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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My first name is boring. Growing up I always hated it. I thought it old fashioned and far too popular in my year group at school. I never liked it. I always wanted to change it but could never decide on a new name.

Around 17/18 one of my friends started calling me LuLu. A year or so later, another gave me the nickname looby. Eventually I was just Lou/Lu.

When I first joined fab at 18 I used Lu instead of my real name.

The only people who use my real name are my parents, J and a few older friends from school. To 90% of the people in my life, I am Lu.

Tbh, changing my name isn't something I'd given much thought to for years until recently. And I think it's cos I've been thinking about my past a lot...

I used to hate myself...i hated who I was when everyone called me by my real name. I don't call myself that.

I like me now. I like who I'm becoming and who I am. I am Lu.

Should I change my name?

Or just leave things as they are?

Do you think a name is important?

Do you like yours?

Have you changed yours? Would you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I changed mine socially from Richard to Rik, not extreme but it fulfilled its purpose- bizarrely I’m drifting back to richard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never liked my middle name. It was common and boring. I never understood why I was called it.

Then, one day I discovered it was in honour of a relative who, at a young age volunteered to fight in a war under a flag he didn't support so small nations including his own could have freedom. It was a choice that cost him his life, and he never came home.

Now I love my middle name.

It sounds like you've though this through and the only person you have to satisfy on the decision is yourself.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"My first name is boring. Growing up I always hated it. I thought it old fashioned and far too popular in my year group at school. I never liked it. I always wanted to change it but could never decide on a new name.

Around 17/18 one of my friends started calling me LuLu. A year or so later, another gave me the nickname looby. Eventually I was just Lou/Lu.

When I first joined fab at 18 I used Lu instead of my real name.

The only people who use my real name are my parents, J and a few older friends from school. To 90% of the people in my life, I am Lu.

Tbh, changing my name isn't something I'd given much thought to for years until recently. And I think it's cos I've been thinking about my past a lot...

I used to hate myself...i hated who I was when everyone called me by my real name. I don't call myself that.

I like me now. I like who I'm becoming and who I am. I am Lu.

Should I change my name?

Or just leave things as they are?

Do you think a name is important?

Do you like yours?

Have you changed yours? Would you?

More of today's ponderings...

Nobody calls me by my real name, as my parents have passed away.

It's strange, but I don't even identify with my real name anymore.

However, I don't think I'd change it, officially, as my parents chose it for a reason. That seems to matter, for some reason, even though nobody knows me as my birth name.

Does that make sense? Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I never liked my middle name. It was common and boring. I never understood why I was called it.

Now I love my middle name.

It sounds like you've though this through and the only person you have to satisfy on the decision is yourself."

I used to feel exactly the same about my middle name.

I was named after my nan, who had what I used to call a "frilly" name. I hated it.

Til I grew up and realised how important to me she was.

She passed away two years ago and I'm honoured and proud to share her name! She was an incredible lady, I loved my nanny And I'd never change it now

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Around 17/18 one of my friends started calling me LuLu. A year or so later, another gave me the nickname looby. Eventually I was just Lou/Lu.

When I first joined fab at 18 I used Lu instead of my real name.

The only people who use my real name are my parents, J and a few older friends from school. To 90% of the people in my life, I am Lu.

Tbh, changing my name isn't something I'd given much thought to for years until recently. And I think it's cos I've been thinking about my past a lot...

I used to hate myself...i hated who I was when everyone called me by my real name. I don't call myself that.

I like me now. I like who I'm becoming and who I am. I am Lu.

Should I change my name?

Or just leave things as they are?

Do you think a name is important?

Do you like yours?

Have you changed yours? Would you?

More of today's ponderings...

Nobody calls me by my real name, as my parents have passed away.

It's strange, but I don't even identify with my real name anymore.

However, I don't think I'd change it, officially, as my parents chose it for a reason. That seems to matter, for some reason, even though nobody knows me as my birth name.

Does that make sense? Xx"

Definitely.

It's one of the reasons I'm debating it.

My dad chose my name. I'm his only daughter and mum chose my brother's name. I wouldn't want to upset him either of course.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Spookily enough Lu, ma lady friend from downstairs is called Louise, but everybody calls her LuLu

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Spookily enough Lu, ma lady friend from downstairs is called Louise, but everybody calls her LuLu

I like LuLu

Most people assume my real name is Louise...its not, I don't think I'd have minded Louise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Growing up I hated my name, I was bullied at school because it’s different (or was back then, it’s more popular now) and then when I was at the age of going to pubs, people used to put the song with the same name on the juke box which would invariably result in me being centre of attention which I absolutely hate.

I’ve grown to love it over the years and now wouldn’t ever change it.

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By *od ThrusterMan
over a year ago

Newport Pagnell

I guess in a way it's a bit like the marriage question. A legal but of paper to support the way you are/feel.

I'd say no need to change it - if you don't use it you have the best of both worlds.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Growing up I hated my name, I was bullied at school because it’s different (or was back then, it’s more popular now) and then when I was at the age of going to pubs, people used to put the song with the same name on the juke box which would invariably result in me being centre of attention which I absolutely hate.

I’ve grown to love it over the years and now wouldn’t ever change it."

I've not heard monkey nut...*opens spotify*

I'm glad you've grown to love it

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Spookily enough Lu, ma lady friend from downstairs is called Louise, but everybody calls her LuLu

I like LuLu

Most people assume my real name is Louise...its not, I don't think I'd have minded Louise

My first name is Richard, good job that ma surname isn't Head

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By *od ThrusterMan
over a year ago

Newport Pagnell

I never met anyone with my name until I was in my 20s. It's quite common now and I hear quite a few kids with it. In some ways I hated being distinctive because of it, but never disliked the name per se.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

Around 17/18 one of my friends started calling me LuLu. A year or so later, another gave me the nickname looby. Eventually I was just Lou/Lu.

When I first joined fab at 18 I used Lu instead of my real name.

The only people who use my real name are my parents, J and a few older friends from school. To 90% of the people in my life, I am Lu.

Tbh, changing my name isn't something I'd given much thought to for years until recently. And I think it's cos I've been thinking about my past a lot...

I used to hate myself...i hated who I was when everyone called me by my real name. I don't call myself that.

I like me now. I like who I'm becoming and who I am. I am Lu.

Should I change my name?

Or just leave things as they are?

Do you think a name is important?

Do you like yours?

Have you changed yours? Would you?

More of today's ponderings...

Nobody calls me by my real name, as my parents have passed away.

It's strange, but I don't even identify with my real name anymore.

However, I don't think I'd change it, officially, as my parents chose it for a reason. That seems to matter, for some reason, even though nobody knows me as my birth name.

Does that make sense? Xx

Definitely.

It's one of the reasons I'm debating it.

My dad chose my name. I'm his only daughter and mum chose my brother's name. I wouldn't want to upset him either of course.

Keep it, then. Don't change it if you think your dad would mind - and as you say, nobody calls you by your birth name.

Think how you'd feel when he's not here - you'll always be his little girl

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By *hysoseriouslyMan
over a year ago

Kent

Wow it’s quite a big thing to change your name.

I totally understand, I never liked my name fir a Ling time as I’m Harvey so when I was at school I was either a Showjumper or everyone’s pet rabbit! (Fluffy more than sex toy).

I’m quite happy with it now and a lot of that I realised was coming to terms with his I felt about myself.

I don’t know your story but your name is a part of you that either you have to learn to love by discovering what it is you don’t like about it and where those feelings are rooted... or maybe part of the journey is to change your name and finalise the picture you want of yourself and the one that everyone seems to know and live already.

Not really an answer I know.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ive got a very boring name. Karen Louise but it was the fashion at the time and i wont change it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Spookily enough Lu, ma lady friend from downstairs is called Louise, but everybody calls her LuLu

I like LuLu

Most people assume my real name is Louise...its not, I don't think I'd have minded Louise

My first name is Richard, good job that ma surname isn't Head

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Around 17/18 one of my friends started calling me LuLu. A year or so later, another gave me the nickname looby. Eventually I was just Lou/Lu.

When I first joined fab at 18 I used Lu instead of my real name.

The only people who use my real name are my parents, J and a few older friends from school. To 90% of the people in my life, I am Lu.

Tbh, changing my name isn't something I'd given much thought to for years until recently. And I think it's cos I've been thinking about my past a lot...

I used to hate myself...i hated who I was when everyone called me by my real name. I don't call myself that.

I like me now. I like who I'm becoming and who I am. I am Lu.

Should I change my name?

Or just leave things as they are?

Do you think a name is important?

Do you like yours?

Have you changed yours? Would you?

More of today's ponderings...

Nobody calls me by my real name, as my parents have passed away.

It's strange, but I don't even identify with my real name anymore.

However, I don't think I'd change it, officially, as my parents chose it for a reason. That seems to matter, for some reason, even though nobody knows me as my birth name.

Does that make sense? Xx

Definitely.

It's one of the reasons I'm debating it.

My dad chose my name. I'm his only daughter and mum chose my brother's name. I wouldn't want to upset him either of course.

Keep it, then. Don't change it if you think your dad would mind - and as you say, nobody calls you by your birth name.

Think how you'd feel when he's not here - you'll always be his little girl

xx"

Right in the feels!

My folks live in Bulgaria, during lockdown my dad suffered kidney failure and almost died. Over 1000 miles away and I couldn't do a thing.

Thankfully he is recovering now and will be fine, he's my best friend!

You've just made up my mind.

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally identify with that and it's one of the reasons i never went back to my maiden name.... So i would say it's such an important part of you either change it formally, or at the very least ask those close to you to start using Lu (or your preference)

We gotta take happiness where we can find it.. So just do it is my thought x

Even the pain of the admin involved in changing formal documentation will actually be a joy in this case... But you may need to get some things notarized which could be a pain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I recently found out that my mum's intention was for people to call me by both my first and middle names when she chose them. When I was a baby my family used to use both names but eventually just started getting lazy. For 25 years of my life I had no idea about this. My middle name is much more common and Western than my first name, which is very obscure and ethnic-sounding. Therefore I often wonder if I'd have turned out a different person or if I'd have experienced less racial stereotyping if people had carried on using my "proper" name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you feel like you’re making a fresh start and want to leave your old self and life behind, I say why not? Your closest can still call you what they always have so I don’t see a problem really. Your name gives you confidence and an identity so if it works for you, go for it I say!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve grown to love it over the years and now wouldn’t ever change it.

I've not heard monkey nut...*opens spotify*

I'm glad you've grown to love it

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

Around 17/18 one of my friends started calling me LuLu. A year or so later, another gave me the nickname looby. Eventually I was just Lou/Lu.

When I first joined fab at 18 I used Lu instead of my real name.

The only people who use my real name are my parents, J and a few older friends from school. To 90% of the people in my life, I am Lu.

Tbh, changing my name isn't something I'd given much thought to for years until recently. And I think it's cos I've been thinking about my past a lot...

I used to hate myself...i hated who I was when everyone called me by my real name. I don't call myself that.

I like me now. I like who I'm becoming and who I am. I am Lu.

Should I change my name?

Or just leave things as they are?

Do you think a name is important?

Do you like yours?

Have you changed yours? Would you?

More of today's ponderings...

Nobody calls me by my real name, as my parents have passed away.

It's strange, but I don't even identify with my real name anymore.

However, I don't think I'd change it, officially, as my parents chose it for a reason. That seems to matter, for some reason, even though nobody knows me as my birth name.

Does that make sense? Xx

Definitely.

It's one of the reasons I'm debating it.

My dad chose my name. I'm his only daughter and mum chose my brother's name. I wouldn't want to upset him either of course.

Keep it, then. Don't change it if you think your dad would mind - and as you say, nobody calls you by your birth name.

Think how you'd feel when he's not here - you'll always be his little girl

Right in the feels!

My folks live in Bulgaria, during lockdown my dad suffered kidney failure and almost died. Over 1000 miles away and I couldn't do a thing.

Thankfully he is recovering now and will be fine, he's my best friend!

You've just made up my mind.

Thank you

Oh, bless you! How awful that must have been! So glad he's recovering

And yes, once a daddy's girl, always a daddy's girl. I miss mine very single day xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Around 17/18 one of my friends started calling me LuLu. A year or so later, another gave me the nickname looby. Eventually I was just Lou/Lu.

When I first joined fab at 18 I used Lu instead of my real name.

The only people who use my real name are my parents, J and a few older friends from school. To 90% of the people in my life, I am Lu.

Tbh, changing my name isn't something I'd given much thought to for years until recently. And I think it's cos I've been thinking about my past a lot...

I used to hate myself...i hated who I was when everyone called me by my real name. I don't call myself that.

I like me now. I like who I'm becoming and who I am. I am Lu.

Should I change my name?

Or just leave things as they are?

Do you think a name is important?

Do you like yours?

Have you changed yours? Would you?

More of today's ponderings...

Nobody calls me by my real name, as my parents have passed away.

It's strange, but I don't even identify with my real name anymore.

However, I don't think I'd change it, officially, as my parents chose it for a reason. That seems to matter, for some reason, even though nobody knows me as my birth name.

Does that make sense? Xx

Definitely.

It's one of the reasons I'm debating it.

My dad chose my name. I'm his only daughter and mum chose my brother's name. I wouldn't want to upset him either of course.

Keep it, then. Don't change it if you think your dad would mind - and as you say, nobody calls you by your birth name.

Think how you'd feel when he's not here - you'll always be his little girl

Right in the feels!

My folks live in Bulgaria, during lockdown my dad suffered kidney failure and almost died. Over 1000 miles away and I couldn't do a thing.

Thankfully he is recovering now and will be fine, he's my best friend!

You've just made up my mind.

Thank you

Oh, bless you! How awful that must have been! So glad he's recovering

And yes, once a daddy's girl, always a daddy's girl. I miss mine very single day xx

Absolutely!

Your dad is super proud of you I'm sure...he made a lovely human, I can tell

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I despise my name. It's diminutive, juvenile, and common. (Top 5 girl name in my area the year I was born)

The only nickname for it is fucking awful.

It's out of a baby name book, not named after anyone, my parents did that on purpose.

The only reasons I don't chuck that crap out is that a) it'd kill my mother, and b) it'd be a pain in the arse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I changed my first name to honour my birth parents and my adoptive parents. As far as I've ever found, it is unique in the world!

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I never met anyone with my name until I was in my 20s. It's quite common now and I hear quite a few kids with it. In some ways I hated being distinctive because of it, but never disliked the name per se."

You're not called Dave are you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few years ago I worked with 2 guys called Craig Nash. I thought it was unusual that 2 guys in a small work place had the same name.

I mentioned this to one of the ‘Craig Nash’s’.

His reply was - “it’s fucking weird. He was called David Barnes until about a year ago When all of a sudden he came into work and said he’d changed his name by deed poll to Craig Nash.”

I think he was a bit freaked out by this, I would be too!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You're not called Dave are you?

Behave! A person can't go a week without meeting a Dave, let alone 20 years...

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"A few years ago I worked with 2 guys called Craig Nash. I thought it was unusual that 2 guys in a small work place had the same name.

I mentioned this to one of the ‘Craig Nash’s’.

His reply was - “it’s fucking weird. He was called David Barnes until about a year ago When all of a sudden he came into work and said he’d changed his name by deed poll to Craig Nash.”

I think he was a bit freaked out by this, I would be too!"

That's super weird

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A few years ago I worked with 2 guys called Craig Nash. I thought it was unusual that 2 guys in a small work place had the same name.

I mentioned this to one of the ‘Craig Nash’s’.

His reply was - “it’s fucking weird. He was called David Barnes until about a year ago When all of a sudden he came into work and said he’d changed his name by deed poll to Craig Nash.”

I think he was a bit freaked out by this, I would be too!"

My brother's name is Craig.

Growing up, there was a girl in the year above me, in the next street with the same name as me. First and last...her brother's name was Craig and her dad's name also the same as my dad's!

Fucking spooky!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A few years ago I worked with 2 guys called Craig Nash. I thought it was unusual that 2 guys in a small work place had the same name.

I mentioned this to one of the ‘Craig Nash’s’.

His reply was - “it’s fucking weird. He was called David Barnes until about a year ago When all of a sudden he came into work and said he’d changed his name by deed poll to Craig Nash.”

I think he was a bit freaked out by this, I would be too!

My brother's name is Craig.

Growing up, there was a girl in the year above me, in the next street with the same name as me. First and last...her brother's name was Craig and her dad's name also the same as my dad's!

Fucking spooky!

I don't think they were stalkers tho...

Craig Nash number 2 sounds like a fucking weirdo

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

Around 17/18 one of my friends started calling me LuLu. A year or so later, another gave me the nickname looby. Eventually I was just Lou/Lu.

When I first joined fab at 18 I used Lu instead of my real name.

The only people who use my real name are my parents, J and a few older friends from school. To 90% of the people in my life, I am Lu.

Tbh, changing my name isn't something I'd given much thought to for years until recently. And I think it's cos I've been thinking about my past a lot...

I used to hate myself...i hated who I was when everyone called me by my real name. I don't call myself that.

I like me now. I like who I'm becoming and who I am. I am Lu.

Should I change my name?

Or just leave things as they are?

Do you think a name is important?

Do you like yours?

Have you changed yours? Would you?

More of today's ponderings...

Nobody calls me by my real name, as my parents have passed away.

It's strange, but I don't even identify with my real name anymore.

However, I don't think I'd change it, officially, as my parents chose it for a reason. That seems to matter, for some reason, even though nobody knows me as my birth name.

Does that make sense? Xx

Definitely.

It's one of the reasons I'm debating it.

My dad chose my name. I'm his only daughter and mum chose my brother's name. I wouldn't want to upset him either of course.

Keep it, then. Don't change it if you think your dad would mind - and as you say, nobody calls you by your birth name.

Think how you'd feel when he's not here - you'll always be his little girl

Right in the feels!

My folks live in Bulgaria, during lockdown my dad suffered kidney failure and almost died. Over 1000 miles away and I couldn't do a thing.

Thankfully he is recovering now and will be fine, he's my best friend!

You've just made up my mind.

Thank you

Oh, bless you! How awful that must have been! So glad he's recovering

And yes, once a daddy's girl, always a daddy's girl. I miss mine very single day xx

Absolutely!

Your dad is super proud of you I'm sure...he made a lovely human, I can tell

Aw, I'm feeling a bit emotional, now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A few years ago I worked with 2 guys called Craig Nash. I thought it was unusual that 2 guys in a small work place had the same name.

I mentioned this to one of the ‘Craig Nash’s’.

His reply was - “it’s fucking weird. He was called David Barnes until about a year ago When all of a sudden he came into work and said he’d changed his name by deed poll to Craig Nash.”

I think he was a bit freaked out by this, I would be too!

My brother's name is Craig.

Growing up, there was a girl in the year above me, in the next street with the same name as me. First and last...her brother's name was Craig and her dad's name also the same as my dad's!

Fucking spooky!

I don't think they were stalkers tho...

Craig Nash number 2 sounds like a fucking weirdo

That is odd about your neighbours. I’d say weird coincidence rather than stalking though.

And yes Craig Nash 2 was definitely an odd character. Thankfully I didn’t work there long enough for him to adopt my name!

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

You're not called Dave are you?

Behave! A person can't go a week without meeting a Dave, let alone 20 years...

I bought ma best mate Brother Dave a T-shirt for Xmas last year that said " Everybody Knows Someone Called Dave"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're not called Dave are you?

Behave! A person can't go a week without meeting a Dave, let alone 20 years...

I bought ma best mate Brother Dave a T-shirt for Xmas last year that said " Everybody Knows Someone Called Dave"

One of my cats is called Dave - she's lovely

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

You're not called Dave are you?

Behave! A person can't go a week without meeting a Dave, let alone 20 years...

I bought ma best mate Brother Dave a T-shirt for Xmas last year that said " Everybody Knows Someone Called Dave"

One of my cats is called Dave - she's lovely

Dave...

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

You're not called Dave are you?

Behave! A person can't go a week without meeting a Dave, let alone 20 years...

I bought ma best mate Brother Dave a T-shirt for Xmas last year that said " Everybody Knows Someone Called Dave"

One of my cats is called Dave - she's lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're not called Dave are you?

Behave! A person can't go a week without meeting a Dave, let alone 20 years...

I bought ma best mate Brother Dave a T-shirt for Xmas last year that said " Everybody Knows Someone Called Dave"

One of my cats is called Dave - she's lovely

Dave...

Hello

Dave is currently not a happy cat - she doesn't like the cold and we have snow due on Thursday. That's her stuck indoors for the winter

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Around 17/18 one of my friends started calling me LuLu. A year or so later, another gave me the nickname looby. Eventually I was just Lou/Lu.

When I first joined fab at 18 I used Lu instead of my real name.

The only people who use my real name are my parents, J and a few older friends from school. To 90% of the people in my life, I am Lu.

Tbh, changing my name isn't something I'd given much thought to for years until recently. And I think it's cos I've been thinking about my past a lot...

I used to hate myself...i hated who I was when everyone called me by my real name. I don't call myself that.

I like me now. I like who I'm becoming and who I am. I am Lu.

Should I change my name?

Or just leave things as they are?

Do you think a name is important?

Do you like yours?

Have you changed yours? Would you?

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My honest opinion as a friend , dont you dare !!

You are you and you're far from boring , and to me you will always be what I call you ( you know what that is ) . Please don't, you are amazing as you are and dont ever change xx

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By *amissCouple
over a year ago

chelmsford

You're not called Dave are you?

Behave! A person can't go a week without meeting a Dave, let alone 20 years...

I bought ma best mate Brother Dave a T-shirt for Xmas last year that said " Everybody Knows Someone Called Dave"

One of my cats is called Dave - she's lovely

Dave...

Hello

Dave is currently not a happy cat - she doesn't like the cold and we have snow due on Thursday. That's her stuck indoors for the winter

Oh bless her

We had a little snow last week and miss Molly wouldn't go out. She sat on our bedroom window sill, looking out, trying to catch the snowflakes, it was so cute!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even up to the moment the vicar asked was I going to be christened it was Shaun Leslie but my Gran had other ideas and butted in with my now names. Even though both are spelt oddly I'm more than pleased!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Around 17/18 one of my friends started calling me LuLu. A year or so later, another gave me the nickname looby. Eventually I was just Lou/Lu.

When I first joined fab at 18 I used Lu instead of my real name.

The only people who use my real name are my parents, J and a few older friends from school. To 90% of the people in my life, I am Lu.

Tbh, changing my name isn't something I'd given much thought to for years until recently. And I think it's cos I've been thinking about my past a lot...

I used to hate myself...i hated who I was when everyone called me by my real name. I don't call myself that.

I like me now. I like who I'm becoming and who I am. I am Lu.

Should I change my name?

Or just leave things as they are?

Do you think a name is important?

Do you like yours?

Have you changed yours? Would you?

More of today's ponderings...

My honest opinion as a friend , dont you dare !!

You are you and you're far from boring , and to me you will always be what I call you ( you know what that is ) . Please don't, you are amazing as you are and dont ever change xx"

Ah, but you use my chosen name, not my real name...

I don't think I will change it tho

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Around 17/18 one of my friends started calling me LuLu. A year or so later, another gave me the nickname looby. Eventually I was just Lou/Lu.

When I first joined fab at 18 I used Lu instead of my real name.

The only people who use my real name are my parents, J and a few older friends from school. To 90% of the people in my life, I am Lu.

Tbh, changing my name isn't something I'd given much thought to for years until recently. And I think it's cos I've been thinking about my past a lot...

I used to hate myself...i hated who I was when everyone called me by my real name. I don't call myself that.

I like me now. I like who I'm becoming and who I am. I am Lu.

Should I change my name?

Or just leave things as they are?

Do you think a name is important?

Do you like yours?

Have you changed yours? Would you?

More of today's ponderings...

My honest opinion as a friend , dont you dare !!

You are you and you're far from boring , and to me you will always be what I call you ( you know what that is ) . Please don't, you are amazing as you are and dont ever change xx

Ah, but you use my chosen name, not my real name...

I don't think I will change it tho

I know your real name anyway , and I love ya whatever you do xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My real name is quite unique, I used to dislike it and thought about changing it for a while. But the older I've gotten, the more I like it and I'm glad I didn't change it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Around 17/18 one of my friends started calling me LuLu. A year or so later, another gave me the nickname looby. Eventually I was just Lou/Lu.

When I first joined fab at 18 I used Lu instead of my real name.

The only people who use my real name are my parents, J and a few older friends from school. To 90% of the people in my life, I am Lu.

Tbh, changing my name isn't something I'd given much thought to for years until recently. And I think it's cos I've been thinking about my past a lot...

I used to hate myself...i hated who I was when everyone called me by my real name. I don't call myself that.

I like me now. I like who I'm becoming and who I am. I am Lu.

Should I change my name?

Or just leave things as they are?

Do you think a name is important?

Do you like yours?

Have you changed yours? Would you?

More of today's ponderings...

My honest opinion as a friend , dont you dare !!

You are you and you're far from boring , and to me you will always be what I call you ( you know what that is ) . Please don't, you are amazing as you are and dont ever change xx

Ah, but you use my chosen name, not my real name...

I don't think I will change it tho

I know your real name anyway , and I love ya whatever you do xx"

Love ya right back

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By *ond Jimmy BondMan
over a year ago

London

I’m not keen on my real name. Only a handful of people from fab have ever got to know my real name. However I wouldn’t change it. My friends and family would laugh their heads off haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m not keen on my real name. Only a handful of people from fab have ever got to know my real name. However I wouldn’t change it. My friends and family would laugh their heads off haha"

What would you change it to if you did?

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By *ond Jimmy BondMan
over a year ago

London

Digby Fairbottom

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Digby Fairbottom

I like it

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I know what I'd change my name to, too... But I'm not saying it because I might do it one day.

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By *ond Jimmy BondMan
over a year ago

London

Actually Digby Fairbottom the 1st Duke of Fab Green

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I know what I'd change my name to, too... But I'm not saying it because I might do it one day."

You can't have princess consuela banana-hammock...it's taken

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By *ond Jimmy BondMan
over a year ago

London

"I know what I'd change my name to, too... But I'm not saying it because I might do it one day.

You can't have princess consuela banana-hammock...it's taken

That was my second choice

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Actually Digby Fairbottom the 1st Duke of Fab Green "

Yeah...

You're right. They'd rip the piss out of you

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"I know what I'd change my name to, too... But I'm not saying it because I might do it one day.

You can't have princess consuela banana-hammock...it's taken

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By *ond Jimmy BondMan
over a year ago

London

"Actually Digby Fairbottom the 1st Duke of Fab Green

Yeah...

You're right. They'd rip the piss out of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My first name can be spelled different ways, as can my surname

It fucks me off having to spell it out phonetically, letter by fkin letter, every time someone needs my details

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"My first name can be spelled different ways, as can my surname

It fucks me off having to spell it out phonetically, letter by fkin letter, every time someone needs my details"

My first name is easy and it gets screwed up so much.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My first name can be spelled different ways, as can my surname

It fucks me off having to spell it out phonetically, letter by fkin letter, every time someone needs my details"

Is your name John?

Or Jon?

Or Jean?

Or zhon?

Gon even?

Do people call you Jone?

Like scone and scone

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