FabSwingers.com forum: I hate the term BBW

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Am I alone in hating he term bbw i mean why cant it just be beautiful woman or if you must mention they are not so slim the cbw curvaceous beautiful women????

Just dont like calling a woman big even if it's meant in the nicest way... am I alone in this and. To he woman that describe themselves as BBW how donyou feel about it and would CBW be better???

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

My bums big

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Big curvaceous

Same thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s down to the individual

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Big curvaceous

Same thing "
maybe but I just feel for my that the term big sounds almost insulting

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it’s down to the individual "
100% agree yes I just personally always feel uncomfortable with it and I certainly wouldnt call a woman a BBW

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't call her big then

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Big curvaceous

Same thing maybe but I just feel for my that the term big sounds almost insulting

Big no it's an honest term

Big

Medium

Small

Large

Average

So......

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Don't call her big then "

Xxx this x

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

It's only insulting if you think big has a negative connotation.

I love bigger, curvaceous women so don't see a problem with it.

Although I do prefer the term, voluptuous.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"It's only insulting if you think big has a negative connotation.

I love bigger, curvaceous women so don't see a problem with it.

Although I do prefer the term, voluptuous.

"
.you have a big cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like big women too....as long as they dont have kankles!

I kid I kid!

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I like big women too....as long as they dont have ankles!

I kid I kid!"

Ankles how do they walk

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By *rhugesMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

It's just says what it is if you saw a big red bus what are you going to say????

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"It's only insulting if you think big has a negative connotation.

I love bigger, curvaceous women so don't see a problem with it.

Although I do prefer the term, voluptuous.

.you have a big cock"

Fiver is in the post

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"It's just says what it is if you saw a big red bus what are you going to say????"

Its here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's just says what it is if you saw a big red bus what are you going to say????"

Here comes the bus?? Lol

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

If you called them lbw they're out before you have even started

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's only insulting if you think big has a negative connotation.

I love bigger, curvaceous women so don't see a problem with it.

Although I do prefer the term, voluptuous.

"
I like voluptuous that's a good one

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Honestly though all jokes aside am I the only person that doesnt like term.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been called worse

It’s not my favourite term, but limited explanation on here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's just says what it is if you saw a big red bus what are you going to say????"

‘Look at that crimson, voluptuous mode of public transport!’ That way the bus isn’t offended and you can feel like a hero.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"Honestly though all jokes aside am I the only person that doesnt like term.

I don't like it either, Wookie. Not because of the word big, though. I AM bigger!

It's more to do with people fetishizing me. Compliment me. Don't get off on me cos of my size!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't you simply refer to them as women, radical I know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Honestly though all jokes aside am I the only person that doesnt like term.

I don't like it either, Wookie. Not because of the word big, though. I AM bigger!

It's more to do with people fetishizing me. Compliment me. Don't get off on me cos of my size!

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so so true red xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Can't you simply refer to them as women, radical I know. "
yes this !!!!!

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"It's just says what it is if you saw a big red bus what are you going to say????

‘Look at that crimson, voluptuous mode of public transport!’ That way the bus isn’t offended and you can feel like a hero."

James where have you been x

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Honestly though all jokes aside am I the only person that doesnt like term.

Nah, I don't like it either. Mainly because it fetishises women's who are bigger and I don't want to be someone's fat fetish. I want to be wanted because of the full range of what I have to offer, not because of my dress size.

Note: if someone has a fat fetish, that's fine, I just don't want to be part of it.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I think it's one of those marmite terms that some women embrace and others dislike - pretty ambivalent about it either way personally, if someone likes the term and embraces it for themselves good luck to them, likewise if someone dislikes it and asks people not to use it about them.

The regular threads that appear here with that title certainly seem to have been popular enough with both genders.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I don’t know why size has to be mentioned at all. I’m fat. I know I’m fat. I know others can tell I’m fat. So why mention it.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

"Honestly though all jokes aside am I the only person that doesnt like term.

Note: if someone has a fat fetish, that's fine, I just don't want to be part of it."

When does it cross from a preference or an appreciation into a fetish?

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

I’m not a fan.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do find it a bit weird but then I also think BBC/BWC are pointless too, as it seems every BC is advertised as BBC and there are no upper or lower bounds on the 'B'

But maybe that is just the statistician in me talking

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

We spend a lot of time looking for descriptors of body size (any size). We do it for a reason of course, because others have size preferences they find attractive and that’s ok. I’m a wobbly size 16 with a mummy tummy, to some that’s fat and to others it’s not. I prefer a more factual description of body shape, but that’s just me. I’m also fine with “fat” The term BBW is positive way of describing overweight women, I’m not sure you can be “against” it. Although perhaps it’s a little outdated now. I guess it may have become fetishised like BBC but it is used widely in movements that promote body positivity.

V x

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"Can't you simply refer to them as women, radical I know. "

That’s just crazy talk

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By *ecretlivesCouple
over a year ago

FABWatch HQ

Not one you are going to win on Op, not because you are wrong (or right) but because it is contextual and personal preference.

The same word can be one person's sly insult or another's owning who they are and the language they choose describe themselves with. Therein lies the challenge you struggle with - how to see the insults from the self-statement. Being a sex site makes it more challenging as the roles people play can be acted out in the words they use as a precursor to sex.

Personally we start with if it is positive and used freely by the individual, not just applied to them by others, then fair play.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"It's just says what it is if you saw a big red bus what are you going to say????"

Red almost seems aggressive when combined with big.

Can we not call it either big or red

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By *bwlookingforfunWoman
over a year ago

crawley

I'm big. I have no problem with "BBW" term. What I have problem with is when guys send me a messages saying I'm fat cow and I need gym.

Being called big isn't an insult. Same as being called small/skinny.

It might be taken as insult if girl is size 14 and someone calls her BBW, when she's simply normal,average size, but Me, size 22, I'm big. And I'm ok with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm with you OP. BBW, BBC, MILF; I could happily read less of all of them, and a few more, commonly used words round here...

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Honestly though all jokes aside am I the only person that doesnt like term.

Note: if someone has a fat fetish, that's fine, I just don't want to be part of it.

When does it cross from a preference or an appreciation into a fetish? "

When the messages and comments are size focused first and anything else comes after. I don't want messages or conversation to focus on my size at all, to be honest. Mainly because I hate it. I know I'm big, I don't want reminding.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I dislike the term for many reasons. Why refer to a womans size at all? Why no just say beautiful? Qualifying it makes it sound like some sort of compensation to me.

While we're on the subject why is it only OK to call big women beautiful, what about the less big?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I dislike the term for many reasons. Why refer to a womans size at all? Why no just say beautiful? Qualifying it makes it sound like some sort of compensation to me.

While we're on the subject why is it only OK to call big women beautiful, what about the less big? "

This

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

"Honestly though all jokes aside am I the only person that doesnt like term.

I’m not a huge fan of the term.

But I do love women with curves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You know what I hate?

As a big/large/fat/plus size woman ...

I hate people deciding that big is bad.

I am big.

I'm not sorry about it.

Size/weight is no indication of beauty.

We can be both big and beautiful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And curvy is a fucking shape! Not a size.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"I dislike the term for many reasons. Why refer to a womans size at all? Why no just say beautiful? Qualifying it makes it sound like some sort of compensation to me.

While we're on the subject why is it only OK to call big women beautiful, what about the less big?

This

They're just beautiful

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

"Am I alone in hating he term bbw i mean why cant it just be beautiful woman or if you must mention they are not so slim the cbw curvaceous beautiful women????

Just dont like calling a woman big even if it's meant in the nicest way... am I alone in this and. To he woman that describe themselves as BBW how donyou feel about it and would CBW be better???

Originally large women used the term to empower themselves. However it seems to have been taken up by the fetishists and feeders now.

I personally don’t have a problem with it, but I don’t have a problem with being called fat either.

My preference is the word voluptuous though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't care what people call me or think of me.

I love me so that's all that matters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big-yes

Beautiful-no

Woman-definately

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you feel bad if you ever say that you have a big dick?

I see no offense in a word that describes something for what it is... big. There's a tonne of other horrible words out there that could be used instead of big

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Labels are necessary in every aspect of life.

I neither like nor dislike the term BBW ........ I do think it covers a huge variety of body shapes and isn't an illuminator of anything.

Most pics of women using the bbw label are NOT bbw in my understanding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ( probably not very popular ) opinion on this is that's it's often incorrectly used. Not all big women are beautiful. Some are just big.

A true BBW has to be all 3.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't care what people call me or think of me.

I love me so that's all that matters

And that's not meant in an arrogant or Egotistical way either.

But if I don't like me, then how can I expect others to??

Plus... I'm too old to care and have better ways to spend my time and energy on.

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By *dventurous fellaMan
over a year ago

where

"Big-yes

Beautiful-no

Woman-definately

Beauty is very objective! I think you’re beautiful!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"It's just says what it is if you saw a big red bus what are you going to say????"

Depends on if the bus is just longer, wider, taller than other buses.

If it was made big on day one - great.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"My ( probably not very popular ) opinion on this is that's it's often incorrectly used. Not all big women are beautiful. Some are just big.

A true BBW has to be all 3."

How very true.

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I personally find it insulting and don’t like my size being a description of me instantly

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Do you feel bad if you ever say that you have a big dick?

I see no offense in a word that describes something for what it is... big. There's a tonne of other horrible words out there that could be used instead of big"

Do you want to be known just as a big dick though? Like that's your only feature? I'd hope not. Same for me with my physical size being the primary feature being commented upon. What about my intelligence? My riveting conversation? My cracking jokes? My excellent bottom and boobs? Etc.

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

"Am I alone in hating he term bbw i mean why cant it just be beautiful woman or if you must mention they are not so slim the cbw curvaceous beautiful women????

Just dont like calling a woman big even if it's meant in the nicest way... am I alone in this and. To he woman that describe themselves as BBW how donyou feel about it and would CBW be better???

Originally large women used the term to empower themselves. However it seems to have been taken up by the fetishists and feeders now.

I personally don’t have a problem with it, but I don’t have a problem with being called fat either.

My preference is the word voluptuous though

This

Originally it was a positive affirmation as in the past bigger women were just seen as fat and ugly. It was used to reclaim their attractiveness. Now it has become a neutral definition by those who do not know the history.

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By *rongstantineWoman
over a year ago

hull

I refer to myself as a delicious fat bastard. I dislike the term BBW, but that's down to me. I'm all for positive reclaimation, but that has always struck me as a little too try-hard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My ( probably not very popular ) opinion on this is that's it's often incorrectly used. Not all big women are beautiful. Some are just big.

A true BBW has to be all 3."

I agree with this. I'm big but not a BBW

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I alone in hating he term bbw i mean why cant it just be beautiful woman or if you must mention they are not so slim the cbw curvaceous beautiful women????

Just dont like calling a woman big even if it's meant in the nicest way... am I alone in this and. To he woman that describe themselves as BBW how donyou feel about it and would CBW be better???

Originally large women used the term to empower themselves. However it seems to have been taken up by the fetishists and feeders now.

I personally don’t have a problem with it, but I don’t have a problem with being called fat either.

My preference is the word voluptuous though

This

FUW

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

My parents had a friend, Nell. She wore the most hideous patterned dresses. Whenever my dad was describing something with a hideous pattern he'd say "it would make one of Nell's frocks".

You didn't need to ask if it was floral or lines, your own imagination would kick in. BBW is like that for me: a ready reckoner nothing more, nothing less.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"Honestly though all jokes aside am I the only person that doesnt like term.

Note: if someone has a fat fetish, that's fine, I just don't want to be part of it.

When does it cross from a preference or an appreciation into a fetish? "

For me, it's when the comments focus solely on my size. Usually hand in hand with attributes like fun-loving or insatiable/greedy, because that's how they want to perceive a bigger girl.

I love that guys appreciate bigger girls, just tell me you find me attractive. You don't have to mention my size - I've already done that in my profile.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"My ( probably not very popular ) opinion on this is that's it's often incorrectly used. Not all big women are beautiful. Some are just big.

A true BBW has to be all 3."

But who decides who is NOT beautiful??

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I couldn't care less about the term. It does not have any effect on me so I find no offense in it.

Some women love the term, they embrace it. Some hate it.

I tend to not get offended on behalf of others. However I will show compassion and respect for how each individual and their view on it. I won't intentially use a term to upset people, but I won't go out of my way to avoid using it on the chance that somebody may not like the term.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If a woman describes herself as BBW then she clearly has no issue with it so...i don't know why you have.

Think you might be trying to lib too hard my bro.

Relax

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By *uvhandle20Man
over a year ago

SE London

No, because they are beautiful, have a big body and a big heart. And they are obviously women. But I let the ladies describe themselves and I will politely follow them

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"If a woman describes herself as BBW then she clearly has no issue with it so...i don't know why you have.

Think you might be trying to lib too hard my bro.

Relax"

If a woman refers to herself as such and is fine, then great. But it's not something all women of a certain dress size want to be referred to as. I'm a woman, not a dress size. Too many messages are focused/obsessed on size, which is about as sexy as Boris Johnson for me

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"My ( probably not very popular ) opinion on this is that's it's often incorrectly used. Not all big women are beautiful. Some are just big.

A true BBW has to be all 3.

But who decides who is NOT beautiful?? "

The beholder. In other words, the person viewing said thing of beauty (or not beauty as the case may be).

I may find something (or somebody) the most beautiful thing I have ever seen, others may find it the ugliest. If somebody chooses to not find an individual/any BBW as beautiful they are allowed to do so and they are not wrong. Just as those that do find them beautiful are also not wrong. Beauty is pretty damn subjective, very much like art.

The only wrong part about it, is when it is intentionally pointed out with the purpose to hurt and upset.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate the term ‘at the end of the day’. It’s lazy, an irritating verbal crutch for people who are incapable of finishing a sentence without incorporating at least one tired cliche

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I hate the term ‘at the end of the day’. It’s lazy, an irritating verbal crutch for people who are incapable of finishing a sentence without incorporating at least one tired cliche"

Printing this and framing it. Perfect.

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By *bwlookingforfunWoman
over a year ago

crawley

"I hate the term ‘at the end of the day’. It’s lazy, an irritating verbal crutch for people who are incapable of finishing a sentence without incorporating at least one tired cliche"

Personally I don't mind to be called BBW. I am big , beautiful-depends on who is looking at me I guess, women 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As much as I hate BHM?

A term that implies men can only be handsome if they're tall as well as fat

I need someone to coin the term SFB

Where's the love for the Short Fat Bastards?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Call them what you like, I love big beautiful women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do women have to be beautiful at all as part of the description. Im no less valid if I am not beautiful. It feels like you have to soften the insecurity of calling someone big by using a cover all weak compliment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t like the ‘it is what it is’ phrase.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Big curvaceous

Same thing "

It's not though. I'm curvaceous but I think most of those looking for BBWs would be disappointed if I turned up.

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By *mmixtapeCouple
over a year ago

middle earth

I hate being called a BBW, and I would also hate being called a cbw, I'm fat I'd rather be called a fat girl as my own personal preference. Just call people whatever they want to be called, I wouldn't jump in with any labels until you know that person is comfortable with them. I tend to ignore people if they say they "love a BBW"

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

It's not my favourite way to describe me personally x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Big curvaceous

Same thing

It's not though. I'm curvaceous but I think most of those looking for BBWs would be disappointed if I turned up. "
there’s no way I’d be disappointed if you showed up, very much the opposite

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By *BWandhusbandCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

I'd never describe myself as a BBW

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Big curvaceous

Same thing

It's not though. I'm curvaceous but I think most of those looking for BBWs would be disappointed if I turned up. "

Exactly!

Curvy is a shape. Not a size.

I'm fat/big AND curvy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Big curvaceous

Same thing

It's not though. I'm curvaceous but I think most of those looking for BBWs would be disappointed if I turned up. "

Nah I don't think they would. I think a lot of them don't really care. I've been messaged by many looking for bbws. I'm not sure when a size 12 became a bbw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a term I use but......

It seems to empower some women that do use it so not really for us to decide how others label themselves is it?

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Big curvaceous

Same thing

It's not though. I'm curvaceous but I think most of those looking for BBWs would be disappointed if I turned up.

Exactly!

Curvy is a shape. Not a size.

I'm fat/big AND curvy.

It is indeed a shape not a size

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