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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

One of the things about manners is that they're situational. For example, on Fab it's to be taken that a delete without reply means no thank you. It's in the FAQ.

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By *ot monkey71Couple
over a year ago

middlesbrough

Wouldnt worry about it

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By *ympho6969Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

Unfortunately its normal here. Especially if messaging someone who deals with high volumes of messages each and eveey day

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire

It’s good manners to say ‘thank you’ whilst deleting messages!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people! "

Cheeky bastards ay OP?! Imagine not wanting to meet or be in anyones elses house during a whole pandemic. Im truely sorry for your troubles OP.

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people!

Cheeky bastards ay OP?! Imagine not wanting to meet or be in anyones elses house during a whole pandemic. Im truely sorry for your troubles OP. "

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people! "

Some interesting irony here.

The site FAQS state that the following

There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?

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By *art123Man
over a year ago

Stoke


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people! "

You’re fighting a losing battle here op.

I feel your pain, you fit a profile criteria.. attach requested images, have read the profile, been respectful... and yes: message deleted.

I agree with your post but it ain’t going to change a thing regarding how it is on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t worry about it, ignore the cheeky bastards. Just cut and paste it and send to someone else!

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people!

You’re fighting a losing battle here op.

I feel your pain, you fit a profile criteria.. attach requested images, have read the profile, been respectful... and yes: message deleted.

I agree with your post but it ain’t going to change a thing regarding how it is on here "

Thing is you may *think* you fit the recipients criteria but that really doesn't matter - it's whether *they* think you fit it that counts - likewise whether *they* find you attractive regardless of whether you fit their criteria or not - by replying they potentially open up a route past any future filters they may put in place - they also leave themselves open to potential abuse, or messages asking why, or trying to persuade otherwise - so the "no reply = no interest" mantra really is the best one for all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In normal circumstances i would agree with the OP bit surely at the minute its not worth getting upset about?!

In all seriousness you can read a profile bio and you feel you fit but there could be a myriad of other unmentioned reasons why the message receiver doesn't feel you are right for them. Just try and move on. Everything for a reason ay?

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By *art123Man
over a year ago

Stoke


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people!

You’re fighting a losing battle here op.

I feel your pain, you fit a profile criteria.. attach requested images, have read the profile, been respectful... and yes: message deleted.

I agree with your post but it ain’t going to change a thing regarding how it is on here

Thing is you may *think* you fit the recipients criteria but that really doesn't matter - it's whether *they* think you fit it that counts - likewise whether *they* find you attractive regardless of whether you fit their criteria or not - by replying they potentially open up a route past any future filters they may put in place - they also leave themselves open to potential abuse, or messages asking why, or trying to persuade otherwise - so the "no reply = no interest" mantra really is the best one for all."

I think the point is to be polite. You send a polite message meeting all criteria and attaching private face pics... surely a response isn’t to much to ask? Rather than to assume everyone will send abuse back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

While it is manners to reply with no thank you most of us don't to avoid abuse and asked why not and suchlike so please don't think we have no manners it's just easier to ignore

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people!

You’re fighting a losing battle here op.

I feel your pain, you fit a profile criteria.. attach requested images, have read the profile, been respectful... and yes: message deleted.

I agree with your post but it ain’t going to change a thing regarding how it is on here

Thing is you may *think* you fit the recipients criteria but that really doesn't matter - it's whether *they* think you fit it that counts - likewise whether *they* find you attractive regardless of whether you fit their criteria or not - by replying they potentially open up a route past any future filters they may put in place - they also leave themselves open to potential abuse, or messages asking why, or trying to persuade otherwise - so the "no reply = no interest" mantra really is the best one for all.

I think the point is to be polite. You send a polite message meeting all criteria and attaching private face pics... surely a response isn’t to much to ask? Rather than to assume everyone will send abuse back. "

I tried that for awhile when I first joined. It was a miserable, abuse filled, running out of messages experience.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people!

You’re fighting a losing battle here op.

I feel your pain, you fit a profile criteria.. attach requested images, have read the profile, been respectful... and yes: message deleted.

I agree with your post but it ain’t going to change a thing regarding how it is on here

Thing is you may *think* you fit the recipients criteria but that really doesn't matter - it's whether *they* think you fit it that counts - likewise whether *they* find you attractive regardless of whether you fit their criteria or not - by replying they potentially open up a route past any future filters they may put in place - they also leave themselves open to potential abuse, or messages asking why, or trying to persuade otherwise - so the "no reply = no interest" mantra really is the best one for all.

I think the point is to be polite. You send a polite message meeting all criteria and attaching private face pics... surely a response isn’t to much to ask? Rather than to assume everyone will send abuse back. "

The op refers to rude peasants with zero manners while criticising rude people. I think it actually reinforces why many people don't respond for fear of rude answers

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people! "

Maybe it's possible that they don't like people who throw their toys out of the pram when they don't get their own way.

You say you're a nice person then call someone a rude peasant just for not replying to you, it kind of says you're nice when you want something but not when things don't go your way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Im not upset I just always reply on here and other site’s!! That’s all nice to be nice

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By *ympho6969Woman
over a year ago

glasgow


"While it is manners to reply with no thank you most of us don't to avoid abuse and asked why not and suchlike so please don't think we have no manners it's just easier to ignore"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP just because you think you meet their requirements doesn't mean you do. If you have sent a picture and they don't respond, that could be a polite no thank you. Good luck though.

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By *utterypopcornCouple
over a year ago

oxford

Peasants???? For not returning your message. I think they probably made the right call

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Rude peasants

The really sad part is, and i truly believe many started out replying to all, very politely indeed.

You soon discover that rejection isn't something that's A) taken in good grace B) accepted by an awful lot of people C) You're a fat slag they wouldn't touch anyway (that's the tame version)

You've been rejected (FAQ - no reply means no thanks) and now you're spitting your dummy publicly. *shrugs*

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people!

You’re fighting a losing battle here op.

I feel your pain, you fit a profile criteria.. attach requested images, have read the profile, been respectful... and yes: message deleted.

I agree with your post but it ain’t going to change a thing regarding how it is on here

Thing is you may *think* you fit the recipients criteria but that really doesn't matter - it's whether *they* think you fit it that counts - likewise whether *they* find you attractive regardless of whether you fit their criteria or not - by replying they potentially open up a route past any future filters they may put in place - they also leave themselves open to potential abuse, or messages asking why, or trying to persuade otherwise - so the "no reply = no interest" mantra really is the best one for all.

I think the point is to be polite. You send a polite message meeting all criteria and attaching private face pics... surely a response isn’t to much to ask? Rather than to assume everyone will send abuse back.

I tried that for awhile when I first joined. It was a miserable, abuse filled, running out of messages experience."

Me too, though I didn’t run out of messages. It was just a generally miserable experience and felt like such a chore. I was answering messages for hours every day for nothing, and the worst bit is they still keep reappearing now, popping through my filters and acting like I know them.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people!

You’re fighting a losing battle here op.

I feel your pain, you fit a profile criteria.. attach requested images, have read the profile, been respectful... and yes: message deleted.

I agree with your post but it ain’t going to change a thing regarding how it is on here

Thing is you may *think* you fit the recipients criteria but that really doesn't matter - it's whether *they* think you fit it that counts - likewise whether *they* find you attractive regardless of whether you fit their criteria or not - by replying they potentially open up a route past any future filters they may put in place - they also leave themselves open to potential abuse, or messages asking why, or trying to persuade otherwise - so the "no reply = no interest" mantra really is the best one for all.

I think the point is to be polite. You send a polite message meeting all criteria and attaching private face pics... surely a response isn’t to much to ask? Rather than to assume everyone will send abuse back. "

You would be surprised how many "polite" messages turn into abusive ones after a rejection - women go from being "the most beautiful woman on Fab" to "shit I wouldn't scrap from my shoe but thought I'd do you a favour" in the space of two messages sometimes - and the trouble is they don't *know* if a guy is going to be the "take it on the chin reply with a 'Thanks for letting me know" type or the abusive butt hurt type - so they protect themselves by not replying

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs


"Im not upset I just always reply on here and other site’s!! That’s all nice to be nice "
Don’t reply to profiles with no photo

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people!

You’re fighting a losing battle here op.

I feel your pain, you fit a profile criteria.. attach requested images, have read the profile, been respectful... and yes: message deleted.

I agree with your post but it ain’t going to change a thing regarding how it is on here

Thing is you may *think* you fit the recipients criteria but that really doesn't matter - it's whether *they* think you fit it that counts - likewise whether *they* find you attractive regardless of whether you fit their criteria or not - by replying they potentially open up a route past any future filters they may put in place - they also leave themselves open to potential abuse, or messages asking why, or trying to persuade otherwise - so the "no reply = no interest" mantra really is the best one for all.

I think the point is to be polite. You send a polite message meeting all criteria and attaching private face pics... surely a response isn’t to much to ask? Rather than to assume everyone will send abuse back.

I tried that for awhile when I first joined. It was a miserable, abuse filled, running out of messages experience.

Me too, though I didn’t run out of messages. It was just a generally miserable experience and felt like such a chore. I was answering messages for hours every day for nothing, and the worst bit is they still keep reappearing now, popping through my filters and acting like I know them."

Same. Hard same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If no reply is bad manners im guilty.

I've never been nasty in replies but try answering 300+ messages a day.You reply to one and have 3 others sent to you from other men while you've been replying to the other one.

It's a full time job.I like to chat to friends and be the forum idiot lol so how would I get the time to reply to all and chat to friends and use the forum.

So if me using my own time on here the way I want to use it is bad manners then I'm defo guilty

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Personally I think it's rude to feel entitled to the attention of strangers

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Im not upset I just always reply on here and other site’s!! That’s all nice to be nice "

Well have you replied to every single comment on this thread ? Bit hypocritical to want people to answer your messages but failed to answer every comment made on your thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people!

Cheeky bastards ay OP?! Imagine not wanting to meet or be in anyones elses house during a whole pandemic. Im truely sorry for your troubles OP. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I think it's rude to feel entitled to the attention of strangers "

This

Lu

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can’t please everyone in life, move on..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Peasants???? For not returning your message. I think they probably made the right call"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's fab for you mate..only normal..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you’ve shown your true colours by calling those who don’t reply ‘peasants’ OP.

Listen to the admin on the thread - there are rules on Fab. No reply = not interested. There’s nothing in there about ‘politely declining’

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By *osebud6688Woman
over a year ago

Northampton


"If no reply is bad manners im guilty.

I've never been nasty in replies but try answering 300+ messages a day.You reply to one and have 3 others sent to you from other men while you've been replying to the other one.

It's a full time job.I like to chat to friends and be the forum idiot lol so how would I get the time to reply to all and chat to friends and use the forum.

So if me using my own time on here the way I want to use it is bad manners then I'm defo guilty "

Exactly this! Count me as guilty too - it would be impossible to reply to every message.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's potentially viewed as 'rude' OP to expect anything from others who are getting an uninvited contact from you. Especially when the site terms are fully explicit on this matter.

Only you can manage your expectations.

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people!

You’re fighting a losing battle here op.

I feel your pain, you fit a profile criteria.. attach requested images, have read the profile, been respectful... and yes: message deleted.

I agree with your post but it ain’t going to change a thing regarding how it is on here

Thing is you may *think* you fit the recipients criteria but that really doesn't matter - it's whether *they* think you fit it that counts - likewise whether *they* find you attractive regardless of whether you fit their criteria or not - by replying they potentially open up a route past any future filters they may put in place - they also leave themselves open to potential abuse, or messages asking why, or trying to persuade otherwise - so the "no reply = no interest" mantra really is the best one for all."

Best me to it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people! "

Your user name is bismoothy which I read as bi- smoothy which I read as you are bi and your post states that you meet all bi requirements which I read as you being bi yet your profile states straight which is all fine and dandy of course but maybe a reason for non replies as for most people honestly is rather a big issue on here.

I reply to all messages as I have time but trust me at times it’s hard because some titblind men just do not deserve a reply due to the lack of effort they put into their messages but I’m sure your messages op at the tippest of the toppest and people as you put irate just peasants.

Best of luck op and I’m so happy that the little pandemic is over now!!!!

T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s nice to be polite but I’d be ok if people can’t be bothered to reply. In my book no reply is an invisible reply saying no and I don’t know them and obviously never going to meet them so no harm done. When we were on before and had public pics got lots of messages some days when busy so I bet some ladies and sexy couples get hundreds and not always time to reply. We used to try to reply with no thanks but can’t swear we always did and sometimes then get asked why etc and it all gets a bit long winded.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

No reply = No thanks is the most well known rule of Fab. You either haven’t read the rules, or you have read them and don’t like them, in which case you’re in the wrong place OP. Getting snippy and calling people peasants isn’t going to make it any more likely that people will be drawn to you.

It’s just before Christmas and the country is pretty much locked down and can’t meet. It’s unlikely anyone is sat there waiting for you to contact them out of the blue. Maybe try again in the new year. But expect the same if people aren’t interested, it’s the way it works here, like it or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s good manners to say ‘thank you’ whilst deleting messages!!"

Yes. Really quite unecessary rudeness on here . Casual cruelty.

Make the effort to answer and remember there is a human being there.

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By *bwlookingforfunWoman
over a year ago

crawley


"It’s good manners to say ‘thank you’ whilst deleting messages!!"

Some people actually have a life outside of fab and have no time to reply to 100s of messages daily.

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By *rhugesMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

I've had winks from people, when you reply with a polite message and say you are interested, I've been ignored and in some cases blocked , after one message.

Personally I find it quite funny

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people! "

That’s why I don’t bother anymore ... how can ppl ask for a face pic when they don’t show theirs... fuck it, it’s gone rate shit on here in the last cpl of years ... onwards and upwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people!

You’re fighting a losing battle here op.

I feel your pain, you fit a profile criteria.. attach requested images, have read the profile, been respectful... and yes: message deleted.

I agree with your post but it ain’t going to change a thing regarding how it is on here

Thing is you may *think* you fit the recipients criteria but that really doesn't matter - it's whether *they* think you fit it that counts - likewise whether *they* find you attractive regardless of whether you fit their criteria or not - by replying they potentially open up a route past any future filters they may put in place - they also leave themselves open to potential abuse, or messages asking why, or trying to persuade otherwise - so the "no reply = no interest" mantra really is the best one for all."

Well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people!

You’re fighting a losing battle here op.

I feel your pain, you fit a profile criteria.. attach requested images, have read the profile, been respectful... and yes: message deleted.

I agree with your post but it ain’t going to change a thing regarding how it is on here

Thing is you may *think* you fit the recipients criteria but that really doesn't matter - it's whether *they* think you fit it that counts - likewise whether *they* find you attractive regardless of whether you fit their criteria or not - by replying they potentially open up a route past any future filters they may put in place - they also leave themselves open to potential abuse, or messages asking why, or trying to persuade otherwise - so the "no reply = no interest" mantra really is the best one for all.

I think the point is to be polite. You send a polite message meeting all criteria and attaching private face pics... surely a response isn’t to much to ask? Rather than to assume everyone will send abuse back.

The op refers to rude peasants with zero manners while criticising rude people. I think it actually reinforces why many people don't respond for fear of rude answers"

This

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim


"Personally I think it's rude to feel entitled to the attention of strangers "
I agree with you on that and OP you really aren’t helping your case by calling them peasants it makes you sound extremely entitled. Also there could be a number of reasons why they aren’t replying. First and foremost no profile picture from what I have seen a lot won’t respond to a silhouette. For myself I only ever send a nasty message if they have sent a abuse which seems to be predominately men that send it from my experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh my, the sense of entitlement from some men on here!

I used to reply to every message on here in my last profile, but now I don’t, and it says that very clearly on my profile.

I don’t have the time, and actually I’d rather use the time I do have for things I actually want to do. If that makes me rude then so be it.

I think it’s rude to expect a complete stranger to give up their time because you chose to message.

Also, once I’ve replied to someone, even if my filters are on, they can still message me, and I want to avoid that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you say you “fit the criteria” surly you mean in your own opinion OP? Comes across like you’ve spat your dummy out taking the time to write a post, calling the very people you’ve messaged “peasants” all because you’ve not had a message back... is it a problem that you didn’t get a message back or that you’ve been rejected?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people! "
why is it a shame for nice people?

And if it's pretty much on point,yet not all on point,why do you expect a response when they expect you to be fully on point!

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By *all me FlikWoman
over a year ago

Galaxy Far Far Away


"It’s good manners to say ‘thank you’ whilst deleting messages!!

Some people actually have a life outside of fab and have no time to reply to 100s of messages daily.

"

This is true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow..... like this thread doesn’t appear often

As every lady on here will no doubt repeat, the ratio of men to women, is huge.

They’re subjected to every style of irrelevant dribble, crude message, unsuitable type, distance, colour, interests, you name it, they’ve read or seen it.

To attract so much attention, and reply to each and every message, isn’t likely or possible.

So if you message anyone on fabs, read the profile. Check the details. Read the profile again.

Make a message unique, individual and relevant. Then maybe you’ll find a reply, even a knock back, but a reply at least.

When your home address gets bombarded by posted leaflets and flyers, junk mail etc, you don’t reply to each and every one of those do you ?

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By *igmaMan
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"It’s good manners to say ‘thank you’ whilst deleting messages!!

Some people actually have a life outside of fab and have no time to reply to 100s of messages daily.

This is true "

True people don’t get sarcasm

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

“How rude are people?”

Very.

Just because you feel you meet their criteria does not make it so. Demanding something you are not entitled to is not manners thats just rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow..... like this thread doesn’t appear often

As every lady on here will no doubt repeat, the ratio of men to women, is huge.

They’re subjected to every style of irrelevant dribble, crude message, unsuitable type, distance, colour, interests, you name it, they’ve read or seen it.

To attract so much attention, and reply to each and every message, isn’t likely or possible.

So if you message anyone on fabs, read the profile. Check the details. Read the profile again.

Make a message unique, individual and relevant. Then maybe you’ll find a reply, even a knock back, but a reply at least.

When your home address gets bombarded by posted leaflets and flyers, junk mail etc, you don’t reply to each and every one of those do you ? "

The last paragraph is a perfect analogy for this scenario. Bravo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, I did waffle a bit

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

The other thing to consider is this - when you walk down the street you're probably attracted to maybe 5-10% of the people you come across, and of those, 5-10% are attracted to you - so out of every 100 people you pass even using 10%, there's 1 likely match.

It's no different here really - whether you meet their criteria or not it still comes down to attraction at some level.

Know that's off beam to the whole "not replying" thing (which has been well and truly covered already) but it *does* have a bearing on whether people reply or not.

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By *omino51Man
over a year ago

loughborough


"If no reply is bad manners im guilty.

I've never been nasty in replies but try answering 300+ messages a day.You reply to one and have 3 others sent to you from other men while you've been replying to the other one.

It's a full time job.I like to chat to friends and be the forum idiot lol so how would I get the time to reply to all and chat to friends and use the forum.

So if me using my own time on here the way I want to use it is bad manners then I'm defo guilty

Exactly this! Count me as guilty too - it would be impossible to reply to every message. "
i feel your pain, im still trying to reply to "the message" i received last week. I got one it was such a shock ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people! "

Damn those peasants, not worth the grubby muck that covers them! Perhaps you should try targeting a more aristocratic audience, more in line with your obvious social standing? Pip pip, and jolly good luck!

Honestly, I love the irony in these threads, but the repetition is getting tedious!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow..... like this thread doesn’t appear often

As every lady on here will no doubt repeat, the ratio of men to women, is huge.

They’re subjected to every style of irrelevant dribble, crude message, unsuitable type, distance, colour, interests, you name it, they’ve read or seen it.

To attract so much attention, and reply to each and every message, isn’t likely or possible.

So if you message anyone on fabs, read the profile. Check the details. Read the profile again.

Make a message unique, individual and relevant. Then maybe you’ll find a reply, even a knock back, but a reply at least.

When your home address gets bombarded by posted leaflets and flyers, junk mail etc, you don’t reply to each and every one of those do you ? "

This!!!

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people!

Damn those peasants, not worth the grubby muck that covers them! Perhaps you should try targeting a more aristocratic audience, more in line with your obvious social standing? Pip pip, and jolly good luck!

Honestly, I love the irony in these threads, but the repetition is getting tedious! "

Pip pip! Ha ha. That made me chuckle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

When your home address gets bombarded by posted leaflets and flyers, junk mail etc, you don’t reply to each and every one of those do you ? "

This analogy is not the same thing at all.

If a person had pics all over their house of them eating pizza in different positions... explicit descriptions about how they love pizza... how they love to suck on the melted cheese... a list of what they like to do with the pizza... more pics of them with different types of pizza... reviews from other people about how that person loves pizza...

But then the person whines that pizza shops post their flyers through their door.

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South


"...

When your home address gets bombarded by posted leaflets and flyers, junk mail etc, you don’t reply to each and every one of those do you ?

This analogy is not the same thing at all.

If a person had pics all over their house of them eating pizza in different positions... explicit descriptions about how they love pizza... how they love to suck on the melted cheese... a list of what they like to do with the pizza... more pics of them with different types of pizza... reviews from other people about how that person loves pizza...

But then the person whines that pizza shops post their flyers through their door.

"

So ‘they’re asking for it’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people! "

It's not a shame, it's a lucky escape. Why would a nice person want to meet the person who doesn't reply to a decent message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *host63Man
over a year ago

Bedfont Feltham


"One of the things about manners is that they're situational. For example, on Fab it's to be taken that a delete without reply means no thank you. It's in the FAQ."

Is what it is. Ignore, say like I do that yiu doged a bullet as they probably ly are ot nice people anyway, and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t see the point in been rude to others for not replying , it doesn’t go down well , maybe get involved in the forums , I’ve been advised to do that. Also you get a lot saying you have to be thick skinned on here too . I do my best to be polite because it’s who iam , I don’t like been crude straight away as I don’t want to come across as a dickhead .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

When your home address gets bombarded by posted leaflets and flyers, junk mail etc, you don’t reply to each and every one of those do you ?

This analogy is not the same thing at all.

If a person had pics all over their house of them eating pizza in different positions... explicit descriptions about how they love pizza... how they love to suck on the melted cheese... a list of what they like to do with the pizza... more pics of them with different types of pizza... reviews from other people about how that person loves pizza...

But then the person whines that pizza shops post their flyers through their door.

"

That made me horny

I'd say a recruitment analogy is more appropriate (although I know everyone hates those for here!)

You put out an ad, showcasing your company in its best light and giving a person spec & job description. It's a bit daft to then complain about getting too good a response, but fair enough to roll your eyes a bit and just dismiss those that don't match your requirements.

But there might also be plenty of suitable candidates that just don't make it because someone else was a better fit. Most companies don't send rejection letters these days. And that's even with them having the capacity to do a mailshot/bulk email, rather than having to contact one by one AND it'd also be unlikely for them to get abuse back in response if they did. It's massively annoying if you're the one waiting on an answer, but perfectly legit of them, and you just need to suck it up.

Upshot is I personally think it's pointless to either moan about getting too much mail or about not getting a 'knock back' reply. I don't see either the person who's throwing their hat in the ring or the one who doesn't reply when they're not interested as being rude. But the people who whine about either, often are.

Think that's my longest post ever!

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By *ature friendly coupleCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Just what we were saying,if any are not for us we block and move on,cant be doing with childish replies so we dont.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Just what we were saying,if any are not for us we block and move on,cant be doing with childish replies so we dont."

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

How is NOT replying to a random stranger on the internet, someone you have had no interaction with in the past, and with no former knowledge of, rude? When the only thing that you have in common, on face value, is that you exist in the same virtual space. That’s a bit like saying “why isn’t everybody on Facebook that is interested in Jam Tarts (something I am interested in) replying to my messages

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"How is NOT replying to a random stranger on the internet, someone you have had no interaction with in the past, and with no former knowledge of, rude? When the only thing that you have in common, on face value, is that you exist in the same virtual space. That’s a bit like saying “why isn’t everybody on Facebook that is interested in Jam Tarts (something I am interested in) replying to my messages

"

I think he means he puts alot of effort in it can be deflating x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How is NOT replying to a random stranger on the internet, someone you have had no interaction with in the past, and with no former knowledge of, rude? When the only thing that you have in common, on face value, is that you exist in the same virtual space. That’s a bit like saying “why isn’t everybody on Facebook that is interested in Jam Tarts (something I am interested in) replying to my messages

I think he means he puts alot of effort in it can be deflating x"

Absolutely this.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"How is NOT replying to a random stranger on the internet, someone you have had no interaction with in the past, and with no former knowledge of, rude? When the only thing that you have in common, on face value, is that you exist in the same virtual space. That’s a bit like saying “why isn’t everybody on Facebook that is interested in Jam Tarts (something I am interested in) replying to my messages

I think he means he puts alot of effort in it can be deflating x

Absolutely this. "

It can be that's why I reply to all my messages xx

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

Men should put a lot of effort into messages but send them sparingly. That way they can be meaningful and targeted. Don't expect to get a reply though .If you thought it worthwhile sending a message then many other men will think so too... today ,tomorrow and the day after . Reading messages sent to women playmates on fab leads me to believe that lots of men just don't know how different things are for women . Not " better" just " different ".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience is a Virgin smoothy!

Virtue, patience is a virtue (bloody spell check)

Is better to be humble and not burn your bridges, you never know why they haven't replied, you may still get a reply if your lucky?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Patience is a Virgin smoothy!

Virtue, patience is a virtue (bloody spell check)

Is better to be humble and not burn your bridges, you never know why they haven't replied, you may still get a reply if your lucky? "

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm having a déjà vu moment here!!

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton


"How is NOT replying to a random stranger on the internet, someone you have had no interaction with in the past, and with no former knowledge of, rude? When the only thing that you have in common, on face value, is that you exist in the same virtual space. That’s a bit like saying “why isn’t everybody on Facebook that is interested in Jam Tarts (something I am interested in) replying to my messages

I think he means he puts alot of effort in it can be deflating x"

I went off the title of the thread, my bad....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people! "

My profile clearly states

If your profile shows you are seeking TVs/TSs and Men I will just delete and block

And

Kate is only looking for hung guys (7"+)

Yet every day I get guys saying "I tick all your boxes" yet they are meeting TVs and have small dicks.

Tell me why I should reply nicely to them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people! "

I delete and don't reply... Why?

1 if I reply they can then message me anytime they like and can't past all filters at all times.

2 most of the time I'll get a reply to my 'no thank you' asking why or read the man putting himself down. And that just isn't nice whatever way you look at it. The last thing I want to do is tell someone what put me off them. But even then the could still message back and change that fact to suit. Which isn't good either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people!

My profile clearly states

If your profile shows you are seeking TVs/TSs and Men I will just delete and block

And

Kate is only looking for hung guys (7"+)

Yet every day I get guys saying "I tick all your boxes" yet they are meeting TVs and have small dicks.

Tell me why I should reply nicely to them? "

People don't read profiles properly, ignore them & just continue to carry on regardless, annoying as hell.

Then they wonder why they don't get replies, deleted messages & blocks! Twats!!

Shouldn't even honour them with a reply, although it can be a satisfying release of anger to do so! I expect many can't use a tape measure & are measuring from the arsehole to the tip of their dick???

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people!

My profile clearly states

If your profile shows you are seeking TVs/TSs and Men I will just delete and block

And

Kate is only looking for hung guys (7"+)

Yet every day I get guys saying "I tick all your boxes" yet they are meeting TVs and have small dicks.

Tell me why I should reply nicely to them? "

This!

My profile at the moment says I don’t want to hear from strangers, don’t want to chat, meet or see your cock. Yet every day I get number is messages from people I don’t know, showing their cock and asking if I want to chat and/or meet. I don’t reply and some of them double message when they see I’ve replied and call me rude for not replying. Or ask ‘am I that bad?’. It drives me crackers.

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

Why aren't you responding to every post on here OP ? Bit rude isn't it ?

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By *oxyVikingCouple
over a year ago

East Anglia


"Im not upset I just always reply on here and other site’s!! That’s all nice to be nice

Well have you replied to every single comment on this thread ? Bit hypocritical to want people to answer your messages but failed to answer every comment made on your thread. "

This

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people! "

Calling people peasants isn’t indicative that you’ll accept a no thankyou with good grace.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people!

Calling people peasants isn’t indicative that you’ll accept a no thankyou with good grace. "

Didnt see that yes calling people peasants is unkind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes they’re fucking rude

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Yes they’re fucking rude "

Who

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes they’re fucking rude

Who "

Those stinky peasants

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes they’re fucking rude

Who

Those stinky peasants "

I like the cut of your cloth good sir! Tally ho!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you walked into a crowded bar, and saw a lady that just took your breath away, you could approach her and say hello.

It’s at her discretion to engage in conversation, blank you, or dismiss you with a comment.

Fabs isn’t any different. There’s no universal rule that says “women must reply, either politely, or at all.

A persons profile, describes something of themselves, and maybe photos and choices.

If, you send a message, make it relevant, and then delete it.

If you receive a reply, then it’s a bonus.

Be unique, be worthwhile to them, and above all, be as polite as you expect others to be.

Don’t go calling people “peasants” just because you’re deleted and ignored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you walked into a crowded bar, and saw a lady that just took your breath away, you could approach her and say hello.

It’s at her discretion to engage in conversation, blank you, or dismiss you with a comment.

Fabs isn’t any different. There’s no universal rule that says “women must reply, either politely, or at all.

A persons profile, describes something of themselves, and maybe photos and choices.

If, you send a message, make it relevant, and then delete it.

If you receive a reply, then it’s a bonus.

Be unique, be worthwhile to them, and above all, be as polite as you expect others to be.

Don’t go calling people “peasants” just because you’re deleted and ignored.

"

This all bloody day ^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bless.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people! "

A genuine message

Nice photos

Tasteful

Bi requirements

Accom met

On point

You think you match them do you? Obviously not so, no reply means no interest so you have your ‘reply’!

Moving onto ‘rude peasants’ and ‘zero manners’ - calling that out in a public forum is very rude on your part.

Also people judge others on the forums so I don’t think you will be successful because of this thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like nice people I am attracted to... Telling someone they aren't that person is more agro than it's worth!

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By *edoarabMan
over a year ago

location varies

Imagine ppl writing a cv on their bio and can't reply to a message,bruuuuhhhh

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By *edoarabMan
over a year ago

location varies

Well said man

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people! "
So you look down at people on her by refering to them as peasants.

I would love to see how you structure your messages with that kind of disrespect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well said man "

Why don’t you read the thread, and the reasons why women might not reply ?

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

18 weeks ago this thread

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas


"18 weeks ago this thread

"

Think someone’s having a bad day

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By *edoarabMan
over a year ago

location varies

I reply to whatever i want,and support whatever opinion as i like

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"18 weeks ago this thread

Think someone’s having a bad day "

Not just me then

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By *edoarabMan
over a year ago

location varies

Some ppl have an unfinished business lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people! "

Your profile states that you are straight so maybe that put them off.!!!

T

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

It’s not rude. Some women get hundreds of messages a day!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people! "

Haha couldn’t disagree more!

Just because you tick some boxes doesn’t grant you anything! Even if you say so yourself that your photos are nice

If you don’t get a response simply take it as no and move on. And don’t get the hump and call people peasants for not wanting your ever so tasteful and good self

Ain’t a shame at all, rejection is part of life and choices are also part of life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You might get further if you didn't have a deliberately misleading profile name.

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

When your home address gets bombarded by posted leaflets and flyers, junk mail etc, you don’t reply to each and every one of those do you ?

This analogy is not the same thing at all.

If a person had pics all over their house of them eating pizza in different positions... explicit descriptions about how they love pizza... how they love to suck on the melted cheese... a list of what they like to do with the pizza... more pics of them with different types of pizza... reviews from other people about how that person loves pizza...

But then the person whines that pizza shops post their flyers through their door.

"

That makes no sense at all

It's not the person that likes pizza complaining about the pizza flyers

It's the person sending the pizza flyers complaining, because the person that likes pizza isn't ordering their pizza.

You are the pizza leaflet sender.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly


"...

When your home address gets bombarded by posted leaflets and flyers, junk mail etc, you don’t reply to each and every one of those do you ?

This analogy is not the same thing at all.

If a person had pics all over their house of them eating pizza in different positions... explicit descriptions about how they love pizza... how they love to suck on the melted cheese... a list of what they like to do with the pizza... more pics of them with different types of pizza... reviews from other people about how that person loves pizza...

But then the person whines that pizza shops post their flyers through their door.

That makes no sense at all

It's not the person that likes pizza complaining about the pizza flyers

It's the person sending the pizza flyers complaining, because the person that likes pizza isn't ordering their pizza.

You are the pizza leaflet sender."

This has cracked me up: "You are the pizza leaflet sender." What a brilliantly bizarre phrase! God I love fab.

Mrs kf x

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By *ensual-dominant-passionMan
over a year ago

sheffield

If they don’t reply... then just message them again haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes so many rude people on here. I had a female message me from a couples profile saying she would love to drop to her knees a suck me off in the woods. I said yea ok when? She replied tomorrow morning. I said I’m sorry I can’t do tomorrow morning I got football. She then replied you would rather play football than get your hands on my body. Then blocks me. Well first of all love I can’t give up my 2nd job just so that I can pleasure you. 2nd of all I’m sure there many other guys willing to meet u in the woods! I don’t live my life on fab sorry!!!

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By *all me FlikWoman
over a year ago

Galaxy Far Far Away


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people! "

Maybe the bi requirement wasn't met as your profile says straight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many rude people on here it is true, I just had a message saying you're not curvy you're fat that was rude, local status update in my area basically saying won't meet single mums because there disscusting that's rude, one person is mad tat he received a message from a trans person... So mad he can't believe what this site has become... That's rude... I even find it rude the amount of people who get huffy because they haven't received a reply... Yoh kniw what I don't find rude tho? Somone not feeling entitled to message somone back

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By *aggy dollsCouple
over a year ago

bradford

We only reply to messages that we've both read, and at the moment luna ain't interested at all due the pandemic however I enjoy the forums so we show as being online even though we dont check our messages. I guess that could be perceived as being rude however people are free to use the site however they see fit. If someone feels that we are being rude they are more than welcome to hit the block button. Patience is a virtue especially during these strange times.

Mr H.

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By *aggy dollsCouple
over a year ago

bradford


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people!

Maybe the bi requirement wasn't met as your profile says straight."

Ooh I never looked at his profile, we block and delete straight profiles no matter how much they profess to be bi.

Mr H.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...

You are the pizza leaflet sender."

close the forums... that phrase is never being beaten

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

Haha can’t believe this subject got revived 18 weeks later. As it had been said no one is entitled to respond to messages that you send. Say you went up to someone in a bar and said whatever message you sent. But they weren’t interested in you they do have a right to not respond. It’s just sad the number of people on here that throw their toys out of the pram because either they don’t get a response or someone says no. If you don’t get a reply understand that is the polite way of saying no thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'd received a message and then saw this thread by the same person, I'd definitely not reply!

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people!

Maybe the bi requirement wasn't met as your profile says straight.

Ooh I never looked at his profile, we block and delete straight profiles no matter how much they profess to be bi.

Mr H."

Yeah I just noticed that as well and a interesting username which does make him sound like a couple

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"[Very rude comment Removed by poster at 25/04/21 11:06:41]"

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By *oom_4_1_MhoreCouple
over a year ago

Newport


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people! "

Tbh, faqs obviously not read, your profile name puts you as a couple though you are a straight man so also bi requirements not met. But other that that yea. Damn peasants

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"[Totally obscene comment Grey Binned by poster at 25/04/21 11:06:41]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By the size of this thread its quite common.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

I’m not rude, I’m filthy, there’s an unsubtle difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the beginning I might have been a bit bothered but these days I just assume that if they were my cup of tea we would be chatting. If they don’t reply then they are doing me a kindness as I’d rather not bore myself with idle chat. We all came here for something but don’t settle for the first thing that comes along so we...

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Maybe people should copy and paste 'no thank you', when. They get a copy and pasted 'fancy a fuck', or ' how are you' messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe people should copy and paste 'no thank you', when. They get a copy and pasted 'fancy a fuck', or ' how are you' messages"

Why would you open a dialogue with someone you weren't interested in? It usually means a reply of either abuse or whining about changing my mind or some other horseshit... No ta!

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By *aidBack LadMan
over a year ago

Evesham

How do you stand out when all that you do is exactly what the guy has said. Even when people write message me to ask and you do exactly that and still get nothing back. All it is end of the day people are shallow and only want to pick out the good looking people

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"How do you stand out when all that you do is exactly what the guy has said. Even when people write message me to ask and you do exactly that and still get nothing back. All it is end of the day people are shallow and only want to pick out the good looking people "

People sleep with whoever they find attractive. My idea of an attractive woman or man can be totally different to yours.

If you’re after a sympathy fuck you’re on the wrong site. So be more attractive to the people on the site, look at the pictures you’re displaying, username you chose and text you wrote and if these aren’t appealing it’s your issue no one else.

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people!

Maybe the bi requirement wasn't met as your profile says straight.

Ooh I never looked at his profile, we block and delete straight profiles no matter how much they profess to be bi.

Mr H.

Yeah I just noticed that as well and a interesting username which does make him sound like a couple"

Agreed.

I've just looked at the profile, too, and the one public picture.

And I thought I had moobs....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"While it is manners to reply with no thank you most of us don't to avoid abuse and asked why not and suchlike so please don't think we have no manners it's just easier to ignore"

Jeez! The abuse is unreal! The rejection sensitivity is off the charts!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of the things about manners is that they're situational. For example, on Fab it's to be taken that a delete without reply means no thank you. It's in the FAQ."

Still rude & a mean way to treat people.

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South


"One of the things about manners is that they're situational. For example, on Fab it's to be taken that a delete without reply means no thank you. It's in the FAQ.

Still rude & a mean way to treat people."

It's really not.

I've just deleted a dozen messages from people who haven't spent 2 seconds reading our profile.

The profile we wrote specifically telling them about us and what we look for.

Not reading the very thing that's specifically written to help them? Now that's rude.....

I do the same with all unsolicted junk mail that's trying to sell me things I neither want or need, that comes through my letterbox.

Round file.......

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By *ob Carpe DiemMan
over a year ago

Torquay

Blimey this thread is 24 weeks old, I'm planning a happy first birthday party for it already

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley


"Don’t worry about it, ignore the cheeky bastards. Just cut and paste it and send to someone else! "

Even better, wait for women to contact you.

Then you will know that they could be interested!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people!

You’re fighting a losing battle here op.

I feel your pain, you fit a profile criteria.. attach requested images, have read the profile, been respectful... and yes: message deleted.

I agree with your post but it ain’t going to change a thing regarding how it is on here

Thing is you may *think* you fit the recipients criteria but that really doesn't matter - it's whether *they* think you fit it that counts - likewise whether *they* find you attractive regardless of whether you fit their criteria or not - by replying they potentially open up a route past any future filters they may put in place - they also leave themselves open to potential abuse, or messages asking why, or trying to persuade otherwise - so the "no reply = no interest" mantra really is the best one for all."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of the things about manners is that they're situational. For example, on Fab it's to be taken that a delete without reply means no thank you. It's in the FAQ.

Still rude & a mean way to treat people."

I'm not looking for playmates... Am I still rude when I delete messages that are nothing to do with the social I organise? All stated on my profile

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By *orkshire_roses999Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

So I’d like to argue a little on it……

We have limited time to reply to messages and the other day I was busy shifting through 160+ messsges we had,it takes a while trust me!

Just because “you think you fit” doesn’t mean that they will be attracted to you,or even be what they are looking for…..we are looking for a couple etc, doesn’t mean EVERY COUPLE WHO FITS THE SECTION….. I don’t speak for everyone woman/couple here but if I spent 30secpnds saying no to those messages I’d be here over an hour just saying no Thankyou to them all….

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley


"So I’d like to argue a little on it……

We have limited time to reply to messages and the other day I was busy shifting through 160+ messsges we had,it takes a while trust me!

Just because “you think you fit” doesn’t mean that they will be attracted to you,or even be what they are looking for…..we are looking for a couple etc, doesn’t mean EVERY COUPLE WHO FITS THE SECTION….. I don’t speak for everyone woman/couple here but if I spent 30secpnds saying no to those messages I’d be here over an hour just saying no Thankyou to them all…."

I can't believe there are so many blokes who don't have the savvy to realise that females and couples get inundated with speculative messaging. The Fab guidelines exist in order to take the pressure off them but still the blokes get petulant about being ignored.

This topic really does not need reviving with such regularity. get real, guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yawn! As someone else pointed out recently, your message was unsolicited. Do you text your local take away to say thanks but no thanks when they post a menu through your door?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

most on here are timewasters who have no intention of meeting, as for the lack of manners i think they struggle to fit it in with all the high demands they make. Should call this site Fakeswingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"most on here are timewasters who have no intention of meeting, as for the lack of manners i think they struggle to fit it in with all the high demands they make. Should call this site Fakeswingers."

What makes you think they are fake?

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"most on here are timewasters who have no intention of meeting, as for the lack of manners i think they struggle to fit it in with all the high demands they make. Should call this site Fakeswingers."

Only because they are choosing not to meet you, doesn't actually mean that they aren't meeting.

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South


"most on here are timewasters who have no intention of meeting, as for the lack of manners i think they struggle to fit it in with all the high demands they make. Should call this site Fakeswingers.

Only because they are choosing not to meet you, doesn't actually mean that they aren't meeting."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love it when a guy assumes he’s what I’m looking for just because he has a face, a penis and can craft a good message.

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By *entlemenpipMan
over a year ago

not far

Op that's not rude what's rude here is when you are talking back and forth with someone and all is well and as soon as you send pics they asked for the block you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dream of rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dream of rude "

Bollocks!!!

Will that do? Or where you hoping for more of a FAF?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op that's not rude what's rude here is when you are talking back and forth with someone and all is well and as soon as you send pics they asked for the block you. "

I agree hate this and its why a lot of genuine guys are reluctant to send pics. If someone says they want to swap pics they should honour it and send one back regardless as its just general manners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you can’t do anything about how others are. There are all sorts of reasons for not replying etc. Some are twats, some are just too busy to answer shit loads of messages etc.

Be happy with yourself then it doesn’t matter as much. You could meet the perfect person for you but if you aren’t happy being you then it won’t ever be enough anyway.

So when this happens, spend the energy messaging someone else and not feeling down about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Op that's not rude what's rude here is when you are talking back and forth with someone and all is well and as soon as you send pics they asked for the block you.

I agree hate this and its why a lot of genuine guys are reluctant to send pics. If someone says they want to swap pics they should honour it and send one back regardless as its just general manners."

It’s not very kind to just block with no explanation, but no one is obliged to send a face pic if they choose not to. Manners have nothing to do with it

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Op that's not rude what's rude here is when you are talking back and forth with someone and all is well and as soon as you send pics they asked for the block you.

I agree hate this and its why a lot of genuine guys are reluctant to send pics. If someone says they want to swap pics they should honour it and send one back regardless as its just general manners.

It’s not very kind to just block with no explanation, but no one is obliged to send a face pic if they choose not to. Manners have nothing to do with it "

This is why I won’t even consider a message if the person doesn’t attach a face pic or have one on their profile. I’ve had too many occasions when I’ve replied to a message without one only to find down the line that I don’t fancy them at all. But because you’re talking to them they still expect you to meet them. Now it’s a firm rule, no reply without a face pic. Having said that, if they send one and I don’t fancy them I still won’t reply, and I certainly won’t send one back for them to do god knows what with out of spite for me not wanting to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow, never, ever seen a comment like this before

Have you familiarised yourself with the site rules OP?

It specifucally states under site FAQ's that a non-response should be regarded as a 'no, thank you'. And it is explained why.

But, to put it another way, you know all those take away menus that get posted through your door?

You haven't asked for them, añd yet you've been 'sent' them anyway. Do you phone all the relevant establishments to tell them you're not interested?

Of course you don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You send a genuine message, nice photos face and tasteful others, bi requirements met, accom met! Pretty much on point only to be ignored! Some rude peasants with zero manners on here! Such a shame for nice people! "

I’m a peasant I’d pass you a tissue for those tears but you’re mean

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By *ixen-XWoman
over a year ago

Unicornville Utopia And Lovin It X

I have experienced this TWICE now but if I'm sat on fab all day and especially if I have a meet up and I reply to each and every message with a thanks but no thanks then after too many messages spam filters kick in and it says I've exceeded my limit of messages for the day and that's even with paying site supporter..very frustrating if I'm looking for a meet and I can't respond to messages until after midnight...so that is another reason on top of simply havnt got the time that some have to consider and think of ...its not being rude when you want to make sure you are not disabled from sending messages out so save them for the ones you want to message

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex


"I have experienced this TWICE now but if I'm sat on fab all day and especially if I have a meet up and I reply to each and every message with a thanks but no thanks then after too many messages spam filters kick in and it says I've exceeded my limit of messages for the day and that's even with paying site supporter..very frustrating if I'm looking for a meet and I can't respond to messages until after midnight...so that is another reason on top of simply havnt got the time that some have to consider and think of ...its not being rude when you want to make sure you are not disabled from sending messages out so save them for the ones you want to message "

What was the limit per day ?

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By *ixen-XWoman
over a year ago

Unicornville Utopia And Lovin It X

I'm not quite sure to be honest ....last week I ran out at 23.57 so only 3 minutes to wait lol but at the weekend it was 23.00 so I had a whole hour where I couldn't send any messages out x

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley


"...to put it another way, you know all those take away menus that get posted through your door?

You haven't asked for them, añd yet you've been 'sent' them anyway. Do you phone all the relevant establishments to tell them you're not interested?

Of course you don't"

No, but I do tell Television Licensing that I don't want to play.

Also Sky TV who circumvent the mailing preference laws by writing to me, not by name but as 'The TV lover'(at my address). They have no idea how wide they are of the mark!

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