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By *ountrylad19 OP   Man
over a year ago

travel all over with work x

Personally I like to mix it up and open to both! What are your thoughts and favourites!

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

It depends how you define those roles and the context you're applying them to - from a BDSM perspective though I'm submissive by nature, but equally happy indulging in what would normally be considered more dominant activities if on a level playing field with a partner.

I'd add though that I don't indulge in either activity lightly or without there being mutual trust, respect and a whole heap of communication beforehand.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Dominos

Subway

Hmmm I'll pass on both ta

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm Sub with guys and Dom with women xx

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By *avhonaWoman
over a year ago

Away with the faeries


"I'm Sub with guys and Dom with women xx"

This is exactly me. I've always found the psychology behind this to be intriguing.

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By *rhugesMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Love playing the sub

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither really but im more likely to take control.

Can be really hot when you're both fighting for control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always sub!

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

I like both but lean more to Dom

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I can do both, played a dominant Tgirl for fun. But prefer my sub side for sexual pleasure. In clubs especially fetish ones, I did enjoy being a ‘madam’ for awhile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like both but requires a good level of communication both sides. I do enjoy being more sub though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am Dom that used to have a sub and would like to find another

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always sub

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've tried being sub but it doesn't really work for me. I'm fine with giving up control as such but I don't get intense enjoyment from the typical sub things and I certainly couldn't find 'subspace'

Dom comes naturally to me in the right situations. As a rule I don't go for either but find I can switch in to Dom mode very easily with the right person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sub until I'm cock worshipping, then I'm in charge.

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By *ionelhutzMan
over a year ago

liverpool

Depends on the dynamic

Wouldnt want to be sub for someone who didnt enjoy it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always Dom

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By *ent and bratCouple
over a year ago

here there everywhere


"I'm Sub with guys and Dom with women xx"

What a perfect mix

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only ever met one dom, a femdom, that could actually fuck with my mind and that's exactly what dom/sub is about. It's mind's space, attitude, behaviour long before touch begins. For me it starts as soon as my collar is fitted, total personality change with it. I've seen posts about abusing etc and they know nothing. So picking your position is not that black and white, it happens and you don't know what mentally hits you. It's a total gifting of power exchange.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Switch for me but more comfortable as a sub I think x

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By *otrockWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Always the sub... X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Switch for me but more comfortable as a sub I think x "

Very comfortable as a sub x

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By *olieandSlaveCouple
over a year ago

Stafford

Lifestyle Domme. Husband permanently caged (6 years) and more often collared than not.

Saying that, I'm on fab for hot sex as I have never fucked my husband! I'm not interested in D/s on here, as long as you have a great cock and know what to do with it!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

We are both Dominant, although the Mrs switches with me as she does enjoy a good paddling.

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

My experience is that everyone defines D/S in their own terms and on here people seem unwilling to accept any other definition, or that D/S is a broad church.

I suspect most have not heard of a power slave or understand the view that if D/S involves power exchange the person with the power is the dominant. Therefore the submissive could be the one performing the acts normally identified as dominant but actually is submissive and at the control of the dominant whose role which may look submissive for those who don't understand their dynamic. The classic examples would be pegging or fisting.

Topping from the bottom is a different behaviour.

Very few on this site distinguish between topping and bottoming.

Although I said earlier people have different definitions, unless the person defining is aware of the labels and definitions available, and the subtleties of those definitions; I would suggest they are not defining themselves and others properly.

Finally labels are only relevant if you are describing what you do. Within a negotiated relationship it is behaviours that count not labels.

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By *ilkChocManMan
over a year ago

Sanderstead

Dom for me.

I'd be a hopeless sub as just wouldn't listen!

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By *tace 309TV/TS
over a year ago

durham


"I like both but requires a good level of communication both sides. I do enjoy being more sub though. "
the sub controls things most of the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Either/neither/ or; It totally depends on dynamic with person.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Switch. Entirely depends on the partner.

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

I’m both

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