FabSwingers.com forum: Pointless

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So I'm told my profile is pointless. Seems someone being honest is rather offensive.

It got me thinking about people's profiles and how on a daily basis there are countless threads looking for profile feedback. Yet even those shadow pics and blank profiles have their place.

After all my years on here it's the first time I've been branded pointless.

I've had many insults, plenty personal attacks, but this seems to annoy me.

So I wonder, at what point would it be pointless to be here for you?

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By *affeine DuskMan
over a year ago

Caerphilly

It's not pointless, it's honest. I like it

As for when... probably when I run out of dick jokes and nice people to talk to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When nobody can actually meet up, and the forums are mostly dead. It's getting worryingly close

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess due to the laws of entropy ultimately everything is pointless, but we carry on regardless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see anything remotely pointless. It's clear, it's original and it's about what you want.

I would ignore the "criticism" and enjoy here for what you want from it.

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By *ermite12ukMan
over a year ago

Solihull and Brentwood

The person that said the untruth above. Sounds like troll to be honest. imho.

(In your thread you said you don't like negativity.) Not a criticism of your profile, honest. Mine is probably worse. But trolls feed off things like that, and then start pushing your buttons to get a reaction.

I'm almost certainly wrong but just my thoughts.

Ignore and move on. Your a beautiful woman. Who needs people like dat? xx

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Why do we focus on negativity, especially unsolicited from nonentities?

Your profile: like EVERY profile it won't have universal appeal. It's aimed at "like minded" people. Focus on that!

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By *axx82Man
over a year ago

Gloucester

I like it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing pointless about your profile - you say why you're here, what you are looking for and it shows your personality.

The only people who have a say on whether anyone shouldn't be here are the mods and administrators.

At this moment I don't think it would ever be pointless for me to be here because it gives me an outlet to express aspects of my sexuality I can't express elsewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like your profile. It’s clear and honest, and what’s wrong with what you’ve written.

Saves people wasting your time and theirs.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

your profile is well writing ,sounds honest , is clear and direct , myself i don't see any wrong with your profile at all . Focus on the ones they can bring you posivity everybody else just ignore it.

Now say with me : i'm not pointless i'm worthy .

Big kiss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would be pointless for me to be here if I wasn't feeling any joy when i log on

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Did they say it was pointless after you said no thanks to meeting them by any chance?!

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

I’d say if they messaged after reading your profile, didn’t fit & messaged anyway to advise of that nugget of information then it’s not your profile that’s pointless.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

It’s far from pointless because it gets across clearly what you want, as that’s the whole idea of a profile I’d say it’s spot on.

Perhaps it says more about the entitlement level of the person who commented?

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By *enbobjimMan
over a year ago

Wallasey

As everyone else no it’s not at all pointless clear concise and polite. It’s not what I’m looking for so I wouldn’t message you, job done nobody’s time wasted. People with petty lives feel the need to say petty things. Don’t take it to heart there’s more nice than nasty in the world thankfully. Please stay love your stories x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do we focus on negativity, especially unsolicited from nonentities?

Your profile: like EVERY profile it won't have universal appeal. It's aimed at "like minded" people. Focus on that!"

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By *all me FlikWoman
over a year ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

"I’d say if they messaged after reading your profile, didn’t fit & messaged anyway to advise of that nugget of information then it’s not your profile that’s pointless.

Exactly this. I'm regularly questioned as to why I'm here if I'm not prepared to meet anyone. When I mention the pandemic they seem surprised that this is a relevant factor. Theres absolutely nothing wrong with your profile OP.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

OP. The world is full of people that love to say “you are doing it wrong” take them for the one-dimensional, unimaginative, sad little mouth breathers that they are.

What possesses them to vocalise (or in the case of the internet, articulate with the written word) their opinion on another’s choices is beyond me.

OP if you like your profile, if it says what you want it to say, then surely that is all that matters.

As for when this all becomes pointless. When it no longer brings me joy, that’s the time to stop. When I use it as a crutch for my ego rather than something that makes me smile and laugh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When nobody can actually meet up, and the forums are mostly dead. It's getting worryingly close

Unfortunately I have to agree

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Why do we focus on negativity, especially unsolicited from nonentities?

Your profile: like EVERY profile it won't have universal appeal. It's aimed at "like minded" people. Focus on that!"

What this lady said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I bet I'm not the only person who thought this was a thread about the quiz.

The only pointless profiles on here are the fake and misleading ones.

OP yours is neither I don't understand why you even reacted to such a comment.

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By *enhamhoopMan
over a year ago

Denham

Well having read your profile cannot see why it would be branded as pointless. It is succinct and yes it is unusual to seek LTR and love on here but what's it got to do with anyone else.

If it wasn't for the fact you are up in Scotland and I am too old for your taste.

I would be endeavouring to give my best patter to make myself more interesting and intelligent than I really am

Anyhow best of luck in your search for Romance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not pointless at all!

I get the same comments though on a regular basis because of my profile.

I believe the site can be used as you wish, as long as you aren't harming anyone or breaking any rules.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's better than Eggheads, but is somewhat behind The Chase.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ur profile is definitely not pointless you stated what ur looking for if people can’t understand that or respect that then that’s they probable not urs

So don’t feel upset

And by looking at ur pics I would say people are completely bonkers not to give you a chance and see how things go

Ur a 20 out off 10 in my book drop dead beautiful with

Class and style to match c

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

That's an excellent profile.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

Can’t see why someone would say your profile is pointless ?

Only time I could see there being no point to us being on here is if we weren’t looking to even talk to others.

We’ve actually decided to take a break and turning our profile off/to private over the holidays.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love how some folk project onto others their interpretation of what swinging (and swingers) should look and behave like

Fab is a constant education in the narrow mindedness of some

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

Your profile is really good. To the point, genuine and stunning pics. Don't let someone who is totally clueless tell you otherwise.

I once got told I'm a very selfish person, because my profile is all about me

Still unsure who I was meant to write about instead on "my profile" x

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

And to answer your question, I'll permanently sign off once I stop enjoying the social events, private parties and clubs. These are the main reasons I'm on here, since one to one meets tend to fall through.

I'll definitely not leave because some dipper tells me my profile is wrong x

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

"So I'm told my profile is pointless. Seems someone being honest is rather offensive.

It got me thinking about people's profiles and how on a daily basis there are countless threads looking for profile feedback. Yet even those shadow pics and blank profiles have their place.

After all my years on here it's the first time I've been branded pointless.

I've had many insults, plenty personal attacks, but this seems to annoy me.

So I wonder, at what point would it be pointless to be here for you? "

How is it pointless

Each to their own, is that not what this mad house is all about.

And if 2020 did 1 thing, it is that even without meeting it proved there is good reason to be here, chats, banter, advice both giving and receiving, so naaa, whoever told you is talking shite,

Now, I have to ask OP

Are they rubber wellies in your last pic

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

If it had bothered you that much it may be because you are trying to assess whether you are getting out of Fab what you want and not that this cock womble triggered you?

Its a tough time with no events, no meets and it can seem pointless.

How many threads from guys wanting people to be fetish dispensers do we need?

As for when we would stop, I’d take a line out of the gambling profession; when the fun stops stop!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for all of your lovely comments. I think I'm a bit surprised it upset me to be honest but it certainly did hit a nerve. I guess when you've been single as long as I have you start to question if it's all pointless. Not just fab but dating or even hoping for someone. You start to question what's wrong with you when everyone else seems to manage and you don't! Also if actually you should just accept your place on the shelf and be done with it.

I've always maintained that no one should get upset over strangers on the Internet because they don't matter. I guess I must be feeling a bit vulnerable and it tipped me over! I blame the time of year.

Anyway, once again you lot prove there are many more lovely people than twatty ones.

Thank you and sorry for my rant.. I'll go back to being shiny and happy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I'm told my profile is pointless. Seems someone being honest is rather offensive.

It got me thinking about people's profiles and how on a daily basis there are countless threads looking for profile feedback. Yet even those shadow pics and blank profiles have their place.

After all my years on here it's the first time I've been branded pointless.

I've had many insults, plenty personal attacks, but this seems to annoy me.

So I wonder, at what point would it be pointless to be here for you? "

The fact this person has got to you is saddening ,no ones profile is pointless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Thank you for all of your lovely comments. I think I'm a bit surprised it upset me to be honest but it certainly did hit a nerve. I guess when you've been single as long as I have you start to question if it's all pointless. Not just fab but dating or even hoping for someone. You start to question what's wrong with you when everyone else seems to manage and you don't! Also if actually you should just accept your place on the shelf and be done with it.

Anyway, once again you lot prove there are many more lovely people than twatty ones.

Thank you and sorry for my rant.. I'll go back to being shiny and happy!

It's been a tough year, and even if it hasn't, we all have our moments of frailty. It's OK, you're OK. Big virtual germ free hugs if you want them

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

I cannot see how anyone could describe your profile as pointless, it might not be what THEY want to read but that is surely their problem not yours!!! lol Having said that I would say brush the stupid comment aside and move on

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I cannot see how anyone could describe your profile as pointless, it might not be what THEY want to read but that is surely their problem not yours!!! lol Having said that I would say brush the stupid comment aside and move on "

Yes, I think a lot of people say "pointless" or whatever when they mean "you won't give me what I want".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I genuinely agree with all the positive comments on that your profile is your profile and certainly isn't pointless but, if I'm honest, why are you on Fab considering what you are looking for and your desires?

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

I echo the positive comments above.

Sometimes people are just twats, and occasionally their twattishness gets to us when we're already feeling vulnerable.

Nobody on here needs to justify how they use this site or how they run their profile. This isn't an episode of Judge Judy; you don't need to explain yourself.

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