FabSwingers.com forum: How do you make friends?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Even before covid I really struggled to meet new people outside if work. Where have you met like minded people?

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By *all me FlikWoman
over a year ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

Pubs, clubs, coffee shops, out on walks, all sorts of places.

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Fucking hard at the mo.. no use on here, no pubs open and hardly anyone at work .... and as for normal dating sites, don’t make me laugh ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's definitely a tricky one at the moment.

In normal times I would suggest having a look at the social and club events on here.

Maybe that's something worth considering in the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even before covid I really struggled to meet new people outside if work. Where have you met like minded people?"

I think it's important to have meaningful common interests for lasting friendships. So, perhaps think of what you enjoy doing regularly - could be walking, cooking, cycling, gym, travel - whatever, and try and connect with people who have those shared interests.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

The friends I have that aren’t from school we’re met at work, through hobbies or through Fab.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Even before covid I really struggled to meet new people outside if work. Where have you met like minded people?

Maybe it's just me but I've joined a few share interest groups and they have been sooooooo dull. I find it really boring talking about one activity for hours lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

As you grow older it becomes more difficult unless you're someone who's a "joiner" ie gets involved in clubs, committees, internet groups etc. I think it also depends on how you define friend, I have 2 possibly 3 people I call friend although I know many more. It takes me a long while before I become friends with someone

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As you grow older it becomes more difficult unless you're someone who's a "joiner" ie gets involved in clubs, committees, internet groups etc. I think it also depends on how you define friend, I have 2 possibly 3 people I call friend although I know many more. It takes me a long while before I become friends with someone

3 friends! Such a show off

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I don’t.

I’m resigned to die alone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hobbies are always a good place to start. I've met so many good friends just because I ride a motorcycle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Comic cons, coffee shops, classes/workshops and through fab. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You are the second to say coffee shop... I don't understand how this works, do you just sit next to someone and start talking?

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

I don’t have many friends lots of acquaintances though.

A true friend requires trust and generally stands the test of time.

Getting to know people I find does come quite easy however and I feel it’s about being interested in them and paying attention to them.

In reality I have to resort to making my friends from modelling clay like Wallace and gromit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have met them here. Also there and everywhere.

I will be your friend OP

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have met them here. Also there and everywhere.

I will be your friend OP"

That's a kind offer lol. As long as we don't have to talk about rugby...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

3 friends! Such a show off"

yeah well I'm popular, what can I say

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Most of my proper friends I met when I had my children, at baby groups etc. I've always been quite shy but when I had kids I made a conscious decision to put myself 'out there' a bit more.

Do you go to the gym?

Keep on touch with school/college people?

In a football team?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Most of my proper friends I met when I had my children, at baby groups etc. I've always been quite shy but when I had kids I made a conscious decision to put myself 'out there' a bit more.

Do you go to the gym?

Keep on touch with school/college people?

In a football team?

I find at the gym everyone is in there own little work out bubble so not the best place to meet people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In general, I don't

I have 3/4 good friends who know me inside out

The rest are colleagues or friends of friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have met them here. Also there and everywhere.

I will be your friend OP

That's a kind offer lol. As long as we don't have to talk about rugby..."

We could start with cake?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have met them here. Also there and everywhere.

I will be your friend OP

That's a kind offer lol. As long as we don't have to talk about rugby...

We could start with cake?"

Which type?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Even before covid I really struggled to meet new people outside if work. Where have you met like minded people?"

I found connections on my local FB pages, I joined a slimming group (which is virtual at the minute) I also buddy run with a few ladies in my village, which is nice.

It's difficult at the minute to start things though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've met many long term friends from my art work, you have to fund a commonality to connect with others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have met them here. Also there and everywhere.

I will be your friend OP

That's a kind offer lol. As long as we don't have to talk about rugby...

We could start with cake?

Which type?"

Why limit ourselves to one? Let’s explore all the cakes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You are the second to say coffee shop... I don't understand how this works, do you just sit next to someone and start talking?"

I'm a support worker, and I support a young gentleman with autism. Because of how his support works, and his routines etc He visits the same costa coffee everyday at the same time, some other people seem to do the same, and Bingo connections have been made, to the extent that I know they make an effort to still be there at the same time, it was purely accidental, but has made a huge impact on his confidence, self esteem and communication skills

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By *ilfCrumpet9Man
over a year ago

Wirral

"I have met them here. Also there and everywhere.

I will be your friend OP

That's a kind offer lol. As long as we don't have to talk about rugby..."

When you are out and about smile say hello to people or good morning, afternoon. I was like you very shy and reserved and never spoke to anyone but now I will talk to strangers out shopping. I have even photo bombed people taking selfies and had a good laugh. Just be your self mate you will be surprised that people do actually want a chat especially the oldies. Add me as a friend and we can get chatting

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

There is a site called meetup that has all different kinds of socials going off in local areas. Obviously not at the moment. My closest friends i met through school and work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There is a site called meetup that has all different kinds of socials going off in local areas. Obviously not at the moment. My closest friends i met through school and work"

I dipped my nose into that a couple of years ago, but got the impression that a few of local groups were run as fab socials

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There is a site called meetup that has all different kinds of socials going off in local areas. Obviously not at the moment. My closest friends i met through school and work

I dipped my nose into that a couple of years ago, but got the impression that a few of local groups were run as fab socials

Is that good or bad?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"There is a site called meetup that has all different kinds of socials going off in local areas. Obviously not at the moment. My closest friends i met through school and work

I dipped my nose into that a couple of years ago, but got the impression that a few of local groups were run as fab socials

Really. I think wherever a group of men and women get together a percentage will be looking to hook up. I've never used meetup but was looking at a local group just before covid.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

repetition is good. As finchee said. If you do the same thing at the same time you find others do. Whether its out wslking, coffee shop, pub swimming. You start by smiling then a hello then passing the time of day and it goes from there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"repetition is good. As finchee said. If you do the same thing at the same time you find others do. Whether its out wslking, coffee shop, pub swimming. You start by smiling then a hello then passing the time of day and it goes from there"

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Hobbies and voluntary work. Online as well - people knock it, but it can work quite well.

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By *uriouscouple83Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

"Hobbies and voluntary work. Online as well - people knock it, but it can work quite well."

Definitely this

I have made friends through voluntary work and hobbies. Mr got me some sewing lessons a few years ago and most of us on the course were still meeting up until lockdown version 1.0. We would have a glass or three of vino collapso, do a bit of sewing and have a chat. We called it the stitch and bitch.

We are both looking forward to meeting some of the people we have chatted to on here when conditions permit.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Hobbies and voluntary work. Online as well - people knock it, but it can work quite well.

Definitely this

We are both looking forward to meeting some of the people we have chatted to on here when conditions permit. "

I'm really looking forward to the next volunteer party. They put on some great shindigs

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

I think that's quite import.

What do you class as a friend ?

Is it someone who would be there for you in times of crisis or struggle, the times when other friends run for cover.

Or, do you class friends as the facebook type or work colleagues or just the odd people you meet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think that's quite import.

What do you class as a friend ?

Is it someone who would be there for you in times of crisis or struggle, the times when other friends run for cover.

Or, do you class friends as the facebook type or work colleagues or just the odd people you meet. "

I mean a person I actually want to spend time with. Work colleagues aren't friends.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I don't, mostly.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Work, Interest clubs, swinging clubs, Hobbies. Down the pub, renewing old acquaintances.

A girlfriend who stops and talks to everyone helps as well in our small little village.

Probably have a hardcore of 8 people who I would call solid dependable friends though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you have siblings? I find we adopt each others friends quite often. Or just other friends to sort some zoom quizzes with just now and get everyone to invite someone from outside the usual group. I think I'd struggle to make brand new friends from scratch too, I usually just expand the existing circle through association.

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By *picMan
over a year ago

Petworth

In a local town to me a bar/ coffee shop put a bench outside with a sign on it with words to the effect of the bench is there for people to chat to someone who want to basically have a talk to someone, stranger etc.

One day I thought I'd try this out and sat there for 20 minutes with no one even approaching ( this seat is in a main high st)

No one ever used the bench and it was eventually taken away......so why?

Would people be to embarrassed to sit there thinking others know they have no one to talk to or are people just not sociable.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"In a local town to me a bar/ coffee shop put a bench outside with a sign on it with words to the effect of the bench is there for people to chat to someone who want to basically have a talk to someone, stranger etc.

One day I thought I'd try this out and sat there for 20 minutes with no one even approaching ( this seat is in a main high st)

No one ever used the bench and it was eventually taken away......so why?

Would people be to embarrassed to sit there thinking others know they have no one to talk to or are people just not sociable."

Very few people are genuinely sociable. If you attend an event alone people stick in their groups and it's extremely difficult to walk up to a group and introduce yourself. There's usually one maybe two people who'll walk about chatting and introducing people to one another and sporting people who are alone and bringing them in to their group. Having attended mother and toddler groups and sat like a bad smell while everyone sat in little groups I try to he the person who notices the loner now.

However and this is no reflection on you, I wouldn't approach a lone man on my own.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I find it hard to make new friends if I’m honest OP. I’m very shy and unless someone strikes up a conversation with me then i don’t chat to anyone.

My last new friend was via School run as her child is in the same class as mine, and that was struck through sheer determination on her part to get a conversation out of me

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I find it hard to make new friends if I’m honest OP. I’m very shy and unless someone strikes up a conversation with me then i don’t chat to anyone.

My last new friend was via School run as her child is in the same class as mine, and that was struck through sheer determination on her part to get a conversation out of me

I'm not shy I just like very few people and very few people like me

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By *rre786Man
over a year ago

Reading

Can be difficult to make new friends, I find it tough. But then I know others that genuinely can (and have) made friends with random people at coffee shops. But that is some next level social skills that I don't possess...

Mutual interests are a great place to start. My newest friends have all come through joining groups that interest me, and over time a shared interests become many shared interests becomes a friendship. Pick an activity you enjoy and join a group for it, either (or at least initially) online, and then in real life...

Good luck OP.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

'Pick an activity you enjoy and join a group for it... ' I've tried this and I just end up surrounded by bores...

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By *uriouscouple83Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

"'Pick an activity you enjoy and join a group for it... ' I've tried this and I just end up surrounded by bores..."

Was the activity train spotting?

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

"'Pick an activity you enjoy and join a group for it... ' I've tried this and I just end up surrounded by bores...

Was the activity train spotting?"

No wild pig farming.

Oh bores ........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s a tough one! Maybe on a website for likeminded individuals?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Run over to people I like the look of.

Lick there foreheads.

Handcuff them and say were fwriends now and forever

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Travelling

"Run over to people I like the look of.

Lick there foreheads.

Handcuff them and say were fwriends now and forever "

This is the way

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Exercise pursuits, travel, other hobby interests, via friends, pubs and clubs, random connections in public, anywhere I am is always an opportunity to be snubbed or make contact with others

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

Carefully....there are some proper arseholes out there hiding behind a mask of niceness

You have been warned!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"'Pick an activity you enjoy and join a group for it... ' I've tried this and I just end up surrounded by bores..."

Are you giving these bores a chance? Once you're past the initial awkward conversations they might not be quite so boring.

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By *all me FlikWoman
over a year ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

"You are the second to say coffee shop... I don't understand how this works, do you just sit next to someone and start talking?"

Yes, but ask to sit with them first....this is what I did when I met my now partner.

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

At work, friends of friends, volunteering groups, university, parenting groups, conferences. I’m often picking up new friends, I just seem to gather them

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

"Even before covid I really struggled to meet new people outside if work. Where have you met like minded people?"

Outside swinging, loads of places.

We went to dancing classes, really funny.

Pub, RSPCA dog walking group, sea kayaking group.

Try joining a charity or group helping people or animals.

Tend to be nice selfless folk, it's a great alternative to gang bangs

There are numerous groups and associations, try going into your local library and asking about groups.

But like everything in life, you have to put in effort.

Have fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I give them chocolate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Other dating sites have worked for me, the munch meets from a certain other adult site were always helpful. It is just kinda difficult when you find people interesting and enjoy conversation and sharing all sorts limited not only by this years current events but also by how a lot of people perceive the idea of having a friend of somebody that might actually show guanine interest in you.

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By *arquisdesade121Man
over a year ago

Lincoln

I have a massive problem making friends as well

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Museums, all those lady curators all wear stockings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read a story online bout a lad saying he has no mates. No1 makes real mates over 30 and it hit home I moved to Edinburgh and I've my core mates in Ireland and work people I get on with but Jesus it can get lonely. Colleagues are just that.im grand with the fact but I see how people struggle especially younger folk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People are c**ts

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By *addyBabygirl2020Couple
over a year ago

norwich

"Even before covid I really struggled to meet new people outside if work. Where have you met like minded people?

This is Excellent advice from The last Titan.

Its definitely harder to build strong friendships as you get older.

In my mid 30's I had either lost touch with, or needed to distance myself from my old friends.

I took up strength sports and though that I have built up some excellent and very healthy friendships.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to not make friends and am quite happy about that (I'm not particularly sociable either).

When I was at school/college/work places people would make me their friend - which would last for a while and then I'd drift away from them.

I have a close family and most of my time is taken up with family stuff anyway.

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By *nglander2000Man
over a year ago

NORTHAMPTON NEAR M1 JCN 15A

Altho I can't stand them a dog seems to be a good ice-breaker and could be the start of some beautiful friendships - just get one that's cute and unyappy !

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