FabSwingers.com forum: Lonely

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It’s been an awful year, most of it shielding for me.

Zoom and the likes don’t replace being with friends for me.

I need people around me.

Having to turn down Xmas lunches etc just makes me sad. Having to constantly stay away from people isn’t easy.

Am I the only one struggling, I have zero motivation and a what’s the point attitude.

I’m grateful that I can shield without the financial struggles many are having.

I just feel so alone.

Sad but that’s how I feel today.

I was deleting fab but realise it’s the only place I can go and just chat whenever I’m feeling alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not been shielding, but I am vulnerable so I've been 'voluntarily shielding'

It's not easy being lonely but I'm pleased you make use of Fab to have some social interaction, even though it's only virtual.

A vaccine is coming, there is hope for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is so useful in times when you need to feel a connection with others

I truly hope you can get normality back soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's been a bad year for a lot of people on here depression a mental health is at arise at the end of the day like I always say it's best to be kind to each other and try and help each other in many ways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s been an awful year, most of it shielding for me.

Zoom and the likes don’t replace being with friends for me.

I need people around me.

Having to turn down Xmas lunches etc just makes me sad. Having to constantly stay away from people isn’t easy.

Am I the only one struggling, I have zero motivation and a what’s the point attitude.

I’m grateful that I can shield without the financial struggles many are having.

I just feel so alone.

Sad but that’s how I feel today.

I was deleting fab but realise it’s the only place I can go and just chat whenever I’m feeling alone. "

Your not the only one, everyone is struggling with something right now. It can be a horrible place when you feel alone but keep talking. Always reach out and let someone know your struggling. Its okay to have bad days as long as you know how to cope through them. Hope your okay and we will get through this, just hold on a little longer

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you to each of you.

Most days I cope but today I just feel empty.

And I don’t know how to replenish the give a heck bucket.

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

I work a lot 12hr shifts 90% of the time I'm alone. Today it's been 100%. Due to my job I worked all thru lockdown, I rarely speak to anyone so feel lonely most of the time. I'm lucky in as much I didn't have to shield and I still have a job

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I work a lot 12hr shifts 90% of the time I'm alone. Today it's been 100%. Due to my job I worked all thru lockdown, I rarely speak to anyone so feel lonely most of the time. I'm lucky in as much I didn't have to shield and I still have a job

Those are long hours to work alone.

But I guess any hours alone when you’re lonely aren’t great.

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

Those are long hours to work alone.

But I guess any hours alone when you’re lonely aren’t great. "

The company I work for don't realise how bad it is for us even when others are in at work I sit here alone only occasionally seeing anyone or an occasional phone call but hey I'm still alive and kicking

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Those are long hours to work alone.

But I guess any hours alone when you’re lonely aren’t great.

Yes indeed you are, I need some of your attitude.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

But you don't go home to an empty house, the OP does.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Try not to think of the worst OP. Most of us are lonely especially in these strange times. Only thing I can suggest is is try be happy with your health an ability to talk. And believe me you’re not alone I’m still invisible with these tits

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By *ooby birdWoman
over a year ago

North West

"It’s been an awful year, most of it shielding for me.

Zoom and the likes don’t replace being with friends for me.

I need people around me.

Having to turn down Xmas lunches etc just makes me sad. Having to constantly stay away from people isn’t easy.

Am I the only one struggling, I have zero motivation and a what’s the point attitude.

I’m grateful that I can shield without the financial struggles many are having.

I just feel so alone.

Sad but that’s how I feel today.

I was deleting fab but realise it’s the only place I can go and just chat whenever I’m feeling alone. "

I always feel lonely at this time of year, im pretty ok for the rest of the year but there's something about Christmas time that makes me feel lonely.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I am lucky as still working but without work my life is very quiet but i do not get lonely as i like being alone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you everyone, I feel slightly embarrassed that I posted now but it’s shown me via here and private messages that many are struggling.

Thank you for taking the time to boost me a little.

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Been working through out so rather great full to that and having social interactions with fellow work colleagues. Tho been an absolute age since I have seen family and friends, video conferencing isn't really the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let's face it, Christmas can be hard any year for a lot of people, where loneliness is concerned. This horrible year just compounds that. I hope you have some ways to cope, and get through it, to hopefully a better year in 2021. This will pass, it always does. Until then, make use of the tools at our disposal. The forums may offer help. There are many others feeling the same. As you can clearly see from other peoples posts. It's not the same as human contact, but it's a step in the right direction. Hope you feel better op.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Let's face it, Christmas can be hard any year for a lot of people, where loneliness is concerned. This horrible year just compounds that. I hope you have some ways to cope, and get through it, to hopefully a better year in 2021. This will pass, it always does. Until then, make use of the tools at our disposal. The forums may offer help. There are many others feeling the same. As you can clearly see from other peoples posts. It's not the same as human contact, but it's a step in the right direction. Hope you feel better op.

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm also in the CEV group. I'm ok most of the time, but when my kids go to their dad's the hours drag and I know exactly how you feel, OP.

Fab is a welcome distraction.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

It has been a hideous year in so many ways, and I've spent much of it feeling isolated. I very rarely feel lonely but I have done for much of this year, so I do feel your pain.

I'm glad you can use this site to feel more connected OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry you're feeling that way OP, hope you can take a wee bit of comfort in knowing you're not alone, so many people are struggling right now. Its awful.

Such a terrible year.

Hope things get better for you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry you are feeling that way lovely. I think a lot of us have had a hard year so far. Stay on here and chat. Loads of nice peeps on here xxx

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By *atangMan
over a year ago

bolton

I live alone also and find it very lonely, I agree that this site as give me plenty of company when feeling down

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Again thank you all

I actually did a few house chores, instead of saying tomorrow tomorrow

It’s so very hard lifting yourself out of a black hole but the very sweet replies have touched me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you everyone, I feel slightly embarrassed that I posted now but it’s shown me via here and private messages that many are struggling.

Thank you for taking the time to boost me a little. "

So get this...it’s really tough...can you get out for a walk/drive? Know it’s hard to summon the will when feeling so resigned but keep fighting and do your best to get out in the light...good luck to you op x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Again thank you all

I actually did a few house chores, instead of saying tomorrow tomorrow

It’s so very hard lifting yourself out of a black hole but the very sweet replies have touched me x "

I totally understand your situation as we spent 4 months shielding but at least we had each other but it was awful.

It can be so hard getting motivated to do anything for yourself or round the house when you're feeling crap, yourself a pat on the back. A vaccine is on the way so chin up my lovely and keep posting there will always be people here to cheer you up and keep you company. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs OP x

It's been a strange year - and so many people are struggling living Groundhog Day.

Having people to talk to is a lifeline for many.

My inbox is open to anyone needing a chat x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Aghh you’ve all made me smile.

Honestly, it’s a sad smile but it’s a smile.

I know only I can give myself that kick so I aim to drive somewhere nice and empty tomorrow and have a walk.

Not quite festive and jolly but it’s outside.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Aghh you’ve all made me smile.

Honestly, it’s a sad smile but it’s a smile.

I know only I can give myself that kick so I aim to drive somewhere nice and empty tomorrow and have a walk.

Not quite festive and jolly but it’s outside. "

Getting out and about is really helpful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Aghh you’ve all made me smile.

Honestly, it’s a sad smile but it’s a smile.

I know only I can give myself that kick so I aim to drive somewhere nice and empty tomorrow and have a walk.

Not quite festive and jolly but it’s outside. "

Fantastic! Sounds a great plan...hope you enjoy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I live alone also and find it very lonely, I agree that this site as give me plenty of company when feeling down"

I see you. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

For all those feeling lonely, blue, anxious etc etc I hope you all find some inner peace x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you to each of you.

Most days I cope but today I just feel empty.

And I don’t know how to replenish the give a heck bucket. "

I say don't bother. Sod the bucket. Wallow in feeling crap today. Get it out of your system.

Then tomorrow you will feel better than you did today, after releasing all the empty feelings. I think we need to feel crap sometimes to really appreciate the good stuff. If we were happy all the time that would get annoying.

Hope your walk helps.

Do a forum search for 'Mindfulness'. Some good tips on there that might help. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you to each of you.

Most days I cope but today I just feel empty.

And I don’t know how to replenish the give a heck bucket.

I say don't bother. Sod the bucket. Wallow in feeling crap today. Get it out of your system.

Hope your walk helps.

Do a forum search for 'Mindfulness'. Some good tips on there that might help. X"

Ohhh good call.

OP if you have any questions about mindfulness give me a shout.

I'm going to see if I can find the thread I did a few weeks ago and bump it up because that was really useful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just bumped the mindfulness thread as there was some brilliant suggestions on that last time.x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you, looking now

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thank you to each of you.

Most days I cope but today I just feel empty.

And I don’t know how to replenish the give a heck bucket.

I say don't bother. Sod the bucket. Wallow in feeling crap today. Get it out of your system.

Hope your walk helps.

Do a forum search for 'Mindfulness'. Some good tips on there that might help. X"

The bucket ... I need a new bucket. Maybe tomorrow I will start afresh

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