FabSwingers.com forum: Breakups

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why do breakups have to be so hard?

I was dating someone for over a year. Before the pandemic we really enjoyed hanging out and doing fun things together. Met her family, had holidays with them, talked about our future and thought I’d found the one. Then covid struck, the place she was living in was being knocked down so I offered for her to live at mine until we could afford our own place. We started living together since March just before the first lockdown. At the end of September we got our own place together. She started her new job at this point. Then out of the blue a couple of weeks ago she tells me she’s not happy, wants to focus on her job and that basically it’s over. I’m shocked by this, we leave it a week then talk again. But same conversation. So I agree to move out and accept the relationship is over. It’s now a week since I moved out and I’m devastated. First time I’ve really committed to a relationship and got so burned. I know things will be alright but I can’t help feeling so let down and hurt right now.

Anyone else been in this situation and can offer some advice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so sorry OP and break ups are never easy.

This has been a tricky year and Lots of people are generally just fed up so it may not be you as such just the situation as well as starting a new job and living together can be tricky.

The only advice I have is look after yourself the best you can. Have you got any contact, are you still friendly?

As hard as it is I would leave it a while and then maybe just send a non pressurised message to see how she is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best of luck op and keep busy if you can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm so sorry OP and break ups are never easy.

This has been a tricky year and Lots of people are generally just fed up so it may not be you as such just the situation as well as starting a new job and living together can be tricky.

The only advice I have is look after yourself the best you can. Have you got any contact, are you still friendly?

As hard as it is I would leave it a while and then maybe just send a non pressurised message to see how she is."

What's the point of that if it's over?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why do breakups have to be so hard?

Anyone else been in this situation and can offer some advice?

My advice is to never contact her, move on, start exercising, working out, eating healthy and sleeping right.

I feel for you, we've all been there. Had our hearts broken.

But you got to put it behind you and try to move on one day at a time.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Sadly relationships don’t come with a guarantee that they will last forever.

But you’ve loved, and you will love again.

Focus on the good times, don’t dwell on the bad. Look forwards, not backwards. Be kind to yourself and give yourself time.

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By *addyBabygirl2020Couple
over a year ago

norwich

My advice is to never contact her, move on, start exercising, working out, eating healthy and sleeping right.

I feel for you, we've all been there. Had our hearts broken.

But you got to put it behind you and try to move on one day at a time."

This is the best advice. Getting dumped always hurts and self esteem will be super low but staying in contact with her will only make it worse.

You may not feel liie it but putting time into yourself will help you feel better.

New clothes, haircut, get in shape and start talking to other women.

Get so good photos and get on tinder. Even if your not ready to date yet, chatting with some other girls and getting some attention will be a distraction and maybe boost your self esteem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got dumped 2 weeks into lockdown.

We were together for a few months before and she had said she loved etc but then said she couldn't deal with it.

We've remained really close friends though as our boys play football for the same teams

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

My advice is to never contact her, move on, start exercising, working out, eating healthy and sleeping right.

I feel for you, we've all been there. Had our hearts broken.

But you got to put it behind you and try to move on one day at a time.

This is the best advice. Getting dumped always hurts and self esteem will be super low but staying in contact with her will only make it worse.

You may not feel liie it but putting time into yourself will help you feel better.

New clothes, haircut, get in shape and start talking to other women.

Get so good photos and get on tinder. Even if your not ready to date yet, chatting with some other girls and getting some attention will be a distraction and maybe boost your self esteem."

He needs to sort himself out emotionally before he starts talking to other women.

So he doesn’t get himself in a situation he isn’t ready for and so he doesn’t hurt anyone’s feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t message her

It’s hard but time does honestly make things easier. This year has been hard on many couples. Just be kind to yourself. She obviously wasn’t right for you but you will find someone who is one day, though I’m sure it doesn’t feel like that right now.

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