FabSwingers.com forum: Get Fab Talking

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I recently did a post on mental health and a lot of people reached out publicly and privately. It's been a tough old year and people are struggling more now than they ever have before. It saddens me to see so many people feeling this way so I feel I need to do more.

My inbox is always open to anyone who is struggling right now and I'm asking my fellow fabbers to do the same.

Please use this thread to offer help to others and let's get people talking. If your struggling, feel alone or just need a chat, please reach out to someone.

Christmas is the worst time of year for many so let's create a supportive fab bubble over the next week and beyond.

We can get through this together

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By *eeky goodnessMan
over a year ago

Worcester

An amazingly sweet idea

you are wonderful humans

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very good idea

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lovely idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love this

always available to talk regards mental health matters, as someone who's suffered for 30 years, sometimes it helps to talk to someone who's been there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My inbox is always open if anyone wants to chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What happens after talking?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it very difficult to talk and for me thats the biggest issue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What happens after talking?"

You may realise you might need to go get help, you may just feel better in the knowledge that others are going through similar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it very difficult to talk and for me thats the biggest issue"

Write it down on here then, you don't have to always talk

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What happens after talking?

You may realise you might need to go get help, you may just feel better in the knowledge that others are going through similar "

Exactly and overall hopefully you won't feel alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What happens after talking?

You may realise you might need to go get help, you may just feel better in the knowledge that others are going through similar "

Thanks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I find it very difficult to talk and for me thats the biggest issue"

Its a big issue for most of us, it took me a long time to open up to people. Go at your own pace but when you are ready to talk, please reach out to someone

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I'm prepared to offer virtual hugs where necessary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Christmas can also bring added pressure financially and that's before we add Covid to the mix. Sometimes just talking about how you feel helps.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

This year has definitely cranked up the stress.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Absolutely any type of stress can lead to mental health issues, find a way to release the stress and look after yourself always

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman
over a year ago

lancashire

As we ponder whether reaching out on how we feel is some thing we can or can't do...let's all take a moment to think of all the people known or unknown that are no longer here to accept any help...may they rest in peace!! Reach out to any one that offers help...help is always here and there no matter how dark a place is that you are in...x

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By *iking 777Man
over a year ago

wick

Well said lm wobbling a bit myself now having been isolated before getting in ship and now looking like not getting back till god knows when

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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Aw what a nice post OP

I'm always open to have a blether to those going through tough times

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

What a lovely gesture.

I just want to chat...is the hardest task to perform when depression and the FAB filters kick in.

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman
over a year ago

lancashire

Earlier this year on 'Mental Health Day' I put in my status...'lets remember all those who are not here with us today beca

use of Mental Health'...later on I got 3 messages off guys that had never messaged me before and they all suffer with their mental health....So remember...it is always good to chat!! x

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By *innMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

I will join you in this act - the news is harsh tonight and for many guys and women who live alone the next few months are going to be extremely tough - so a chat and a kind message will make a big difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I welcome a message from those struggling with mental health too

Let's help those struggling at this time of the year.

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By *lueEyedNaturistMan
over a year ago

Cirencester

"As we ponder whether reaching out on how we feel is some thing we can or can't do...let's all take a moment to think of all the people known or unknown that are no longer here to accept any help...may they rest in peace!! Reach out to any one that offers help...help is always here and there no matter how dark a place is that you are in...x"

Great idea for a thread. I know of a few people who have been unable to continue, one similarity is that those around them didn't expect it. Leaving them with feelings of tremendous guilt.

Let's also make it clear to reach out to people to see how they are and bring some compassion, love and light. Especially those who we know sometimes suffer.

Many who suffer won't always reach out, I say this from personal experience. So please, message or call that person you feel needs it and pay it forward

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Too many people have been lost, anything we can do to prevent another loss little or big, can make a difference. Help is always out there absolutely

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you all for reaching out especially after today's announcement, even more important people don't feel alone. We can get through this together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I posted in the wrong thread!! Blast!! I can't say it again!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Great idea for a thread. I know of a few people who have been unable to continue, one similarity is that those around them didn't expect it. Leaving them with feelings of tremendous guilt.

Let's also make it clear to reach out to people to see how they are and bring some compassion, love and light. Especially those who we know sometimes suffer.

Many who suffer won't always reach out, I say this from personal experience. So please, message or call that person you feel needs it and pay it forward

Too many people have been lost, anything we can do to prevent another loss little or big, can make a difference. Always reach out to someone absolutely

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well said lm wobbling a bit myself now having been isolated before getting in ship and now looking like not getting back till god knows when "

Hope your doing okay sweet, we all have a wobble now and again, just make sure you always talk to someone when you need too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good idea, thanks OP.

I’m not a fan of Xmas generally and if I don’t see my kids am usually alone. Try to keep occupied and do weird shit like , walk snowdon or go to Stonehenge early on Xmas morn.

To have those freedoms taken away is already making me uneasy so open to chat for others and self here

It’s good to talk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are wonderful people and thanks for just being there xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Good idea, thanks OP.

I’m not a fan of Xmas generally and if I don’t see my kids am usually alone. Try to keep occupied and do weird shit like , walk snowdon or go to Stonehenge early on Xmas morn.

To have those freedoms taken away is already making me uneasy so open to chat for others and self here

It’s good to talk

That's gonna be a problem for a lot of people, we just can't do the things we usually do which is a shame. Don't ever feel alone, always reach out to someone. Hope your okay

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You are wonderful people and thanks for just being there xx"

Anything little we can all do to help can make a small difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

love this and everyone that's involved, gives me hope for the human race...."been there, bought the T shirt, nearly not been 'here' twice", turned my life around now...thanks to friends and people like you guys, and professionals, I'm here too x

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By *oneyBear100Couple
over a year ago

Gatwick area

Kinda given up this year and the tier 4 announcement is the straw that broke the camels back. Being able to see some loved ones on Xmas day was a light at the end of the tunnel

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for sharing and im glad you got the help you needed. Hopefully others will do the same. Hope your doing okay now

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Kinda given up this year and the tier 4 announcement is the straw that broke the camels back. Being able to see some loved ones on Xmas day was a light at the end of the tunnel

I know its really tough, the best we can do is reach out to loved ones virtually or on the phone. Just think of next christmas when your all back together again and make that your focus. Hope your okay

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This week is going to be tough for a lot of you guys so remember reach out and keep talking. We can get through this together

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By *akedduo66Couple
over a year ago

Near Bordon

I, the male half, spent fifteen years as the union rep at work.

I did not do it because I'm a militant type, no one else wanted to do it and I enjoy helping people.

What surprised me was that the people with the most problems were the most cheerful ones, it's a mask.

I helped them with sexual, financial, alcohol and drug problems all of which were way beyond my remit and I'd have to find support groups etc for them or read up on their issues.

At first I was bemused that these people had the Internet at their fingertips and could, in theory, find anything out whenever they wanted, but either couldn't or wouldn't.

Then it dawned on me that they needed to talk to someone, to share their problems with a human contact.

So yes, please talk to someone, they may not be able to solve your problems but you won't be alone with your problems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I, the male half, spent fifteen years as the union rep at work.

I did not do it because I'm a militant type, no one else wanted to do it and I enjoy helping people.

What surprised me was that the people with the most problems were the most cheerful ones, it's a mask.

I helped them with sexual, financial, alcohol and drug problems all of which were way beyond my remit and I'd have to find support groups etc for them or read up on their issues.

At first I was bemused that these people had the Internet at their fingertips and could, in theory, find anything out whenever they wanted, but either couldn't or wouldn't.

Then it dawned on me that they needed to talk to someone, to share their problems with a human contact.

So yes, please talk to someone, they may not be able to solve your problems but you won't be alone with your problems. "

Love this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I, the male half, spent fifteen years as the union rep at work.

I did not do it because I'm a militant type, no one else wanted to do it and I enjoy helping people.

What surprised me was that the people with the most problems were the most cheerful ones, it's a mask.

I helped them with sexual, financial, alcohol and drug problems all of which were way beyond my remit and I'd have to find support groups etc for them or read up on their issues.

At first I was bemused that these people had the Internet at their fingertips and could, in theory, find anything out whenever they wanted, but either couldn't or wouldn't.

Then it dawned on me that they needed to talk to someone, to share their problems with a human contact.

So yes, please talk to someone, they may not be able to solve your problems but you won't be alone with your problems. "

Great that you did this especially as a lot of peoples stress starts at work. Agree, sometimes the happiest person in the room could be the saddest when alone, we all need to remember to check in on everyone

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