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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

As a family we have always made Christmas a magical time decorating the house going to Santa’s grotto getting the kids to write there lists to Santa etc.

Tonight I asked our children if they were excited for Santa coming and our 9yr old laughed I asked what was so funny and then came the dreaded words....

“Santa’s not real” and I truly feel so sad!

I know children stop believing sooner or later but 9 yrs of age!

Has anyone else been through this and how did you respond what is the acceptable age?

I know there is bigger things going on in the world right now I just feel so upset like the magic has gone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine are still small so very much believe but I think I was about 9 or 10 when I realised he wasn't real.

Tell them that only people believe get presents haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Smart kid.

Be proud.

Tell them the tooth fairy and Easter bunny are a lie too!

It's best they know now

Lu

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I was nine and in my peer group that was late.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

9 is old to believe in santa. My son was 6 and told his sister who was 2. Did not bother me in the slightest to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Smart kid.

Be proud.

Tell them the tooth fairy and Easter bunny are a lie too!

It's best they know now

Lu "

Noooo Lu haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Smart kid.

Be proud.

Tell them the tooth fairy and Easter bunny are a lie too!

It's best they know now

Lu

Noooo Lu haha"

There's enough real magic in the world...the kiddies will be just fine

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Smart kid.

Be proud.

Tell them the tooth fairy and Easter bunny are a lie too!

It's best they know now

Lu

Noooo Lu haha

There's enough real magic in the world...the kiddies will be just fine "

Yes, keep the magic alive in other ways.

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

I was 35 when I found out. Its never been the same since.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you mean Santa doesn't exist???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My middle child was 4 yrs old when I had to tell her santa wasn't real. The tooth fairy was never allowed in the house and Halloween was awful.

She hated and still does people in fancy dress.

I hope she gets over the fear when she has kids of her own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My middle child was 4 yrs old when I had to tell her santa wasn't real. The tooth fairy was never allowed in the house and Halloween was awful.

She hated and still does people in fancy dress.

I hope she gets over the fear when she has kids of her own. "

Bless her!

Any idea what triggered it in the first place?

Lu

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a nine year age gap but my son was way older when he openly didnt believe anymore more but I took him to one side and said that the magic is in the believing but if he told his sister then mummy santa wouldn't bring him a Christmas stocking anymore and bless him he never said anything to his sister and we both had loads of fun "believing" with her and Christmas reminded magical for another decade!

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Tell them that the tax man and VAT man is real. He steals some of your wages and there's nowt that you can do about it.

That's saddening for us grown ups.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Mine are still small so very much believe but I think I was about 9 or 10 when I realised he wasn't real.

Tell them that only people believe get presents haha

"
haha I might try that! Believe or your getting an orange and a lump of coal

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By *attM73Man
over a year ago

Oldham


"My middle child was 4 yrs old when I had to tell her santa wasn't real. The tooth fairy was never allowed in the house and Halloween was awful.

She hated and still does people in fancy dress.

I hope she gets over the fear when she has kids of her own. "
why did you have to tell her at that age for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I told my kids when they were young, I was fed up with Santa taking the credit for my awesome presents!

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By *oxyVikingCouple
over a year ago

East Anglia


"As a family we have always made Christmas a magical time decorating the house going to Santa’s grotto getting the kids to write there lists to Santa etc.

Tonight I asked our children if they were excited for Santa coming and our 9yr old laughed I asked what was so funny and then came the dreaded words....

“Santa’s not real” and I truly feel so sad!

I know children stop believing sooner or later but 9 yrs of age!

Has anyone else been through this and how did you respond what is the acceptable age?

I know there is bigger things going on in the world right now I just feel so upset like the magic has gone "

Oh no!! Our oldest is 9(10 in March) and still believes and I really hope she keeps believing in all the magic for a bit longer!! Can’t offer any advice but can totally understand why you feel sad. It’s another sign of them growing up and loosing that innocence. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I was nine and in my peer group that was late."
I guess I just thought he would be older

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I have a nine year age gap but my son was way older when he openly didnt believe anymore more but I took him to one side and said that the magic is in the believing but if he told his sister then mummy santa wouldn't bring him a Christmas stocking anymore and bless him he never said anything to his sister and we both had loads of fun "believing" with her and Christmas reminded magical for another decade! "

We have a 14.5yr gap but our 18yo lad is keeping the magic going for our 3yo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a nine year age gap but my son was way older when he openly didnt believe anymore more but I took him to one side and said that the magic is in the believing but if he told his sister then mummy santa wouldn't bring him a Christmas stocking anymore and bless him he never said anything to his sister and we both had loads of fun "believing" with her and Christmas reminded magical for another decade!

We have a 14.5yr gap but our 18yo lad is keeping the magic going for our 3yo "

That's absolutely beautiful! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My middle child was 4 yrs old when I had to tell her santa wasn't real. The tooth fairy was never allowed in the house and Halloween was awful.

She hated and still does people in fancy dress.

I hope she gets over the fear when she has kids of her own. "
awww that’s such a shame yes hopefully she will be over it when she has children of her own

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Them kids all confer at school.... unfortunately the proposal ..we believe that there's no such thing as Santa Claus gets passed by a large majority

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a nine year age gap but my son was way older when he openly didnt believe anymore more but I took him to one side and said that the magic is in the believing but if he told his sister then mummy santa wouldn't bring him a Christmas stocking anymore and bless him he never said anything to his sister and we both had loads of fun "believing" with her and Christmas reminded magical for another decade!

We have a 14.5yr gap but our 18yo lad is keeping the magic going for our 3yo "

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"I have a nine year age gap but my son was way older when he openly didnt believe anymore more but I took him to one side and said that the magic is in the believing but if he told his sister then mummy santa wouldn't bring him a Christmas stocking anymore and bless him he never said anything to his sister and we both had loads of fun "believing" with her and Christmas reminded magical for another decade!

We have a 14.5yr gap but our 18yo lad is keeping the magic going for our 3yo

That's absolutely beautiful! X "

It's beautiful to see them together. She adores her big brother and he is absolutely brilliant with her. Super helpful to us and is willing to do anything for his sister

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a nine year age gap but my son was way older when he openly didnt believe anymore more but I took him to one side and said that the magic is in the believing but if he told his sister then mummy santa wouldn't bring him a Christmas stocking anymore and bless him he never said anything to his sister and we both had loads of fun "believing" with her and Christmas reminded magical for another decade!

We have a 14.5yr gap but our 18yo lad is keeping the magic going for our 3yo

That's absolutely beautiful! X "

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have a nine year age gap but my son was way older when he openly didnt believe anymore more but I took him to one side and said that the magic is in the believing but if he told his sister then mummy santa wouldn't bring him a Christmas stocking anymore and bless him he never said anything to his sister and we both had loads of fun "believing" with her and Christmas reminded magical for another decade! "
that is so nice what a fantastic older brother

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"I was nine and in my peer group that was late. I guess I just thought he would be older "

In the playground: that's the second biggest source of learning at school. some wrong, some useless and sadly some harmful too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As a family we have always made Christmas a magical time decorating the house going to Santa’s grotto getting the kids to write there lists to Santa etc.

Tonight I asked our children if they were excited for Santa coming and our 9yr old laughed I asked what was so funny and then came the dreaded words....

“Santa’s not real” and I truly feel so sad!

I know children stop believing sooner or later but 9 yrs of age!

Has anyone else been through this and how did you respond what is the acceptable age?

I know there is bigger things going on in the world right now I just feel so upset like the magic has gone

Oh no!! Our oldest is 9(10 in March) and still believes and I really hope she keeps believing in all the magic for a bit longer!! Can’t offer any advice but can totally understand why you feel sad. It’s another sign of them growing up and loosing that innocence. Xx"
exactly this I feel come next year the build up will be so different

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By *hortarseWoman
over a year ago

Norfolk

My 12 year old still believe or she knows and thinks if she doesn't say anything she get more ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have a nine year age gap but my son was way older when he openly didnt believe anymore more but I took him to one side and said that the magic is in the believing but if he told his sister then mummy santa wouldn't bring him a Christmas stocking anymore and bless him he never said anything to his sister and we both had loads of fun "believing" with her and Christmas reminded magical for another decade!

We have a 14.5yr gap but our 18yo lad is keeping the magic going for our 3yo "
that is a lovely thing for him to do

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Mine is near his age and believes at home because he wants to believe, his friends have told him but he doesn't care, at home its a safe place where friends cannot take the mick for believing in magic, in school its hip to be like everyone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My youngest hated the notion, nope. He was having none of it, had trouble convincing him at the age of 2 that Santa wasn't real...He saw a Santa suit and he would have a screaming fit.

I can remember him getting really upset on Christmas eve because no way did he want a strange person in his house while he slept. And he was right, why do we endorse that throughout the year and not Christmas.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My 12 year old still believe or she knows and thinks if she doesn't say anything she get more ??"
haha very clever of her if that’s the case

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

I was eight when I found out (having held suspicions for a while) and distinctly remember feeling decidedly sad at my discovery

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are some of you really suggesting that we remove this simple bit of joy from kids lives?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are some of you really suggesting that we remove this simple bit of joy from kids lives? "

I'm suggesting kids know the truth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are some of you really suggesting that we remove this simple bit of joy from kids lives?

I'm suggesting kids know the truth "

Absolutely this. Why fill their heads with this stuff, I never influenced my kids either way, they made their own minds. One liked to believe one didn't

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Me and my sister knew for years before spilling the beans to our parents. My sister's logic which I agreed with was that we'd get less presents if we didn't have ones from Santa. So we kept up the pretence.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are some of you really suggesting that we remove this simple bit of joy from kids lives?

I'm suggesting kids know the truth "
. We believe children should be children for as long as possible keep there innocence and enjoy every moment because let’s face it it’s a dark daunting world out there when they become adults at least they can hold on to memories of good times as children. Nobody can take that away

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Me and my sister knew for years before spilling the beans to our parents. My sister's logic which I agreed with was that we'd get less presents if we didn't have ones from Santa. So we kept up the pretence. "
haha your sister sounds very smart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My 7 and 10 year old know it’s not real but my 13 year old still has a little glisten in his eye when he’s putting mince pies and milk out with them, he’s like will Ferrell in Elf bless him

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Me and my sister knew for years before spilling the beans to our parents. My sister's logic which I agreed with was that we'd get less presents if we didn't have ones from Santa. So we kept up the pretence. haha your sister sounds very smart "

She's an accountant now go figure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are some of you really suggesting that we remove this simple bit of joy from kids lives?

I'm suggesting kids know the truth

Absolutely this. Why fill their heads with this stuff, I never influenced my kids either way, they made their own minds. One liked to believe one didn't"

Yeah, I'm not suggesting we all tell every 3/4 year old we know that Santa isn't real just because...

But if a kid asks a question I believe they deserve the truth.

To me, it's much more magical to know my parents created such joy for us at Xmas, that they chose and wrapped our gifts with love, rather than some old dude on a hovercraft with and those poor exhausted reindeer...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My middle child was 4 yrs old when I had to tell her santa wasn't real. The tooth fairy was never allowed in the house and Halloween was awful.

She hated and still does people in fancy dress.

I hope she gets over the fear when she has kids of her own.

Bless her!

Any idea what triggered it in the first place?

Lu "

There uses to be clowns in the high street and she always cried when she saw them, then Christmas must if tipped her over the edge.

It was hard on my other 2 kids.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Are some of you really suggesting that we remove this simple bit of joy from kids lives?

I'm suggesting kids know the truth

Absolutely this. Why fill their heads with this stuff, I never influenced my kids either way, they made their own minds. One liked to believe one didn't

Yeah, I'm not suggesting we all tell every 3/4 year old we know that Santa isn't real just because...

But if a kid asks a question I believe they deserve the truth.

To me, it's much more magical to know my parents created such joy for us at Xmas, that they chose and wrapped our gifts with love, rather than some old dude on a hovercraft with and those poor exhausted reindeer... "

Definitely this, I've always made sure the kids have made their own Christmas presents for family members, we have our own Christmas traditions beyond Santa, so I'm hoping the magic of Christmas is based on them getting stuff. It's about family coming together. I sound like a bloody hallmark card FFS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friend shared this on Facebook the other day as she had to tell her son, as he worked it out too. I think its a nice gesture.

* ATTENTION PARENTS WHO MIGHT NEED TO TELL THE TRUTH ABOUT SANTA ???? *

Son: "Dad, I think I'm old enough now. Is there a Santa Claus?"

Dad: "Okay, I agree that you're old enough. But before I tell you, I have a question for you. You see, the “truth” is a dangerous gift. Once you know something, you can't un-know it. Once you know the truth about Santa Claus, you'll never again understand and relate to him as you do now. So my question is: Are you sure you want to know?"

*Brief pause*

Son: "Yes, I want to know."

Dad: "Okay, then I'll tell you. Yes, there is a Santa Claus."

Son: "Really?"

Dad: Yes, really, but he's not an old man with a beard in a red suit. That's just what we tell kids. You see, kids are too young to understand the true nature of Santa Claus, so we explain it to them in a way that they can understand. The truth about Santa Claus is that he's not a person at all; he's an idea. Think of all those presents Santa gave you over the years. We bought those for you. We watched you open them. And did it bother us that you didn't know? Of course not! In fact it gave us great pleasure. You see, Santa Claus is THE IDEA OF GIVING FOR THE SAKE OF GIVING, without thought of thanks or acknowledgement.

When I saw that woman collapse in town last week and I called for help, I knew that she'd never know that it was me that called an ambulance. I was being Santa Claus when I did that."

Son: "Oh."

Dad: "So now that you know, you're a part of it too. You have to be Santa Claus now. That means you can never tell a young kid the secret, you have to help us select Santa presents for them, and most important, you have to look for opportunities to help other people. Got it?" ??

Look out for and help each other this Christmas???? and... always be kind ???

Hope this helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My middle child was 4 yrs old when I had to tell her santa wasn't real. The tooth fairy was never allowed in the house and Halloween was awful.

She hated and still does people in fancy dress.

I hope she gets over the fear when she has kids of her own.

Bless her!

Any idea what triggered it in the first place?

Lu

There uses to be clowns in the high street and she always cried when she saw them, then Christmas must if tipped her over the edge.

It was hard on my other 2 kids."

That's a shame...clowns always creeper me out as a kid but I have also always loved fancy dress.

Fingers crossed she overcomes it!

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By *oxyVikingCouple
over a year ago

East Anglia


"My friend shared this on Facebook the other day as she had to tell her son, as he worked it out too. I think its a nice gesture.

* ATTENTION PARENTS WHO MIGHT NEED TO TELL THE TRUTH ABOUT SANTA ???? *

Son: "Dad, I think I'm old enough now. Is there a Santa Claus?"

Dad: "Okay, I agree that you're old enough. But before I tell you, I have a question for you. You see, the “truth” is a dangerous gift. Once you know something, you can't un-know it. Once you know the truth about Santa Claus, you'll never again understand and relate to him as you do now. So my question is: Are you sure you want to know?"

*Brief pause*

Son: "Yes, I want to know."

Dad: "Okay, then I'll tell you. Yes, there is a Santa Claus."

Son: "Really?"

Dad: Yes, really, but he's not an old man with a beard in a red suit. That's just what we tell kids. You see, kids are too young to understand the true nature of Santa Claus, so we explain it to them in a way that they can understand. The truth about Santa Claus is that he's not a person at all; he's an idea. Think of all those presents Santa gave you over the years. We bought those for you. We watched you open them. And did it bother us that you didn't know? Of course not! In fact it gave us great pleasure. You see, Santa Claus is THE IDEA OF GIVING FOR THE SAKE OF GIVING, without thought of thanks or acknowledgement.

When I saw that woman collapse in town last week and I called for help, I knew that she'd never know that it was me that called an ambulance. I was being Santa Claus when I did that."

Son: "Oh."

Dad: "So now that you know, you're a part of it too. You have to be Santa Claus now. That means you can never tell a young kid the secret, you have to help us select Santa presents for them, and most important, you have to look for opportunities to help other people. Got it?" ??

Look out for and help each other this Christmas???? and... always be kind ???

Hope this helps."

Oh I absolutely love this!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are some of you really suggesting that we remove this simple bit of joy from kids lives?

I'm suggesting kids know the truth

Absolutely this. Why fill their heads with this stuff, I never influenced my kids either way, they made their own minds. One liked to believe one didn't

Yeah, I'm not suggesting we all tell every 3/4 year old we know that Santa isn't real just because...

But if a kid asks a question I believe they deserve the truth.

To me, it's much more magical to know my parents created such joy for us at Xmas, that they chose and wrapped our gifts with love, rather than some old dude on a hovercraft with and those poor exhausted reindeer...

Definitely this, I've always made sure the kids have made their own Christmas presents for family members, we have our own Christmas traditions beyond Santa, so I'm hoping the magic of Christmas is based on them getting stuff. It's about family coming together. I sound like a bloody hallmark card FFS "

Hate Xmas, love this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My friend shared this on Facebook the other day as she had to tell her son, as he worked it out too. I think its a nice gesture.

* ATTENTION PARENTS WHO MIGHT NEED TO TELL THE TRUTH ABOUT SANTA ???? *

Son: "Dad, I think I'm old enough now. Is there a Santa Claus?"

Dad: "Okay, I agree that you're old enough. But before I tell you, I have a question for you. You see, the “truth” is a dangerous gift. Once you know something, you can't un-know it. Once you know the truth about Santa Claus, you'll never again understand and relate to him as you do now. So my question is: Are you sure you want to know?"

*Brief pause*

Son: "Yes, I want to know."

Dad: "Okay, then I'll tell you. Yes, there is a Santa Claus."

Son: "Really?"

Dad: Yes, really, but he's not an old man with a beard in a red suit. That's just what we tell kids. You see, kids are too young to understand the true nature of Santa Claus, so we explain it to them in a way that they can understand. The truth about Santa Claus is that he's not a person at all; he's an idea. Think of all those presents Santa gave you over the years. We bought those for you. We watched you open them. And did it bother us that you didn't know? Of course not! In fact it gave us great pleasure. You see, Santa Claus is THE IDEA OF GIVING FOR THE SAKE OF GIVING, without thought of thanks or acknowledgement.

When I saw that woman collapse in town last week and I called for help, I knew that she'd never know that it was me that called an ambulance. I was being Santa Claus when I did that."

Son: "Oh."

Dad: "So now that you know, you're a part of it too. You have to be Santa Claus now. That means you can never tell a young kid the secret, you have to help us select Santa presents for them, and most important, you have to look for opportunities to help other people. Got it?" ??

Look out for and help each other this Christmas???? and... always be kind ???

Hope this helps."

That's lovely!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh gosh, we have interactive tooth fairies, garden fairies, elf door (Not elf on the shelf) etc. Mine are 10 and 7. When they learn it's not real, fair enough. But for now it's cute and exciting and magical

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My friend shared this on Facebook the other day as she had to tell her son, as he worked it out too. I think its a nice gesture.

* ATTENTION PARENTS WHO MIGHT NEED TO TELL THE TRUTH ABOUT SANTA ???? *

Son: "Dad, I think I'm old enough now. Is there a Santa Claus?"

Dad: "Okay, I agree that you're old enough. But before I tell you, I have a question for you. You see, the “truth” is a dangerous gift. Once you know something, you can't un-know it. Once you know the truth about Santa Claus, you'll never again understand and relate to him as you do now. So my question is: Are you sure you want to know?"

*Brief pause*

Son: "Yes, I want to know."

Dad: "Okay, then I'll tell you. Yes, there is a Santa Claus."

Son: "Really?"

Dad: Yes, really, but he's not an old man with a beard in a red suit. That's just what we tell kids. You see, kids are too young to understand the true nature of Santa Claus, so we explain it to them in a way that they can understand. The truth about Santa Claus is that he's not a person at all; he's an idea. Think of all those presents Santa gave you over the years. We bought those for you. We watched you open them. And did it bother us that you didn't know? Of course not! In fact it gave us great pleasure. You see, Santa Claus is THE IDEA OF GIVING FOR THE SAKE OF GIVING, without thought of thanks or acknowledgement.

When I saw that woman collapse in town last week and I called for help, I knew that she'd never know that it was me that called an ambulance. I was being Santa Claus when I did that."

Son: "Oh."

Dad: "So now that you know, you're a part of it too. You have to be Santa Claus now. That means you can never tell a young kid the secret, you have to help us select Santa presents for them, and most important, you have to look for opportunities to help other people. Got it?" ??

Look out for and help each other this Christmas???? and... always be kind ???

Hope this helps."
ohh this is wonderful thank you so much for sharing I think we will sit him down and try to explain it like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are some of you really suggesting that we remove this simple bit of joy from kids lives?

I'm suggesting kids know the truth

Absolutely this. Why fill their heads with this stuff, I never influenced my kids either way, they made their own minds. One liked to believe one didn't

Yeah, I'm not suggesting we all tell every 3/4 year old we know that Santa isn't real just because...

But if a kid asks a question I believe they deserve the truth.

To me, it's much more magical to know my parents created such joy for us at Xmas, that they chose and wrapped our gifts with love, rather than some old dude on a hovercraft with and those poor exhausted reindeer... "

The kids know that we buy most of the presents but santa gets them one really special one. It just seemed like a happy medium

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Are some of you really suggesting that we remove this simple bit of joy from kids lives?

I'm suggesting kids know the truth

Absolutely this. Why fill their heads with this stuff, I never influenced my kids either way, they made their own minds. One liked to believe one didn't

Yeah, I'm not suggesting we all tell every 3/4 year old we know that Santa isn't real just because...

But if a kid asks a question I believe they deserve the truth.

To me, it's much more magical to know my parents created such joy for us at Xmas, that they chose and wrapped our gifts with love, rather than some old dude on a hovercraft with and those poor exhausted reindeer...

Definitely this, I've always made sure the kids have made their own Christmas presents for family members, we have our own Christmas traditions beyond Santa, so I'm hoping the magic of Christmas is based on them getting stuff. It's about family coming together. I sound like a bloody hallmark card FFS

Hate Xmas, love this! "

Hate Christmas too to be honest, I now tolerate it for the kids.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mine are still small so very much believe but I think I was about 9 or 10 when I realised he wasn't real.

Tell them that only people believe get presents haha

"

If you dint believe.....you wont receive

They might be at the cross over age where they like to act cool about Santa and know it cant be true.....how can he possibly carry everyones presents in his sleigh.....billions of presents.....but the child in them still believes ....

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By *iger-NWMan
over a year ago

Preston

I found out aged about 7 from The Beano. Dennis The Menace's father dressed up as Santa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I told my eldest before he started senior school, so he was 11, he said “I KNEW IT!)

My youngest still believes, but I’ll do the same for him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are some of you really suggesting that we remove this simple bit of joy from kids lives?

I'm suggesting kids know the truth

Absolutely this. Why fill their heads with this stuff, I never influenced my kids either way, they made their own minds. One liked to believe one didn't"

Are you saying you never played along with the whole Santa idea?

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By *ankie303Woman
over a year ago

Weirdsville South Coast Dorset

Sadly my 7 year olds dad side are jehovah witnesses and as soon as her dad moved back in to his parents home, when she was 1, they started trashing things like Christmas for her.....she at least still believes in the tooth fairy

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham


"My friend shared this on Facebook the other day as she had to tell her son, as he worked it out too. I think its a nice gesture.

* ATTENTION PARENTS WHO MIGHT NEED TO TELL THE TRUTH ABOUT SANTA ???? *

Son: "Dad, I think I'm old enough now. Is there a Santa Claus?"

Dad: "Okay, I agree that you're old enough. But before I tell you, I have a question for you. You see, the “truth” is a dangerous gift. Once you know something, you can't un-know it. Once you know the truth about Santa Claus, you'll never again understand and relate to him as you do now. So my question is: Are you sure you want to know?"

*Brief pause*

Son: "Yes, I want to know."

Dad: "Okay, then I'll tell you. Yes, there is a Santa Claus."

Son: "Really?"

Dad: Yes, really, but he's not an old man with a beard in a red suit. That's just what we tell kids. You see, kids are too young to understand the true nature of Santa Claus, so we explain it to them in a way that they can understand. The truth about Santa Claus is that he's not a person at all; he's an idea. Think of all those presents Santa gave you over the years. We bought those for you. We watched you open them. And did it bother us that you didn't know? Of course not! In fact it gave us great pleasure. You see, Santa Claus is THE IDEA OF GIVING FOR THE SAKE OF GIVING, without thought of thanks or acknowledgement.

When I saw that woman collapse in town last week and I called for help, I knew that she'd never know that it was me that called an ambulance. I was being Santa Claus when I did that."

Son: "Oh."

Dad: "So now that you know, you're a part of it too. You have to be Santa Claus now. That means you can never tell a young kid the secret, you have to help us select Santa presents for them, and most important, you have to look for opportunities to help other people. Got it?" ??

Look out for and help each other this Christmas???? and... always be kind ???

Hope this helps."

Your friend has watched far too many Christmas films . But then again so have I....... Love it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine understand it's the experience of santa claus. Not necessarily the person. I do Christmas in a big way but don't force it on them now. My daughter loves it my son enjoys the free beer on Christmas day. Merry Christmas fabbers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you mean Santa doesn't exist??? "

Santa is real, still every year I post my wish list up the chimney and every year he keeps coming down the chimney and fucking my wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you mean Santa doesn't exist???

Santa is real, still every year I post my wish list up the chimney and every year he keeps coming down the chimney and fucking my wife."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My daughter new about that age but kept the pretence going for a couple more years

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough


"My friend shared this on Facebook the other day as she had to tell her son, as he worked it out too. I think its a nice gesture.

* ATTENTION PARENTS WHO MIGHT NEED TO TELL THE TRUTH ABOUT SANTA ???? *

Son: "Dad, I think I'm old enough now. Is there a Santa Claus?"

Dad: "Okay, I agree that you're old enough. But before I tell you, I have a question for you. You see, the “truth” is a dangerous gift. Once you know something, you can't un-know it. Once you know the truth about Santa Claus, you'll never again understand and relate to him as you do now. So my question is: Are you sure you want to know?"

*Brief pause*

Son: "Yes, I want to know."

Dad: "Okay, then I'll tell you. Yes, there is a Santa Claus."

Son: "Really?"

Dad: Yes, really, but he's not an old man with a beard in a red suit. That's just what we tell kids. You see, kids are too young to understand the true nature of Santa Claus, so we explain it to them in a way that they can understand. The truth about Santa Claus is that he's not a person at all; he's an idea. Think of all those presents Santa gave you over the years. We bought those for you. We watched you open them. And did it bother us that you didn't know? Of course not! In fact it gave us great pleasure. You see, Santa Claus is THE IDEA OF GIVING FOR THE SAKE OF GIVING, without thought of thanks or acknowledgement.

When I saw that woman collapse in town last week and I called for help, I knew that she'd never know that it was me that called an ambulance. I was being Santa Claus when I did that."

Son: "Oh."

Dad: "So now that you know, you're a part of it too. You have to be Santa Claus now. That means you can never tell a young kid the secret, you have to help us select Santa presents for them, and most important, you have to look for opportunities to help other people. Got it?" ??

Look out for and help each other this Christmas???? and... always be kind ???

Hope this helps.

Oh I absolutely love this!! "

Absolutely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are some of you really suggesting that we remove this simple bit of joy from kids lives?

I'm suggesting kids know the truth

Absolutely this. Why fill their heads with this stuff, I never influenced my kids either way, they made their own minds. One liked to believe one didn't

Are you saying you never played along with the whole Santa idea?"

No I'm saying I allowed my kids to make up their own minds about whether they believed, one wanted to believe it great, I wasn't going to shatter that for him, the other didn't want to believe; great, his choice.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I (Luke) was never really brought up to believe in Father Christmas so I haven't felt any loss when my kids stopped believing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I (Luke) was never really brought up to believe in Father Christmas so I haven't felt any loss when my kids stopped believing. "

When you say never really...does that mean Santa never came to you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its by the last year of primary school you get all the magic knocked out of you

We still do all the santa stuff here even though they know its not santa doing it. The magic flips and the kids humour the parents belief instead

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By *he AmbassadorMan
over a year ago

IRLANDA. / Prague. / Cil Dara

My oldest is 9

She asked me was santa real this year

A few days later her wobbly tooth fell out, and she told me that she knew about the tooth fairy

So I'm guessing this is her last Christmas to believe,,

Way 2 young for that,

Its terrible

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

I think I was 13 when my parents told me. I was devastated

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales


"As a family we have always made Christmas a magical time decorating the house going to Santa’s grotto getting the kids to write there lists to Santa etc.

Tonight I asked our children if they were excited for Santa coming and our 9yr old laughed I asked what was so funny and then came the dreaded words....

“Santa’s not real” and I truly feel so sad!

I know children stop believing sooner or later but 9 yrs of age!

Has anyone else been through this and how did you respond what is the acceptable age?

I know there is bigger things going on in the world right now I just feel so upset like the magic has gone "

Ours is eight and plays the Santa card.

Basically she’ll put a bunch of reasonable stuff on a list & one stupidly expensive one. Then when I say “Yeah righto you can forget that one!” She’ll say “That’s ok, I know it’s a lot so Santa can bring that one!”

S

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I put most of it down to social media and today's technology for them finding out he's not real at an earlier age.

It's a shame when that magic goes OP, but you might get it again with grandchildren one day.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My oldest is 9

She asked me was santa real this year

A few days later her wobbly tooth fell out, and she told me that she knew about the tooth fairy

So I'm guessing this is her last Christmas to believe,,

Way 2 young for that,

Its terrible"
I know it’s such a horrible feeling

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As a family we have always made Christmas a magical time decorating the house going to Santa’s grotto getting the kids to write there lists to Santa etc.

Tonight I asked our children if they were excited for Santa coming and our 9yr old laughed I asked what was so funny and then came the dreaded words....

“Santa’s not real” and I truly feel so sad!

I know children stop believing sooner or later but 9 yrs of age!

Has anyone else been through this and how did you respond what is the acceptable age?

I know there is bigger things going on in the world right now I just feel so upset like the magic has gone

Ours is eight and plays the Santa card.

Basically she’ll put a bunch of reasonable stuff on a list & one stupidly expensive one. Then when I say “Yeah righto you can forget that one!” She’ll say “That’s ok, I know it’s a lot so Santa can bring that one!”

S"
hahaha clever very clever

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think I was 13 when my parents told me. I was devastated

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I put most of it down to social media and today's technology for them finding out he's not real at an earlier age.

It's a shame when that magic goes OP, but you might get it again with grandchildren one day. "
yeah very true plus the school play ground has a lot to answer for

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I don't remember when I was still young enough to really believe in Father Christmas (Santa is American to me). I kept up the pretence for my sister until she figured it out at about 7/8.

Mine figured it out quite young, stepson was probably 12/13 - has learning difficulties and went to a special school so believed longer than most.

In generally think it's important children know the truth before secondary school, so they aren't teased or bullied about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everybody I guess, however I watch every Christmas film, clench my fist and hope that the fat lazy fooker will take over and give my bank account a rest. Festive hide and seek champion he is!

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Awwwww, it's a bit of a moment when you get to that stage. I don't remember what age mine were, I just told them it was more fun to believe.

To be honest it saved us a lot of time ie no more fannying about sprinkling glitter on the garden in the dead of night and all that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine were much younger than 9 when they knew.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

It is lovely to see the faces of little one's light up when they do believe.

My grandson is 8 and I think that we are just about getting away with the wonderful Father Christmas tale!

There's very little chance he'll be a believer next year.

My 4 Yr old granddaughter was intently writing her letter to Father Christmas.

When asked what she wanted she said...."everything!"

We've narrowed it down a bit now otherwise it'd be to much for Santa to carry

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"I put most of it down to social media and today's technology for them finding out he's not real at an earlier age.

It's a shame when that magic goes OP, but you might get it again with grandchildren one day. yeah very true plus the school play ground has a lot to answer for "

Yes I forgot about that one!

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

You don't acknowledge the truth!??! What are y'all playing at?!!??

Santa is real and always will be.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It is lovely to see the faces of little one's light up when they do believe.

My grandson is 8 and I think that we are just about getting away with the wonderful Father Christmas tale!

There's very little chance he'll be a believer next year.

My 4 Yr old granddaughter was intently writing her letter to Father Christmas.

When asked what she wanted she said...."everything!"

We've narrowed it down a bit now otherwise it'd be to much for Santa to carry "
hahaha aww bless her I remember when we were kids we just circled everything in the argos book

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I had this at the age of 10. I asked him how do you know he doesn’t exist ‘because my friends said so’.

Come Christmas Eve he potters off to bed saying ‘I’m looking forward to the morning’, ‘why?’ I ask, ‘because it’s Christmas and there will be presents’. ‘But you didn’t write a letter to him and you’ve said you don’t believe, so where are the presents coming from?’.... this bit he couldn’t answer. 30 minutes later he comes back, can we do a Santa plate and I’ve written him a letter he case he does pop by, saying I’m sorry I didn’t believe.

I backed that up with photos of Santa in our house, sleeping on the sofa, crouching by the tree and sneaking into his room to do his stocking.

All of that made for a magical morning and a renewed belief.

Now he is nearly 13 there is no Santa but he is just as excited, albeit frustrated, as delivery boxes are in the corner of the room and he has no idea of what is in them.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"It is lovely to see the faces of little one's light up when they do believe.

My grandson is 8 and I think that we are just about getting away with the wonderful Father Christmas tale!

There's very little chance he'll be a believer next year.

My 4 Yr old granddaughter was intently writing her letter to Father Christmas.

When asked what she wanted she said...."everything!"

We've narrowed it down a bit now otherwise it'd be to much for Santa to carry hahaha aww bless her I remember when we were kids we just circled everything in the argos book "

Im my day there was the Littlewoods catalogue

Circling, Keeps them kids amused for ages.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"I had this at the age of 10. I asked him how do you know he doesn’t exist ‘because my friends said so’.

Come Christmas Eve he potters off to bed saying ‘I’m looking forward to the morning’, ‘why?’ I ask, ‘because it’s Christmas and there will be presents’. ‘But you didn’t write a letter to him and you’ve said you don’t believe, so where are the presents coming from?’.... this bit he couldn’t answer. 30 minutes later he comes back, can we do a Santa plate and I’ve written him a letter he case he does pop by, saying I’m sorry I didn’t believe.

I backed that up with photos of Santa in our house, sleeping on the sofa, crouching by the tree and sneaking into his room to do his stocking.

All of that made for a magical morning and a renewed belief.

Now he is nearly 13 there is no Santa but he is just as excited, albeit frustrated, as delivery boxes are in the corner of the room and he has no idea of what is in them.

"

Aww bless him! We'll keep it going for as long as we can...there's plenty of time for the realities of life to reach them!

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"You don't acknowledge the truth!??! What are y'all playing at?!!??

Santa is real and always will be. "

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By *ob Carpe DiemMan
over a year ago

Torquay

Nine! Blimey I had several copies of Mayfair stashed in the woods and as for Santa.

You know they can't be children for ever right and at some point peers take over.

Just satisfy yourself that if you've raised them right they are on the way to being adults you'd be proud of.

Who could ask for more

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By *tudiousPipWoman
over a year ago

W Yorks


"My middle child was 4 yrs old when I had to tell her santa wasn't real. The tooth fairy was never allowed in the house and Halloween was awful.

She hated and still does people in fancy dress.

I hope she gets over the fear when she has kids of her own. "

My neice insisted on a 'Santa, please stop here!' sign outside her bedroom door. She wanted presents but didn't want him in her bedroom while she was sleeping. Smart kid!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

An older child tried to spoil it for me but it didn't work. Even in the face of clear evidence, we can continue to believe due to the magic and motivation to want to.

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