouldn’t be interested in me! I’m not bitter, I’m just honest and men who can’t deal with that are not for me!

Well seeing as there’s no gentlemen with respect left in the world I presume you’re not interested in any men anymore anyway

You’ve absolutely got it! Wow you’re quick at working things out aren’t you?

I’m not going to get into the muck with an angry woman

G’luck

Why presume I’m an angry woman? I’m baffled at that! What I am is an honest woman. Enjoy your evening Sweetie

No presumption. Just based on observing the tone of your responses that you seem angry

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"It’s that time of year when I decided I need to date! Actually date and find a companion/life partner... anything more that a FWB

As the world is still upside down and the dating apps are full of odd balls... online dating was better when it wasn’t cool!

Any tips on how/where to meet a fantastic chap?

I’d like:

Emotional available - feed up with meeting those who are not

Amazing in bed -

Has manors - as in holds doors open and he walks the kerb side... yes I’m old fashioned and I like being “protected”

Lastly has to be kind - this needs no explanation

There are men like that out here in real life, OP what hobbies/interests do you have?

Do you want someone with baggage?

The list could be endless

Everyone has “baggage”. Isn’t that what having a life is? The whole baggage term is fucked up anyway and always used in an unattractive way

Here lies the problem re dating! Guys who call what we have in our lives as ‘baggage’. This is the reason we have problems finding the right man. No gentlemen with respect left in this world!

Wow you don’t know how relieved I am that you wouldn’t be interested in me! I’m not bitter, I’m just honest and men who can’t deal with that are not for me!

Well seeing as there’s no gentlemen with respect left in the world I presume you’re not interested in any men anymore anyway

You’ve absolutely got it! Wow you’re quick at working things out aren’t you?

I’m not going to get into the muck with an angry woman

G’luck

Why presume I’m an angry woman? I’m baffled at that! What I am is an honest woman. Enjoy your evening Sweetie

No presumption. Just based on observing the tone of your responses that you seem angry "

No Sweetie I’m so not angry. I’m honest and answered a thread about dating, gave my experience and my thoughts on it. No anger here at all. Unsure why you think I’m angry

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over a year ago

"I’m looking for similar, op.

Someone I can have a stress free laugh with. Who’s properly single and not being controlled by an ex. Who has some freedom of time to be able to be spontaneous.

I’m also fed up of being the one who pays for everything. What’s wrong with splitting the bill?

Do you seriously have to do this??

I usually have trouble with offering to pay, literally can’t get them to accept it more than half the time.

It’s down to crap men out there!

My dad told me always offer to pay and have enough money in my purse when I do go on dates. If he declines then fair enough.

The amount of men that expect the woman to provide is astonishing, and they come out with we wants equal rights BS.

Would love to know where the hell you get these guys for dates!

Personally I've never once asked a woman to pay anything. First dates I always insist on paying and then subsequently I'd normally offer to pay as well but happy with going halves if the lady wants that.

As for dating sites I find both Tinder and POF horrendous. Tinder because I don't think anyone bothers reading a profile (both men and women) and they're all after just a quick fuck. POF because I don't think anyone actually gets to see your profile as a guy unless you pay for the upgraded membership. Then you throw in the ridiculous amount of fake profiles, scammers etc and it's just an awful experience.

I'd much prefer to meet women in pubs etc but having just turned 43 and pretty much all my mates being married it's almost impossible. A close mate of mine recommended Match or E-Harmony so I'll give that a go in the new year once I've whipped my ass into shape. There are decent guys out there OP you just have to wade through the shite to get to them.

I just wish people would be more honest online. Unfortunately we live in an age where a lot of people don't give a shit about anyone apart from themselves and it's made dating a complete minefield.

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over a year ago

"Baggage sounds such a negative term, and what exactly can be classed as baggage anyway.

At 51 I've had a life, in those years I've had as much good as bad luck, along the way, things happen that show like a map the roads you took to get to where you are now.

Anything that's happened along the way isn't "baggage" your dragging about but rather things thats happened or you deal with thats made you who you are...

For me "baggage" in a dating sense means children, baby mummas that are still on the scene and emotional illness.

Everyone has lived a life but if I was looking to date I wouldn't want any of the baggage and drama that kids and their other parent brings."

I never saw my son as being "baggage" but sadly if he was I wish he was still alive for me to carry him.

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over a year ago

No Sweetie I’m so not angry. I’m honest and answered a thread about dating, gave my experience and my thoughts on it. No anger here at all. Unsure why you think I’m angry

Glad to hear it. Just came across that way as you first outrightly stated that there wasn’t a single respectful man left without this “baggage” thing left.

And I guess your next response was really smiley and cutting. In the sense that you seemed defensive with regards to my first message to you and looked like you needed to attack then.

That’s what gave off the bad mood and angry vibe. In my personal experience, making extreme comments about a particular gender is neither reasonable nor attractive as it generally portrays a lack of insight or else a lack of willingness to reflect on our own shortcomings.

Maybe this isn’t the case with you but it’s how it’s coming across and that’s what can be just as important.

Hope you’ve a nice day

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over a year ago

No Sweetie I’m so not angry. I’m honest and answered a thread about dating, gave my experience and my thoughts on it. No anger here at all. Unsure why you think I’m angry

Glad to hear it. Just came across that way as you first outrightly stated that there wasn’t a single respectful man left without this “baggage” thing left.

And I guess your next response was really smiley and cutting. In the sense that you seemed defensive with regards to my first message to you and looked like you needed to attack then.

Maybe this isn’t the case with you but it’s how it’s coming across and that’s what can be just as important.

Hope you’ve a nice day

**really snipey and cutting

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over a year ago

"Baggage sounds such a negative term, and what exactly can be classed as baggage anyway.

At 51 I've had a life, in those years I've had as much good as bad luck, along the way, things happen that show like a map the roads you took to get to where you are now.

Anything that's happened along the way isn't "baggage" your dragging about but rather things thats happened or you deal with thats made you who you are...

I very much agree with this.

People seem to get pissed off that others won't accept their baggage yet they don't want to meet someone else with baggage.

It just seems to be a disposable tick box world these days. The other person must meet specific criteria and if they don't, just move onto the next one.

Same on here. Like a meat conveyor belt.

Very few people seem to see people as human beings..

Very true.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

No Sweetie I’m so not angry. I’m honest and answered a thread about dating, gave my experience and my thoughts on it. No anger here at all. Unsure why you think I’m angry

Glad to hear it. Just came across that way as you first outrightly stated that there wasn’t a single respectful man left without this “baggage” thing left.

And I guess your next response was really smiley and cutting. In the sense that you seemed defensive with regards to my first message to you and looked like you needed to attack then.

Maybe this isn’t the case with you but it’s how it’s coming across and that’s what can be just as important.

Hope you’ve a nice day

**really snipey and cutting "

I’m never snipey and cutting. I’m honest. I answered a thread on dating with my experiences of men on here and other dating sites. If you can’t deal with my honesty then that is your problem. Unsure why you are giving me a character critique on a Fab forum when you don’t even know me. I’m baffled Sweetie. You toddle off and enjoy the rest of your evening

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over a year ago

No Sweetie I’m so not angry. I’m honest and answered a thread about dating, gave my experience and my thoughts on it. No anger here at all. Unsure why you think I’m angry

Glad to hear it. Just came across that way as you first outrightly stated that there wasn’t a single respectful man left without this “baggage” thing left.

And I guess your next response was really smiley and cutting. In the sense that you seemed defensive with regards to my first message to you and looked like you needed to attack then.

Maybe this isn’t the case with you but it’s how it’s coming across and that’s what can be just as important.

Hope you’ve a nice day

**really snipey and cutting

First of all I’m not your sweetie. You’re a condescending woman also I see and it won’t worm on either getting a ride out of me or belittling me. It’s honestly pathetic of you and shows your ignorance and arrogance in equal measure in parallel. Toddle off achieves the same and says much more about you than it does me. It’s sad and looks quite bitter and a piss poor attempt at deflection.

You’ll have to do much better than that. The other readers of the thread will make up their own mind on which of us is being rude and which is being fair and intelligent and I can tell you that I am very confident on that.

You continually use this “you can’t/they can’t deal with” phrase. This often is used by people who are in denial regarding their own complete unwillingness to acknowledge their own problems and bad behaviour, as you have beautifully demonstrated here. Many thanks for that. Perfectly done.

As for you never being snipey and cutting, we’ll leave that at your opinion but it’s quite transparently bull.

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over a year ago

No Sweetie I’m so not angry. I’m honest and answered a thread about dating, gave my experience and my thoughts on it. No anger here at all. Unsure why you think I’m angry

Glad to hear it. Just came across that way as you first outrightly stated that there wasn’t a single respectful man left without this “baggage” thing left.

And I guess your next response was really smiley and cutting. In the sense that you seemed defensive with regards to my first message to you and looked like you needed to attack then.

Maybe this isn’t the case with you but it’s how it’s coming across and that’s what can be just as important.

Hope you’ve a nice day

**really snipey and cutting

As for you never being snipey and cutting, we’ll leave that at your opinion but it’s quite transparently bull.

Worm = work

Ride = rise. Hahaha but that one doesn’t really change the meaning haha

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

No Sweetie I’m so not angry. I’m honest and answered a thread about dating, gave my experience and my thoughts on it. No anger here at all. Unsure why you think I’m angry

Glad to hear it. Just came across that way as you first outrightly stated that there wasn’t a single respectful man left without this “baggage” thing left.

And I guess your next response was really smiley and cutting. In the sense that you seemed defensive with regards to my first message to you and looked like you needed to attack then.

Maybe this isn’t the case with you but it’s how it’s coming across and that’s what can be just as important.

Hope you’ve a nice day

**really snipey and cutting

As for you never being snipey and cutting, we’ll leave that at your opinion but it’s quite transparently bull.

Worm = work

Ride = rise. Hahaha but that one doesn’t really change the meaning haha "
go for a walk

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over a year ago

No Sweetie I’m so not angry. I’m honest and answered a thread about dating, gave my experience and my thoughts on it. No anger here at all. Unsure why you think I’m angry

Glad to hear it. Just came across that way as you first outrightly stated that there wasn’t a single respectful man left without this “baggage” thing left.

And I guess your next response was really smiley and cutting. In the sense that you seemed defensive with regards to my first message to you and looked like you needed to attack then.

Maybe this isn’t the case with you but it’s how it’s coming across and that’s what can be just as important.

Hope you’ve a nice day

**really snipey and cutting

As for you never being snipey and cutting, we’ll leave that at your opinion but it’s quite transparently bull.

Are you both going to snipe trying to get the last word?

People can read both your comments and make their minds up.

It's Boxing Day ffs. Eat drink and be merry.

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over a year ago

No Sweetie I’m so not angry. I’m honest and answered a thread about dating, gave my experience and my thoughts on it. No anger here at all. Unsure why you think I’m angry

Glad to hear it. Just came across that way as you first outrightly stated that there wasn’t a single respectful man left without this “baggage” thing left.

And I guess your next response was really smiley and cutting. In the sense that you seemed defensive with regards to my first message to you and looked like you needed to attack then.

Maybe this isn’t the case with you but it’s how it’s coming across and that’s what can be just as important.

Hope you’ve a nice day

**really snipey and cutting

As for you never being snipey and cutting, we’ll leave that at your opinion but it’s quite transparently bull.

Are you both going to snipe trying to get the last word?

People can read both your comments and make their minds up.

It's Boxing Day ffs. Eat drink and be merry.

I’ve no problem replying to her all day. She’s sniping and condescending. I won’t be condescended to. Feel free not to read the thread or reply of it doesn’t interest you or you don’t like it.

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over a year ago

No Sweetie I’m so not angry. I’m honest and answered a thread about dating, gave my experience and my thoughts on it. No anger here at all. Unsure why you think I’m angry

Glad to hear it. Just came across that way as you first outrightly stated that there wasn’t a single respectful man left without this “baggage” thing left.

And I guess your next response was really smiley and cutting. In the sense that you seemed defensive with regards to my first message to you and looked like you needed to attack then.

Maybe this isn’t the case with you but it’s how it’s coming across and that’s what can be just as important.

Hope you’ve a nice day

**really snipey and cutting

As for you never being snipey and cutting, we’ll leave that at your opinion but it’s quite transparently bull.

Are you both going to snipe trying to get the last word?

People can read both your comments and make their minds up.

It's Boxing Day ffs. Eat drink and be merry.

You should both read the forum rules. Mate.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

No Sweetie I’m so not angry. I’m honest and answered a thread about dating, gave my experience and my thoughts on it. No anger here at all. Unsure why you think I’m angry

Glad to hear it. Just came across that way as you first outrightly stated that there wasn’t a single respectful man left without this “baggage” thing left.

And I guess your next response was really smiley and cutting. In the sense that you seemed defensive with regards to my first message to you and looked like you needed to attack then.

Maybe this isn’t the case with you but it’s how it’s coming across and that’s what can be just as important.

Hope you’ve a nice day

**really snipey and cutting

As for you never being snipey and cutting, we’ll leave that at your opinion but it’s quite transparently bull.

Are you both going to snipe trying to get the last word?

People can read both your comments and make their minds up.

It's Boxing Day ffs. Eat drink and be merry.

Your a charmer you ain't ya???

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over a year ago

No Sweetie I’m so not angry. I’m honest and answered a thread about dating, gave my experience and my thoughts on it. No anger here at all. Unsure why you think I’m angry

Glad to hear it. Just came across that way as you first outrightly stated that there wasn’t a single respectful man left without this “baggage” thing left.

And I guess your next response was really smiley and cutting. In the sense that you seemed defensive with regards to my first message to you and looked like you needed to attack then.

Maybe this isn’t the case with you but it’s how it’s coming across and that’s what can be just as important.

Hope you’ve a nice day

**really snipey and cutting

As for you never being snipey and cutting, we’ll leave that at your opinion but it’s quite transparently bull.

Worm = work

Ride = rise. Hahaha but that one doesn’t really change the meaning haha go for a walk

Nah. I’ll do what I please thanks. And don’t take kindly to bitchy comments from strangers. Take your controlling comments somewhere else

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over a year ago

No Sweetie I’m so not angry. I’m honest and answered a thread about dating, gave my experience and my thoughts on it. No anger here at all. Unsure why you think I’m angry

Glad to hear it. Just came across that way as you first outrightly stated that there wasn’t a single respectful man left without this “baggage” thing left.

And I guess your next response was really smiley and cutting. In the sense that you seemed defensive with regards to my first message to you and looked like you needed to attack then.

Maybe this isn’t the case with you but it’s how it’s coming across and that’s what can be just as important.

Hope you’ve a nice day

**really snipey and cutting

As for you never being snipey and cutting, we’ll leave that at your opinion but it’s quite transparently bull.

Are you both going to snipe trying to get the last word?

People can read both your comments and make their minds up.

It's Boxing Day ffs. Eat drink and be merry.

Your a charmer you ain't ya???"

With decent people yes. And days the one who’s only interjection was to tell me to take a walk. How about you you reflect on your own chart and manners first. Also you’re*

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over a year ago

No Sweetie I’m so not angry. I’m honest and answered a thread about dating, gave my experience and my thoughts on it. No anger here at all. Unsure why you think I’m angry

Glad to hear it. Just came across that way as you first outrightly stated that there wasn’t a single respectful man left without this “baggage” thing left.

And I guess your next response was really smiley and cutting. In the sense that you seemed defensive with regards to my first message to you and looked like you needed to attack then.

Maybe this isn’t the case with you but it’s how it’s coming across and that’s what can be just as important.

Hope you’ve a nice day

**really snipey and cutting

As for you never being snipey and cutting, we’ll leave that at your opinion but it’s quite transparently bull.

Are you both going to snipe trying to get the last word?

People can read both your comments and make their minds up.

It's Boxing Day ffs. Eat drink and be merry.

You should both read the forum rules. Mate.

I’m not your mate. I’ve never met you

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

No Sweetie I’m so not angry. I’m honest and answered a thread about dating, gave my experience and my thoughts on it. No anger here at all. Unsure why you think I’m angry

Glad to hear it. Just came across that way as you first outrightly stated that there wasn’t a single respectful man left without this “baggage” thing left.

And I guess your next response was really smiley and cutting. In the sense that you seemed defensive with regards to my first message to you and looked like you needed to attack then.

Maybe this isn’t the case with you but it’s how it’s coming across and that’s what can be just as important.

Hope you’ve a nice day

**really snipey and cutting

As for you never being snipey and cutting, we’ll leave that at your opinion but it’s quite transparently bull.

Worm = work

Ride = rise. Hahaha but that one doesn’t really change the meaning haha go for a walk

Nah. I’ll do what I please thanks. And don’t take kindly to bitchy comments from strangers. Take your controlling comments somewhere else

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bitchy how

Ironic you have completely derailed this thread.

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over a year ago

No Sweetie I’m so not angry. I’m honest and answered a thread about dating, gave my experience and my thoughts on it. No anger here at all. Unsure why you think I’m angry

Glad to hear it. Just came across that way as you first outrightly stated that there wasn’t a single respectful man left without this “baggage” thing left.

And I guess your next response was really smiley and cutting. In the sense that you seemed defensive with regards to my first message to you and looked like you needed to attack then.

Maybe this isn’t the case with you but it’s how it’s coming across and that’s what can be just as important.

Hope you’ve a nice day

**really snipey and cutting

As for you never being snipey and cutting, we’ll leave that at your opinion but it’s quite transparently bull.

Worm = work

Ride = rise. Hahaha but that one doesn’t really change the meaning haha go for a walk

Nah. I’ll do what I please thanks. And don’t take kindly to bitchy comments from strangers. Take your controlling comments somewhere else

bitchy how

Ironic you have completely derailed this thread."

“Go for a walk” in the context that you had zero input to my back and forth with the other poster was unreasonable and in my opinion sarky/bitchy.

Threads change direction all the time and you’ll find I was incredibly polite with anyone who was polite with me up till this debacle. And I didn’t set out to derail anything. I’m just not having someone be rude to me. I won’t be arsed around the place. Thank you

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

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No Sweetie I’m so not angry. I’m honest and answered a thread about dating, gave my experience and my thoughts on it. No anger here at all. Unsure why you think I’m angry

Glad to hear it. Just came across that way as you first outrightly stated that there wasn’t a single respectful man left without this “baggage” thing left.

And I guess your next response was really smiley and cutting. In the sense that you seemed defensive with regards to my first message to you and looked like you needed to attack then.

Maybe this isn’t the case with you but it’s how it’s coming across and that’s what can be just as important.

Hope you’ve a nice day

**really snipey and cutting

As for you never being snipey and cutting, we’ll leave that at your opinion but it’s quite transparently bull.

Worm = work

Ride = rise. Hahaha but that one doesn’t really change the meaning haha go for a walk

Nah. I’ll do what I please thanks. And don’t take kindly to bitchy comments from strangers. Take your controlling comments somewhere else

bitchy how

Ironic you have completely derailed this thread.

“Go for a walk” in the context that you had zero input to my back and forth with the other poster was unreasonable and in my opinion sarky/bitchy.

Go for a walk as in calm down anyway have a great boxing day.

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over a year ago

No Sweetie I’m so not angry. I’m honest and answered a thread about dating, gave my experience and my thoughts on it. No anger here at all. Unsure why you think I’m angry

Glad to hear it. Just came across that way as you first outrightly stated that there wasn’t a single respectful man left without this “baggage” thing left.

And I guess your next response was really smiley and cutting. In the sense that you seemed defensive with regards to my first message to you and looked like you needed to attack then.

Maybe this isn’t the case with you but it’s how it’s coming across and that’s what can be just as important.

Hope you’ve a nice day

**really snipey and cutting

As for you never being snipey and cutting, we’ll leave that at your opinion but it’s quite transparently bull.

Worm = work

Ride = rise. Hahaha but that one doesn’t really change the meaning haha go for a walk

Nah. I’ll do what I please thanks. And don’t take kindly to bitchy comments from strangers. Take your controlling comments somewhere else

bitchy how

Ironic you have completely derailed this thread.

“Go for a walk” in the context that you had zero input to my back and forth with the other poster was unreasonable and in my opinion sarky/bitchy.

Go for a walk as in calm down anyway have a great boxing day."

There you are again with your orders like I’m honestly going to listen to something someone who has been rude to me on a forum with our first interaction? Aye. Sure. I’ll just go do it right now.

In Ireland it’s simply St Stephen’s Day. Bye

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

No Sweetie I’m so not angry. I’m honest and answered a thread about dating, gave my experience and my thoughts on it. No anger here at all. Unsure why you think I’m angry

Glad to hear it. Just came across that way as you first outrightly stated that there wasn’t a single respectful man left without this “baggage” thing left.

And I guess your next response was really smiley and cutting. In the sense that you seemed defensive with regards to my first message to you and looked like you needed to attack then.

Maybe this isn’t the case with you but it’s how it’s coming across and that’s what can be just as important.

Hope you’ve a nice day

**really snipey and cutting

As for you never being snipey and cutting, we’ll leave that at your opinion but it’s quite transparently bull.

Worm = work

Ride = rise. Hahaha but that one doesn’t really change the meaning haha go for a walk

Nah. I’ll do what I please thanks. And don’t take kindly to bitchy comments from strangers. Take your controlling comments somewhere else

bitchy how

Ironic you have completely derailed this thread.

“Go for a walk” in the context that you had zero input to my back and forth with the other poster was unreasonable and in my opinion sarky/bitchy.

Go for a walk as in calm down anyway have a great boxing day.

There you are again with your orders like I’m honestly going to listen to something someone who has been rude to me on a forum with our first interaction? Aye. Sure. I’ll just go do it right now.

In Ireland it’s simply St Stephen’s Day. Bye

Thankyou I knew you would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love to find a partner/hotwife

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over a year ago

It's similar on the other side of the fence - I've been on dating apps for around 18 months, and would love to meet someone very attractive like you who also has the qualities you mention. I signed up on here partly as a couple of people I know actually met partners through fab, and if you meet similarly open-minded people, you never know what might happen.

It's hard though - especially at the moment for obvious reasons. But there are decent guys on the apps hidden in all the chaff. Maybe try a different app? I don't really like Tinder and deleted PoF after a few hours, but would recommend Hinge if you haven't tried it.

I've done speed dating too a few times, but it seems to have become far less popular than 5-10 years ago, and when I last went about a year ago, it wasn't that well subscribed.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’ve given up looking to be honest. I think it should happen organically, like you run over their foot with your shopping trolley in Tesco’s and wow them with your first aid skills.

I hate “dating”. I’m an introvert and I find it a chore. Much prefer for fate to step in and if it doesn’t then I’ll just get some more hobbies.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

No Sweetie I’m so not angry. I’m honest and answered a thread about dating, gave my experience and my thoughts on it. No anger here at all. Unsure why you think I’m angry

Glad to hear it. Just came across that way as you first outrightly stated that there wasn’t a single respectful man left without this “baggage” thing left.

And I guess your next response was really smiley and cutting. In the sense that you seemed defensive with regards to my first message to you and looked like you needed to attack then.

Maybe this isn’t the case with you but it’s how it’s coming across and that’s what can be just as important.

Hope you’ve a nice day

**really snipey and cutting

As for you never being snipey and cutting, we’ll leave that at your opinion but it’s quite transparently bull.

Are you both going to snipe trying to get the last word?

People can read both your comments and make their minds up.

It's Boxing Day ffs. Eat drink and be merry.

You should both read the forum rules. Mate.

I understand the forum rules in that the forums are about fun. I responded to a thread about dating, my thoughts and experiences and suddenly my character is being critiqued by a guy who does not even know me and purely because he does not like my comments. I’m an honest person and if he doesn’t like it then it’s not my problem.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"I'm no expert, but here is my input.

The more guys you meet, the more likely you are to find one you really click with. Don't look for perfection and give guys a chance.

And how does one go about this when in tier 4 and I cannot leave my home?

As for Maldives was a suggestion, an on many dating apps and have been for years... "

You can't physically meet anybody at the moment of course. That's just how it is. You can join dating sites. There may be online versions of social things based around things that interest you, such as book clubs. We're in a movie club for example.

If you can start making contacts and having conversations then you can get lined up to meet people when this virus shit is over.

The Maldives bit was just an example from your list. All I'm saying is the more specific you are, the less likely you are to find somebody who floats your boat. Respect obviously should be an absolute requirement. There may be other things which somebody may not have but are made up for in other ways.

Getting conversations going is the key, I think. When Hannah and I started talking, we had no expectation of meeting because we lived in different continents. But we clicked. We talked for hours about anything and everything. We started talking in early 2018. By the end of that year we had decided we wanted to live together, and the total amount of time we were physically together that year was 48 hours. Two years later we're going strong.

It is possible to build something now that can become physical when the time comes. You just have to find ways of making connections as suggested above. Luke

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By *ightkitty4u OP Woman
over a year ago

Epsom

It seems dating apps are the top suggestion or joining clubs.

Well I’m on in no particular order...

Hinge

POF

Tinder

Bumble

Happn

Facebook dating - yet it’s new

Have been on these for years... yes I match with people, I do send a first message, not ashamed to do that.... 90% don’t get a response or get unmatched or a list of people who don’t want to date me forms....

As for clubs, I won’t lie money is tight at the moment. Along with this, I wouldn’t have a clue what to join.... love to learn to paddle board but it’s winter, love snowboarding, but no snow....

If anyone knows of any clubs near Kingston upon Thames let me know

All my friends are in the marriage/kids phase of life some even on their 2nd marriages

so don’t see them as much as I did and girlie nights out are a distance memory, not just due to covid... was like this before covid.

This year has just heightened how much I am alone and the restrictions haven’t really had a massive impact on my life! Sad hey

I’ve seen nice looking men when out, but no idea how to naturally get talking to them... saw one the other day while driving I was on phone (hands free) jokes with my friend that I’ll run him over and rescue him

Bit like the movie while you were sleeping

So yeah dating over 40 is a nightmare pubs full of younger folk or the local d*unk....

maybe I should hang out at a kiddie park thing.... ooo a scooter park... max foster from CNN showed the forgotten fathers section on tick tick... anyone got a kid I could borrow?

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over a year ago

"It seems dating apps are the top suggestion or joining clubs.

Well I’m on in no particular order...

Hinge

POF

Tinder

Bumble

Happn

Facebook dating - yet it’s new

If anyone knows of any clubs near Kingston upon Thames let me know

All my friends are in the marriage/kids phase of life some even on their 2nd marriages

so don’t see them as much as I did and girlie nights out are a distance memory, not just due to covid... was like this before covid.

This year has just heightened how much I am alone and the restrictions haven’t really had a massive impact on my life! Sad hey

Bit like the movie while you were sleeping

So yeah dating over 40 is a nightmare pubs full of younger folk or the local d*unk....

maybe I should hang out at a kiddie park thing.... ooo a scooter park... max foster from CNN showed the forgotten fathers section on tick tick... anyone got a kid I could borrow?

I’m in east London and also single (and childless) over 40. Want to be my wingman when covid is over?? I can relate really hard, I still want to go out and have fun but many of my friends are married with kids.

I’ve also done the clubs/interests thing. I competed in sport for almost 10 years and never men any suitable men through it. My experience of joining clubs/activities to meet men was that the activities were full of women wanting to meet men

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By *ightkitty4u OP Woman
over a year ago

Epsom

"It seems dating apps are the top suggestion or joining clubs.

Well I’m on in no particular order...

Hinge

POF

Tinder

Bumble

Happn

Facebook dating - yet it’s new

If anyone knows of any clubs near Kingston upon Thames let me know

All my friends are in the marriage/kids phase of life some even on their 2nd marriages

so don’t see them as much as I did and girlie nights out are a distance memory, not just due to covid... was like this before covid.

This year has just heightened how much I am alone and the restrictions haven’t really had a massive impact on my life! Sad hey

Bit like the movie while you were sleeping

So yeah dating over 40 is a nightmare pubs full of younger folk or the local d*unk....

maybe I should hang out at a kiddie park thing.... ooo a scooter park... max foster from CNN showed the forgotten fathers section on tick tick... anyone got a kid I could borrow?

Oh god, I forgot about the desperate women joint clubs to bag a man.... I can totally imagine that.

I’ve done two ski seasons, a summer season... and there were no suitors there! Ok summer season I was to busy drinking and shagging!

and I got to Glastonbury when it on... not meet anyone there either... not that I’m looking as to busy enjoying myself

Wing woman sounds great...

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over a year ago

Oh god, I forgot about the desperate women joint clubs to bag a man.... I can totally imagine that.

I’ve done two ski seasons, a summer season... and there were no suitors there! Ok summer season I was to busy drinking and shagging!

and I got to Glastonbury when it on... not meet anyone there either... not that I’m looking as to busy enjoying myself

Wing woman sounds great... "

Your summer season sounds amazing, I’m jealous

I think a lot of people mean well but they don’t realise how hard dating over 40 is. It’s all a bit depressing even before covid!! Plus I cannot flirt or read body language, so it’s extra difficult for me

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By *ightkitty4u OP Woman
over a year ago

Epsom

Oh god, I forgot about the desperate women joint clubs to bag a man.... I can totally imagine that.

I’ve done two ski seasons, a summer season... and there were no suitors there! Ok summer season I was to busy drinking and shagging!

and I got to Glastonbury when it on... not meet anyone there either... not that I’m looking as to busy enjoying myself

Wing woman sounds great...

Your summer season sounds amazing, I’m jealous

I have best memories from the summer season, was 2004 Malia on Crete....

Sigh I meet a salior he was good....

If anyone was in Maila the summer of 2004, say hi

Came back needing a new kidney and liver though...

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