FabSwingers.com forum: moral of the story

By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

is don't go far to meet a meet because if it don't go to plan you get dumped at a train station and tell you to make your own way back.... lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't go anywhere without an exit plan, that works for me.

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Don't go anywhere without an exit plan, that works for me.

lol thank God for trains lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that's just plain rude, next time let them come to your town, that way you don't have far to go. lol

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"that's just plain rude, next time let them come to your town, that way you don't have far to go. lol"

it will teach me for thinking that you will get along and everything will be ok.. ah well xxx

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By *irtydanMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

he sounds a real gem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like you had a lucky escape

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

its a horrible thing to have happen, hope you didnt have to wait too long x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its a horrible thing to have happen, hope you didnt have to wait too long x"

Don't you do that to me in august. Lol

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

And guys wonder why I turn them down at first message cos they're too far away!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"its a horrible thing to have happen, hope you didnt have to wait too long x

Don't you do that to me in august. Lol"

its alright....diamondsmiles will look after you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I remember a guy posting a few months back who had met another guy. This guy left him in a country lane to make his way home. It was awful. Some people have no consideration for others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's times like this we should be able to name and shame.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its a horrible thing to have happen, hope you didnt have to wait too long x

Don't you do that to me in august. Lol

its alright....diamondsmiles will look after you

I don't know which would scare me more! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apologies for being blunt, but you met, he didnt fancy it, so what's the problem. Did you expect a lift back to your door? If a single guy had posted this think the reaction would have been a lot different.

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

we live and learn. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By the way guys & girls it was me, if anybody wants to know!!!!

I'm not going into details as to why i didn't feel happy or how i liked the evening!!

Suffice to say, i had a drink didn't think it was the right thing to do "drink & drive"..so i suggested the train station dropped the lady of, even suggested to pay...so i don't think morally i did anything wrong...feel free to comment!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's always good to see two sides and well done for putting your point across. Will leave it for you two to sort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Said our piece above, just because someone says there gonna meet, doesn't mean there under any obligation to do anything.

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I never suggested that anyone did anything wrong or there was any form of obligation to do anything. I was maybe a harsh in posting and in no way have anyone done wrong. it happens... yes train ticket was offered which was very kind.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

good on you for putting your side of the evening across. It is a risk we take when goig to meet anybody, there is no guarantee that you will get on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny how the tone changed as soon as the other party steps into the ring...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's times like this we should be able to name and shame. "

So name and shame what exactly? Two people meet, don't get on and go there separate ways, what's the problem!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never suggested that anyone did anything wrong or there was any form of obligation to do anything. I was maybe a harsh in posting and in no way have anyone done wrong. it happens... yes train ticket was offered which was very kind. "

Perhaps using the 'term' dumped and no mention of the offer of the train ticket being bought gave folks an initial _iew that wasn't quite true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can we tag this thread for the next time someone suggests naming and shaming...;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's times like this we should be able to name and shame.

So name and shame what exactly? Two people meet, don't get on and go there separate ways, what's the problem!

I stepped up and admitted my fault in being mislead.

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

like I say I posted in hast. which I hold my hands to if that makes me look bad to people then so be it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I remember a guy posting a few months back who had met another guy. This guy left him in a country lane to make his way home. It was awful. Some people have no consideration for others."

On second thoughts nothing like the poor lad above. I wish to withdraw statement

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees

'Moral of the story - Part 2' will be released shortly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me the fear is usualy that I will book the ticket (as it's often 25% of the cost to book ahead) and there will be no one there to meet me.........Luckily, I have never had a wasted journey..........

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"'Moral of the story - Part 2' will be released shortly

subtitled 'spoke too soon...'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Funny how the tone changed as soon as the other party steps into the ring...

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Ditto, I posted my ows experience and then looked down.....some biscuit arsed posters.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Funny how the tone changed as soon as the other party steps into the ring...

Not that funny Pearl. Most people were too quick to judge the guy without all the facts, so in fact the tone 'should' have changed as it did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Funny how the tone changed as soon as the other party steps into the ring...

Ditto, I posted my ows experience and then looked down.....some biscuit arsed posters......."

What's a 'biscuit Arse'?

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Funny how the tone changed as soon as the other party steps into the ring...

Ditto, I posted my ows experience and then looked down.....some biscuit arsed posters.......

What's a 'biscuit Arse'?

Was just about to ask that...

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Funny how the tone changed as soon as the other party steps into the ring...

Didn't it just!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Funny how the tone changed as soon as the other party steps into the ring...

Not that funny Pearl. Most people were too quick to judge the guy without all the facts, so in fact the tone 'should' have changed as it did

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I have a feeling that 'funny' was used sarcasticaly.........It's hardly a suprise that single blokes are spoken about like shit, we tend to be treated like shit too (I forget the forum thread, but one recently made me see so red that I couldn't post at all for fear of being banned from the site, let alone the forums)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Funny how the tone changed as soon as the other party steps into the ring...

WHy of course! Wouldn't be a story if 1 side told the 'woe is me!' story.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Funny how the tone changed as soon as the other party steps into the ring...

Not that funny Pearl. Most people were too quick to judge the guy without all the facts, so in fact the tone 'should' have changed as it did

I was not referring to the thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Funny how the tone changed as soon as the other party steps into the ring...

Ditto, I posted my ows experience and then looked down.....some biscuit arsed posters.......

What's a 'biscuit Arse'?

Was just about to ask that...

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Neither of you remember 'Trainspotting'? Begbies line, 'There's me, looking all buiscut arsed' meaning ambarased.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Funny how the tone changed as soon as the other party steps into the ring...

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I said I was wrong with what I posted or how I posted it. I am sorry that it came across as it did. like I said it was in haste and prob a bit upset or whatever so yes I am sorry to the person involved and to even of posted this stupid thread. we sometimes do things in the heat of the moment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

those "heat of the moment things" can sometimes get other people into hot water.

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees

"What's a 'biscuit Arse'?

Was just about to ask that...

Neither of you remember 'Trainspotting'? Begbies line, 'There's me, looking all buiscut arsed' meaning ambarased......."

That's a relief! Was wondering where you'd been dunking yours

I'll pass on the Hobnobs, thanks all the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Funny how the tone changed as soon as the other party steps into the ring...

Not that funny Pearl. Most people were too quick to judge the guy without all the facts, so in fact the tone 'should' have changed as it did

I was not referring to the thread.

must try harder lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

aye, it happens, understand, it's frustration mixed with disappointment I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's a 'biscuit Arse'?

Was just about to ask that...

Neither of you remember 'Trainspotting'? Begbies line, 'There's me, looking all buiscut arsed' meaning ambarased......."

lol! didn't remember that line

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"those "heat of the moment things" can sometimes get other people into hot water. "

I get that now.. it was wrong

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"What's a 'biscuit Arse'?

Was just about to ask that...

Neither of you remember 'Trainspotting'? Begbies line, 'There's me, looking all buiscut arsed' meaning ambarased.......

That's a relief! Was wondering where you'd been dunking yours

I'll pass on the Hobnobs, thanks all the same."

And avoid the Bourbons as well...

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees

"What's a 'biscuit Arse'?

Was just about to ask that...

Neither of you remember 'Trainspotting'? Begbies line, 'There's me, looking all buiscut arsed' meaning ambarased.......

That's a relief! Was wondering where you'd been dunking yours

I'll pass on the Hobnobs, thanks all the same.

And avoid the Bourbons as well..."

Chocolate fingers!!!!! Heave!!!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Scott... A very dignified post

Diamond... A mistake but you have the guts to stay and apologise.. That doesn't happen a lot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's a 'biscuit Arse'?

Was just about to ask that...

Neither of you remember 'Trainspotting'? Begbies line, 'There's me, looking all buiscut arsed' meaning ambarased.......

That's a relief! Was wondering where you'd been dunking yours

I'll pass on the Hobnobs, thanks all the same.

And avoid the Bourbons as well...

Chocolate fingers!!!!! Heave!!!"
Nah, when talking about my biscuit arse, 'Nice' comes to mind........(will anyone go along with that? I doubt it.......)

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Scott... A very dignified post

Diamond... A mistake but you have the guts to stay and apologise.. That doesn't happen a lot."

I admit when a,mistake is made and when saying sorry is due.

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees

"Scott... A very dignified post

Diamond... A mistake but you have the guts to stay and apologise.. That doesn't happen a lot."

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Scott... A very dignified post

Diamond... A mistake but you have the guts to stay and apologise.. That doesn't happen a lot."

Indeed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Scott... A very dignified post

Diamond... A mistake but you have the guts to stay and apologise.. That doesn't happen a lot.

I admit when a,mistake is made and when saying sorry is due. "

as you said before "we live n learn", we all make mistakes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"those "heat of the moment things" can sometimes get other people into hot water.

I get that now.. it was wrong "

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

"Scott... A very dignified post

Diamond... A mistake but you have the guts to stay and apologise.. That doesn't happen a lot.

I admit when a,mistake is made and when saying sorry is due. "

Good on you both, i.e. scott gettng his reply and diamonds for admitting the wrong.

None of us were there so why not leave be? (Yes I know it was posted publically, but just move on to the next topic instead of having a go!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a line in the sand is needed here!

I fully understand Diamonds response (I have no ill feeling towards her), wasn't working for me so took the courage & did something about rather just put up with it "so to speak"..my options were limited due to alcohol...so it had to be a train station (which i offered to pay!), we are all adults on here..are we not.

Hope i've not offended anyone on here..case closed shall we say?

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I think a line in the sand is needed here!

Hope i've not offended anyone on here..case closed shall we say?"

I posted in haste and I am sorry in all fairness you are a nice bloke but when it aint there it aint there. This post was childish and I am sorry if I caused any upset I was just frustrated and my self esteem was knocked for a few minutes..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a line in the sand is needed here!

Hope i've not offended anyone on here..case closed shall we say?"
As for Case CLosed, never gonna happen fellah.......

I agree, very reasonable for you to say it's not working for me, I also agree that it was jolly decent of you to drop at the station and offer to pay the train ticket back. I don't know where OP lives, I, in your position, may have offered her to wait in a warm car untill the train turned up, but these are details.

As for OP, you have obviously posted upset.....I do think it's a bit indicative that it took at least an hour and a defensive post for you to correct, but at least you did retract, apologise and correct a few things.

Re Diamonds, I can't see anything wrong with the post 'Always have a back up plan', seem s eminently sensible to me.........

hey ho, attitudes on this site are now and always will be stilted in favour of women in general and single women in particular, what are you gonna do?

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

Ok diamons has said she's sorry for posting in haste. Scott has replied. So let's levave it as that.

Its got naff all to do with anyone other than the OP and the guy she met.

Not interested in the whole ' if a single guy posted' etc i think this should be left well alone now or even removed.

No offence to original poster or parties involved. X

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By *nnie2009Couple
over a year ago

Blackpool

end ov story

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

"Ok diamons has said she's sorry for posting in haste. Scott has replied. So let's levave it as that.

Its got naff all to do with anyone other than the OP and the guy she met.

It is a shame that wasn't thought of by the OP and then this thread wouldn't be here and the decent man wouldn't have felt the need to politely put his story over.

The moral of the story....name and shame will never work when the whole story is never posted.

Lesson learnt hopefully.

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