FabSwingers.com forum: Post-Orgasm Guilt?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sometimes I see guys at the clubs get ready to have their fun, have a good chat with the regulars, and right after they've orgasmed they act like a totally different person and leave in a hurry without saying a word. Do some people go for guilty pleasures and leave feeling only guilt? I have an open relationship, so I've never experienced guilt after orgasm. I just feel an overwhelming sense of clarity and what I need to get at Tesco. Could they just be in a hurry to leave and are no longer in the mood to chat? Have you been with someone who was warm and friendly before, and then reacted in a cold way right after they had their fun because they felt guilt or were ashamed of themself? Has anyone had to comfort someone afterwards? Imagine if they started crying. I wouldn't know what to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

postcoital tristesse or dysphoria (PCD) is a recognised condition.

Also known as post orgasm regret.

I saw a guy for two years who suffered from this and it was genuinely devistating.

There are a number of factors at play but its usually triggered by hormone changges as the body nears and completes orgasm.

For him it was so extreme that he stopped having an orgasm but often still suffered. It was heart breaking for many reasons.

A lot of people also experience an after sex drop (also known as sub drop). It's the changes in emotions as we come down from the high of a particularly intense session. A bit of a mood crash.

He would often have both.

For him it was very extreme.

The being ashamed, guilty, self loathing feelings,needing to leave as a way of dealing with them, then the drop would follow. Then he would be full of remorse and sadness for how it made me feel.

Therapy can help but it can take a while

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By *innMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

I think that mood drop is more common than people know - ever wondered why some guys just goes to sleep after sex - no cuddles just disengage and sleep.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

It could be a number of things including what you suggest OP - in that environment though I wonder if it's embarrassment at having cum too quickly (in their mind) - had a guy join me and a couple I met once who mid-play upped and left with barely a word, saw him later in the evening and he explained he was about to cum and had stopped to avoid the embarrassment.

I guess another reason in that situation could be a kind of respect thing to not hang around for too long after and "intrude" on the couple once he had "served his purpose" (hate that phrase/thought but can't word it better by way of explanation)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think loads of younger guys get that after masturbation.

I used to be like that (not during sex though) It was awful.

Now older i can barely function until I've had an orgasm.

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