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By *emmefatale OP   Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Does it bother you what sex the DR is that you see? I have just had an appointment cancelled, due to the fact the female doctor has rung in sick, and there is only a male doctor on duty....i have said twice that i do not mind what sex the dr is that i see, but apparently i will have to wait until a chaperone can be found or wait until the female Dr returns!!!! Where is the choice?

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich


"Does it bother you what sex the DR is that you see? I have just had an appointment cancelled, due to the fact the female doctor has rung in sick, and there is only a male doctor on duty....i have said twice that i do not mind what sex the dr is that i see, but apparently i will have to wait until a chaperone can be found or wait until the female Dr returns!!!! Where is the choice? "

You can wait for a female doctor (another time) or you wait for a chaperone. Not the choice you wanted to be offered - but it's what is on offer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's two doctors I'll go and see at our practice. One female one male, doesn't bother me who I see.

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

Just wondering - should I ask for a chaperone if I get seen by a female doctor?

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By *xscotMan
over a year ago

Kingston

It does not bother me - they have seen it all anyway - but it does worry me a little that they all look much younger than me now - no matter their sex - lol

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

I don't mind at all but id question why a chaperone would need to be there if I was only going for something minor and nothing that would involve any sort of touching?

Even when ive had a male GP give me a smear there has'nt been a chaperone,ive been asked but refused, quite frankly do I need 2 people looking up my foo foo when one is enough?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not bothered really a Doctors is Doctor in my books - my only slight embarrassment was recently i had a scar found a lump so had to have a scan- the female nurse was newlt qualified on her own and whilst at first i was nervous she just got on and did it ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly, its nothing to do with your choice. Such is our society these days that male doctors aren't supposed to be in a room unattended with a female patient in case of a law suit for something or other!

Mind you, didn't seem to bother the female doctor when she had to give me an examination of the groinal variety!

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich


"I don't mind at all but id question why a chaperone would need to be there if I was only going for something minor and nothing that would involve any sort of touching?

Even when ive had a male GP give me a smear there has'nt been a chaperone,ive been asked but refused, quite frankly do I need 2 people looking up my foo foo when one is enough? "

It's not a question that medical training isn't as good as it once was - the second person is there to stop the first person grinning as they do what they are doing...

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By *emmefatale OP   Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

My argument is they are taking away my choice, i dont want to wait to see a female DR, i dont want a chaperone, i just wanna see a DR, but their policy is male DRs do not see female patients alone, meanwhile i am in pain, but cannot get to see my GP...no wonder A and E Departments are bursting at the seams

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that's annoying for you and a shame ... especially if you've waited a while to be seen.

However it's the chaperone thing that's the overiding issue and if I was a male Dr I wouldn't do examinations of a personal nature on a female patient without a chaperone either.

Hope you get an appt. soon.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"My argument is they are taking away my choice, i dont want to wait to see a female DR, i dont want a chaperone, i just wanna see a DR, but their policy is male DRs do not see female patients alone, meanwhile i am in pain, but cannot get to see my GP...no wonder A and E Departments are bursting at the seams "

Is that policy for any female visiting a male doctore or just for examinations that mind need a chaperone?

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

-e on doctore

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By *emmefatale OP   Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"My argument is they are taking away my choice, i dont want to wait to see a female DR, i dont want a chaperone, i just wanna see a DR, but their policy is male DRs do not see female patients alone, meanwhile i am in pain, but cannot get to see my GP...no wonder A and E Departments are bursting at the seams

Is that policy for any female visiting a male doctore or just for examinations that mind need a chaperone?

"
Apparently its for anything not just womens stuff

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"My argument is they are taking away my choice, i dont want to wait to see a female DR, i dont want a chaperone, i just wanna see a DR, but their policy is male DRs do not see female patients alone, meanwhile i am in pain, but cannot get to see my GP...no wonder A and E Departments are bursting at the seams

Is that policy for any female visiting a male doctore or just for examinations that mind need a chaperone?

Apparently its for anything not just womens stuff "

Well thats stupid....I would change doctors.

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By *emmefatale OP   Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

I have rung round, all the ones i have spoken to have the same policy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't bother me

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

What a stupid policy......we can pick who we see.

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By *emmefatale OP   Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Doesn't bother me "
Which is what i said, but apparently i cannot when it comes down to it....

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

So is it now the case that every male GP that is seeing a female patient has to have a chaperone regardless?

How ridiculous

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By *emmefatale OP   Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"So is it now the case that every male GP that is seeing a female patient has to have a chaperone regardless?

How ridiculous"
its looking that way, i have no choice in the matter, to say im ticked off is an understatement

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By *kmale421Man
over a year ago

wirral


"So is it now the case that every male GP that is seeing a female patient has to have a chaperone regardless?

How ridiculousits looking that way, i have no choice in the matter, to say im ticked off is an understatement "

If you live in England I'd have thought you had the option of going to the NHS walk in centre. Where I live, we have GP's but if you can't get a suitable appointment and your prepared to see anyone, then you can go to the hospital and go to the GP clinic there. it's not part of the A&E dept and works the same as the GP surgery, just you don't know whom your going to see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... apparently i will have to wait until a chaperone can be found "

You need to stop molesting your male doctors then

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By *emmefatale OP   Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

walk in centre told me to see my gp

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By *emmefatale OP   Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"... apparently i will have to wait until a chaperone can be found

You need to stop molesting your male doctors then "
if you saw my dr you wouldnt be saying that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You do not to be chaperoned at all, however it may be that the Dr does not wish to see a female unchaperoned.

You are correct though, you do have the choice to see whichever gender you wish, I would personally shout and complain until you are seen; after all your health is far more important than an overly sensitive Dr's concerns!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my doc is a female and just my type mmmm lol shes one hotty id never see no other

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By *emmefatale OP   Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"You do not to be chaperoned at all, however it may be that the Dr does not wish to see a female unchaperoned.

You are correct though, you do have the choice to see whichever gender you wish, I would personally shout and complain until you are seen; after all your health is far more important than an overly sensitive Dr's concerns!"
According to the GMC, a male doctor can refuse to see a female patient unchaperoned......the fucking world has gone mad

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By *er himWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Quite agree with you comments. I recently needed to see a surgeon and the best one for the condition was a female and by choice I opted for female.

Wouldnt have worried me either way...Interesting point thought what if the Male or female doctor was Gay, Would they still need a chaproen if seeing same sex ?

The reality of English life is that we are so inhibited it makes more problems than enough.

Have worked in Eastern Eurpeon countries where nakedness and being seen by the opposite sex is just normal and no one bats an eyelid. So much more relaxed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its all political correctness gone mad and its becoming rather pathetic all round. Personally I want to see someone who is compliment, knowledgeable and can give an accurate informed diagnosis and I really don't care if they are male or female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does it bother you what sex the DR is that you see? I have just had an appointment cancelled, due to the fact the female doctor has rung in sick, and there is only a male doctor on duty....i have said twice that i do not mind what sex the dr is that i see, but apparently i will have to wait until a chaperone can be found or wait until the female Dr returns!!!! Where is the choice? "

maybe its not a case of you minding but the Dr minding, im sure there must be lots of male Dr that would rather not treat a woman alone incase any allegations are made, maybe thats why they only have female Dr to see women or male one with a chaperone

it could be just to cover their staff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to see female doctors.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does it bother you what sex the DR is that you see? I have just had an appointment cancelled, due to the fact the female doctor has rung in sick, and there is only a male doctor on duty....i have said twice that i do not mind what sex the dr is that i see, but apparently i will have to wait until a chaperone can be found or wait until the female Dr returns!!!! Where is the choice?

maybe its not a case of you minding but the Dr minding, im sure there must be lots of male Dr that would rather not treat a woman alone incase any allegations are made, maybe thats why they only have female Dr to see women or male one with a chaperone

it could be just to cover their staff"

Nail on the head. It's protection for the Dr as much as for the patient.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the nurse is smoking hot, has big boobs and wears glasses I will immediately think dirty thoughts.

Then my boner comes into it.

Luckily no such Dr exists in a GUM clinic.

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By *er himWoman
over a year ago

Essex

From my expereience the problem is mostly generated by stuck up female nurses that think guys just want to be voyuoers but then Females seemd to think no Female would be like that, the excuse being there otherly nature...what ball...and the Main reason for the right to rufuse is that so many Women in the past have made unfounded accusations.

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By *mumaWoman
over a year ago

Livingston

what happens if you ask for an emergency housecall?

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"what happens if you ask for an emergency housecall?"

You would probably have to ask for a female neighbour to come in

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

What if the female doctor is bi or gay....do we need a chaperone then too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what happens if you ask for an emergency housecall?"

its 2012 you get told to bugger off lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does it bother you what sex the DR is that you see? I have just had an appointment cancelled, due to the fact the female doctor has rung in sick, and there is only a male doctor on duty....i have said twice that i do not mind what sex the dr is that i see, but apparently i will have to wait until a chaperone can be found or wait until the female Dr returns!!!! Where is the choice?

maybe its not a case of you minding but the Dr minding, im sure there must be lots of male Dr that would rather not treat a woman alone incase any allegations are made, maybe thats why they only have female Dr to see women or male one with a chaperone

it could be just to cover their staff"
I think that's the way it is.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what happens if you ask for an emergency housecall?"

You'll get an ambulance

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By *er himWoman
over a year ago

Essex

but what if the Ambulance staff are two guys....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my latest GP is a young`ish fem with an amazing pair of legs couldnt keep my eyes off them at my last visit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually like my GP he is male but of foreign nationality. He is the only one I will see. If he is on holiday I actually wait till he is back before getting the appointment. He has seen the lady bits but with a female nurse in the room aswell for smear test. So there were 2 people in the room from the surgery. Why could they have not done that and called in another member of staff being male or female.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Never had a chaperone with my male doc .. he is lovely and has even in the past given me a hug as I leave when I have needed it. Skin doc is female so I have both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"but what if the Ambulance staff are two guys...."

If the patient is "risky", and not a life or death emergency, the crew may call a solo car with a female medic, or a WPC.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

We have both at the practice I go to and there is never an issue. Our whole family prefer the male GP (not jus because he is gorgeous) and I think he has seen all of our collective bits without any chaperones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The GP surgeries are independant so therefore they can set the rules to their particular practice.

It will be because the GP is not comfortable with the risk of seeing a female patient alone. Its not a new rule across the board, each practice will have its own set of rules. There are lots of crazy women out there who come onto their doctors or make false claims, because of that behaviour we all have to pay the price.

If you want to be seen urgently turn up at a walk in centre after GP hours, they won't turn you away.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I have rung round, all the ones i have spoken to have the same policy "

Take two aspirins - lie down in a darkened room. Take your knickers off and I'll be in in a minute.

Earache did you say ?? Same course of action madam!

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By *ashful BazMan
over a year ago

poole dorset

Not really fussed who I see, as long as they help me get better.

But if your putting me on the spot,

I will go for a nice busty female who insists on me stripping off once the doors shut.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Due to a number of reported incidents of indecent/inappropriate behaviours by male doctors towards female patients, I believe it is getting more and more common not to have female patients seeing a male doctor on her own anymore.

It is for the protection of the male doctors too, as their reputations could easily be ruined by female patients that are wannabe or actual bunny boilers!

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By *emmefatale OP   Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Due to a number of reported incidents of indecent/inappropriate behaviours by male doctors towards female patients, I believe it is getting more and more common not to have female patients seeing a male doctor on her own anymore.

It is for the protection of the male doctors too, as their reputations could easily be ruined by female patients that are wannabe or actual bunny boilers!

"
thats all well and good but they need to communicate this to their patients on joining the practise

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Due to a number of reported incidents of indecent/inappropriate behaviours by male doctors towards female patients, I believe it is getting more and more common not to have female patients seeing a male doctor on her own anymore.

It is for the protection of the male doctors too, as their reputations could easily be ruined by female patients that are wannabe or actual bunny boilers!

thats all well and good but they need to communicate this to their patients on joining the practise "

I hope you feel better soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree!

Touch wood, I seldom visit my GP, only once for non-routine gynae related issue in the past 5+ years since I have lived in my current address, and every time I did, there would be some sort of procedual changes that I knew nothing about!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Agree!

Touch wood, I seldom visit my GP, only once for non-routine gynae related issue in the past 5+ years since I have lived in my current address, and every time I did, there would be some sort of procedual changes that I knew nothing about!

"

Touch wood would be spot on if i had to show my pecker to a nice lady doctor.

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By *emmefatale OP   Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"Agree!

Touch wood, I seldom visit my GP, only once for non-routine gynae related issue in the past 5+ years since I have lived in my current address, and every time I did, there would be some sort of procedual changes that I knew nothing about!

"
well contacted PALS and also asked for the policy that stated this in writing at the practice....i was very cross this afternoon, so they will only get half my wrath tomorrow

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Agree!

Touch wood, I seldom visit my GP, only once for non-routine gynae related issue in the past 5+ years since I have lived in my current address, and every time I did, there would be some sort of procedual changes that I knew nothing about!

When I hear these stories I do want to get all of their practice managers to visit my GP practice. I've been there for over 27 years now and have never had a bad experience. They tell us what is happening and have introduced late evenings for those working. It's a busy practice, being inner city and located where it is, but they have an emergency system as well as the appointment system.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well contacted PALS and also asked for the policy that stated this in writing at the practice....i was very cross this afternoon, so they will only get half my wrath tomorrow "

Personally, I think you are well within your rights! What's the 'policy' on male nurses or male midwives? Legally they do not require chaperoning and, especially in the midwife's case, would be especially pointless, so the question would have to be would they even employ them in that case...which would be completely illegal

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By *emmefatale OP   Woman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"well contacted PALS and also asked for the policy that stated this in writing at the practice....i was very cross this afternoon, so they will only get half my wrath tomorrow

Personally, I think you are well within your rights! What's the 'policy' on male nurses or male midwives? Legally they do not require chaperoning and, especially in the midwife's case, would be especially pointless, so the question would have to be would they even employ them in that case...which would be completely illegal"
well the fact they wanted me to just go in and have the receptionist sat in the room really pissed me off, they are not duty bound by the same code of conduct as Drs or Nurse etc.....anyway i got my own way, and i will be following up my complaint as i feel its positive discrimination and totally against my wishes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well the fact they wanted me to just go in and have the receptionist sat in the room really pissed me off, they are not duty bound by the same code of conduct as Drs or Nurse etc.....anyway i got my own way, and i will be following up my complaint as i feel its positive discrimination and totally against my wishes "

You're right, they may as well have just pulled a random member of the public in for all the protection the receptionist would give.

It's good to see someone actually standing up for themselves instead of just complaining for a change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Admittedly some doctors surgeries could do with some customer service training and certainly keep their patients informed on any policies or changes they've effected. But with busy practices with hundreds of patients its difficult to do. I can understand what Femme is saying and agree, and certainly follow up your complaint.

Male doctors do get patients who misinterpret the doctor/patient relationship. You'd hope they would be kind and caring and are there to listen and make better. They are seeing people at a vulnerable time and poorly patients, some with issues that are mental rather than physical, can become attached. There are a lot of people who have fantasies about their doctors, and maybe the practice have had incidents with female patients that would necessitate a change of policy.

It does inconvenience the genuine patients but its difficult to implement policies and make exceptions for some patients. The receptionists would have been trained and told to advise the female patient should this occur.

It isn't great to have a receptionist sit in with a patient in the consulting rooms but I expect they were just trying to come up with a solution so you could keep your appointment.

Hospital doctors are slightly different as they are usually rushed off their feet and tend to be surrounded by others and the environment is different than a quiet gp consulting room.

But certainly complain and advise that the policy has inconvenienced you as this is the way that changes are more likely to be looked at rather than complaining at the front desk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is a pity that for as long as a small minority of patients make unfounded accusations of inappropriate behaviour against (usually male) doctors, the majority of sane patients are made to suffer the inconvenience of a strict chaperone policy. A practice with a strict policy has probably had such an allegation made some time...

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By *uyuksno1Man
over a year ago

poole

you can actually understand it but you can submit a complaint to the practice manager and say you are prepared to take it to the PCT you can have it put on your notes that you dont require a chaperone and sign and agreement with the practice also to leave you in pain is bad practice management and thats part pf the patient dr charter go see the practice manager explain how you feel xx

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