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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My Bro is getting married in a couple of month and two of our favorite cousins (we were far younger than them but we spent lots of time with them when we were kids) are not coming to the wedding cos they are not getting on with each other. I know that it is gonna devestate my brother if they are not there when the day comes. My old man is not very well at all (though he is not on death's door) and I fear that, since niether I nor any of their kids aint gonna get married any time soon, this might be the last time to get the family together for a big knees up before the worst hapens....

Should I get on the phone to each of them and tell em to get their head out of their arses? These sorts of things don't come round too often after all.

What does 'the collective' feel? Has anyone else been in this sort of position before?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

your brother should phone them and tell them he wants them to be there

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

either you or your brother should have a word, or both perhaps...

explain to them where your coming from and why you would like them there..

even if they put their tiff to one side 'for the family' so to speak that would be better than them not being there..

hope it works out, do love a wedding..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

6 years ago my brother and one brother in law fell out, neither would go if the other was there. Very difficult situation because my sister felt torn and their kids adore my brother. I told my brother to bite the bullet, sit down with our inlaw, act like grown men and sort it out as it was hurting not just the two of them, but everyone else in the family. All this just before Christmas, my first with the family since 95 They agreed to meet for a couple of drinks in a pub and pitched up at the folks pissed as farts and good buddies again. Turns out they both misunderstood the situation that caused the bust up.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

tough one....if they come but havent resolved their issues will it cause an atmosphere and rin yuor brothers day?

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

Its a tough one. Have been caught up in many a family conflict, which really isnt easy (especially with scousers at weddings... Joke btw im a scouser)

Just do what you feel is right. I have tried to create peace in many a family row, and it can and has gone both ways. I do hope it gets sorted for you and your family though x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My Bro is getting married in a couple of month and two of our favorite cousins (we were far younger than them but we spent lots of time with them when we were kids) are not coming to the wedding cos they are not getting on with each other. I know that it is gonna devestate my brother if they are not there when the day comes. My old man is not very well at all (though he is not on death's door) and I fear that, since niether I nor any of their kids aint gonna get married any time soon, this might be the last time to get the family together for a big knees up before the worst hapens....

Should I get on the phone to each of them and tell em to get their head out of their arses? These sorts of things don't come round too often after all.

What does 'the collective' feel? Has anyone else been in this sort of position before? "

not exactly this but it did help when I spoke two the antagonists when we had an issue in our family so I would say yes, try to make them see how selfish they are being.

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By *uicy lucy 12Woman
over a year ago

wirral

i think that they should get together before the wedding and sort their differences out..and your bro can explain how important families are and how much he would like them to be there!! good luck and enjoy the day

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It's a bot awkward to get everyone into a room, my bro is station down south so he can't get involved........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a bot awkward to get everyone into a room, my bro is station down south so he can't get involved........"

quite honestly it's sometimes a better idea to speak to peeps individually and then do a bit of go between, softly softly catchee monkey n all that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck with it. I've just been doing a mates head in this very evening about me sister and her husband lol!

Families can be a real downer at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does your cousins know that your dad is ill? you could have a friendly chat with them, but if they dont want to come then thats up to them.

we never go to weddings.

my hubby went to his nieces a few years ago, and didnt realy enjoy it.

last wedding i went to was when i was 10.

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