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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What’s your biggest insecurities?

Mine is that my partner prefers the much slimmer me that he met 15 months ago, however at that point I was very unwell with bulimia.

Mrs ikc x

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Greatest? That I won't be able to earn enough to support myself.

Below that is that I will never be loved and desired. I want more than 'fond' and casual.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Greatest? That I won't be able to earn enough to support myself.

Below that is that I will never be loved and desired. I want more than 'fond' and casual."

I understand that, I always worry over bills at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My small penis, either that or my beef stew, can’t seem to get the seasoning right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always worry that someone will want me for what I have and not who I am, it's happened before and now it's manifested as a trust issue.

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By *00KissesCouple
over a year ago

Stourbridge

Hope you are getting healthy op.

My biggest unsecurity,, my mummy tummy.. 2021 will see it reduced xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My small penis, either that or my beef stew, can’t seem to get the seasoning right."

It's what you do with it that counts.

The seasoning I mean.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

My podgy belly. Especially when bloated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definately my tummy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What’s your biggest insecurities?

Mine is that my partner prefers the much slimmer me that he met 15 months ago, however at that point I was very unwell with bulimia.

Mrs ikc x"

That’s not a very healthy thing for him to say is it?

I preferred you when you had a serious eating disorder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope you're OK OP x

I'm insecure about a million things just like everyone else.

The older I get the less fucks I give.

My inbox is always open x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What’s your biggest insecurities?

Mine is that my partner prefers the much slimmer me that he met 15 months ago, however at that point I was very unwell with bulimia.

Mrs ikc x"

I doubt that with great certainty.

You look delicious again and have done amazingly well.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I hope your healing continues, OP.

My insecurities are pretty minimal these days. I've done a lot of work on myself, and most things that come up are pretty trivial (or I know they should be trivial so they don't count - no matter what the brain gremlins tell me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have way too many insecurities to post. But I hope your partner accepts that you were sick and are now in recovery. Good luck with your healing. He should prefer you healthy to slimmer. In my opinion you’ve a lovely figure.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My small penis, either that or my beef stew, can’t seem to get the seasoning right."

That made me chuckle, the second part x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ingrown hairs and shaving spots I get on my bum and legs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That I’m never going to be enough for anyone. That I’m always cared for but not loved x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ingrown hairs and shaving spots I get on my bum and legs "

Me too this is just one of many.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I always worry that someone will want me for what I have and not who I am, it's happened before and now it's manifested as a trust issue."

That’s something that you have to work on and it’s not easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ingrown hairs and shaving spots I get on my bum and legs

Me too this is just one of many. "

Awww big hugs from me as I know how bad they can look x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always worry that someone will want me for what I have and not who I am, it's happened before and now it's manifested as a trust issue.

That’s something that you have to work on and it’s not easy "

It's something I'm working on. It was a parting shot from my most recent ex, she really got did a number on me mentally but I'm getting there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hope you are getting healthy op.

My biggest unsecurity,, my mummy tummy.. 2021 will see it reduced xx "

I’m fat, no idea what I weigh as I’ve never been allowed scales, this time last year I didn’t see myself like this, I’ll get back to my happy place. We should do workouts virtually

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My podgy belly. Especially when bloated. "

Yep me too, you’re not alone

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Definately my tummy "

Tummies definitely seem to be a theme for us ladies

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

I think you look great, by the way.

Mine would be my cake belly, and I have a bit of a schnozz, bit hairy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What’s your biggest insecurities?

Mine is that my partner prefers the much slimmer me that he met 15 months ago, however at that point I was very unwell with bulimia.

Mrs ikc x

That’s not a very healthy thing for him to say is it?

I preferred you when you had a serious eating disorder

He never said that, it’s my perception, sorry if I made that unclear. He loves me for me and no matter what size I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That I’m never going to be enough for anyone. That I’m always cared for but not loved x "

*hugs* I get that feeling at times too x

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

My biggest insecurity is that I struggle to see some things normally because of how I was treated by an ex for 12 years and I know I can react in some very strange ways in the moment which I quickly come to regret.

Sadly some of these reactions have had permanant results or cannot be unsaid/undone.

Im slowly getting better with it but don't know how to improve better and its not until I hit certain situations that I can even see some of the damage I had suffered or how I will react.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hope you're OK OP x

I'm insecure about a million things just like everyone else.

The older I get the less fucks I give.

My inbox is always open x"

It’s just I hate putting on weight and not fitting into my clothes but I know that I’m healthy but that doesn’t ease it.

Thank you lovely, I may take you up on that x

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By *assing Fancies xCouple
over a year ago

Sherwood Forest

My small boobies but I wouldn't necessarily say I'm insecure about about them (anymore) more like I'd definitely have them done just to boost my confidence a little more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never feeling that im enough for anyone and that I try too hard to fit into what they want me to be rather than being myself

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

That actually no one likes me they just put up with me because they are too nice to tell me to go away.

That I won't have the guts to leave my husband through fear of being alone

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By *ubyRonCouple
over a year ago

Lancashire

Penis size, and the fact I've piled the tub on during lockdown.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That I’m never going to be enough for anyone. That I’m always cared for but not loved x

*hugs* I get that feeling at times too x "

Thanks, hugs to you too x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What’s your biggest insecurities?

Mine is that my partner prefers the much slimmer me that he met 15 months ago, however at that point I was very unwell with bulimia.

Mrs ikc x

I doubt that with great certainty.

You look delicious again and have done amazingly well.

Oh he showers me with compliments daily and he loves me for me but that doesn’t help currently as I want to be back to size 8/10

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hope your healing continues, OP.

Thanks lovely, I hope that you keep well x

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I fear nothing, apart from the sky falling on my head

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have way too many insecurities to post. But I hope your partner accepts that you were sick and are now in recovery. Good luck with your healing. He should prefer you healthy to slimmer. In my opinion you’ve a lovely figure. "

He does prefer the healthier me but i really don’t x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never feeling that im enough for anyone and that I try too hard to fit into what they want me to be rather than being myself"

Up until this year I would have said the same, but I'm working on loving myself first and living my life for me not for anyone else.

Ladies check out " women don't owe you pretty " by Florence given , i listened to it on audible and had to buy the book. Its eye opening.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ingrown hairs and shaving spots I get on my bum and legs "

Oh they’re a nightmare, exfoliate x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That I’m never going to be enough for anyone. That I’m always cared for but not loved x "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I always worry that someone will want me for what I have and not who I am, it's happened before and now it's manifested as a trust issue.

That’s something that you have to work on and it’s not easy

It's something I'm working on. It was a parting shot from my most recent ex, she really got did a number on me mentally but I'm getting there."

Glad to hear

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think you look great, by the way.

Mine would be my cake belly, and I have a bit of a schnozz, bit hairy. "

I’ve got a cake belly and I’m mortified

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My biggest insecurity is that I struggle to see some things normally because of how I was treated by an ex for 12 years and I know I can react in some very strange ways in the moment which I quickly come to regret.

Sadly some of these reactions have had permanant results or cannot be unsaid/undone.

Im slowly getting better with it but don't know how to improve better and its not until I hit certain situations that I can even see some of the damage I had suffered or how I will react.

It’s harder to do, but you need to learn to love yourself and understand when to tell people that you’re not in a good place and will reply when you can. This will save burning bridges x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My small boobies but I wouldn't necessarily say I'm insecure about about them (anymore) more like I'd definitely have them done just to boost my confidence a little more

I understand that, I had implants 15 years ago

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I'm sure Mr insatiable loves you just the way you are .xx..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Never feeling that im enough for anyone and that I try too hard to fit into what they want me to be rather than being myself"

I totally get this, it’s like you have to fit into their box, I don’t know you however you are enough and be yourself, you’re unique x

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

"I fear nothing, apart from the sky falling on my head

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we better tell goosey loosey

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That actually no one likes me they just put up with me because they are too nice to tell me to go away.

That I won't have the guts to leave my husband through fear of being alone "

You will be liked by many, if you are unhappy with your husband then leave him.

I was unhappy for many years with my marriage and I was single for 3 years. Never say because you feel that you won’t be loved x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Penis size, and the fact I've piled the tub on during lockdown."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That I’m never going to be enough for anyone. That I’m always cared for but not loved x

*hugs* I get that feeling at times too x

Thanks, hugs to you too x "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I fear nothing, apart from the sky falling on my head

That must be a great feeling, pretty disappointed that you didn’t put your name down for the Manchester lounge social x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm sure Mr insatiable loves you just the way you are .xx.."

He does, but I don’t x

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

"That actually no one likes me they just put up with me because they are too nice to tell me to go away.

That I won't have the guts to leave my husband through fear of being alone

You will be liked by many, if you are unhappy with your husband then leave him.

I was unhappy for many years with my marriage and I was single for 3 years. Never say because you feel that you won’t be loved x"

Oh I know I need too

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

That it's all just lip service, I'm not actually liked let alone loved for me and I'll get thrown aside for someone better just as I bring the walls down

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That actually no one likes me they just put up with me because they are too nice to tell me to go away.

That I won't have the guts to leave my husband through fear of being alone

You will be liked by many, if you are unhappy with your husband then leave him.

I was unhappy for many years with my marriage and I was single for 3 years. Never say because you feel that you won’t be loved x

Oh I know I need too

If you are unhappy then take time out to see if that’s what you want, but tell him why. If it doesn’t work after that then split. Take time to yourself before looking for someone one else.

Unfortunately we can’t predict the future so you have your choices, but why do you feel you can’t be loved by someone else?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If you are unhappy then take time out to see if that’s what you want, but tell him why. If it doesn’t work after that then split. Take time to yourself before looking for someone one else.

Unfortunately we can’t predict the future so you have your choices, but why do you feel you can’t be loved by someone else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hairy back

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And I’m signing out of this thread, be kind to each other xxx

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

He won't OP, I know that much. Irrational insecurities can be a pain in the arse to shed.

I'm not too sure on mine. Or I am but I don't want to post it in case someone reads it and thinks what a crazy so and so.

Anyway, I wouldn't say it's a big one. Not really. On the whole I'm happy with me and that's the most important thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask me the same question 6 months ago, even two months ago and I would have lots of answers for you. This year has been a journey and I have spent a lot of time working on me.. Right now I only have one fear (not insecurity) and that is I will let someone in who will break the calm.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

It may sound off, but I don’t believe I have any insecurities. Sure there are things I would change if I had a magic lamp, but I don’t let those things define me.

Just remember you are the storm!

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

"That actually no one likes me they just put up with me because they are too nice to tell me to go away.

That I won't have the guts to leave my husband through fear of being alone

You will be liked by many, if you are unhappy with your husband then leave him.

I was unhappy for many years with my marriage and I was single for 3 years. Never say because you feel that you won’t be loved x

Oh I know I need too

If you are unhappy then take time out to see if that’s what you want, but tell him why. If it doesn’t work after that then split. Take time to yourself before looking for someone one else.

Unfortunately we can’t predict the future so you have your choices, but why do you feel you can’t be loved by someone else? "

Oh he knows the reasons. It's been spoken about for a while now.

I just have massive insecurities about myself

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"He won't OP, I know that much. Irrational insecurities can be a pain in the arse to shed.

I'm not too sure on mine. Or I am but I don't want to post it in case someone reads it and thinks what a crazy so and so.

Anyway, I wouldn't say it's a big one. Not really. On the whole I'm happy with me and that's the most important thing."

Offering you love and thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What’s your biggest insecurities?

Mine is that my partner prefers the much slimmer me that he met 15 months ago, however at that point I was very unwell with bulimia.

Mrs ikc x

That’s not a very healthy thing for him to say is it?

I preferred you when you had a serious eating disorder

He never said that, it’s my perception, sorry if I made that unclear. He loves me for me and no matter what size I am. "

So, he hasn't said he prefers the thinner you, you've just decided he does because you don't like the bigger you?

Is that right?

Cos if it is, I get you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"He won't OP, I know that much. Irrational insecurities can be a pain in the arse to shed.

I'm not too sure on mine. Or I am but I don't want to post it in case someone reads it and thinks what a crazy so and so.

Anyway, I wouldn't say it's a big one. Not really. On the whole I'm happy with me and that's the most important thing."

I’m so much fatter though and it’s me that can’t deal with it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly some of these reactions have had permanant results or cannot be unsaid/undone.

Im slowly getting better with it but don't know how to improve better and its not until I hit certain situations that I can even see some of the damage I had suffered or how I will react.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ask me the same question 6 months ago, even two months ago and I would have lots of answers for you. This year has been a journey and I have spent a lot of time working on me.. Right now I only have one fear (not insecurity) and that is I will let someone in who will break the calm.

Good for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It may sound off, but I don’t believe I have any insecurities. Sure there are things I would change if I had a magic lamp, but I don’t let those things define me.

Just remember you are the storm!"

Those things that I want to define me is a loss of 2 dress sizes, weight cannot be taken due to bulimia diagnosis x

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By *implynaughty1Couple
over a year ago

stockport

"Definately my tummy

Tummies definitely seem to be a theme for us ladies "
totally agree with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My small penis, either that or my beef stew, can’t seem to get the seasoning right.

It's what you do with it that counts.

The seasoning I mean. "

Thyme is a great healer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He won't OP, I know that much. Irrational insecurities can be a pain in the arse to shed.

I'm not too sure on mine. Or I am but I don't want to post it in case someone reads it and thinks what a crazy so and so.

Anyway, I wouldn't say it's a big one. Not really. On the whole I'm happy with me and that's the most important thing.

I’m so much fatter though and it’s me that can’t deal with it x"

Can you reframe it as being healthier and not fatter. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"He won't OP, I know that much. Irrational insecurities can be a pain in the arse to shed.

I'm not too sure on mine. Or I am but I don't want to post it in case someone reads it and thinks what a crazy so and so.

Anyway, I wouldn't say it's a big one. Not really. On the whole I'm happy with me and that's the most important thing.

I’m so much fatter though and it’s me that can’t deal with it x

Can you reframe it as being healthier and not fatter. X"
no due to my bulimia, I’m fatter

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By *verready5000Man
over a year ago

mansfield

"My small boobies but I wouldn't necessarily say I'm insecure about about them (anymore) more like I'd definitely have them done just to boost my confidence a little more

You look fantastic!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What’s your biggest insecurities?

Mine is that my partner prefers the much slimmer me that he met 15 months ago, however at that point I was very unwell with bulimia.

Mrs ikc x

That’s not a very healthy thing for him to say is it?

I preferred you when you had a serious eating disorder

He never said that, it’s my perception, sorry if I made that unclear. He loves me for me and no matter what size I am. "

As he should! Glad I got that bit wrong!!

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

OP you look fantastic, so please don't feel insecure.

I tell that to myself all the time, but it doesn't work. I still hate my fat belly & can't believe anyone finds me attractive

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What’s your biggest insecurities?

Mine is that my partner prefers the much slimmer me that he met 15 months ago, however at that point I was very unwell with bulimia.

Mrs ikc x

That’s not a very healthy thing for him to say is it?

I preferred you when you had a serious eating disorder

He never said that, it’s my perception, sorry if I made that unclear. He loves me for me and no matter what size I am.

As he should! Glad I got that bit wrong!! "

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

My breast after surgery is now my insecurity . The dent as I lean forward is so ugly because of scar tissue it pulls in and doesn’t fall nice .

Yes I’m lucky to still have a breast and not have cancer , for that I am thankful

It’s no longer nice to look at and as a naturist has made me very self conscious .

Don’t suppose it matters in reality because of my age but it’s sad .

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