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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Single M, with pictures of their cock & and a woman.

Am I right in thinking I feel somewhat uncomfortable that some of these woman won’t be aware of these pictures being public?? :|

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

You’re quite probably correct, and if a single m has photos of him a woman on his profile I tend to avoid

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Yep, More so if they’ve no verifications or none from females anyway.

Feel the same about all categories though. Couples with pics of another female in a home setting yet only verified by single males. Same thing, did they know he was taking the pic? More so if their back is to the camera etc.

S

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You’re quite probably correct, and if a single m has photos of him a woman on his profile I tend to avoid "

It just fills me with anxiety, like we don’t even know the premises of how they’ve come about etc. Like I’ve had ex partners etc, which in the past we’ve taken photos together.. But always thought out of respect, to delete them once you guys aren’t a thing???

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yep, More so if they’ve no verifications or none from females anyway.

Feel the same about all categories though. Couples with pics of another female in a home setting yet only verified by single males. Same thing, did they know he was taking the pic? More so if their back is to the camera etc.

S"

True, it’s not just single males. Your aren’t wrong about couple profiles either, like you could have a genuine couple but the girlfriend/wife not knowing the pictures are on the site? :/

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

It's a good filter. They won't be coming anywhere near my wife as I wouldn't want her photo used on their profile in the future.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's a good filter. They won't be coming anywhere near my wife as I wouldn't want her photo used on their profile in the future. "

Honestly couldn’t blame you mate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I set my profile up just before last luckdown I had no vercatrions because of what's going on in the world at the minute photos I always like to have photo of myself on there sometimes a cock pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a photo of me on a play date and he also has the same photo in his gallery ...

Concerned friends of his reached out to tell him about the fake girl (me) who had stolen his photo

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I would only let good friends photograph me and they know i do not mind being on their profiles as they do not mind being on mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends on the image. If it's just something like a closeup of a cock up her bum and that's all you can see it's probably alright. People with BJ pics and ones where you can see faces is not unless she's agreed xx

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"You’re quite probably correct, and if a single m has photos of him a woman on his profile I tend to avoid "

Yes it's something that doesn't sit well with me, mostly due to consent concerns.

I use it as a filter and avoid.

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By *ympho6969Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

Having been threatened by people in the past stating the would release my photos online (not on here thankfully) I have become a lot more reserved in my photos. No faces or distinguishing marks.

Also means I don't allow photos to be taken at meets unless it becomes a regular thing and I trust the person. If they asked to use them in their profile I would need to think hard about it.

Really shocks me to hear people are using photos of others without concent on here. I'm surprised its allowed actually

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Really shocks me to hear people are using photos of others without concent on here. I'm surprised its allowed actually "

How would you police it though in reality?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree you shouldn’t use photos without consent.

However it seems people automatically assume they don’t have consent? They may have permission to use them.

Personally I don’t like those pictures in single profiles with or without consent

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By *ympho6969Woman
over a year ago

glasgow


"I agree you shouldn’t use photos without consent.

However it seems people automatically assume they don’t have consent? They may have permission to use them.

Personally I don’t like those pictures in single profiles with or without consent"

The OP stated he is doing it without permission

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

We only take photos during play with explicit permission from the people involved.

We have some from other fabbers that we haven’t and will not post or share as that was the condition that was agreed. If they ask us to delete the copies we have, we will.

The photos we post are to give an indication of what we do, which is less about vanilla sex amd more about our interests.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I also wonder how many of those women know or consent to that. Definite orange flag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find those images offputting, red flag for me tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single M, with pictures of their cock & and a woman.

Am I right in thinking I feel somewhat uncomfortable that some of these woman won’t be aware of these pictures being public?? :| "

I thought the same.

I find it weird that couples profiles where it’s like 10

Of the fat guys small cock and then one of the woman on the beach - she probably doesn’t know re profile has been created

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I avoid those profiles,

When they have multiple different women it smacks of not having much discretion too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is always our immediate thought, are the women aware? Or even men with the shoe on the other foot, as much as bareback pics are an instant alarm bell for us

J

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So what is the solution, only allow couples photos on couples profiles and completely single ones on single profiles - no hands /toes /dics /bits of bodies etc?

No multiple play on any profile ?

Let's say we implemented a double verification step.. You'd still have people circumventing it by getting someone else to say it was them?

I don't know how to solve?

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By *hysoseriouslyMan
over a year ago

Kent


"So what is the solution, only allow couples photos on couples profiles and completely single ones on single profiles - no hands /toes /dics /bits of bodies etc?

No multiple play on any profile ?

Let's say we implemented a double verification step.. You'd still have people circumventing it by getting someone else to say it was them?

I don't know how to solve? "

This is true, from a simple development point of view you couldn’t get real proof of the other party in the picture as you are still relying on the honesty and discretion of the person uploading the picture. If they say this is Sarah and here is her consent they can’t check it is her and she did indeed consent.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"Single M, with pictures of their cock & and a woman.

Am I right in thinking I feel somewhat uncomfortable that some of these woman won’t be aware of these pictures being public?? :| "

I would only ever allow use of MY camera so that I am in control of how the pics are used

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I agree you shouldn’t use photos without consent.

However it seems people automatically assume they don’t have consent? They may have permission to use them.

Personally I don’t like those pictures in single profiles with or without consent

The OP stated he is doing it without permission "

Yes and I’m saying how do we know someone is doing it without permission?

I for example feature in some pictures on a single woman’s profile. I gave permission. But on lookers don’t know that

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By *ympho6969Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

I think what we are learning most on this forum is about honesty. Some are blatantly honest and respectful, whereas others think this is non existent or falls under a grey area.

Other examples are married people claiming to be single. Couples profiles with only 1 person behind it. Stating safe sex and asking for bb. We all know people are guilty of these and its a main worry.

Maybe I am naive to think (wishful thinking) that people would be honest on a swinging site but this simply isn't true. Its a shame too for those genuine people here who don't play games.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I think it depends on the image. If it's just something like a closeup of a cock up her bum and that's all you can see it's probably alright. People with BJ pics and ones where you can see faces is not unless she's agreed xx"

If it's a single profile and the face of the person that's not the profile owner is clearly visible then I'd report it as it's against pic rules regardless of whether consent has been given.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"I think what we are learning most on this forum is about honesty. Some are blatantly honest and respectful, whereas others think this is non existent or falls under a grey area.

Other examples are married people claiming to be single. Couples profiles with only 1 person behind it. Stating safe sex and asking for bb. We all know people are guilty of these and its a main worry.

Maybe I am naive to think (wishful thinking) that people would be honest on a swinging site but this simply isn't true. Its a shame too for those genuine people here who don't play games. "

Absolutely honesty and trust are the key things here - sadly it's too easy to get caught up in the excitement of a "meet" and lose sight of some of those things, especially when all you really have to go on is words on a screen.

It's one reason that anyone I've met I've spent time getting to know them a little and building a level of trust before actually meeting, for their protection as much as my own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv pics of certain acts but with full consent off the third party. Think it depends of the individual and their profile how it’s laid out. You tend to get a feel if it’s not Sincere

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single M, with pictures of their cock & and a woman.

Am I right in thinking I feel somewhat uncomfortable that some of these woman won’t be aware of these pictures being public?? :|

I would only ever allow use of MY camera so that I am in control of how the pics are used "

But then what if someone stole your photo, you didn't know.. Said it was them and their mate and they had approval to show?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, some of us make a point of getting the consent of the people in our photos, but it makes no difference (even if you mention it.

I used to have a couple of photos of me on here with women, but for some reason us single men are considered weird for it. Whereas women can have photos of themselves sucking 5 dicks and everyone thinks that's hot.

The double/triple standards on here surrounding gender are staggering.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, some of us make a point of getting the consent of the people in our photos, but it makes no difference (even if you mention it.

I used to have a couple of photos of me on here with women, but for some reason us single men are considered weird for it. Whereas women can have photos of themselves sucking 5 dicks and everyone thinks that's hot.

The double/triple standards on here surrounding gender are staggering."

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By *adame 2SwordsWoman
over a year ago

Victoria, London

I've been the victim of revenge porn, with pics being sent to my neighbours, my business associates and family, to ruin my reputation. I had him arrested ut i make sure the pics are now mine, there are no copies and i ask permission before uploading

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By *ympho6969Woman
over a year ago

glasgow


"OP, some of us make a point of getting the consent of the people in our photos, but it makes no difference (even if you mention it.

I used to have a couple of photos of me on here with women, but for some reason us single men are considered weird for it. Whereas women can have photos of themselves sucking 5 dicks and everyone thinks that's hot.

The double/triple standards on here surrounding gender are staggering.

"

Maybe just me but I have never uploaded a pic with someone else in it. I have no plans to do this in future either but if I did, it would be with their full concent or it simply wouldn't happen. I give respect and expect the same respect in turn.

There may be women out there who do this but I'm not one of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP, some of us make a point of getting the consent of the people in our photos, but it makes no difference (even if you mention it.

I used to have a couple of photos of me on here with women, but for some reason us single men are considered weird for it. Whereas women can have photos of themselves sucking 5 dicks and everyone thinks that's hot.

The double/triple standards on here surrounding gender are staggering.

Maybe just me but I have never uploaded a pic with someone else in it. I have no plans to do this in future either but if I did, it would be with their full concent or it simply wouldn't happen. I give respect and expect the same respect in turn.

There may be women out there who do this but I'm not one of them"

No it isn't just you, and no there's nothing right or wrong about posting photos of yourself with someone else. Everyone has the right to do so, regardless of what anyone else thinks.

This is one of the main problems on this site - bigotry and judgement of others. For a site that should be all about inclusivity, the so called 'community' on here, does literally nothing to support it's members.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been the victim of revenge porn, with pics being sent to my neighbours, my business associates and family, to ruin my reputation. I had him arrested ut i make sure the pics are now mine, there are no copies and i ask permission before uploading"

What a cunt! God is slow but sure he will

Have no luck x

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By *ympho6969Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

We simply agree to disagree on this matter. I see it as an invasion of privacy to have photos being used by people without my knowledge.

I choose to put photos up here for people to see. I choose not to engage in photos during meets to prevent people using them and displaying them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We simply agree to disagree on this matter. I see it as an invasion of privacy to have photos being used by people without my knowledge.

I choose to put photos up here for people to see. I choose not to engage in photos during meets to prevent people using them and displaying them. "

I think we're talking at cross purposes - I of course agree with you on revenge porn and whether or not you choose to have or show photos of you with others.

I'm talking about a slightly different point - to be clear, I mean it's OK to have photos of yourself with others with their consent.

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By *ympho6969Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

Ah, apologies. I thought you were advocating for using photos without consent. I must have read you comment wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah, apologies. I thought you were advocating for using photos without consent. I must have read you comment wrong. "

I was in part talking about the concept of photos with others - this is OK.

The issue of consent exists, but I was talking about them as separate issues.

Photos with others (as a concept) = OK

Photos with others with consent = OK

Photos of others without consent = not OK.

There

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been the victim of revenge porn, with pics being sent to my neighbours, my business associates and family, to ruin my reputation. I had him arrested ut i make sure the pics are now mine, there are no copies and i ask permission before uploading"

Jees that is disgusting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone I know had tons of her photos nicked from here and posted to a wank-forum for blokes who steal photos from the Internet.

They even found out where she works, lives and her FB profile etc - all posted to the wank site.

We had the Police involved and eventually it was all taken down but there are pages and pages of them online.

If you think Fab, or any other social media entity is in any way safe, you might as well leave your front door wide open.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah, apologies. I thought you were advocating for using photos without consent. I must have read you comment wrong.

I was in part talking about the concept of photos with others - this is OK.

The issue of consent exists, but I was talking about them as separate issues.

Photos with others (as a concept) = OK

Photos with others with consent = OK

Photos of others without consent = not OK.

There "

But even with this.. How do you 'prove' it to the rest of fab? So i show photos with consent of other party .. But how does anyone else know that i have consent?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah, apologies. I thought you were advocating for using photos without consent. I must have read you comment wrong.

I was in part talking about the concept of photos with others - this is OK.

The issue of consent exists, but I was talking about them as separate issues.

Photos with others (as a concept) = OK

Photos with others with consent = OK

Photos of others without consent = not OK.

There

But even with this.. How do you 'prove' it to the rest of fab? So i show photos with consent of other party .. But how does anyone else know that i have consent? "

I said exactly that in a previous post on this very thread. You can't prove anything even if you talk about it on your profile. Everyone on here thinks everyone who owns a penis is a liar, a thief and an Internet-wank-twat anyway.

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By *ympho6969Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

Herein lies the problem.

In an ideal world, only photos of others would be used on this site with concent. That would make things nice and simple but clearly not everyone agrees with this opinion. Hence the problem. Woukd make things so much easier if people were honest and considerate but oh well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Herein lies the problem.

In an ideal world, only photos of others would be used on this site with concent. That would make things nice and simple but clearly not everyone agrees with this opinion. Hence the problem. Woukd make things so much easier if people were honest and considerate but oh well"

Most of us ARE honest and considerate on here - sadly it's the photo collectors, abusive messages, time wasters, and fake profiles that mean everyone is basically awful to each other a lot of the time.

Fabswingers needs a good clean-up, but it'll never happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Herein lies the problem.

In an ideal world, only photos of others would be used on this site with concent. That would make things nice and simple but clearly not everyone agrees with this opinion. Hence the problem. Woukd make things so much easier if people were honest and considerate but oh well"

I think we are in loud agreement lol, but perhaps talking past each other... that is what we are saying... How would you establish consent and police it and let others know you had consent ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah, apologies. I thought you were advocating for using photos without consent. I must have read you comment wrong.

I was in part talking about the concept of photos with others - this is OK.

The issue of consent exists, but I was talking about them as separate issues.

Photos with others (as a concept) = OK

Photos with others with consent = OK

Photos of others without consent = not OK.

There

But even with this.. How do you 'prove' it to the rest of fab? So i show photos with consent of other party .. But how does anyone else know that i have consent?

I said exactly that in a previous post on this very thread. You can't prove anything even if you talk about it on your profile. Everyone on here thinks everyone who owns a penis is a liar, a thief and an Internet-wank-twat anyway.

"

Awwe i don't think you are an Internet-wank-twat

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By *ympho6969Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

Not at all. I dont tar groups with the same brush.

There are good men on here and not so good men. Good women and not so good women. Good couples and not so good couples.

I hate being judged by the actions of others to try my best not to do the same with other people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And how are you going to implement that? Asking the person on the picture to sign it? Giving a letter of consent with her name on it and telephone number to check if it’s actually her who sign it? Lots of people take pictures during their sex party! If they didn’t want to share it they won’t take the risk to allow it. Example leaving your phone at the entrance simple. If they wanted picture taken they would ask to have it done on their phone, it’s happen to me I always ask to use her phone. I don’t collect picture so I don’t care.

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By *ebel Red HotWoman
over a year ago

York


"You’re quite probably correct, and if a single m has photos of him a woman on his profile I tend to avoid "

Same hear it shows the man with them on lacks any discretion or respect for others and best avoided.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You’re quite probably correct, and if a single m has photos of him a woman on his profile I tend to avoid

Same hear it shows the man with them on lacks any discretion or respect for others and best avoided."

but how do you know he doesn't have permission?? Its blowing my mind this generalisation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am actually a massive twat. Just not an Internet-wank-twat

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By *lim and louiseCouple
over a year ago

dromore


"Single M, with pictures of their cock & and a woman.

Am I right in thinking I feel somewhat uncomfortable that some of these woman won’t be aware of these pictures being public?? :| "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't matter if the general population on here knows if you have consent - what matters is that you have consent.

The essence of consent, is the consent, not the proof of consent. You're mixing these things up.

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By *lim and louiseCouple
over a year ago

dromore


"Yep, More so if they’ve no verifications or none from females anyway.

Feel the same about all categories though. Couples with pics of another female in a home setting yet only verified by single males. Same thing, did they know he was taking the pic? More so if their back is to the camera etc.

S

True, it’s not just single males. Your aren’t wrong about couple profiles either, like you could have a genuine couple but the girlfriend/wife not knowing the pictures are on the site? :/ "

I would think there would be some questions why you taking so many photos of us in bed,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It doesn't matter if the general population on here knows if you have consent - what matters is that you have consent.

The essence of consent, is the consent, not the proof of consent. You're mixing these things up."

Yeah yeah i get that... But my play partner has permission to show our photo on his profile.. However comments here from others are implying because his profile is single male he is wrong to show it and likely doesn't have permission (even tho he does) .. So how would he prove he does..

... Or you are saying, he doesn't need to prove it to anyone... Just let those who decide to block because they see a female on his profile get on with it and not worry about them being clueless?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It doesn't matter if the general population on here knows if you have consent - what matters is that you have consent.

The essence of consent, is the consent, not the proof of consent. You're mixing these things up.

Yeah yeah i get that... But my play partner has permission to show our photo on his profile.. However comments here from others are implying because his profile is single male he is wrong to show it and likely doesn't have permission (even tho he does) .. So how would he prove he does..

... Or you are saying, he doesn't need to prove it to anyone... Just let those who decide to block because they see a female on his profile get on with it and not worry about them being clueless?

"

Very much the latter.

Public opinion also brought us Brexit, remember.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It doesn't matter if the general population on here knows if you have consent - what matters is that you have consent.

The essence of consent, is the consent, not the proof of consent. You're mixing these things up.

Yeah yeah i get that... But my play partner has permission to show our photo on his profile.. However comments here from others are implying because his profile is single male he is wrong to show it and likely doesn't have permission (even tho he does) .. So how would he prove he does..

... Or you are saying, he doesn't need to prove it to anyone... Just let those who decide to block because they see a female on his profile get on with it and not worry about them being clueless?

Very much the latter.

Public opinion also brought us Brexit, remember."

'kk gotcha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single M, with pictures of their cock & and a woman.

Am I right in thinking I feel somewhat uncomfortable that some of these woman won’t be aware of these pictures being public?? :|

I thought the same.

I find it weird that couples profiles where it’s like 10

Of the fat guys small cock and then one of the woman on the beach - she probably doesn’t know re profile has been created"

There’s also the couples profiles that have dozens of photos of the woman, and none of the man. If I’m interested in a couple, I’d like to see what both look like!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Based on a lot of what goes on in here, the reality is that many women probably won't believe a guy on here when he says he has consent to show almost identifiable pics of a woman on his profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Based on a lot of what goes on in here, the reality is that many women probably won't believe a guy on here when he says he has consent to show almost identifiable pics of a woman on his profile "

Actually if it is somebody i start to chat to, then i take my time getting to know the person... You can easily figure out the players, chancers and sort the wheat from the chaff that way. Once you know the person it is much easier to use your judgement regarding whether they are trying to deceive you. Fortunately I've not been in a situation where I've been burned

Although i have discovered two men who stole my photos and put them on their profiles, but Admin were amazing at sorting that issue out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep, More so if they’ve no verifications or none from females anyway.

Feel the same about all categories though. Couples with pics of another female in a home setting yet only verified by single males. Same thing, did they know he was taking the pic? More so if their back is to the camera etc.

Only thing I want to comment on about verified single males, it's a catch 22 with this as if we cant get a meet because not been verified by a woman and meet then how are we supposed to get verified?

S"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Based on a lot of what goes on in here, the reality is that many women probably won't believe a guy on here when he says he has consent to show almost identifiable pics of a woman on his profile

Actually if it is somebody i start to chat to, then i take my time getting to know the person... You can easily figure out the players, chancers and sort the wheat from the chaff that way. Once you know the person it is much easier to use your judgement regarding whether they are trying to deceive you. Fortunately I've not been in a situation where I've been burned

Although i have discovered two men who stole my photos and put them on their profiles, but Admin were amazing at sorting that issue out "

You're still only going to have their word though

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire


"We only take photos during play with explicit permission from the people involved.

We have some from other fabbers that we haven’t and will not post or share as that was the condition that was agreed. If they ask us to delete the copies we have, we will.

The photos we post are to give an indication of what we do, which is less about vanilla sex amd more about our interests.

"

Great post

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Here's what the pic rules say about others in pics:

Others in your photo OK so long as faces are obscured and you have permission. You can have other people in your photos too (to clarify, you must also be in the photo) so long as you have their permission to upload to your account on here AND their faces are obscured (face pixellated or blacked out; just blacking out the eyes is NOT ok).

So the site take a "consent is presumed" view - which (without a very complicated system of verification that would be both expensive and time consuming) is about all they can do really - the only possible other way to "police" the situation would be that all parties in the pics had to be pic verified Fab members and able to confirm their consent via a tool - but even that is both complicated and open to question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do think who ever you have in your pictures they should be told where your going to share them with others and how about males in females profile pictures.

Are men less bothered about there privacy.

Oh and the guy in my pics knows as he's also on here before I get called a hypocrite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I feel uncomfortable is how some here assume, prejudge and execute without being 100% sure about the profile? Why don’t you ask if you are interested in that person ? And if you are not, why bother? It fuel more and more doubts and negativity on profile days after days on this forum.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"What I feel uncomfortable is how some here assume, prejudge and execute without being 100% sure about the profile? Why don’t you ask if you are interested in that person ? And if you are not, why bother? It fuel more and more doubts and negativity on profile days after days on this forum. "

Who's being executed? Personally, it makes me uncomfortable, and I'm inclined to avoid (although I say orange rather than red flag). That's my absolute prerogative for any or no reason.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland


"Single M, with pictures of their cock & and a woman.

Am I right in thinking I feel somewhat uncomfortable that some of these woman won’t be aware of these pictures being public?? :| "

There was something in another forum post about this a week or so ago.

I strongly disagree with single profiles having pics up of other people as well as couples with pics etc of parties.

We’ve had pics disapproved like spanking and light bdsm, but a single male profile can put pics up of a woman for example.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Based on a lot of what goes on in here, the reality is that many women probably won't believe a guy on here when he says he has consent to show almost identifiable pics of a woman on his profile

Actually if it is somebody i start to chat to, then i take my time getting to know the person... You can easily figure out the players, chancers and sort the wheat from the chaff that way. Once you know the person it is much easier to use your judgement regarding whether they are trying to deceive you. Fortunately I've not been in a situation where I've been burned

Although i have discovered two men who stole my photos and put them on their profiles, but Admin were amazing at sorting that issue out

You're still only going to have their word though "

Yes.. There comes an element of trust at some point? It's like me telling you I have a degree.. I could print something off the internet or show you a real one I'd nicked off someone else. .. How would you know? You'd have to trust me?

Ok, lets spin it.. You have men in several of your pics ... Do you have their consent and how do you prove it if people ask?

Lets play devils advocate and go even further.... How do you prove your photos are really you? At some point there has to be an element of trust? Which comes after getting to know someone... Ultimately if its a scammer , they'll tell you whatever you want to hear regardless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single M, with pictures of their cock & and a woman.

Am I right in thinking I feel somewhat uncomfortable that some of these woman won’t be aware of these pictures being public?? :|

There was something in another forum post about this a week or so ago.

I strongly disagree with single profiles having pics up of other people as well as couples with pics etc of parties.

We’ve had pics disapproved like spanking and light bdsm, but a single male profile can put pics up of a woman for example. "

But spanking is against the Gov rules of decency.. Along with several other things that it is not legal to depict... Female ejaculation being one of those!

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland


"Single M, with pictures of their cock & and a woman.

Am I right in thinking I feel somewhat uncomfortable that some of these woman won’t be aware of these pictures being public?? :|

There was something in another forum post about this a week or so ago.

I strongly disagree with single profiles having pics up of other people as well as couples with pics etc of parties.

We’ve had pics disapproved like spanking and light bdsm, but a single male profile can put pics up of a woman for example.

But spanking is against the Gov rules of decency.. Along with several other things that it is not legal to depict... Female ejaculation being one of those! "

Wasn’t actual spanking, just a very red bum in the pic.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Single M, with pictures of their cock & and a woman.

Am I right in thinking I feel somewhat uncomfortable that some of these woman won’t be aware of these pictures being public?? :|

There was something in another forum post about this a week or so ago.

I strongly disagree with single profiles having pics up of other people as well as couples with pics etc of parties.

We’ve had pics disapproved like spanking and light bdsm, but a single male profile can put pics up of a woman for example.

But spanking is against the Gov rules of decency.. Along with several other things that it is not legal to depict... Female ejaculation being one of those! "

That ruling was overturned a year or so ago - although does leave a grey area as a lot of what is allowed now is reliant on, and here comes that word again (!!) consent, so Fab errs on the side of caution by not allowing that type of pic

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

As it's pretty much impossible to prove/verify consent on a photo, I think single profiles (be they male or female) just shouldn't have pics of others included.

Black and white, perfectly clear, easy to monitor/moderate.

I don't need or want to see someone balls deep in a random.

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"Yep, More so if they’ve no verifications or none from females anyway.

Feel the same about all categories though. Couples with pics of another female in a home setting yet only verified by single males. Same thing, did they know he was taking the pic? More so if their back is to the camera etc.

Only thing I want to comment on about verified single males, it's a catch 22 with this as if we cant get a meet because not been verified by a woman and meet then how are we supposed to get verified?

S"

This one is old news & four odd years ago as an unverified newbie couple we were in the same boat, couldn’t get anyone local to meet, not even for a social after months.

So we went to a club, in one night I think we got three or four social veries.

No good now obviously but unless you have something outstanding about you chances are a cam or club/large social veri is where you need to look.

Going back to the photo thing there’s not a lot we can do apart from as with anything else due diligence. As I said earlier a profile with others in pics, no veries or ones from the wrong sex & we’d automatically avoid them.

As someone else said there are so many things to look out for, the couple with holiday type snaps of her or obvious selfies taken interspersed with pictures of his dick is pretty standard now.

S

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By *ueenieHWoman
over a year ago

leeds

Any pics I gave with any males , I ask their permission and some with faces they go in friends only , but they also have the same pics on there profiles too

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