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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I truly feeling old and ugly I think fab makes me worse

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By *awk90Man
over a year ago

Amsterdam

Time to take a break then, I would say.

I take fab breaks for a month or two when I get to that state. It is not good for my self confidence in general

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Trust me OP 36 is not old, and "ugly" is subjective but if you truly think Fab is making you feel worse about yourself then maybe time to step away from it for a while?

Or work out why it's making you feel that way and do something about it because everything about your experience of the site is in your hands to control - whilst you can't, of course, force people to find you attractive, you can try and alter your mindset to a more laid back one that doesn't place too much expectation on the site and takes more of a "whatever will be, will be" approach.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That photo certainly isn't ugly! I would kill for a body like yours

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

Wait till u get my age lol.. but so many are right, fab ain’t good to guys at times ..

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

36 is not old.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I agree if Fab (or any other site) is contributing to your negative self impression you need to take a break.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

This site can shred your self-confidence if you let it.

As Gemini Man has said, you are in control of your experience on here. Right now with covid restrictions a lot of people aren't meeting, which means fewer people chatting than normal (and it's tough to get decent responses even in non-covid times).

The more lightheartedly you use the site, the more fun it can be, but as most posters have said, if it's not fun then take a break and come back refreshed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have to stop being dick feeling sorry for myself and get over it I have always struggled with my the way I look with all the lock down gym and sports think it has took its toll

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

If you're young & ugly, then I'm bloody past it & need a paper bag over my head.

Positive thinking & keep smiling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have to stop being dick feeling sorry for myself and get over it I have always struggled with my the way I look with all the lock down gym and sports think it has took its toll"

You are allowed to feel down and sorry for yourself it's just part of being human. We all have those days but they do pass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Darling, 36 is not old!

You’re only as old as you feel, so start feeling as young as you are. The world is still very much your oyster and age is a poor way to measure a full life

As for ugly, you have a cracking body from what I can see. Breath and don’t let fab get you down. If it isn’t fun, take a break! X

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I have to stop being dick feeling sorry for myself and get over it I have always struggled with my the way I look with all the lock down gym and sports think it has took its toll"

No, you absolutely do not have to "get over it", nor is there anything "dick" about feeling sorry for yourself - what you *do* have to do though is find what works for you to help getting past the way you are feeling right now - for some it'll be talking to people about the way they feel, for others meditation works, or exercise, or self-help videos/books or any number of other things but you absolutely do not have to simply "get over it" or "snap out of it" or any of the other manly phrases that you may think of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have to stop being dick feeling sorry for myself and get over it I have always struggled with my the way I look with all the lock down gym and sports think it has took its toll

No, you absolutely do not have to "get over it", nor is there anything "dick" about feeling sorry for yourself - what you *do* have to do though is find what works for you to help getting past the way you are feeling right now - for some it'll be talking to people about the way they feel, for others meditation works, or exercise, or self-help videos/books or any number of other things but you absolutely do not have to simply "get over it" or "snap out of it" or any of the other manly phrases that you may think of."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's simple but go for a walk somewhere green, being in nature is incredibly therapeutic.

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia

I turned 39 yesterday I feel old

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"I turned 39 yesterday I feel old "

You look great though, don’t let age way you down.

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By *urora1912Woman
over a year ago

Norfolk East anglia


"I turned 39 yesterday I feel old

You look great though, don’t let age way you down. "

Ah thanks

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By *addyBabygirl2020Couple
over a year ago

norwich


"I truly feeling old and ugly I think fab makes me worse "

If this is a shameless "look at me" post it worked! Send us a DM mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The mind is a bastard at times

Most of the time, I think I look pretty good for my age, yet other times I revert back to 'hiding' myself away from people and feeling shitty

I find Fab isn't a great place to be when I'm in that mindset, more so if I am interested in actually engaging people as opposed to just hanging around the Forums

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By *heekyweebissimWoman
over a year ago

fife,

We all feel like this sometimes, allow yourself a day to feel crap and know tomorrow won’t be as bad.

Hugs

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"I truly feeling old and ugly I think fab makes me worse "

Sorry to hear that OP.

Maybe a good time to step back from FAB and work on your self esteem issues. You might be able to access councelling via work, or your GP that would be helpful.

Hug of support to you.

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

You look good to me, buddy. Fair play.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the positive feed back means a lot

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Thanks for all the positive feed back means a lot "

You are not ugly or old if you need to talk email me xx

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

If you're old, then so am I (I'm 35). Why do you think you feel that way, OP?

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By *ntrigued32Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

You look good to me.

Jo.Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you x kind words just a had a bad few days

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