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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i have known this happen with guys.they ask to meet,meaby expecting me to say no,however if i say yes am up for that, and then give details they then get nervous,and make up all the excuses under the sun that all of a sudden cant meet. Do all guys think they are gunna get a no? So when am up for a meet they panic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m sorry that’s happened to you

I don’t often say yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha I've had that a few times.

Say yes and they clearly have no availability or the balls to meet...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s all about the chase for some. Helps shine there ego.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s all about the chase for some. Helps shine there ego. "

Women and couples do it too, not just men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s all about the chase for some. Helps shine there ego.

Women and couples do it too, not just men. "

Considering the ratio of men to women I’d say more men will do it. Just a opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have known this happen with guys.they ask to meet,meaby expecting me to say no,however if i say yes am up for that, and then give details they then get nervous,and make up all the excuses under the sun that all of a sudden cant meet. Do all guys think they are gunna get a no? So when am up for a meet they panic?"

Do you send pics or talk about sex? Some men just want a wank and have no intention of meeting.

Don't take it personally. X

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

A lot of ladies do it to may just be me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of ladies do it to may just be me "

I’m sure they do too

I do think sometimes that people find it harder to say they’ve changed their minds than to be honest

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By *rotic-TouchTV/TS
over a year ago

doncaster

Ambition exceeding ability

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath


"A lot of ladies do it to may just be me

I’m sure they do too

I do think sometimes that people find it harder to say they’ve changed their minds than to be honest

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True I always find it easier to tell the truth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly OP, if I’m at the stage of asking for a meet I’ve gotten to know someone and I’m expecting a yes!

I know it happens But I have no idea why anyone would back out of a meet they have arranged, especially as lots of guys complain how hard to get a meet it is!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of ladies do it to may just be me

I’m sure they do too

I do think sometimes that people find it harder to say they’ve changed their minds than to be honest

True I always find it easier to tell the truth "

Make sure you tell me

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath


"A lot of ladies do it to may just be me

I’m sure they do too

I do think sometimes that people find it harder to say they’ve changed their minds than to be honest

True I always find it easier to tell the truth

Make sure you tell me "

Well once you ask me out. I’ll be sure to be X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of ladies do it to may just be me

I’m sure they do too

I do think sometimes that people find it harder to say they’ve changed their minds than to be honest

True I always find it easier to tell the truth

Make sure you tell me

Well once you ask me out. I’ll be sure to be X"

Oh smooth ... smooth

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Can’t stomach people who mess you about.

If we say we will meet, we will meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has happened to us quite a few times. Don't know if thats the reason but we have had more cancellations than meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't comment no one has ever said yes to me so I don't know how I would respond

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By *hysoseriouslyMan
over a year ago

Kent

I don’t mind them not showing up, it’s the running and screaming that bothers me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This has happened to us quite a few times. Don't know if thats the reason but we have had more cancellations than meets "

They must have been bonkers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t mind them not showing up, it’s the running and screaming that bothers me "

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

When I have messaged a lady or a couple and they have agreed to a meet I have always turned up only on two occasions have I turned up and the other party failed to turn up.

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By *ympho6969Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

I dont know about others but I think some just like the idea of meeting and some of the dirty take that comes with it. As soon as a meet is arranged they go silent.

Like I said. I don't speak for all. I have had some great meets on here

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By *aCaiMan
over a year ago

Telford

So how does we get to the meeting stage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So how does we get to the meeting stage "

Offer plenty of cake and fresh cream

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This has happened to us quite a few times. Don't know if thats the reason but we have had more cancellations than meets

They must have been bonkers "

Tell them that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Just fantasists OP. X

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I’ve been cancelled a few times ... I take it that they’re not as single as they would like, that the idea of meeting turn them on but the reality is that they just can’t get away ... I only meet at weekends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly it happens, not just men, although it seems mostly.

Perhaps it's the whole Charlie large potatoes thing. Combined with the fact they're used to being turned down. And just bottle it. Its happened even after weeks of talking, planning etc. No great loss tbh, they're just an addition to our already amazing sex life. We can be a bit intimidating because we are so into each other. Not something we desperately need.

J 

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By * Plus ECouple
over a year ago

The South


"It’s all about the chase for some. Helps shine there ego.

Women and couples do it too, not just men.

Considering the ratio of men to women I’d say more men will do it. Just a opinion"

Given the ratio I'd say it's blimming obvious.

E

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This has happened to us quite a few times. Don't know if thats the reason but we have had more cancellations than meets "

You must have asked the wrong men!!

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By *lap.n.tickleCouple
over a year ago

sunny Manchester :)


"It’s all about the chase for some. Helps shine there ego.

Women and couples do it too, not just men. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would never messed around unless there is a valid reason. But I will make sure I notify the person, it just respectful and polite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This has happened to us quite a few times. Don't know if thats the reason but we have had more cancellations than meets

You must have asked the wrong men!! "

I certainly know how to pick them!

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By *hoknowswhatXXXMan
over a year ago

Ilkeston

I've had this with couples too, mysterious car troubles are rife on fab... And their phones most break afterwards too because they never re-arrange

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think anyone is allowed to have a change of heart whatever their reasons, so long as they let you know in good time then while it may be disappointing its not the end of the world.

It's the ones that say nothing and leave people hanging I don't get.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What if somethings actually come up

some people on here can have a lot going on and want to do you in the worst way but gets a call or email that changes things

It’s tough when you don’t know then personally

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By *nooshWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"i have known this happen with guys.they ask to meet,meaby expecting me to say no,however if i say yes am up for that, and then give details they then get nervous,and make up all the excuses under the sun that all of a sudden cant meet. Do all guys think they are gunna get a no? So when am up for a meet they panic?"

Yup, I had this for a social yesterday. Clearly lost his bottle. Messed my early evening right up!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s all about the chase for some. Helps shine there ego. "

Bradley Walsh is a dude !!

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"What if somethings actually come up

some people on here can have a lot going on and want to do you in the worst way but gets a call or email that changes things

It’s tough when you don’t know then personally "

Fully sympathise with that and if I like someone enough to meet them I'm happy to rearrange. I do get a lot of cancellations who then become very vague when you try to rearrange though.

No massive deal, just one of those peculiarities of fab - it doesn't happen anything like as frequently on hookup sites or dating sites.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had this a few times. Not just single guys but also couples. Interesting what excuses come out. Did end up meeting a cracking guy after we were stood up.

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"It’s all about the chase for some. Helps shine there ego.

Women and couples do it too, not just men. "

I'm glad you said that.

I'd been nervous for weeks before a meet with a couple in my city. Chatted for months. Spent ages preparing myself. Ordered the cab on the night, thought I'd message while in the cab to say 'on my way'.......and I'd been blocked.

Never felt so disheartened.

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By *airytaleOfNewPorkMan
over a year ago

Close By

I've had it quite the other way.... the amount of times I've been stood up at the last minute is ridiculous...

But as I'm a good natured fella I dont let it dishearten me, and have met some amazing people here, had some amazing fun, and will continue to do so!

Those that dont rock up are the ones losing out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s all about the chase for some. Helps shine there ego.

Women and couples do it too, not just men.

I'm glad you said that.

I'd been nervous for weeks before a meet with a couple in my city. Chatted for months. Spent ages preparing myself. Ordered the cab on the night, thought I'd message while in the cab to say 'on my way'.......and I'd been blocked.

Never felt so disheartened. "

That's what I'm talking about, that's shocking x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s all about the chase for some. Helps shine there ego.

Women and couples do it too, not just men.

I'm glad you said that.

I'd been nervous for weeks before a meet with a couple in my city. Chatted for months. Spent ages preparing myself. Ordered the cab on the night, thought I'd message while in the cab to say 'on my way'.......and I'd been blocked.

Never felt so disheartened. "

That’s brutal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had it quite the other way.... the amount of times I've been stood up at the last minute is ridiculous...

But as I'm a good natured fella I dont let it dishearten me, and have met some amazing people here, had some amazing fun, and will continue to do so!

Those that dont rock up are the ones losing out "

Best way to be

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"It’s all about the chase for some. Helps shine there ego.

Women and couples do it too, not just men.

I'm glad you said that.

I'd been nervous for weeks before a meet with a couple in my city. Chatted for months. Spent ages preparing myself. Ordered the cab on the night, thought I'd message while in the cab to say 'on my way'.......and I'd been blocked.

Never felt so disheartened.

That's what I'm talking about, that's shocking x"

Thank you. Yes it really knocked my confidence, was a few years back. They're still on here too! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i have known this happen with guys.they ask to meet,meaby expecting me to say no,however if i say yes am up for that, and then give details they then get nervous,and make up all the excuses under the sun that all of a sudden cant meet. Do all guys think they are gunna get a no? So when am up for a meet they panic?"

Thats probably why most women say no. Lol.

I can't stand people who piss you about. If you want to meet turn up if you don't just say you wanna chat. Sorry to you for the dickheads that give us a bad image.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I think then i must be lucky as i haven't had this happen to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s all about the chase for some. Helps shine there ego.

Women and couples do it too, not just men.

I'm glad you said that.

I'd been nervous for weeks before a meet with a couple in my city. Chatted for months. Spent ages preparing myself. Ordered the cab on the night, thought I'd message while in the cab to say 'on my way'.......and I'd been blocked.

Never felt so disheartened.

That's what I'm talking about, that's shocking x

Thank you. Yes it really knocked my confidence, was a few years back. They're still on here too! Xx"

Don't let people like that affect your confidence. Perhaps they got cold feet and didn't dare admit it. Perhaps it was a dodgy couple and he arranged a meet that she didn't know about. Or they had a row.

Try and see it as a lucky escape. Because it really was. You wouldn't want to meet someone that would do that. X

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"It’s all about the chase for some. Helps shine there ego.

Women and couples do it too, not just men.

I'm glad you said that.

I'd been nervous for weeks before a meet with a couple in my city. Chatted for months. Spent ages preparing myself. Ordered the cab on the night, thought I'd message while in the cab to say 'on my way'.......and I'd been blocked.

Never felt so disheartened.

That's what I'm talking about, that's shocking x

Thank you. Yes it really knocked my confidence, was a few years back. They're still on here too! Xx

Don't let people like that affect your confidence. Perhaps they got cold feet and didn't dare admit it. Perhaps it was a dodgy couple and he arranged a meet that she didn't know about. Or they had a row.

Try and see it as a lucky escape. Because it really was. You wouldn't want to meet someone that would do that. X"

Thank you so much.

Yeah I'm not letting it get in way of another potential meet (which is getting rarer and rarer!), and yes I think I did dodge a bullet there because I've seen them in a different light. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our observations of this site.

Most men here despite their profiles are married/attached. They want a shag, they want it now and they don't care who they shag. It has to be quick and discreet.

Numerous men arrange meets and do not turn up!

No men that fit the criteria that we are looking for are prepared to put in any effort for a long-term friendship with benefits.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Yes had this happen couple times get an excuse why they cant meet and heard them all! Then they ask again a week or so later! That's not gonna happen though! One chance only! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry I couldn't read this thread

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"It’s all about the chase for some. Helps shine there ego.

Women and couples do it too, not just men. "
this.. it's why I only when I'm meeting do club meets. Doesnt matter then as I'm going to a club anyway

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By *ermite12ukMan
over a year ago

Solihull and Brentwood

Wondering if this site is full of builders and plumbers then?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's better to take time over things and to filter people out. Immediate meet requests can mean they need wank fodder for an immediate shoot and go

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By *entleman4MMFMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Their loss

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale

Dont get why bother asking if your not going to go thru with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont get why bother asking if your not going to go thru with it"

Assumption that it's done purposely?

Can't a guy change his mind/get attack of nerves too?

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By *ustyshowoffCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

It’s happened to us a couple of times, very frustrating

Jxx

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By *ugofirstMan
over a year ago

livingston

Possibly a couple of reasons

1. Can they perform how they say they can?

2. Something valid (it is possible)

3. Apathy

I have managed to arrange one meet, waited and she never showed, excuse given along with apologies. I said not to worry I was okay with it and thereafter I was ignored.

Ever since then nothing not even a nibble

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dont get why bother asking if your not going to go thru with it

Assumption that it's done purposely?

Can't a guy change his mind/get attack of nerves too? "

Yes, but it's a sign of being a bit flaky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few years back I cancelled a meet a couple of days before after a family emergency, and all that followed was a torrent of abuse.

Simply not showing up is a shitty thing to do and I've been on the receiving end numerous times, but real life does happen from time to time.

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By *rhugesMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

To get a meet on here as a single male is extremely hard and you have to put in a huge amount of effort so why some one would back out at the last minute us beyond me

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By *ear in the chairMan
over a year ago

yeah there


"To get a meet on here as a single male is extremely hard and you have to put in a huge amount of effort so why some one would back out at the last minute us beyond me"

Even more soul destroying when you see someone you'd just love to meet (but age, body shape, distance etc is against you) and you see them post saying 'blown out again' You just sit there thinking 'fecking idiot'!

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By *lipy123TV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

I have had it on another site try to arrange a meet and it like tumble rolling though like in a western lol..

Been lucky on here so far, Like said previously it's sorting out the dross from the genuine but at the end of the day you can only go on what people message you.

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By *roggrt1919Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

I was part of a couple she wanted to have a threesome with a woman. I was up for it she found someone all plans in place to meet 3 hours before we were all due to meet for a social. My partner at the time backed out saying she didn't want to do it. Couldn't be with a woman. That was 2 years ago she still looks talks sends photos to woman but won't go all the way. It's a shame cos you build it all up to be let down. Keep looking and just enjoy the chatting.

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By *eavertrackerMan
over a year ago

Bridgwater

I always look at a meet as a chance to enjoy some friendly flirting, and to actually get to know the individual,...I go into a meet relaxed yet confident

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wish I could find a woman that said yes, I’d be there at a drop of a hat x

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"i have known this happen with guys.they ask to meet,meaby expecting me to say no,however if i say yes am up for that, and then give details they then get nervous,and make up all the excuses under the sun that all of a sudden cant meet. Do all guys think they are gunna get a no? So when am up for a meet they panic?"

I’ve never asked anyone for a meet without being fully committed to turn up, and have never failed to make any meets so arranged.

I have however, been let down by couples, and (in the main), solo females......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never backed out but had 3 women back out for me, sat like a dick in pub for ages lol

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Never backed out but had 3 women back out for me, sat like a dick in pub for ages lol"

They get 15 minutes, or until the coffee/pint has been d*unk. If you’ve not heard from them by that time, they aren’t coming mate. Don’t forget to block, as chances are, you were a ‘Plan b’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never backed out but had 3 women back out for me, sat like a dick in pub for ages lol

They get 15 minutes, or until the coffee/pint has been d*unk. If you’ve not heard from them by that time, they aren’t coming mate. Don’t forget to block, as chances are, you were a ‘Plan b’ "

It was a nice day so waited in sun

Thanks lol don’t think I was plan b just gobshytes who wanted their ego massaged sending pics that probably wearnt even them!

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By *entleman4MMFMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"i have known this happen with guys.they ask to meet,meaby expecting me to say no,however if i say yes am up for that, and then give details they then get nervous,and make up all the excuses under the sun that all of a sudden cant meet. Do all guys think they are gunna get a no? So when am up for a meet they panic?"

I have no confidence even when you were naked in a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Never backed out but had 3 women back out for me, sat like a dick in pub for ages lol"

Sometimes it can be a man who created a female profile. We had a few supposed cpls messaged us but the profiles had no pics at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately with sites likes this it’s the nature of the beast,

I don’t arrange a meet unless I know I can, have gained a little trust between us and convinced we’re genuine, and there’s attraction there.

Fabs is full of fake profiles and dreamers, both men women and couples can be as bad, the genuine ones are few and far between on here now,

we’ll that’s from my perspective

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By *rchie_pMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Lol i would happily like to get a meet never mind turning up to one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I back out then it’s with my sleeves rolled up and my arm on the passenger seat headrest whilst looking through the rear window.

Mirrors are for shaving or checking my piles.

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