FabSwingers.com forum: Christmas. You know how much your children love you.

By *uck-Rogers OP Man
over a year ago

Ocknell in camper

This Christmas. I gave my 30 year old daughter £200 cash in with the card that I gave to her.

And what did my daughter give me in a bag, telling me what was in the bag as she handed it to me. Not even wrapped in Christmas paper.

Drum roll please.

I know the suspense is killing you.

My daughter gave me a £1 bag of fudge

I know I know, it's the thought that counts.

I did manage to say thank you with a smile on my face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's something I would do.

It's the thought that counts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I don't tend to judge how much someone loves me by the presents they buy me. Yes she could have wrapped but would that really have made a difference because you seem rather disappointed by the gift itself.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I give my sons money as they are both married and in their late 20’s, they give me Dove products and Maltesers and you know what? that’s is fine by me because I don’t need anything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't give her anything next year.

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

I like fudge

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By *uzz And WoodyCouple
over a year ago

Somewhere Only We Know

It doesn’t sound very thoughtful but I don’t know her financial circumstances or her relationship with you to judge. Some ‘children’ still expect to only receive gifts and not reciprocate but maybe that’s how they were raised. Personally, we like treating our parents but I know people who don’t really bother.

Just as well she didn’t wrap your fudge really, at least you got your disappointment out of the way before Christmas Day.

Lou x

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"This Christmas. I gave my 30 year old daughter £200 cash in with the card that I gave to her.

And what did my daughter give me in a bag, telling me what was in the bag as she handed it to me. Not even wrapped in Christmas paper.

Drum roll please.

I know the suspense is killing you.

My daughter gave me a £1 bag of fudge

I know I know, it's the thought that counts.

I did manage to say thank you with a smile on my face."

Was it Devonshire fudge or the more exotic Scottish tablet?

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

"I wouldn't give her anything next year.

I’d give her the fudge back, well maybe the empty wrappers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't give her anything next year.

I’d give her the fudge back, well maybe the empty wrappers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It doesn’t sound very thoughtful but I don’t know her financial circumstances or her relationship with you to judge. Some ‘children’ still expect to only receive gifts and not reciprocate but maybe that’s how they were raised. Personally, we like treating our parents but I know people who don’t really bother.

***Just as well she didn’t wrap your fudge really, at least you got your disappointment out of the way before Christmas Day. ***

Lou x "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My daughter this year gave me a bed ... I haven't actually had one for 17 years and I cried happy tears! It's just amazing ... but in life I don't actually need anything, not even a bed! People place too much on presents and money! As a family we have never really done actual presents because when we need anything or see anything that is brilliant for a person that counts more for us than a specific time of year requirements ... never really understood Christmas unless you're actually religious so ... heyho each to their own and season's love to all x

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"This Christmas. I gave my 30 year old daughter £200 cash in with the card that I gave to her.

And what did my daughter give me in a bag, telling me what was in the bag as she handed it to me. Not even wrapped in Christmas paper.

Drum roll please.

I know the suspense is killing you.

My daughter gave me a £1 bag of fudge

I know I know, it's the thought that counts.

I did manage to say thank you with a smile on my face."

If she knows you like fudge then I'd say that's a thoughtful present.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"This Christmas. I gave my 30 year old daughter £200 cash in with the card that I gave to her.

And what did my daughter give me in a bag, telling me what was in the bag as she handed it to me. Not even wrapped in Christmas paper.

Drum roll please.

I know the suspense is killing you.

My daughter gave me a £1 bag of fudge

I know I know, it's the thought that counts.

I did manage to say thank you with a smile on my face."

Maybe she feels that just giving her cash lacks thoughtfulness?

Do you normally give such sums of money to her?

What is her financial situation?

Do you particularly like fudge?

Without all the facts it is hard to say, whether this was a thoughtless gift or not.

My parents just gave money and a small gift this year.

My gran has no idea what to buy anyone, so always gives money and wants to see what you bought.

I love choosing things for people and wrapping them, and in a normal year, I enjoy watching family open them if possible.

There's no right or wrong in present giving.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always found giving money rather lacking in thought. I'd rather my mum gave me fudge if she knew I really liked it.

I'm not saying your gift lacked thought, perhaps she was saving for something and you knew that and gave her a help towards it. I'm just saying that generally I find cash a pretty thoughtless gift.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think I'd feel a bit let down if my kids didn't wrap a gift. I don't care what or if they give me anything though.

I've bought fudge for my dad

but that's because he likes it and in his mid-nineties he's lost so many teeth it's one of the few sweets he can eat

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By *iger4uWoman
over a year ago

In my happy place

Hmmm tricky.

Depends on details we don't know.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

My Dad is getting a fiction book and a photo book of pics of the family over the lockdown (when he's had limited contact with us). The total cost was probably about £12. My Dad isn't giving us anything because his financial situation doesn't allow. In fact, I'll probably be paying his £900 tax bill in January too. In previous years, Dad has contributed a few quid to the cost of food etc over the 2-3 days he stays (his choice, not my request) and will write on a gift label for one of the gifts we buy for our kids, mainly because he never remembers what we suggest he might buy. Our son is now 18, daughter 3 and neither of them realise or even care.

I couldn't care less if my Dad bought a Christmas gift for the kids or us and I don't believe he cares about whether we buy him anything either. He is grateful for the little things, like me visiting him in hospital every day for 10 days in Jan, staying at his house for a week afterwards and putting carers in place for him when he needed care. For the fact I dropped everything and drove 3hrs to Worcester when the police rang me at 1am because he was lost and confused at the side of the road. For helping him navigate the NHS (pre pandemic and during). For coming at the drop of another hat when he was broken into and his cards/passport etc stolen, for paying for the locksmith to not only secure the house, but upgrade the locks. Etc.

Actions speak louder than words or money.

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By *ilmissplumpyWoman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

To be fair my daughter n her partner came down today (I actually picked them up) & brought them lunch (I'd had their 2y old child since yesterday afternoon. They opened their gifts (not extravagant, bit of a hamper nice chocs, biscuits, alcohol, pjs', baby opened her gifts... I brought a new mattress for my grandchild along with bedding (love Amazon) for the child because she needs it (no thanks) & gave them all a lift home. All I ever want is a card, didn't get what I wanted.

Luckily I have the gift of love with my grandchild, we adore each other..... Card would have been nice tho

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By *uck-Rogers OP Man
over a year ago

Ocknell in camper

"I think I'd feel a bit let down if my kids didn't wrap a gift. I don't care what or if they give me anything though.

I've bought fudge for my dad

but that's because he likes it and in his mid-nineties he's lost so many teeth it's one of the few sweets he can eat

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I felt let down by my daughter. Not just because of the value of the gift, or the fact that she never took time to wrap it. I have taken other factors into consideration. 1. That I called in today Christmas eve. She never had the card written out prior.

2. Earlier on this year when she held a birthday party outside in the garden, for her daughter, my granddaughter, when we came out of the fist lockdown. I was not invited.

3. Bubbles became the thing, with a limited amount of people in the bubble. I was not one of them people.

Now take into consideration that my daughter is living with the baby's father. All the parents of my daughter, and her partner are living with other people. Apart from myself.

So my Granddaughter has 4 granddads. And 3 grandmothers. That is quite common today.

I personally would think that I am the number 1 granddad, seeing that I am the father of the mother.

So you can imagine how I feel. I brought my daughter up. And 2 sons as a single parent.

My wife left me when they were young, And she was also an alcoholic.

My ex wife and her partner, and the other grandparents are in her bubble. They can go inside the house to hug and hold my granddaughter. Have a cuppa. Get an invite to the birthday. And all I am allowed to to is look through the window.

S now I am thinking ! Fuck you. Yes I'M PISSED OFF Christmas eve. sorry.

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By *ilmissplumpyWoman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"I think I'd feel a bit let down if my kids didn't wrap a gift. I don't care what or if they give me anything though.

I've bought fudge for my dad

but that's because he likes it and in his mid-nineties he's lost so many teeth it's one of the few sweets he can eat

I felt let down by my daughter. Not just because of the value of the gift, or the fact that she never took time to wrap it. I have taken other factors into consideration. 1. That I called in today Christmas eve. She never had the card written out prior.