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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And think sometimes they just want someone to be with. You know?

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

Often. Oddly, I sometimes even feel lonely when I'm surrounded by people.

It's pretty bad for many of us at the moment, but this time will pass, things will get better.

Stay strong, and keep chatting.

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

Yes. And that loneliness doesn’t always go hand-in-hand with being on your own.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I get what you mean, surrounded by people 24/7, but feels like you're on a island alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. And that loneliness doesn’t always go hand-in-hand with being on your own."

Been there myself when i was married. Worst time of my life but i had young kids so toughed it out umtil i could not take it anymore. Id rather be unhappy single than unhappy in a loveless marriage. Now i got jenny my life has turned around for the better. John

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By *ustfulbigboyMan
over a year ago

North Wales

Unfortunately I do mate, I know what you're going through if you ever want to talk.

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By *assionate explorer 1Man
over a year ago

Folkestone

"And think sometimes they just want someone to be with. You know?"

With you pal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh god yeah

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By *iveralandssklpMan
over a year ago

Turkey

"Yes. And that loneliness doesn’t always go hand-in-hand with being on your own.

Really happy for you both.

I can appreciate what you went through.

I was exactly in the same situation, until I met Jay who is the love of my life.

Enjoy your Christmas

Alan xx

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By *utguyMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

Not sure if am lonely or board probably both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes yes would be nice having someone who loves me but theres also times im relieved im single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. And that loneliness doesn’t always go hand-in-hand with being on your own.

Really happy for you both.

I can appreciate what you went through.

I was exactly in the same situation, until I met Jay who is the love of my life.

Enjoy your Christmas

Alan xx

Thanks alan. Jenny is the soulmate i have been searching for my whole life. And she shares my kinky side also so thats a big bonus.

john.

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By *assionate explorer 1Man
over a year ago

Folkestone

"Sometimes yes would be nice having someone who loves me but theres also times im relieved im single"

I was saying the exact same thing earlier lol xx

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"Yes. And that loneliness doesn’t always go hand-in-hand with being on your own."

I have a beautiful and caring wife and family, yet sometimes I feel like I am totally alone.

But if I was really alone I think I would hate it so my sympathy to anyone who is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think all the bs around Christmas makes people feel lonely. I know it does me but really, I'm way happier on my own most of the time. I do as I please when I please. There's no expectations on me and I don't have to wash someone else's undercrackers lol.

Would be lovely to have an occasional lover for sure but not end of the world stuff if I don't.

Covid n Christmas make me more conscious of being alone, no one checking in on how I am and no Christmas surprises but other than that, I'm okay with being a lone wolf... Wouldn't mind someone to howl at the moon with when the urge strikes tho

lol

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Yes. Loneliness doesn’t always go hand-in-hand with being on your own."

The last Christmas I spent with my ex-husband was the only time I can recall feeling lonely. If someone had looked through my dining room window they'd have seen the perfect Christmas tableau: mummy, daddy, three beautifully dressed kids, table heaving with Christmas fare.

We were just going through the motions for the kids: never felt so alone in my life!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Yes. And that loneliness doesn’t always go hand-in-hand with being on your own.

This!!!!!!!!

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Yes x

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By *xtrafun4youMan
over a year ago

Dunstable

If anyone is lonely I am up for a chat. Don't be alone. Don't delay contact me today hehe.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

Yes I know what you mean. I’m struggling a bit with being on my own at the moment. Feel very lonely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes painfully so, it's primarily why I'm here. There's that line in a James song "amongst friends but all alone" pretty much sums it up for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This makes me sad.

This year we lost a close friend through suicide. Newly married, 2 beautiful kids, played rugby, fought on our kickboxing team, so happy and full of life. At the hospital with the surrounded by people it was impossible to contemplate how he could have felt so alone.

It only takes 30 seconds to ask somebody how they are, and it literally could save a life.

Hope everyone has a lovely Christmas x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think all the bs around Christmas makes people feel lonely. I know it does me but really, I'm way happier on my own most of the time. I do as I please when I please. There's no expectations on me and I don't have to wash someone else's undercrackers lol.

Would be lovely to have an occasional lover for sure but not end of the world stuff if I don't.

lol"

I feel the same. I like being able to do my own thing but miss having someone to share things with. This time of year definitely makes me feel a bit lonely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes Im so lonely......... sometimes Ifel I could cry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that I have bouts of being lonely and wishing I had someone to spend time with to cherish. I try and plan to do one thing for me in a day. It doesn't matter if it is just going for a walk and listening to a album from yesteryear or even just making a cuppa with a few biscuits and watching a fav episode or clip to make me laugh.

Try small things that make you smile..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes yes would be nice having someone who loves me but theres also times im relieved im single

I was saying the exact same thing earlier lol xx "
seems lots feel the same

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"And think sometimes they just want someone to be with. You know?"

Sometimes but that’s what fwb’s are great for! Let them visit then when they go, shut the door, tidy up and no one telling you what to do......it’s great!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will be having pasta for one on Christmas Day, it’s Cannelloni.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s an awful feeling, yes I know what you mean OP. Talking is good and there are some great people on Fab who are willing to listen. We’ll get through this tough time together. My inbox is also open for anyone who needs to chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And think sometimes they just want someone to be with. You know?"

Yes, quite frequently at the moment. It’s been a really tough year for many people, but it’s nearly over, and hopefully things will get better soon.

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By *elix SightedMan
over a year ago

Cloud 8

"I will be having pasta for one on Christmas Day, it’s Cannelloni."

hahaha

I was reading this thread with empathy. I have spent the last six Christmasses on my own and not through choice. I like to be on my own but at this time of year I do feel lonely.

This year I don’t even have any cards or presents to open.

If you know someone who is alone, just reach out and say hi, they’ll be more grateful than you know. Humour definitely helps - especially like that terrible but brilliant joke above!!

To those on their own this Christmas - solidarity. Come say hi if you fancy a chat with no expectations of anything other than virtual company xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would be lovely to have an occasional lover for sure but not end of the world stuff if I don't.

lol"

Summed up perfectly.

I came on here to post a similar thread of my own, knowing I can’t be the only one that is feeling this. Xmas is a struggle for me at best of times, moreso like this year when I don’t see my kids.

I’d love to meet someone and share the second half of my life with, though at times I’m content , happy-ish and accepting of my singledom. Think I’m better with someone thought.

Inbox is open for anyone needing a chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This makes me sad.

It only takes 30 seconds to ask somebody how they are, and it literally could save a life.

Hope everyone has a lovely Christmas x"

I agree but it's the 30 seconds of listening that's more important.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Its nice to have a special someone x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love to have that special someone xxx

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By *ionelhutzMan
over a year ago

liverpool

It's a tough one.

It's not much fun being on your own but it's also not much fun being with someone and not being happy.

You want someone there for you,but not just anyone.

Someone who gets you and appreciates you and makes you happy and gives you butterflies.

Tricky bit is finding them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a tough one.

It's not much fun being on your own but it's also not much fun being with someone and not being happy.

You want someone there for you,but not just anyone.

Someone who gets you and appreciates you and makes you happy and gives you butterflies.

Tricky bit is finding them."

So true lionel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m more lonely now than I’ve ever been and I have a family

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"It's a tough one.

It's not much fun being on your own but it's also not much fun being with someone and not being happy.

You want someone there for you,but not just anyone.

Someone who gets you and appreciates you and makes you happy and gives you butterflies.

Tricky bit is finding them."

This

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I’m more lonely now than I’ve ever been and I have a family"

Xxxx xxx x

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Partners are for life ( or a good bit of it ) not just for Christmas.

A lot of people feel lonely because they see others bustling about with family and think they must be happy and blissful.

If you feel lonely think about what you can do for others and get involved with social groups or community groups.

You'll soon make friends.

Too many people think that A.N. Other will solve their lonliness........

You have to like yourself and do for others.

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By *ooby birdWoman
over a year ago

North West

I feel exactly this way.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I feel exactly this way. "

Hugs xx

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By *de1980Man
over a year ago

Redcar

Yep, always! Even with people around or in my life, guess I just haven't met the right person yet. And yes Christmas can feel worse but everyone needs to stay strong and remember as quickly as it comes, it quickly goes and is forgotten!

Happy Christmas and best wishes everyone xxx

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Yep, always! Even with people around or in my life, guess I just haven't met the right person yet. And yes Christmas can feel worse but everyone needs to stay strong and remember as quickly as it comes, it quickly goes and is forgotten!

Happy Christmas and best wishes everyone xxx"

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a tough one.

It's not much fun being on your own but it's also not much fun being with someone and not being happy.

You want someone there for you,but not just anyone.

Someone who gets you and appreciates you and makes you happy and gives you butterflies.

Tricky bit is finding them."

Yeah

Its not much fun having a someone that makes you feel anything but special

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Got my Lads from Christmas Eve to Boxing Day morning, after that I’m on my own again.

Certainly this NYE will be a weird one as I won’t be out or even have the London fireworks to watch at midnight either, in a way it’ll feel just like any ordinary night.

So I’ve planned the day to ensure I don’t feel too lonely or isolated. Hope everyone has the best time they can over the festive period

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Ridiculously lonely

Don't get me wrong I like my own space I've got being single but sometimes I just achingly miss having someone there

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By *admax1962Man
over a year ago

Stowmarket

Yes very been a lonely year even working.

It’s also just having no one to kiss cuddle watch tv with tell a joke too. Just little things no one for me to cook a meal for have a glass of wine with ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would be lovely to have an occasional lover for sure but not end of the world stuff if I don't.

lol

I feel the same. I like being able to do my own thing but miss having someone to share things with. This time of year definitely makes me feel a bit lonely."

Hope you spoil yourself today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would be lovely to have an occasional lover for sure but not end of the world stuff if I don't.

lol

Summed up perfectly.

I’d love to meet someone and share the second half of my life with, though at times I’m content , happy-ish and accepting of my singledom. Think I’m better with someone thought.

Inbox is open for anyone needing a chat

Have the best day you can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I live alone, work alone and the only person I have spoken to this week was the guy on the counter at the petrol station.

I'm still happy though as I enjoy my own company and choose my own destiny, but I must admit to buying enough Christmas Dinner for two, just in case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sometimes yes would be nice having someone who loves me but theres also times im relieved im single"

Can relate to this. I get lonely and maybe meet someone as I feel ready to, then when I’ve had a few weeks with them I want to be single again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

totally get this, for me its having someone to share the day at work with, the he said, she said stuff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I live with an alcoholic so I’m pretty much alone all the time, with today being no exception.

The forums are what’s keeping me sane at the moment.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"I live with an alcoholic so I’m pretty much alone all the time, with today being no exception.

The forums are what’s keeping me sane at the moment. "

Work towards freeing yourself my friend, life's short and you need to be happy.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup lonely here too. I'm the guy in the friendship group that always turns up as the singleton and it's tragic as fuck!

I'd love to wake up to an amazing woman every morning but at my age it's getting harder and harder to find someone who still wants to do "the kids thing". I wish that wasn't such a big thing as there are some lovely women out there who are going to waste! I've got a great family and some top mates around me but there's still plenty of space for a new best friend and lover.

What a fucking depressing way to start Christmas eh?

Merry Christmas everyone!

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"Yup lonely here too. I'm the guy in the friendship group that always turns up as the singleton and it's tragic as fuck!

What a fucking depressing way to start Christmas eh?

Merry Christmas everyone!

I hope u find what u are looking for soon hugs xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I live with an alcoholic so I’m pretty much alone all the time, with today being no exception.

The forums are what’s keeping me sane at the moment. "

I've lost 2 mates this year to alcohol despite everyone's best efforts and there's only so much you can do. Ultimately, they have to help themselves.

You deserve a life as well and I'm sure you've done everything you can to help. Don't feel guilty and whilst I'm not saying give up on her, you need to do what's best for you. Good luck and Merry Christmas chief.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Hugs to all the lonely folks this morning.

Hoping 2021 is a better year

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By *essica FlabbitWoman
over a year ago

west midlands/shropshire

Very much so. I have some wonderful friends but that feeling of loneliness still creeps in.

Also all my close friends arearried or in long term relationships which doesn't help x

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By *essica FlabbitWoman
over a year ago

west midlands/shropshire

"Yup lonely here too. I'm the guy in the friendship group that always turns up as the singleton and it's tragic as fuck!

What a fucking depressing way to start Christmas eh?

Merry Christmas everyone!

This is exactly my thoughts it's like you read my mind

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"I live with an alcoholic so I’m pretty much alone all the time, with today being no exception.

The forums are what’s keeping me sane at the moment. "

Ohh so so sorry to hear this! Know exactly where u coming from! My ex father 2 my youngest 3 was an alcoholic! Our eldest 28 said last night as we were having a fun eve how she still hates xmas because of the inevitable drink fueled xmas arguments! X

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By *essica FlabbitWoman
over a year ago

west midlands/shropshire

"I live with an alcoholic so I’m pretty much alone all the time, with today being no exception.

The forums are what’s keeping me sane at the moment. "

Oh I've been there. It's not fun at all.

Even the noise of a can opening used to fill me with dread x

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By *9alMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

"Sometimes yes would be nice having someone who loves me but theres also times im relieved im single"

my thoughts exactly merry Christmas everybody

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That golden moment when I had not one single friend"

I love being lonely.

I dont like people so perfect day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will take time out today to phone a few friends who will be alone today.

Especially after the year we have all had a simple phone call or even text can mean a lot.

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By *roggrt1919Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

Yes totally, this is the first Christmas I have woken up with no one in the house apart from me. Tough one this year.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

It has been a tough year that much is certain. Even for those of us that may revel in being alone, it is always a choice and because of circumstances, that choice has been taken from us.

There will be better days, the storm does not last forever and though sometimes we may believe it, none of us is truly alone. Sometimes we just have to reach out or let others in and whilst we may be afraid or wary, it is only then that we realise our loneliness was of our own making.

Be well all. Have a great Christmas xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It has been a tough year that much is certain. Even for those of us that may revel in being alone, it is always a choice and because of circumstances, that choice has been taken from us.

Be well all. Have a great Christmas xx"

Lovely sentiments

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By *amiee89TV/TS
over a year ago

derry

Surrounded by people day in day out but always feel lonely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

days they pass so quickly now nights are seldom long......... i write her name in the sand , waves wash it away.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surrounded by people day in day out but always feel lonely"

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By *ond Jimmy BondMan
over a year ago

London

"I’m more lonely now than I’ve ever been and I have a family"

Sometimes you can be surrounded by people that love you but you can still feel very alone. I’ve realised that lately x

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