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Are guys bothered about a lady having a ‘mum tum’ ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Looking for a guys point of view before I put myself out there to be rejected . How much does a ‘mum tum’ bother you ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking for a guys point of view before I put myself out there to be rejected . How much does a ‘mum tum’ bother you ??"

I actually find it a turn on!

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By *he HandiemanMan
over a year ago

north west

I prefer it. A real body that is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually rather like a mum tum and a lady with curves. Op you look wonderful.

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every guy came out of a Mum Tum so they shouldn't complain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer it. A real body that is"

I get that you are trying to be complimentary but it really isn't Because it implies that a woman that doesn't have a mum Tum somehow doesn't have a real body.

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By *eefyBangerMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

Not in the slightest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nope, not bothered at all...

I have a dad bod, so mum tums are quite welcome !!

mr

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

No not at all. Lady should be proud of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not bothered at all

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

It's the person I am interested in first and foremost, not their tum or other physical features, of course there has to be a physical attraction on some level but a 'tum' or not wouldn't even come into it for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn’t bother me in the slightest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't bother me at all in reality.

If you are talking about yourself you look great!

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By *ornyj37Man
over a year ago

Devon

Absolutely not x

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

Not in the slightest.. I’m far from perfect and don’t expect perfection from others

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By *isa2018Couple
over a year ago

East Northamptonshire


"Looking for a guys point of view before I put myself out there to be rejected . How much does a ‘mum tum’ bother you ??"

I think it ranges from not a lot to not at all. Certainly not as much as it others the ladies about their own bodies in most cases I would say.

The gent either fancies you or he doesn't. That is based on more than just a single area of the body in most cases.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

I have a fat belly, but I'm not a mum. Is that ok??

OP, you look fantastic! X

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I haven't met anyone who it has put off.

As long as you've a pulse you're good to go

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

I’m 52 and no, guys aren’t bothered about a ‘mum tum’ or a big butt. Meet guys who want you for who you are not what you think they want.

When it’s allowed, have a social meet. You’ll soon find the ones where you ‘click’ and you’ll hopefully have some great times. I’ve had Fab friends for years who’ve seen me at my best and worst.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking for a guys point of view before I put myself out there to be rejected . How much does a ‘mum tum’ bother you ??"

Does not bother me at all.

You are you and you are the shape you are based on the situations of life. This should be embraced and not judged.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I’ve met sexy women who were a size 8 and sexy women who were bigger than a size 20. If you find each other attractive, you find the shape attractive too

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

You have a fabulous figure by the way.

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Nope

If its warm and wet they won't see passed that.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"I haven't met anyone who it has put off.

As long as you've a pulse you're good to go "

Is the pulse a rule or just a guideline?

Asking for a friend

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Some will be bothered some won’t.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Looking for a guys point of view before I put myself out there to be rejected . How much does a ‘mum tum’ bother you ??"

Unless mum tum alters your soh, attitude, smile, and personality it makes no difference to me.

People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones and at the end of the day most men have dad bods to some degree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not in the slightest

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I haven't met anyone who it has put off.

As long as you've a pulse you're good to go

Is the pulse a rule or just a guideline?

Asking for a friend "

I'd like to say compulsory but I don't believe that to be true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking for a guys point of view before I put myself out there to be rejected . How much does a ‘mum tum’ bother you ??"

It doesn't bother me at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking for a guys point of view before I put myself out there to be rejected . How much does a ‘mum tum’ bother you ??"

I actually think I woman with a mum tum is very sexy, so go for it! I for one will be fabbing your pics x

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"I haven't met anyone who it has put off.

As long as you've a pulse you're good to go

Is the pulse a rule or just a guideline?

Asking for a friend

I'd like to say compulsory but I don't believe that to be true "

It’s good that you’re looking at the evidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have yet to meet anyone who isn’t self conscious about something they have or don’t have, which to me makes us all perfect right?

You look great OP.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"Looking for a guys point of view before I put myself out there to be rejected . How much does a ‘mum tum’ bother you ??"

It doesn't.

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

It doesn't. They feel lovely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't be daft lady, you look amazing. If a guy is bothered by your "mum tum" (i wish my mum tum was as small and neat!) then he isn't worth your time x

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

This sort of thread crops up regularly,and my response is generally the same.

We all see our own "flaws" (inverted commas, because actually it's not a flaw) as if there is a magnifying glass and spotlight on them.

However, the reality is that most people just see a complete person, and don't even notice those not quite perfect bits.

You're a real life person, having led a real life. You're not photoshopped or cosmetically enhanced.

Real life leaves some traces, they are to be embraced, it's what makes you unique.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Love them. Muffin tops are sexy.

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By *ooBulMan
over a year ago

Missin’ Yo’ Kissin’

Zilch, nada!

How you should look is media bull! Airbrushed crap too.....

Glossy American porn with stick figures & colossal boobs bigger than their heads? Fake.

It's how you are, how you hold yourself, the type of things you say. Personality. Intelligence for me. But it's not prescriptive. I would not eliminate on body characteristics/uniqueness. We are all more than this! Or more than the sum of the parts...

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By *izzabelle and well hungCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh.


"Every guy came out of a Mum Tum so they shouldn't complain "
and that’s a bingo

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By *axx82Man
over a year ago

Gloucester

No. Nothing better than a beautiful natural woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven't met anyone who it has put off.

As long as you've a pulse you're good to go "

yep certainly on here.

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By *olex99Man
over a year ago

Hull

Not bothered in the slightest. As long as she's a decent person is good enough for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mum tum or not its not all about the body. Personality is a turn more for me.

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By *oomarangMan
over a year ago

Chester

I love a mum tum

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I prefer it. A real body that is

I get that you are trying to be complimentary but it really isn't Because it implies that a woman that doesn't have a mum Tum somehow doesn't have a real body."

Childless women are destined to never be real.

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By *he HandiemanMan
over a year ago

north west


"I prefer it. A real body that is

I get that you are trying to be complimentary but it really isn't Because it implies that a woman that doesn't have a mum Tum somehow doesn't have a real body."

No didnt mean it like that.. meant it as in thats my personal preference as opposed to the more skinnier type if you get me..

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By *ob P44Man
over a year ago

Bridgewater

I prefer a real woman with curves so it's fine by me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I prefer it. A real body that is

I get that you are trying to be complimentary but it really isn't Because it implies that a woman that doesn't have a mum Tum somehow doesn't have a real body.

Childless women are destined to never be real. "

Tell me about it

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By *he HandiemanMan
over a year ago

north west


"I prefer it. A real body that is

I get that you are trying to be complimentary but it really isn't Because it implies that a woman that doesn't have a mum Tum somehow doesn't have a real body.

Childless women are destined to never be real. "

Didn't mean it that way. See my new post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with it. Actually a bit of a turn on for me

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I haven't met anyone who it has put off.

As long as you've a pulse you're good to go

Is the pulse a rule or just a guideline?

Asking for a friend

I'd like to say compulsory but I don't believe that to be true "

You could at least have said com-pulse-ory

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire


"I have a fat belly, but I'm not a mum. Is that ok??

OP, you look fantastic! X"

+ 1.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dose not bother me at all love all woman’s bumps and stuff x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I haven't met anyone who it has put off.

As long as you've a pulse you're good to go

Is the pulse a rule or just a guideline?

Asking for a friend

I'd like to say compulsory but I don't believe that to be true

You could at least have said com-pulse-ory "

I'm such a dick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also have a belly, am not a mum!

No guys have ever complained... To my face, anyway

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By *ritladMan
over a year ago

Taunton

Prefer natural shapes, and it’s definitely all about the personality anyway (and boobs and bum)

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"I also have a belly, am not a mum!

No guys have ever complained... To my face, anyway "

I wouldn’t complain to your belly either, or anywhere above or below it

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Looking for a guys point of view before I put myself out there to be rejected . How much does a ‘mum tum’ bother you ??"

Describe a mum tum. I am a mother of 2.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"It doesn’t bother me in the slightest "

This is good news

OP, you have a cracking body, go for it (when it's safe and all that)

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"I also have a belly, am not a mum!

No guys have ever complained... To my face, anyway "

It's clear guys don't give a toss, so why do we beat ourselves up? Crazy isn't it.

(You look fab, by the way. No tum on you at all!) X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't matter to me x

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I haven't met anyone who it has put off.

As long as you've a pulse you're good to go

Is the pulse a rule or just a guideline?

Asking for a friend

I'd like to say compulsory but I don't believe that to be true

You could at least have said com-pulse-ory

I'm such a dick "

You've got a huge one as a door stop

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Not one iota ...I've got a dad tum ... don't worry about it

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach


"I also have a belly, am not a mum!

No guys have ever complained... To my face, anyway

It's clear guys don't give a toss, so why do we beat ourselves up? Crazy isn't it.

(You look fab, by the way. No tum on you at all!) X

"

I wouldn't say it's a uniquely female thing, but you are much tougher on yourselves than blokes are.

I often contrast the "mirror moment" for blokes and ladies.

When a lady looks in the mirror, they will inevitably tut, and focus on an errant bulge or whatever.

Generally, a bloke will suck his stomach in and think "looking good"...

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham


"I also have a belly, am not a mum!

No guys have ever complained... To my face, anyway "

No need for any complaints with you miss red.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely not, one of my biggest turn ons is a lovely cuddly lady belly, and women shouldn't be so hung up on having them as they can be.Even better when framed between a lovely bra and waspie & panties, oh and nylons lol x

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By *uciferLingerieMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"Looking for a guys point of view before I put myself out there to be rejected . How much does a ‘mum tum’ bother you ??"

Absolutely not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I think it’s sexy I like all types of body’s

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By *ilfCrumpet9Man
over a year ago

Wirral

Nah doesn't bother me, it's you and your personality that matter the most

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking for a guys point of view before I put myself out there to be rejected . How much does a ‘mum tum’ bother you ??"
no, guys really don't care, if you have Confidence and you're proud of it we find it hot

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By *exybreeksMan
over a year ago

East Calder

Seriously. Women put more pressure on each other than men do to look perfect. Unless you look like Steve buschemi or have the personality of Katie Hopkins guys don't generally care.

We get portrayed as being out looking for the most beautiful woman in the club when most would probably prefer an intelligent woman or someone who can make us laugh or who we can have a great convo with.

I promise you none of us are looking at your mum tum.

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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago

Dunstable Lu5 SOCIAL or fun let's chat

Amble -- Cuddly -- Curvy is so much better.

A warm body to snuggle up against between the sheets is so nice.

Yes please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing hotter than seeing a sexy lady with a mummy tummy on a slim or curvy it’s just sexy as hell so massive fan here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just as sexy in my opinion, a woman who can feel more relaxed with her body is usually also as relaxed in general life and that just makes for a whole lot more enjoyment day to day.

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By *wlondonladMan
over a year ago

london


"Looking for a guys point of view before I put myself out there to be rejected . How much does a ‘mum tum’ bother you ??"

Not at all I prefer it I find it very attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A curvy woman is perfect

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By *outhman15Man
over a year ago

southampton

Mum tums are sexy

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

The boy here.

Absolutely not a problem at all. It’s about the person and their sexuality for me!

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By *immyleaMan
over a year ago

Derby


"Looking for a guys point of view before I put myself out there to be rejected . How much does a ‘mum tum’ bother you ??"

Not in the slightest. As long as you don't mind me having a 'dad bod'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My daughter in law has mum tum, or as she calls it a jelly belly. She is absolutely gorgeous.

As most have said on this thread I find real women sexier than airbrushed perfect models, who are neither real or accessible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not whether there's a mum tum or not, take pride in it. Everyone has their preferences and they can make their choice about it from the onset.

For me, that's my preference. It has no bearing on what I find sexy, it's 'the woman'. Everything comes with 'the woman' and is sexy if she feels it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely adore,end of lol!!!!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

In the words of Billy Connolly...it matters not a jot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This sort of thread crops up regularly,and my response is generally the same.

We all see our own "flaws" (inverted commas, because actually it's not a flaw) as if there is a magnifying glass and spotlight on them.

However, the reality is that most people just see a complete person, and don't even notice those not quite perfect bits.

You're a real life person, having led a real life. You're not photoshopped or cosmetically enhanced.

Real life leaves some traces, they are to be embraced, it's what makes you unique. "

Beautifully put!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely nothing wrong with a mum tum just as there isn't with a tone tum.

It's more the woman as a whole I'm attracted to.

I've met some women who are toned and I didn't find them attractive in the slightest yet some women are super sexy with mum tums etc

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I hate mine! And never fully show it in pics! I've had 7 pregnancys the last one at 42! They were big babies one being 10.5 lbs and as u get older the skin does not go back it's like a balloon that has been blown up to many times lol x

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I prefer it. A real body that is

I get that you are trying to be complimentary but it really isn't Because it implies that a woman that doesn't have a mum Tum somehow doesn't have a real body.

Childless women are destined to never be real.

Didn't mean it that way. See my new post "

I'm just teasing. 99% of what I post is sarcasm and jokes .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking for a guys point of view before I put myself out there to be rejected . How much does a ‘mum tum’ bother you ??"

Personally doesn’t bother me, I feel like a lot a women struggle with the confidence of being judge but you shouldn’t, it’s sexier when you are confident. But also I understand that some guys are arseholes and will make women feel shit

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By *adlad65Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

Absolutely does not bother me at all... It's what's inside the mind that attracts me and gets me excited. You really should not be concerned. If a anyone finds any aspect of you disagreeable, move on. Don't dwell on it... They are not good enough for you...

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By *luebellRacerCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire


"Looking for a guys point of view before I put myself out there to be rejected . How much does a ‘mum tum’ bother you ??

Describe a mum tum. I am a mother of 2."

Same here. I have a tummy, I've had 2 kids... do I not therefore have a mumtum?...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah guys on fab fuck anything as long as you have a hole

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking for a guys point of view before I put myself out there to be rejected . How much does a ‘mum tum’ bother you ??"

Rejected? Joking right? Your pics are sexy as and you have nothing to worry about, Mum tums go great with Dad bods....... just saying he he x

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By *umblebiMan
over a year ago

ayles

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

I am going to try to answer without offending anyone but that seems tricky.

By 'mum tum' if you mean scars or stretch marks they are part of your story, they will always be so if someone doesn't like it you don't want to be with them.

If you mean a little insolation, lots of us have that and some will prefer it and others won't. I think the person attached is more important but others may differ.

Sometimes imperfection can sap confidence and prevent us from doing things. Embrace things you can't or don't want to change and go for it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't bother me one bit ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence is the most attractive thing in my opinion

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

Doesn't bother either of us, after all, real women are not perfect & perfect women are not real - depending of course on your definition of perfection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mum tums rock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all. Most men have a tum of some sort, and it doesn't put off most women! Some guys have double standards of course, but you're better off without those.

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